What do you think makes someone attractive? Not necessarily looks, but pesonality traits. I shall post what I think later.
Heh, I never really given this any real thought. I guess that's why I can't seem to get a girlfriend. Well, that and my shyness.
You don't really seem that shy to me, HNS.
Eh, that's more of an online persona. Offline, I tend to be shy when I first meet people, and it usually takes me a while before I warm up to them.
I want somebody who I can do stuff with without having to pause at every shop window so she can check her hair and makeup. Somebody who isn't all cosmetics and possessions, but just wants to have fun. Preferable somebody who isn't judgmental, and is open minded, probably someone who plays video games but isn't a complete addict. Somebody with a sense of humour...
I like someone who treats me just like a best friend. I don't like being treated like "so-and-so's girlfriend" or being treated like some kind of pansy because I'm a girl.
I also, like someone with a sense of dry humour.
As far as looks go, they don't matter too much. But, someone with nice eyes (Briliant blue, sharp green or very dark eyes) and a reasonably fit body is good, too.
Quote from: Hi no Seijin on May 21, 2007, 08:59:14 PM
Eh, that's more of an online persona. Offline, I tend to be shy when I first meet people, and it usually takes me a while before I warm up to them.
That sounds a lot like me. I am very shy in real life, and have never been able to get a girlfriend.
Weird as it may seem, I kind of like good hair style (among other things, but it's late so I will only discuss hair). It isn't something I notice conciously, but more of like a phantom thing that just kind of adds to a woman's attractiveness. I did a really bad job explaining that, but there it is.
I don't really mind too much about anything really... If I can get to know her well enoug and get it through so that she'll understand my little jokes and comments... Oddly enough, a lot of girls laugh when I make a funny or 'shocking' comment. Yet I have NEVER had a girlfriend... There must be something other than my humor or creativity that they want... hmm...
Such as money or arrogance probably....that's what I find at my school a lot anyways...then again my town is one of those towns where everything is built on your name.
I'm such a hypocrite. I complain about not having a girlfriend and now there's a girl who likes me, and I think she's annoying.
Hehe...too often that happens....except the only girls who like me aren't allowed to date 8)
Quote from: Gamefreak on May 22, 2007, 03:19:25 AM
I'm such a hypocrite. I complain about not having a girlfriend and now there's a girl who likes me, and I think she's annoying.
really, you havent told me about this
i like a girl who plays video games, listens to the same music as me, and who just has a nice personality
Quote from: Dosu Kinuta on May 22, 2007, 12:24:39 PM
i like a girl who plays video games, listens to the same music as me, and who just has a nice personality
AMEN (MOSTLY)!!! :D
Still, that leaves the part about me connecting with someone. I most likely have a mental disorder that doesn't let me communicate with others well, so it's hard to connect with them. I can hardly
walk up to somebody I like without fearing that she'll get suspicious of my feelings. Not to mention the fact that my understanding of body language is about as much of value as a penny. :-*
Girls find that awkwardness cute though, I think.
For my sake, I certainly hope so. :P
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on May 22, 2007, 04:46:10 PM
Girls find that awkwardness cute though, I think.
To an extent, yes. Especially if they blush.
Boys that blush are extremely attractive to me.....
someone I met most recently...
She's me, in a girl's body :o
I swear, she's just like me, and pretty too! She's everything I want in a girl, but she smokes... We can change that though if neccisary. ;D
Umm... ZV? Do you remember what happened the LAST time you tried to do that?
Yes....please be careful....don't go overboard....
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on May 22, 2007, 07:14:23 PM
She's everything I want in a girl, but she smokes... We can change that though if neccisary. ;D
Well...... good luck with that, man. Just, please, think about things before you jump into action.
Now that ZV mentions it, I prefer a girl who doesn't smoke as well, but I have a feeling that if I requested she quit, and she refused, then things would most likely fall apart.
Yeah, I also hope most girls find blushing attractive, because I blush a lot. Stupid anxiety disorder. >:(
Chantix, the new revolutionary stop-smoking drug. Yeah... I hear it works well.
I just met a girl who's just like me, except she's completely on the opposite side of the political spectrum.
I couldn't care less about boyfriends & girlfriends.
You're probably too young to care now, but you will eventually. This topic isn't about whether or not you are interested in a boyfriend/girlfriend though.
They have to make me laugh, I love that.
And yeah awkwardness is cute, but not too much or it's just uncomfortable.
Preferably good lookin' but as long as he is sweet it doesn't matter too much.
I'd fall under that category, than! I'm single, and I hate it! All the good girls are either lesbians or taken.
Having a girlfriend is not at the top of my priority list right now. It'd be nice, but I'm not exactly going out of my way to get a girlfriend.
there's this guy that likes me, but i don't like him... i dont know what to do :-*
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on May 21, 2007, 09:05:45 PM
I want somebody who I can do stuff with without having to pause at every shop window so she can check her hair and makeup. Somebody who isn't all cosmetics and possessions, but just wants to have fun. Preferable somebody who isn't judgmental, and is open minded, probably someone who plays video games but isn't a complete addict. Somebody with a sense of humour...
Like me :P :P :P :P I'm not interested in you though, because of age, and state. But I'm looking for a guy who isn't all below the waist, kind and a gentleman, likes animals and has humor, and will like to sit back and play WoW for an hour or two with me, and then go out to a dinner. Of coarse I'm only 13.
Quote from: Link104 on May 23, 2007, 04:33:53 PM
I'd fall under that category, than! I'm single, and I hate it! All the good girls are either lesbians or taken.
I don't know about the lesbian part, but it does seem like all the girls are taken.
For good reason. Love is a waiting game...
HWat I find atractive in a girl... I'm going to be honest. I don't give a flying monkey-butt about looks or the "body" or "hotness" of the girl. I, unlike most guys at my school, judge how much I ike a girl based on her personlaity and how she makes me feel, that is, how happy I am around here or just being with her.
Looks, yeah, they're what I look at after the personality. You could be the hoittest girl in the world, but if you're a total b****, I won't even look at you twice.
And, I'm not lying to sound good online... 'tis be the truth of MasterKey and his persona.
What does b**** mean?
.............I'd tell you, but I'd get a warning(the irony).
If you have to ask, you're probably too young to know.
Indeed, the irony, Gamefreak.
And I can certainly agree with MasterKey. Except for me, I suppose the looks would be the initial attraction, but I'd become attached to a girl's personality and how she makes me feel, to quote MasterKey. Of course, smoking is a turn off for me, so the relationship would probably either end or she would quit smoking (hopefully because she realized it was actually doing her more harm than good).
Quote from: Kairi on May 24, 2007, 04:11:41 PM
What does b**** mean?
I'll tell you in a PM, but you might be a little strange after hearing the word
And I agree with the personality, You could be pretty and all, but beauty is only skin deep, and if it's below the waist, then it isn't real love eaither. What really matters is whats inside, and a lot of people don't know that. My friend is an exact copy of my personality, in a guys body. He's my bestfriend and we think the same thoughts at the same time, and say it at the same time, with the same tone of voice (lol), we like the same things, and it's too cool, funny, yet scary.
The thing that makes me depressed is that around his friends he calls me a b****. And he does it for no reason.
I have a friend who has almost the exact same interests as me but I could never like him more than a friend.
Sometimes he annoys me so much I run away from him, childish I know. And he is freakishly tall, not that I would like him if he wasn't but seriously, and he has huge feet. i like to steal his shoes ^^
hmm, to go off of what HNS said, smoking and all that isnt really an issue with me, i let the girl know that it worries me and i dont want her to do it but if she still wants to do them just leave me out of it
Hm... what I find attractive in a person... I don't really know, particularly. I hate the macho buff guy type, that's for sure.
I guess I'd have to say I would like a quiet person who would enjoy discussing books or video games or something along the lines of that. They don't necessarily have to be shy, but I'd like it if they weren't the "hey, let's disrupt the classroom!" type. I'm also quite the fool for shyness and effeminate males.
And I realize the topic is not about physical looks, but... to be honest, I don't care. I'd like them to be on the thin side, but if their personality was awesome, I wouldn't care if they weighed 314 pounds. Well, I would, but only for the sake of their health and not for my own selfish reasons. I probably wouldn't put up with a total slob though, just because I hate filth. (I'm pretty obsessive compulsive about that sort of stuff.) Hair colour doesn't matter, and neither does eye colour; I like longer hair, though, I have to admit. XD
And while I'm at it, I may as well say this: women who starve themselves, throw on millions of pounds of makeup, get breast implants and act like prostitutes are uncute. They should know that only really shallow, terrible people care about that sort of stuff.
I'm going to take a quote from my favorite internet squirell.
QuoteFor all you people who spend hours on end making yourselves look pretty, you will all grow old, you will all get wrinkles.
Personally, I kind of like the video game type, too, especially since female gamers seem to be quite rarer than male gamers. Hopefully moving will change my entire outlook on the statistics! ;)
Quote from: MagmarFire on May 25, 2007, 06:37:36 PM
Personally, I kind of like the video game type, too, especially since female gamers seem to be quite rarer than male gamers. Hopefully moving will change my entire outlook on the statistics! ;)
Most of the female gamers I know are actually really shy/don't want to admit they like video games. XD But they still are rarer than male gamers.
WAIT WAIT WAIT...
Since WHEN are Male Video gamers rare?
They aren't, just female gamers are very rare compared to male gamers.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 25, 2007, 08:43:43 PM
WAIT WAIT WAIT...
Since WHEN are Male Video gamers rare?
I think you may have misinterpreted my post... ^w^;
Yes, but you said "rarer." Implying some amount of rareness to male gamers. (http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p55/Commodore_Axilon/Forum%20Crap/teacher.gif)
This is all off topic, but, I thionk male gamers are more common than female gamers.
Yes, but this is the chatboard.
No, we're allowed to spam the chatboard, but be in and on topic, if the rules change, making it that it's ok to get off topic on the chatboard I would love if you tell me when the rules change next time, telling me to check that topic that tells the change.
Actually, this would be more General Discussion material, so it would be nice if we remained on topic.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on May 21, 2007, 09:05:45 PM
I want somebody who I can do stuff with without having to pause at every shop window so she can check her hair and makeup. Somebody who isn't all cosmetics and possessions, but just wants to have fun. Preferable somebody who isn't judgmental, and is open minded, probably someone who plays video games but isn't a complete addict. Somebody with a sense of humour...
Yeah, if I was a boy I'd want someone like that too.
Uhhh... I dunno really. I'd want someone who likes me for who I am (unlike alot of people), umm... someone that likes to play video games (then we could all play with our kids lol), someone that's funny, uhhh... I think I did that right...
Quote from: Gaara of the Desert on May 29, 2007, 01:50:48 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on May 21, 2007, 09:05:45 PM
I want somebody who I can do stuff with without having to pause at every shop window so she can check her hair and makeup. Somebody who isn't all cosmetics and possessions, but just wants to have fun. Preferable somebody who isn't judgmental, and is open minded, probably someone who plays video games but isn't a complete addict. Somebody with a sense of humour...
Yeah, if I was a boy I'd want someone like that too.
Uhhh... I dunno really. I'd want someone who likes me for who I am (unlike alot of people), umm... someone that likes to play video games (then we could all play with our kids lol), someone that's funny, uhhh... I think I did that right...
Pretty much me, right there. XD I know someone I like, but... ugh, I can't talk to him. Haha, I suck.
(A bit off topic, but my mom used to play Dr. Mario with me. XD And my dad helped me beat Mario 64.)
*sigh* I know, it seems like everyone that has the same interests as me is online.... 8) There are a few that don't live TOO far away, but....I digress...
(My Mom played Zelda with me and stuff, that's how I got started. ALttP and OoT....)
Well, as far as traits go, for a fictional character, a bad boy, evil...you know who I'm talking about. But in a real person I like someone who's nice, funny (in a clean way), doesn't have to look in the mirror every five seconds. Thoguh, right now, I'm not interested in boys anymore, I have, believe it or not, grown out of wanting a boyfriend. I've never really had a boyfriend. (I remember when I was in 1st grade a boy liked me, but I only liked him as a friend, lot's of boys have liked me, but have shown it in the wrong way by being rude) ...Yeah, I don't plan to ever have a boyfriend until I'm out of college. (That's right everybody, I believe in Cooties!)
Thou twill not believe that for long yet; naiviette is a passing thing, just wait until control becomes lost on your body.
Yeah, just give yourself a few years Vaati...then you'll be posting nothing except how much you love some boy besides your little Wind Sorcerer.
I dont find anything attractive in any body. Except if they are Evil. And no before you say anything . . . . . . . . . I HATE George W. Bush
I've only met one gamer girl... and she doesn't like Zelda. :( I'm lonely. All girls that I have ever met just don't seem right, for one reason or another. Mostly, they don't like me. 8)
All the girls (and most of the Boys to) hate me. So I just sit in my seat and don't talk to anybody. And as they say Silence is Golden.
Did you constantly tell them you like Pie? Being annoying doesn't really help unless you're a jock.
Also, if you don't find anyone attractive, that's probably more your problem then there's. You should just be courteous to the girls, even if you don't feel like talking to them. By this I mean holding doors open for them, giving up your seat if there's not enough room, etc.
I only do the pie thing Online. And for girls, I honestly could care less. Becuase all the girls are Rich but Stupid or just hate me becuase I'm smart.
This is said from experience, don't use the 'because I'm smart' thing, it makes you look like a pompous jerk. I seriously doubt all the girls are rich, things don't work that way. I think you've closed yourself off to all possibility of having a girlfriend.
Dude, he's 12. 12 is a VERY awkward age for social development. I speak from personal experience.
he hid his age, so I wasn't sure, I thought he was young though. This is still advice for the years to come though.
Quote from: weetle on May 29, 2007, 06:40:48 PM
I dont find anything attractive in any body. Except if they are Evil. And no before you say anything . . . . . . . . . I HATE George W. Bush
What the heck is up with that? If you want to post your grievances about George Bush, use the Republican/Democrat topic.
Bush is in no way evil...he hasn't done anything evil at least. Besides, everyone says that Cheney is the devil...oh well, let's not start an argument...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on May 29, 2007, 06:32:05 PM
Yeah, just give yourself a few years Vaati...then you'll be posting nothing except how much you love some boy besides your little Wind Sorcerer.
Yeah, that'll be the day. ::) I've already made a promise to myself that it
won't happen and I don't plan on breaking that promise. I don't want to turn into this girl at my school, all she does is talk about boys, which is probably the reason why I hate them. Sorry, I don't hate them because they're boys, but it's just I don't want to have anything romantic to do with them. I may not love Vaati forever, but I don't want to start liking boys anytime before I say so. :P My sister is a senior and she hasn't had a boyfriend yet. I hope to be like her in that way.
And there's nothing wrong with that, Vaati. However, let's not confuse not having a boyfriend or girlfriend as not liking boys or girls. Look at me. As much as I like the thought of having a girlfriend, I just haven't found someone yet. People move at their own pace, and some people just discover they like members of the opposite gender sooner than others do, while others still take a little bit longer getting a date.
no drama
no chaos
no boyfriend
no problem :]
Lol 'tis funneh. But then you'll live a sad and lonley life... Like Gaara's lol.
I tend to find the girlfriend usually starts the drama though lol...or other girls who are jealous. That's just me, though.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 01, 2007, 10:28:00 PM
I tend to find the girlfriend usually starts the drama though lol...or other girls who are jealous. That's just me, though.
Jealous girls... Oh god, I've had trouble with that before. And it wasn't even a dating jealousy. It was more along the lines of "Oh, hey, well, I'm gonna go hang out with ___ on Friday, okay?" and she flipped out. owo;;;
Anyways... it depends. I might cause the drama in the relationship, but I'm not a very... argumentative person. So... myeh.
"Everyone always says 'I don't want to date or get married' and then they wake up to a five-year old on their chest."
Quote from: Hi no Seijin on June 01, 2007, 04:28:32 PM
And there's nothing wrong with that, Vaati. However, let's not confuse not having a boyfriend or girlfriend as not liking boys or girls. Look at me. As much as I like the thought of having a girlfriend, I just haven't found someone yet. People move at their own pace, and some people just discover they like members of the opposite gender sooner than others do, while others still take a little bit longer getting a date.
Thanks, Hi no Seijin. :) But I don't hate boys. I in fact, hang out with them a lot, but what I mean is, I don't like them as boyfriends.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 01, 2007, 10:28:00 PM
I tend to find the girlfriend usually starts the drama though lol...or other girls who are jealous. That's just me, though.
It's not just you, I speak from experience. Girls love to create drama... sometimes even guys do, too. But it isn't so bad. I mean, sure, sometimes having a girlfriend is hard, but it's worth it. I speak from experience.
Having a girlfriend is hard!? For me, just talking to someone I hardly know is hard! :P
Just for the heck of it, I'll reinterpret my last sentence algebraically. Let's just say that the probability of successfully scoring a good first impression from someone is P, the chances of getting into a relationship R with said person is 5% (the person is of the opposite gender), and that P and R are not mutually exclusive events. That means that the total probability T equals .05P.
For me, let's say that the chance for me scoring a good first impression is .5P and that the probability of getting into a relationship with the same person is the same (5%). That means the total probability for someone like me is .025P.
Okay, I'm done. ;)
I have no problem talking to people I don't know. :)
To prevent this from becoming a short post, I'm adding an insubordinate and subordinate clause to this: I'm jealous. :P
Well, the best advice I can give you, especially with girls, is to be yourself. Yes, sounds cliche, but it works. If you act differently, then the relationship begins on a bad note.
actually the last girl i dated i met her like 2 days before we started going out, it was at my church and for the longest time ive had large feelings for her best friend and she started talking to me and blah blah blah a few days later the girl i like said that this chick like me and wanted to go out with me. now here were my choices:
1.Go out with her and hope she dumps me eventually
because if i dump her im self destructing myself
2.Reject her(self-destruction for me)
so i picked number 1. we went out for a couple weeks then she dumped me, i thought everything was gonna be ok, but guess what, the girl i like rarely even talks to me anymore
Quote from: MasterKey on June 02, 2007, 03:59:32 PM
Well, the best advice I can give you, especially with girls, is to be yourself. Yes, sounds cliche, but it works. If you act differently, then the relationship begins on a bad note.
Yeah. Just be sure to wish me luck on finding somebody who's actually attracted to AS-like behaviors. :P
yea dude, all the girls i dated i hardly knew, i just acted like myself and they fell for me
infact, one of them despised me, but i appologized for whatever it was i did, then she kept talking to me about her bad relationships and i just listened and later on she asked me out
If I be myself, I'll never get anyone. >: I can't talk to people I don't know very well.
If you and the person you like are too similar, then... well, you won't make a good couple, you know? Good friends, yes, but not a very good couple, I suppose. Opposites attract and similar things repel each other... in dating and science, that is.
Quote from: Sabaku no Gaara on June 01, 2007, 08:11:38 PM
Lol 'tis funneh. But then you'll live a sad and lonley life... Like Gaara's lol.
Just because you don't get married doesn't mean you'll be sad and lonely. You can be perfectly happy alone. I know my two aunts are.
Quoteyea dude, all the girls i dated i hardly knew, i just acted like myself and they fell for me
infact, one of them despised me, but i appologized for whatever it was i did, then she kept talking to me about her bad relationships and i just listened and later on she asked me out
How could you go out with people you hardly know? Maybe I'm over-romanticising (sp?) things but, shouldn't you go out with someone you like?
oh how i hate the good friends situation!
and fisk (im not sure of your gender, i appologize) you will indeed find someone, one day you will get lucky and they will just present themselves.
and i know what you mean about not talking to people you hardly know, i myself have that problem, just go up to someone you like and say, hey, whats up, something like that, and the conversation will either pick up from there or you might have to be a tad inquistive, ask some random questions
Quote from: Dosu Kinuta on June 02, 2007, 05:35:43 PM
oh how i hate the good friends situation!
and fisk (im not sure of your gender, i apologize) you will indeed find someone, one day you will get lucky and they will just present themselves.
and i know what you mean about not talking to people you hardly know, i myself have that problem, just go up to someone you like and say, hey, whats up, something like that, and the conversation will either pick up from there or you might have to be a tad inquisitive, ask some random questions
I'm a chick. ;D But thanks for the advice. The problem is, the guy I like and I... well, neither of us are famous for speaking. >: Well, and I'm bad with conversations in general. They tend to be either stupid or... really awkward. >w>;
If he has trouble talking as well, then he probably likes you too. Just saying.
What I hate is when they create these 'groups' and if you go out with this person and break up, suddenly all these people are off-limits because they were her friend or some crazy thing like that...
I'm not a talker. I just listen to conversations between people. Oh well. Maybe I'll meet somebody in the Military, like my dad did. (Actually, they met in the supermarket. But they were also part of the same division. Yet my mothers father was the Colonel and commander of that division; Everybody's glad HE approved.)
Oviously,um red or brown haired,I dont have taste in blondes.
Skinny, like duh!But not too skinny.I dont likemuch people at my school.
The girls are so immature!So I think anime/manga characters
are cuter!I rather would like someone like this girl
called Momoko Akatsutsumi,which appears in the manga of
Demashitaa!Pawa Pafu Garuzu Z!Or Sakura , from Naruto. Xp
This is Sakura:(http://tn3-1.deviantart.com/fs10/300W/i/2006/100/a/4/Sakura____It__s_me____by_Leafy_chan.jpg)
This is Momoko:(http://ikilote.free.fr/Fans/Demashita!_Powerpuf_Girls/blossom.gif)
...I cant decide! ;)
Okay, uh, I understood a few things there, but could you explain to me why you went into a different language all of a sudden? :-X
Oh, you're a guy? I was wondering...you've never really said anything about yourself, and Momoko sounds like a girl's name...
I guess you date on looks, huh?
I'm just putting this out there. According to Link104's sig, I'm smarter than his sister.
I'm not much for relationships. At my age they (mostly) seem like month long commitments to spend a bunch of money. The one girl I've been out with, I was with her for 6 months and we didn't really talk for 3 of them because she was halfway across the country.
I just wait for somebody to at least talk to me.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 02, 2007, 06:50:58 PM
Oh, you're a guy? I was wondering...you've never really said anything about yourself, and Momoko sounds like a girl's name...
I guess you date on looks, huh?
Yes, but if you combine Momo(peach) and Ko(kid,boy)
Its a girl and boy name!But that is not my real name...
and I think I like Momoko better.
Yeah, I figured it wasn't. Nobody here uses their real name.
Pssht, my real name is Fishalicious.
Anyways, going on looks... it's more than a little bit shallow.
I don't agree with it, but we can't tell him how to live his life. To each their own. Heck, there's probably someone who dates whoever they think has the best smelling feet.
Yeah, looks are usually what distracts me.
My real I cant tell you, my middle name is Minoru.
i use my real name...
i can't come up with a cool one so i just use mine
Quote from: Fisk on June 02, 2007, 05:40:31 PM
Quote from: Dosu Kinuta on June 02, 2007, 05:35:43 PM
oh how i hate the good friends situation!
and fisk (im not sure of your gender, i apologize) you will indeed find someone, one day you will get lucky and they will just present themselves.
and i know what you mean about not talking to people you hardly know, i myself have that problem, just go up to someone you like and say, hey, whats up, something like that, and the conversation will either pick up from there or you might have to be a tad inquisitive, ask some random questions
I'm a chick. ;D But thanks for the advice. The problem is, the guy I like and I... well, neither of us are famous for speaking. >: Well, and I'm bad with conversations in general. They tend to be either stupid or... really awkward. >w>;
i assumed as much
and shika is right, approach him, he probably likes you if he doesnt talk much around you. The majority of the girls ive dated approached me, im not sure if it's just me but i think most guys like it when girls approach them
Ugh, whenever I talk to guys my friends and/or his friends get in the way.
Like he came over and we were talking, sitting on top of desks like opposite each other. Then one of his friends came over and started talking to him, satnding right in between us with his back to me. But the guy I liked pushed him out of the way...
And once he was sitting in a chair next to me, got up to get something, and my friend came over and sat in his place so he had to move. -_-
yea that happens, last date i had with my last GF her friend kept ripping her away from me
Quote from: Gamefreak on June 02, 2007, 06:52:23 PM
I'm not much for relationships. At my age they (mostly) seem like month long commitments to spend a bunch of money. The one girl I've been out with, I was with her for 6 months and we didn't really talk for 3 of them because she was halfway across the country.
Not necessarily. I mean, it's true that most of the time High School relationships don't last very long, but, not always. I've been dating the same girl for 3 months, and she hasnt really asked much of me except that I spend time with her. You need to find somebody who isn't materialistic. Materialism is bad for a relationship.
I need some advice from you people, though., I need to get me and my girlfriend alone. Its uber hard with her friends/ my friends and our parents.
Ah.... thanks for the advice, but neither of us talk around anyone. XD It's not just around each other. ... I do remember that we'd talk to each other during English in seventh grade so we could get our peer editing done, though. (he's apparently terrified that someone will take his saxophone and then the band director will kill him... owo) Pretty much, he's Kafei. >w> He's not very.... confrontational.
... Anyways, sorry for the ramblings. >w>;;; Material possessions... ugh, if people care about them that much, don't bother at all with them. It's just a headache. ...I haven't dated anyone, I'm biding my time (and trying to build up enough confidence so I can look someone in the face without blanking out or stuttering) to find someone worth it. I don't mean to... bum out some people, but most married couples meet in college or later. I guess that makes high school dating seem useless, but it's not. I mean, they seem wonderful. (though I'm not in that statistic) Except for the couples that are... well, gold-diggers. Bah.
Yeah, well, I'm 18 and have never gone on anything even remotely resembling a date or a social gathering. I hate myself...
Quote from: Momoko on June 02, 2007, 06:56:38 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 02, 2007, 06:50:58 PM
Oh, you're a guy? I was wondering...you've never really said anything about yourself, and Momoko sounds like a girl's name...
I guess you date on looks, huh?
Yes, but if you combine Momo(peach) and Ko(kid,boy)
Its a girl and boy name!But that is not my real name...
and I think I like Momoko better.
Wait... YOU'RE JAPANESE TOO?!
AHem...
How do you explain the following names then?
Yoko
Chiyoko
Kiyoko
Motoko
Miyako
All of which, are to my knowledge, gril names.
Indeed; many/most female Japanese names end with -ko.
Anyway, I think it might be possible that I'm what they call "love-shy." :'(
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on June 03, 2007, 09:54:14 AM
Yeah, well, I'm 18 and have never gone on anything even remotely resembling a date or a social gathering. I hate myself...
Quote from: Momoko on June 02, 2007, 06:56:38 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 02, 2007, 06:50:58 PM
Oh, you're a guy? I was wondering...you've never really said anything about yourself, and Momoko sounds like a girl's name...
I guess you date on looks, huh?
Yes, but if you combine Momo(peach) and Ko(kid,boy)
Its a girl and boy name!But that is not my real name...
and I think I like Momoko better.
Wait... YOU'RE JAPANESE TOO?!
AHem...
How do you explain the following names then?
Yoko
Chiyoko
Kiyoko
Motoko
Miyako
All of which, are to my knowledge, gril names.
Well, my friends name is Miyako,he is a boy(by comebining
mi(body,look,or fruit),ya(arrow),and ko(kid).
Well, yoko is a girl name. combining yo(night) and ko(kid).
Chiyoko,girls name.By combinig chi(life,blood),
yo(night),and ko(kid).Kiyoko,girl,combine kiyo(smart),
and ko(kid).Last is Motoko, girl and boy,but mostly girl.
By combining moto(main,origin,actual)and ko(kid).
I am also kindof love-shy.And momoko is mostly a girl name.
Just that me copy it cause me obbssessed with the character. O.0
Heh, I got three of those names from The Manga AKIRA. You should be able to tell which ones, I'm sure you've read it.
Could you guys PLEASE get back on topic. And, next time a mod comes here, could you move this to GD?
OK! ;)So anyway,I like long haired girls.In a friend,
i dont want a pervert backstaber.I rather prefer loyal.But ill help anybody even though i might despice them. ::)
Eep... Lots of perverted people in both the East and West. Although, in the East, it isn't as taboo.
well MK, just find a place where you two can be alone
Its a hard feat, trust me. Very hard.
I'll move it, but we have to stay on topic from here on out.
Thank you, Gamefreak.
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 03, 2007, 11:09:39 AM
Anyway, I think it might be possible that I'm what they call "love-shy." :'(
Same here. I am pretty certain that I am love-shy, because I get really nervous talking to girls.
:)Hmm things are going well for me...
Heh, I don't really get too nervous talking to girls. It's pretty easy with me, probably because I've mastered a technique to ahh... eliminate my nervousness.
Yet, I have NEVER had a girlfriend, heheh... sometimes I'll be a little 'too'' creepy for their tastes... But I don't have trouble talking to most people... Well, given that we can actually communicate in some form... I'll be able to talk about all kinds of crazy things with little or no romantic intent. So, I guess you could say that I approach it because I see them as a person rather than just a girl.
i dont think the boyfriend i had counted as a boyfriend... so really, ive never had a boyfriend! cool...
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 02, 2007, 05:12:53 PM
Quote from: MasterKey on June 02, 2007, 03:59:32 PM
Well, the best advice I can give you, especially with girls, is to be yourself. Yes, sounds cliche, but it works. If you act differently, then the relationship begins on a bad note.
Yeah. Just be sure to wish me luck on finding somebody who's actually attracted to AS-like behaviors. :P
Eh? What's that?
AS stands for "Asperger's Syndrome." If it's ever to be called an obstacle in the road of finding love, then it should be quicksand. :-*
Yeah, my cousin is autistic...I can imagine how that could get in the way..still, the right girl would like you for who you are, not what you have.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 05, 2007, 04:30:36 PM
Yeah, my cousin is autistic...I can imagine how that could get in the way..still, the right girl would like you for who you are, not what you have.
True. XD I've been told no one would want to date me 'cause of my scars, but... well, screw them. I don't want someone that shallow. XD
Yeah, no kidding. I mean, it's not like you have scars as accessories or anything. :P
If someone judges anybody by the scars that he or she has, then the judges are definitely hypocrites; they should be making fun of themselves for having a bellybutton, which is, in fact, a scar. ???
Yeah, I mean, I can't just rip it off my skin... without causing a much larger scar. XD Which would just be dumb...
Pretty much everyone has a scar of some sort, besides a belly button... XD
I don't have any visible scars... should I be worried?
The only girls who like me are very preppy. So they refuse to admit it. I hate them all anyway...
Dude, you have no bellybutton? Are you Kyle XY? ;D (also your name is misspelt, just thought you should know)
I try not to hate any girls, some may seem preppy but be a lot deeper than you think.
::) Yeah, sure. Trust me, if you knew 'em, you would realize...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 05, 2007, 06:26:54 PM
Dude, you have no bellybutton? Are you Kyle XY? ;D (also your name is misspelt, just thought you should know)
I try not to hate any girls, some may seem preppy but be a lot deeper than you think.
Lol that's funny Shika!! ;D :D
Nya~ I hate myself. I always want friends who look "nice" But there was this one obese (sp? I'm not going to say fat 'cause that'd just rude) girl at VBS, and I talked with her a bit and she was nice!! :D Now, whoever thinks I have alot of friends in real life, say, "Naruto" or... "Friends"
actually, on the scar thing, i have a scar on my thumb and the first girl i dated rubbed it a lot when we held hands
Ouch! Liked to cause pain?
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 06, 2007, 07:41:25 AM
actually, on the scar thing, i have a scar on my thumb and the first girl i dated rubbed it a lot when we held hands
Awwwww... That's so cute! ;D
(You may now slap me for saying that. :P )
no not to cause pain, it's just a little bump on my thumb
*slaps magmar*
Ow... *rubs cheek* I knew you'd seize the opportunity. XD
I just wish I got to it first. :'(
:P
I know...what a waste...I wanted to slap him...and by slap I mean whack him multiple times with a dead fish...
How lovely for me... :P
Anyway, let's get back on topic. ...I just wish I knew what to add. :-[
Um, Im gonna say personallity, and funnyness. Love funny people. :D
as said personality is really all that matters to me, the last to girls i dated weren't so good looking though, the first girl, she had it goin on man
QuoteUm, Im gonna say personallity, and funnyness. Love funny people.
Well then you'd fall i love with me right away. According to my friends, apparently im a riot... hmm... :P
i don't think you would want jdog to fall in love with you
Restraining orders can do amazing things, you know.
dude... that's messed up
Actually, the boy-love fangirls would probably squeal in delight at that. XD
As for what I find attractive that hasn't already been said... well, yeah, blushing is cute, I guess. owo
... Oh, and I guess I want someone who needs me, because I'm pretty weak and powerless (not to mention scared of everything) and I want to feel... needed. Or like, you know, someone cares.
Quote from: LunaKey on June 06, 2007, 02:46:29 PM
QuoteUm, Im gonna say personallity, and funnyness. Love funny people.
Well then you'd fall i love with me right away. According to my friends, apparently im a riot... hmm... :P
ummmmmmmm... yeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaahhhhhhhh, NOT THAT KIND OF LOVE!!!!!!!! :o sick minded..cough, sorry, lost the happy, but the happy is back!
Quote from: Twilight Link on June 06, 2007, 03:15:30 PM
Quote from: LunaKey on June 06, 2007, 02:46:29 PM
QuoteUm, Im gonna say personallity, and funnyness. Love funny people.
Well then you'd fall i love with me right away. According to my friends, apparently im a riot... hmm... :P
ummmmmmmm... yeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaahhhhhhhh, NOT THAT KIND OF LOVE!!!!!!!! :o sick minded..cough, sorry, lost the happy, but the happy is back!
Why not that kind of love? It's the personality that counts, not the appearance... There's nothing wrong with being gay/bi/what have you. Not saying anything along the lines of "__ is gay" or anything, don't get that idea, it's just... like beauty, love's more than skin deep.
-proceeds to hide in corner so as to not be mauled-
No worries Fisk. I agree completely. It sucks how shallow people can be to a point where they think being called gay is a horrible insult.
Anyways, I want to be needed or cared for. Honestly, I would kill myself if I was the damsel-in-distress person in a realtionship.
i want to be taken care of by a girl
i dont want anything from anyone at this moment.
ahhh its nice to be single :]
For the time being, I don't really agree. Someone can stay single without losing his or her sanity for only so long. By "someone," I mean someone like me. :-*
i know your pain magmar
see, guys like me and magmar don't have the choice to be single (no offense dude) i only get lucky now and then and a girl likes me
None taken.
Perhaps our luck will increase, DR! :D
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 06, 2007, 04:55:11 PM
i know your pain magmar
see, guys like me and magmar don't have the choice to be single (no offense dude) i only get lucky now and then and a girl likes me
Take my advice man: Alcohol, and lots of it!
In an unrelated matter, I wish I could get a girl drunk. Maybe at college, I'll get lucky. *winkwink*
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on June 06, 2007, 05:08:16 PM
Take my advice man: Alcohol, and lots of it!
In an unrelated matter, I wish I could get a girl drunk. Maybe at college, I'll get lucky. *winkwink*
(http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p55/Commodore_Axilon/Forum%20Crap/monocle.gif)
Scandalous.That's probably not
entirely appropriate. ;)
that's kinky JQ
(ahh vincent price... great legend...)
QuoteAs for what I find attractive that hasn't already been said... well, yeah, blushing is cute, I guess. owo
Note to self: Learn to blush.
I don't generally get embarrassed. I would, I mean, I could, but I can generally hide it with a sharp tongue and a cold look.
You know why people have trouble? Because until they can find someone they can openley converse with and vice-versa, the opposite sex confuses them to know end. Trust me, I know from experience.
Just the average person can confuse me to no end! When we put girls in the picture (no offense, ladies), it's kind of like a double whammy. :-X
I was told something about Autistic spectrum disorders a couple years ago... The possibility was considered that I may be at least somewhat in that spectrum, but the lady I talked to told me that people of a certain level in the autism spectrum don't really have a sense of humor or something along those lines.
Heh... Antisocial sentiments are common in society today, no way to really grow out of it I guess.
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 06, 2007, 08:05:19 PM
Just the average person can confuse me to no end! When we put girls in the picture (no offense, ladies), it's kind of like a double whammy. :-X
None taken.
Anyways, I understand. I mean, I have enough trouble talking to friends that are girls, let alone girls that you like.
Unfortunately, girls speak a very different languauge than boys (and tomboys, such as myself.) ;)
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on June 06, 2007, 05:08:16 PM
Take my advice man: Alcohol, and lots of it!
In an unrelated matter, I wish I could get a girl drunk. Maybe at college, I'll get lucky. *winkwink*
*stares blankly*
If I could revoke your speaking privileges, I would. I'm not a girl, and I still find that offensive. I hope you get slapped across the face a lot in college. Or kicked in the groin. Whichever one teaches you to treat women with respect.
I do treat women with respect, I just tend to be ahh... a little perverted when I get a little tipsy.
(I need more social life, I got nothing :( :()
wait, you drink?
magmar, one of thes days man, we will have all the ladies
'Tipsy' as in any form of intoxication. That includes when I feel notably 'high' and 'numb', not necessarily due to alcohol or drugs.
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 07, 2007, 05:59:48 AM
magmar, one of thes days man, we will have all the ladies
I look forward to that. ;)
And Baka, I agree with you on the "different language" part. For me, it's misunderstanding body language, which accounts for over 70% of face-to-face communication. I guess this is why I like communicating on the Internet more than I do in person.
Body language is like a different accent that most understand. Me, it just leaves me in the dark at times.
Oh god, I'm a girl, not really girly, not really tomboyish, but... >w< "Does this dress make me look fat? 'No.' "ARE YOU LYING?!" 'No...?' "YES YOU ARE I SEE IT IN YOUR FACEfdsjl;""
I... hate it when people talk like that. D: It's a lose-lose situation. I've seen guys like that, too, though.... XD
But, I am a girl, but I enjoy speaking in a simpler way. owo Not trying to corner people into a lose-lose situation, that causes conflict and stupidity and... lots of things.
I understand body language and stuff, but... when they ask a question they want answered truthfully, and you get slapped in return...
I suppose that's when you should say something like, "What's the point of telling you if you're not going to believe me anyway?" If I were to ever see a pattern in that person's behavior, I'd probably say that. ;)
Lots of people are usually aggressive in these types of situations - conflict means nothing to them but domination.
For the record, guys, never slap or attempt to hit a girl. Becuase you will not win. No, my friends, in the end, you will lose. Females own the males. Learn it. Or you'll have a hard time. :-[
haha, the first girl i dated gave me a pretty good slap, she said she hated me and flipped me off and i said, that's no way to act in church, slap me instead, man that hurt, a week later we started dating
Well, i find thyat if I oppose my girlfriend too much it doesnt end well. :P
I'm whipped. :P
Eh, when she attacks you, just use Reflega. Works every time. :P
i better get this before GF...
WHOOPA!!!(cookie for ref?)
actually, if i had a girlfriend, id probably be whipped too, and i really wouldn't mind
Hmm... Dominatrix costumes, anyone?
yet again man, that's kinky
I don't think about boys at all, more like events to add into my stories, or pictures to draw.
the first girl i dated was the first girl i ever really thought about
Quoteactually, if i had a girlfriend, id probably be whipped too, and i really wouldn't mind
Oh, it isn't too bad. You get used to it.
Quote
Hmm... Dominatrix costumes, anyone?
Nice. Though, that does sound ike fun... heh, please, shut me up. :P
Quote from: LunaKey on June 07, 2007, 10:17:35 AM
Quote
Hmm... Dominatrix costumes, anyone?
Nice. Though, that does sound like fun... heh, please, shut me up. :P
...I'd attempt to, but... I'm not even going to say anything.
Like I've said before, I'm single, never dated. XD I wouldn't know how anything's supposed to be in a relationship. I don't know what they're talking about in those love songs, either. Poor me...Haha.
Lots of 14 year old girls here for some reason... All of them single, hmm...
I suppose I can tak that as a good thing. I mean, you really shouldnt be seriosuly dating till at least 16.
I've only gone out with one girl. So I'm kind of akward too. I hate that.
Gentlemen: I've got you beat. I've dated ZERO peoples.
It is a good thing. I don't believe romance, and dating is appropraite for young teenagers. We need to abstain.
I'm 17. But it just seems that most relationships that I see at school are so pointless. They go out for a week or two, then break up. I don't want to have to go through that and waste a lot of money in the process.
Yeah, like our hormones aren't going to get in the way of THAT.
Hormones or not, you still have willpower over yourself.
Plus, I don't think I know anyone who has stayed boyfriend and girlfriend for at least a month at my school. This one girl was going out with this one boy, and he dumped her the next day!
I've been dating the same girl for 3 months and I'm only 15...
JQ does have you beat... unless there's a way to have negative dates.
I believe in love & romance, but at such a young age, people believe that they are in love with everyone they meet. "I love you. I love you. I love you." Those three words are said too often to be true anymore. And with all the "hos" on MTV and VH1 and all imagery trying to convince people to wear less and less clothing and to sell themselves out at such a young age... it's not worth it at all. People having kids in middle school... it's disgusting.
I don't think age has to do with dating, it's more the mental age than physical age in my opinion. I suppose I'm ready for dating, but at the same time, I'm not. I've got better things to do than to chase around boys with the thought of love; I could be doing work (if you can call it that) or reading a book.
Hence - the hormones. They're so out of control that they get confused about what they do. So they end up in all kinds of hilarious situations. Hah... People these days are weak-willed.
I'll second that.
To Fisk, Same here. It's dispicable, I think, at how young kids are becoming parents.
Remember Everyone: Pre-marital sex is supposed to be a bad thing.
YEAH! I could be doing better things too! LIke drinking my lovely red-tinted long necked beauty!
Uhhhhh, was that sarcasm, or were you serious?
A little of both. I loves me some wine.
For sanity, let's hope it was sarcasm.
Actually, I find wine to be rather... er, nasty. XD Then again, alcoholic things don't taste very good to begin with. :B
I've probably had wine maybe 2 or 3 times, and I barely drank a glass at that.
Not to kids like you they don't. That's right, boys and girls! Alcohol is for artists and writers in need of inpiration, disillusionment, or BOTH!
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on June 07, 2007, 11:06:42 AM
Not to kids like you they don't. That's right, boys and girls! Alcohol is for artists and writers in need of inspiration, disillusionment, or BOTH!
I'm a freelance artist in need of inspiration. But I still think it's nasty. XD
...................................Ok.
(http://th147.photobucket.com/albums/r299/tinfoil_hearts/Anime%20Icons/Naruto/th_naruto-objection.jpg)
Alcohol's.............not bad if taken in moderation.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on June 07, 2007, 11:06:42 AM
Not to kids like you they don't. That's right, boys and girls! Alcohol is for artists and writers in need of inpiration, disillusionment, or BOTH!
...I'm an artist and writer, and I don't need alcohol much less ANY drugs to get inspiration. Anyway, back ontopic.
You're not a disillusioned Artist, sooo...
Advice for a first date: Watch Animal House. It'll do WONDERFUL things for your relationship.
...........I've seen that movie. I'm not sure it's good for first dates.
Watch Titanic or Shakespier in Love. :P (Kidding, those movies are gross Even for a first date)
How not to Act on a First Date (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p_HQqHLdjvQ).
...Not sure if it has cursing or not. But anyways, that should help you to get a date. :D
I so don't need that! I am me! *conceit much, yes*
Anyway, this one girl I know has a shirt that say something like "Too Cool for a Boyfriend" Even though I think it's more "Too Ugly for a Boyfriend" for her, I think I'd have to agree with what her shirt really says.
that's not nice...
and you cant be too cool for a significant other, wether you admit it or not, we all need a little love
You don't even know what a b**** she can be. 8)
And of course everyone needs love, it's just not THAT kind of love. It's called virginity.
You know the whole thing about it being disgusting at being in love at a young age? Well its only made disgusting by our society, how it happens and what it causes. Formerly, before modern society, it wasn't disgusting, it was normal.
Also we had a whole abstinence thing in Health class in school. Really I hated it. It takes so much about modern society. What is assumed. For these things, like if you were gay, or if you didn't want to get married, you didn't believe in the ceremony, it was assuming that nobody would do these things. It doesn't take in circumstances either. Really, close to nobody actually ends up doing it, they break down or they are really in love, even if they aren't married. Also, if you don't live with someone before you are married, for all you know, you could end up getting really annoyed by them.
<_< I expect someone to yell at me for this, but this is true, I have two parents that have gone through this, and three brothers and they would agree with this.
Quote from: Sasuke Uchiha on June 07, 2007, 06:49:00 PM
You know the whole thing about it being disgusting at being in love at a young age? Well its only made disgusting by our society, how it happens and what it causes. Formerly, before modern society, it wasn't disgusting, it was normal.
Also we had a whole abstinence thing in Health class in school. Really I hated it. It takes so much about modern society. What is assumed. For these things, like if you were gay, or if you didn't want to get married, you didn't believe in the ceremony, it was assuming that nobody would do these things. It doesn't take in circumstances either. Really, close to nobody actually ends up doing it, they break down or they are really in love, even if they aren't married. Also, if you don't live with someone before you are married, for all you know, you could end up getting really annoyed by them.
<_< I expect someone to yell at me for this, but this is true, I have two parents that have gone through this, and three brothers and they would agree with this.
I never said it was disgusting to be in love at this age; I'm totally okay with that. And yes, sex was normal back in the old days amongst 14-15 year olds, probably younger as well, but... the lifespan for people back then was significantly shorter. So, if you didn't start raising kids at 14-15, your genes wouldn't reach the next generation, and your family name would die out.
I'm more worried about how unhealthy it is to have a child at a young age; I don't want people throwing their lives down the drain because of a foolish mistake. I've seen 12 year old moms, and it makes me gag; they threw a perfectly fine life down the drain, and the child probably would be sickly anyways; the mothers are busy trying to grow themselves, let alone support another.
I'm okay with pre-marital sex, I just want people to understand the importance of condoms so they won't throw their life away. I don't think that a 12 year old and child deserve to suffer because of a mistake they will come to rue many years later.
Abstinence programs are lame, they seem to think that condoms break every time, and that they don't protect you from any STD's. "You're partner's trying to hurt you by giving you HIV on purpose!" Or those dumb demonstrations where they give four people a card, and they all get some dumb circumstance; "she was underage" or "they have AIDS" or something.
I mean, what if ___ was raped, got an STD, and wanted someone to love? Pfft, they don't deserve love, they have AIDS.
...Sorry for the rant. .w. I hate abstinence programs, though.
Most of the time, if a someone has a child at a young age, they usually wind up giving it up for adoption. My friend was adopted when she was about two months old and she was assuming that her parents where young teens that couldn't take care of her. I'm not saying I hate abstinence or teen love, it's just I don't want to touch that mess with a 60 foot pole until I'm out of college and old enough for it.
A lot of states don't allow true sex-ed, because allegedly, it's too 'controversial' and we're trying to 'protect' the students. WTF dude? You're trying to protect a kid by simply telling them not to have sex, providing almost NO information on what actually goes on, and instead misleading due to 'faith' and 'religious' 'values'? Yeah, REALLY smart.
I don't dissagree with that whole throwing your life down the drain thing, I just don't blame the parent, because in most cases, especially the youngest ones, its a rape. And also, they shouldn't be forced to throw their lives down the drain for love, or lose them because of an incident, its usually not their fault, yet they lose their life, because our society does not have any system to help them or even allow them to survive.
<_< >_> /rant
Umm... to stay on topic... Do you guys(and girls) feel blonde hair more attractive as it was originally, I do, but I'm not sure about everyone else.
I'll get back ontopic after this.
Also, they have those shots for girls (maybe boys too) so they won't get STD or something like that. And parents aren't wanting to give it to their children because it will "encourage them to have sex." ... ??? WTH? How do you know they aren't doing it already!? It's better to be safe than sorry! You don't even have t tell them it's for that, just lie and say it's a flu shot or something.
Anyway, we're getting WAY offtopic. Let's just get back to attractiveness in people and stop talking about this, it's making me sick. :-*
Highlilghts? Highlights are very ugly. Natural hair color is so much better, mainly because it doesn't look so artificial.
I agree. Girls at my schoolhighlight their hair all the time, I can't believe they think it will get them boys! That and tans. My friend, Megan was saying how I'm so pale, and I need to get a tan, and that people will think I'm a freak becaus I won't have a tan.
I kept telling her, I don't get tan, I get sunburned. It's not in my genes to get tan. I'm Irish, Polish, and German and none of them are tan. Plus, it's dangerous to get a tan and risk getting skin cancer, so yeah...
I prefer black hair, pale skin, and dark eyes.
I'm the whitest person I know, and I don't mean that in a racist context. I could use with some color though. I'm THAT pale.
All European decent too, huh?
The only tan person in my family is my cousin, Anna, and she's Jewish.
Not highlights, I mean real blonde hair. Like I have...
And Vaati, I know what you mean, my Irish blood makes me very pale and I can't get too tan. My Mom is a tanaholic(or she would be if she had the time), and always says me and my dad are too pale.
My genes are nuts. Pale skin, blonde hair, green eyes... etc. I sound mostly British... but thats one of the smallest factors in me. I'm mostly Irish, a quarter Lation(though I look nothing like it; we also don't know a country) and a tiny trace of British and French in there...
I don't know about the highlights part. I think they can be pretty cool. I wouldn't give myself highlights, but some girls look good with highlights.
Yes, yes... But I'm too pale. I spend all my time indoors, hardly ever venturing outside. I know a lot of other people with a fair complexion, but a lot of them are at LEAST somewhat more tan than I.
If this was the Sims 2, they have Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs, and you could choose different hair colors for that. I always choose the wierd hair colors when I make myself.
Well, I've finally made up my mind, I won't dye my hair black because one, I don't want this one girl to think I'm copying her again, two people liked my purple hair, and three, I liked the purple hair better.
ive been wanting to dye my hair...
you know, having sex when you're a minor is illegal, yet when staff members at school see pregnant girls they are like, oh well
Yeah, I could care less how tan a girl is. I have red hair so I have really light skin myself. The one look that is actually something of a turnoff to me is highlighted hair with a dark tan. I guess some people think it looks good, but I think it just looks weird.
Quote from: Darth Wyndisis on June 07, 2007, 09:50:29 PM
The one look that is actually something of a turnoff to me is highlighted hair with a dark tan. I guess some people think it looks good, but I think it just looks weird.
The only thing I like, is blonde hair (like a yellowish, like a cream yellow...) and a tan. I think it looks quite swell. :D
no ofense but that sounds a tad shallow
looks really mean nothing to me, unless they are groteusque
I'm a pretty ugly dude, so I take what I can get, and adapt. There was this girl that everyone found ugly. But she was beutiful to me because she saw past all my faults, and I saw past hers. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 07, 2007, 09:13:00 PM
ive been wanting to dye my hair...
you know, having sex when you're a minor is illegal, yet when staff members at school see pregnant girls they are like, oh well
(http://th154.photobucket.com/albums/s252/Sonic1990/th_objection.gif)
Sex between two minors is not technically "Illegal" just frowned upon. Only when one of the people is over 18, is it illegal.
I don't really have a preference for hair colour. D: I guess I like blonde hair and black hair more, but it doesn't matter to me.
I like being able to see into someone's eyes, though. They're the windows to people's souls. Though I can't really look someone in the eyes, I still like eyes more than anything else. XD
Oh, cool! Are you a ginger? lol
Brownish red, I hear.
Blondish brown and dark brown eyes over here.
Long Blond hair that tends to be unkempt (Not so long now, but fair bit longer than most), greenish eyes.
im afraid to tan :-* (ever since that stupid final destination 3 movie...)
but over the summer i always get a natural one, so im not too upset :]
i hate my eyes... they're like SUPER DARK brown...
Quote from: Gamefreak on June 08, 2007, 05:18:40 AM
Sex between two minors is not technically "Illegal" just frowned upon. Only when one of the people is over 18, is it illegal.
Actually, sex between minors is illegal in Virginia (at least in the city of Virginia Beach), but no one gets prosecuted for it.
It isn;t illegal here, but come on, folks, if you're under 18, you really shouldn't be having sex. I think that would be fairly obvious, but apparently not going by all the "baby daddies" i see.
A lesson that everyone should've learned by now: With every fresh banana, comes a need for a fresh condom.
My hair's reddish brown, and I've got blue eyes... the same shade as Link in TP. XD Well, not anymore, they're really grey now.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on June 08, 2007, 07:30:18 AM
Long Blond hair that tends to be unkempt (Not so long now, but fair bit longer than most), greenish eyes.
<_< coughtwincough >_>
QuoteI like being able to see into someone's eyes, though. They're the windows to people's souls. Though I can't really look someone in the eyes, I still like eyes more than anything else. XD
Yeah, I can do a similar thing. >_> I can usually tell how intelligent a person is by looking in their eyes.
Luckily for me (I hope), both my hair and eye colors match; both are dark brown.
I kinda wish that I could have green or blue eyes, though... Ah, well; can't fight genetics. ;)
That depends, do you wear glasses?
No, I don't. Contacts would do more harm than good.
I like people that are smart too. not dumb people that do dumb things like smoke or do drugs or any of that other kind of stuff that involves killin the body.
Is it dumb? Probably. But does it mean that you should treat them as completely different people?
QuoteSex between two minors is not technically "Illegal" just frowned upon. Only when one of the people is over 18, is it illegal.
Just thought I'd say, the age of consent in Britain is 16.
You may get longer Summer holidays but we get that. hahaha!
And I have Dark brown eyes and medium brown hair, I get ligtish brown bits in Summer.
My family are all quite brown (I think we're some part Jewish) but I am way not as brown as they are, I mean I lay in the sun for 1 hour just lying there, and I went slightly pink then like minisculy brown. So I sometimes use that moisturiser with a hint of fake tan, I always feel better when I am browner, i don't know why, I feel healthier, even if it is fake.
Quote from: Gamefreak on June 08, 2007, 11:19:41 AM
Is it dumb? Probably. But does it mean that you should treat them as completely different people?
I never said I wouldn't treate them differently, just not the kind of people I would hang out with.
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on June 08, 2007, 11:21:12 AM
QuoteSex between two minors is not technically "Illegal" just frowned upon. Only when one of the people is over 18, is it illegal.
Just thought I'd say, the age of consent in Britain is 16.
You may get longer Summer holidays but we get that. hahaha!
And I have Dark brown eyes and medium brown hair, I get ligtish brown bits in Summer.
My family are all quite brown (I think we're some part Jewish) but I am way not as brown as they are, I mean I lay in the sun for 1 hour just lying there, and I went slightly pink then like minisculy brown. So I sometimes use that moisturiser with a hint of fake tan, I always feel better when I am browner, i don't know why, I feel healthier, even if it is fake.
Weird, my family jokes that I'm Jewish because I have Colitis, which is something a lot of Jews get. Plus, my friend and I draw the Star of David on our hands, but we just do it because the Star of David is fun to draw.
brown hair and untill recentally brown eyes, they r green now apparently
I didn't know that eyes just "change color".
well, they were brown, but when i was with my last gf, she said i had beautiful green eyes and i looked in the mirror and they were green
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on June 08, 2007, 12:29:32 AM
I'm a pretty ugly dude, so I take what I can get, and adapt. There was this girl that everyone found ugly. But she was beutiful to me because she saw past all my faults, and I saw past hers. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
That sounds beautiful, Zelda Vet!! :D :D
Ne ne, I know this one emo dude, and he's like, "You're pretty hot for a 10 year old!" That was pretty wierd now that I think about it... 8) Other than that I don't know any guy in real that thinks I'm pretty. Now, if you were to meet me in real life, you'd regret meeting me. Seriously. (Kinda has to do with wierdness, and well, two other things I will never admit unless I am VERY good friends with you or unless I trust you... yeah...)
My eyes are brown, green, and blue. If I didn't have brown and blue in my eyes, I'd be a green-eyed brown-haired girl.
So uhh, you're telling us that the left and right eyes are different colors? daaaaaaang...
No, both of my eyes are green, blue, and brown. Doi. :P
Now were starting to talk about what we look like, let's just get back ontopic before this gets locked or something. ;D
I have an teeny crush on this one boy, he has medium brown hair, dark eyes, and he's about as tall as me, but like I said before, I never want to date.
Quote from: Vaati on June 08, 2007, 03:51:46 PM
Now were starting to talk about what we look like, let's just get back ontopic before this gets locked or something. ;D
I have an teeny crush on this one boy, he has medium brown hair, dark eyes, and he's about as tall as me, but like I said before, I never want to date.
:-o
Well... that won't last long, youngin.
You don't have to SERIOUSLY date, but maybe just little dating to get used to it. If you like him, then go for it. Just to see what it's like.
Never want to date? Listen, people,. this goes out to all the guys. Answer this call: are girls not the best thing ever?
Hmm....I dunno...Sheperd's Pie is pretty tempting...as well as Jubilation Cookies..
Quote from: LunaKey on June 08, 2007, 04:13:00 PM
Never want to date? Listen, people,. this goes out to all the guys. Answer this call: are girls not the best thing ever?
noGuys and girls are equally awesome. Are you some kind of sexist? (http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p55/Commodore_Axilon/Forum%20Crap/stupid.gif)
Yes. In favor of the opposite gender, oddly enough. :P
Quote from: LunaKey on June 08, 2007, 04:13:00 PM
Never want to date? Listen, people,. this goes out to all the guys. Answer this call: are girls not the best thing ever?
I don't know; I have about as much dating experience as that rock in front of my house, if not less. :P
Okay, I dated someone before, but it was both short-lived and long-distanced. Ergo, I don't know what to expect.
And for me, there's this impenetrable anti-asking-someone-out barrier around me. It blows and sucks at the same time!!! :-*
Lotsa people have that, it's called 'social anxiety'. You just gotta numb yourself so you don't think about it and smoothly glide in like the suave whore you soon will be.
That Barrier took 3 years to break. Then there was a kissing barrier. Dating is full opf barriers. You need to leanr to go "Screw you. HA!"
though it is very hard, trust me, I know.
At least you're at square three or four; I'm back at square ONE! :'(
I'm afraid that if I ask someone out and she rejects it, she's going to think I'm creepy and will think of me as a bad person and refuse to speak to me for the rest of her life... :-*
Quote from: LunaKey on June 08, 2007, 04:35:44 PM
That Barrier took 3 years to break. Then there was a kissing barrier. Dating is full opf barriers. You need to leanr to go "Screw you. HA!"
though it is very hard, trust me, I know.
And I would be the very one who helped you through that ordeal.
Seriously Mags, you're getting ahead of yourself. For one thing, you don't really have anything to base your assumptions off of. Just try to numb yourself, imagine a cold place around you and let it freeze your anxieties and your fears. Once you've taken that first step, you've already made a giant leap in progress on the road to dating.
They say its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Whoever said that should drop dead. :-*
Too late, Alfred, Lord Tennyson died in 1892.
the first relationship i was in was my most meaningful which is why i refer to it a lot, relationships are hard work but they are well worth it
I may be getting into a second relationship...things are really shaky though.
Ahh!! Congratulations, Shika-kun!! (If you are of course...)
I think it's going well, but it seems like fifty people are going to hell and back to try and keep it from happening :-*
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 08, 2007, 04:35:23 PM
Lotsa people have that, it's called 'social anxiety'. You just gotta numb yourself so you don't think about it and smoothly glide in like the suave whore you soon will be.
My social anxiety is very inhibiting. At this point it seems that only Valium will give me the courage to ask a girl out :-[.
haha, a good slap to the face gets me to ask a girl
What's that supposed to mean?
when i get all nervous when i like a girl ,i give myself a good hard slap in the face
Ah. That's a good idea. :D
I start to stutter sometimes, I just realized... 8)
the slap usually stops me from doing stuff like that
Yes, but slapping yourself while you're talking to a girl may come across as wierd.
If it's easier to talk, though... eh. I wouldn't know. -can't talk-
If you have problems talking to people, look at the wall behind them and pretend you're talking to the wall. XD; That's what I do.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 09, 2007, 09:35:23 AM
Yes, but slapping yourself while you're talking to a girl may come across as wierd.
that's what phones are for, and the event it is in person, i slap myself before we cross each others paths
But what if you cross paths without even knowing you would, Orochimaru-sama?
He would excuse himself, run around the corner, slap himself, and come back.
Ah yeah that's a good idea too... For some reason I keep imagining his real face as Orochimaru's. :D
:o If that were the case I think the tongue would scare everyone off. :P
I think Orochimaru would be a real lady's man...
Maybe, I mean girls like Vaati and he has purple skin... so... I guess Orochimaru... *shudders*
...French kissing would be interesting ???...
GET OUT OF MY HEAD! UGH.....horrible images...Ewww....
Anyways, have you ever had people try to get in the way of a possible relationship?
Yes, in fact its happened to me. It either means they are trying to protect you or the girl, or are jealous of you or the girl.
One of my best friends is just being a snag about me and this other girl, she won't leave me alone and keeps saying that she always talks to the other girl and that she doesn't like me and I irritate her and blah blah blah...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 09, 2007, 12:00:28 PM
...French kissing would be interesting ???...
GET OUT OF MY HEAD! UGH.....horrible images...Ewww....
Lol!! That would be SO interesting!! How funny... :D
Quote from: Sasuke Uchiha on June 08, 2007, 04:09:44 PM
Quote from: Vaati on June 08, 2007, 03:51:46 PM
Now were starting to talk about what we look like, let's just get back ontopic before this gets locked or something. ;D
I have an teeny crush on this one boy, he has medium brown hair, dark eyes, and he's about as tall as me, but like I said before, I never want to date.
:-o
Well... that won't last long, youngin.
Gah! I've already told you! I made a promise to myself to never EVER date until I'm out of college. >:( I wasn't joking! I only have crushes, I'll never date. Besides, I'm too stuck with Vaati to do that! Sorry about getting so fired up, it's just I REALLY don't like it when people say, I'm going to date very soon when I say a million times I won't.
>_> It may be true, but you won't want it to be anymore. Once those hormones kick in, well you kinda can't control yourself anymore. I told myself the same thing. I wasn't do what the other people did. But it ends up happening, or you want it to happen.
Quote from: Sabaku no Gaara on June 09, 2007, 11:56:16 AM
Ah yeah that's a good idea too... For some reason I keep imagining his real face as Orochimaru's. :D
that would be sweet...
I told myself I wasn't going to date until I'm like... 16. Not that anyone would date me, but... XD
So far I've done a good job, though I do have a crush on someone. Probably won't do much, though.
Plus, I'm have better things to think about than boys and dating. Like writing, school, having a life!
you people and your crushes! just talk to them about it, i do it a lot, sure it usually blows up in my face but now and then it has good results
What would happen if I talked about my crushes, I wonder...? You'd probably all get freaked out. :P
ive probably had wierder
Prove it. XDD Jk~
It's wierd, 'cause in real... I like... "older", men... like, saaaay... Orlando Bloom. :P I've liked him for some time now...
Quote from: Vaati on June 09, 2007, 12:57:58 PM
Plus, I'm have better things to think about than boys and dating. Like writing, school, having a life!
I thought people with lives had boy/girlfriends though? That's the general consensus that I get from most people.
Gaara, it's not wierd, every girl loves the older men.
that's true, the main reason i have no life is the lack of a gf, i know because ive had girlfriends and ive had a life
meh, bf's and gf's aren't someone's life! actually, you have more of a life without them!
like you don't have to worry about hanging w/ other guys or flirting w/ other guys or anything!
my best friend's bf is like crazy, he made her delete her myspace and won't let her go to parties or anything...
i just think life is more free without a bf.
everytime i get a girlfriend i tell her this:
"i really don't care what you do while you are dating me, talk to who you want, do what you want, and other junk like that"
i'm just a laid back guy, i really wouldnt care if a girl cheated on me, im one of those guys that can share
YOU DONT CARE IF A GIRL CHEATS ON YOU??
wow...
Most guys at my school are like that. Even girls. My friend likes this one boy and she finally got her other friend to ask him if he would be her boyfriend. She doesn't bother me all that much, but the thing that really grinds me about her is that she acts like it's "bad" to have a crush on a fictional character, I've had crushes on:
Sonic the Hedgehog
Fred the Chameleon
Pac-Man
Link
and now it's Vaati.
The thing is, she looks at it in a bad way, but I like being weird. It's who I am. So, I play hardball back. If she says anything bad about Vaati, or the fact that I like him, I threaten to tell her boyfriend she doesn't like him anymore. It's a shame it's had to come to this. It really is.
PAC-MAN?! What the h***?!
I can now officially say that I know a girl who had a crush on Pac-man.
I have gone WAY beyond the gates of dorkdom now.
...Dorkdom?
B-b-b-b-buuut, having a crush... on a yellow circle... that's basically a puck...
I find that rather insulting. There's nothing wrong with that, espeacally since I was, like, seven. Besides, it's like I said, I'm weird, in a good way.
Oh wait... YOu didn't mention you were seven. Uhh... That's perfectly fine now...
*runs silently out of topic, hoping not to get a beating*
Quite alright. ;) Anyway, back ontopic...
*beats gendo* had to be done
and no, i don't care if i get cheated on, yea i'd be dissapointed but it's something to expect with a "pretty" mug like mine
I wouldn't care if someone cheated on me, either. I mean... they can hang out with other people if they wanted, they could break up with me if they wanted... or they could keep their cheating secret, but... I wouldn't care either way. I'd just want them to be happy.
Yeah, I don't know anything attractive in the opposite sex, any more. ;w;
I think you'd be surprised if someone tried to cheat on ya, Fisk... You wouldn't be able to tell what would happen now, as you've never been out with anyone, But I think that if someone were to try that, you'd end up quite hurt. Selflessness aside, such things as that are completely nonexistant in relationships today.
Believe me, You'd be quite surprised...
If somebody has told you that they love you and all that, then they go cheat on you, it makes you think they've been lying the whole time.
Unless, of course, they're polygamists.
Erm....not polygamists, per se, that's multiple marriage partners, which is illegal...I don't think there's a law saying you can't cheat though....although I think there is in a few other countries.
Apparently, you have NEVER heard of Mormons.
They aren't polygamists anymore though, it got outlawed. I have friends who are Mormon, and when somebody says anything relating Mormons to Polygamy they explode.
You know, there are STILL a few villages in Utah that are extremely strict and to the point that they promote incest. Believe it or not, Mormon polygamy still exists.
Hmm. They can really go outside of the law like that? Then again, Vegas legalized prostitution, so...alrighty then.
I'll bet someone's going to post saying 'I'm going to Vegas!'
If your village is isolated enough, anything can happen.
However, I don't think going off topic is legalized anywhere, so we better get back on ;) Let's see...Do you think it's common for girls to date guys for their money?
I'm pretty sure prostitution is legal as long as you have a permit/license or something. Or... something like that. It could be outlawed, though.
;)Umm...no...you don't get a prostitution permit...I can imagine the training classes for that...Hooker Ed...Ughokaybackontopicrightnow....
I remember hearing something like that on the news, though... I don't know. :-X Maybe I should pay attention to the news next time.
Yes, back on topic, now.
I'll do that for you, Shika. ;)
Here's something else that comes to mind and that may already have been mentioned, but I forget: tans. :-*
To be honest, I really don't care how tanned a girl is. A slight tan might look a little better, but it creeps me out when they tan so much that they actually glow.
I don't like tans. XD Especially with white-blonde hair, it looks... really weird to me.
Bah, I like my people to have really pale skin, but it doesn't matter to me.
It was so wierd last year, every girl was glowing...it's like being thin, tanning is the thing you HAVE to do.
Oh, wow, I guess I'm just not with the crowd. -pokes pale skin & thighs- I'm not overly obese, though, so it's all good.
Yeah, they also had that whole 'dye your hair really really light blonde' thing.
im like a dark person... i have dark hair, dark skin, dark eyes.
my friend dyed her hair blonde... i think it looks kinda good. but she was blonde when she was little... so its not like a huge change, it was like going back to her natural hair color. she's like super glamourous though... or i think anyway, or compared to me she is :] she's my best friend.
I change, in my skin complextion, that is. You see, my family is from southern Italy. So in the winter, and fall, and part of spring, we look mostly white. In the summer, and late spring, I tan alot and I start to look... like a very highly tanned white person. Yeah. :P
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 09, 2007, 02:44:39 PM
Quote from: Vaati on June 09, 2007, 12:57:58 PM
Plus, I'm have better things to think about than boys and dating. Like writing, school, having a life!
I thought people with lives had boy/girlfriends though? That's the general consensus that I get from most people.
Gaara, it's not wierd, every girl loves the older men.
But mine are like, in their 20's, and sometimes 30's. 8)
It's called 'having a crush on a celebrity'.
Bingo!!
But I like alot of people in Naruto.
Like like, or just like?
I could understand both. Anime guys (For a girl such as myself) are pretty sexy! Inu Yasha, Naruto, Gaara, (Drools)...Vaati *The best!* :D
Quote from: LunaKey on June 10, 2007, 04:44:22 PM
Like like, or just like?
Like... like... ::)
Mah, at least Vaati understands me. :D I understand her. :P
What about this sexy beast?
(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/a/ad/Kuzeingits.jpg)
i dont see anything
except a red x
That's not a sexy beast. He looks just...decent-looking. Who is he, anyway?
all better now :]
his hair is too long...
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 10, 2007, 06:26:08 PM
What about this sexy beast?
(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/a/ad/Kuzeingits.jpg)
Blech.
I'll show you something sexy, well, the same as what you said. XDDD:
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/1159203907_hispicture.jpg)
That's sexy, but nobody out-sexies Vaati.
BOO! We want a manly man!
(http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Forum%20Stuff/GITS_SAC_2NDGIG_Saito.jpg)
Or a psychotic man!
(http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Forum%20Stuff/ff6kefka.jpg)
Or maybe a powerful man!
(http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Forum%20Stuff/200px-Gendoikari.jpg)
I don't like manly men! I like them skinny and no muscle! Muscle creeps me out. I like Vaati just the way he is! I love his long, flowey hair! :) Plus, Vaati IS powerful! How many people do you know that can turn people into statues and hats and make a pretty castle an evil one?
Yeah, Gendo (JQP) you have an interesting sense of sexy.
But Gaara! Excellent choice *claps* And yes, there are a lot of hot anime guys.
But Saito over there isn't too muscular; he's quite thin, but he looks badass!
Yep, but not the buff ones! Yuck! Disgusting! :P Go Vaati and his skinniness! :D
Humbug, all you girly-girls go ga-ga over Gayra.
You need a REAL man for the land of absolute pleasure. And believe me, Saito knows how to please a woman...
So does Timothy Dalton!
(http://galleries.lycos.co.uk/d/15334-2/timothy-dalton.jpg)
I like lean, and tall guys. Not muscular, ick. *shudders*
But I don't like it when boys are scrawny.
Oh. Long hair's nice too. *thumbs up*
Quote from: Vaati on June 10, 2007, 07:00:42 PM
I don't like manly men! I like them skinny and no muscle! Muscle creeps me out. I like Vaati just the way he is!
Ahh then will you like Orochimaru. (http://narutosource.free.fr/Orochimaru.jpg)
QuoteBut Gaara! Excellent choice *claps*
Thank you. =p
Blah! That guy is WAY too old and his hair is too short! I like guys with long hair...like Robert Plant!
YAY! Someone likes my choice of sexy!
Actually, she was talking about your choice, JQP.
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 10, 2007, 07:07:02 PM
Humbug, all you girly-girls go ga-ga over Gayra.
You need a REAL man for the land of absolute pleasure. And believe me, Saito knows how to please a woman...
So does Timothy Dalton!
(http://galleries.lycos.co.uk/d/15334-2/timothy-dalton.jpg)
Ack!! Even Sean Connery is better looking than him!!
(http://www.colossusblog.com/mt/archives/images/Sean_Connery_as_Bond.jpg)
To, Gendo, exactly! I'd rather have a guy with long flowey hair that you can play with and run your fingers through, not that short stuff.
Hey! Fascinating fact! Sean Connery was bald and had man-boobs, believe it or not. All that 'sexiness' is pure make-up.
And Baka, I was referring to your post, Vaati made hers before I finished mine.
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 10, 2007, 07:12:53 PM
Hey! Fascinating fact! Sean Connery was bald and had man-boobs, believe it or not. All that 'sexiness' is pure make-up.
'Kay fine.
(http://img.timeinc.net/people/i/2006/stylechannel/blog/060925a/orlando_bloom_400x300.jpg)
Beat that. :D
QuoteTo, Gendo, exactly! I'd rather have a guy with long flowey hair that you can play with and run your fingers through, not that short stuff.
Actually, the hair in Naruto is like, perfect for that. But Naruto would be like, "Why are you trying to curl my hair-dattebayo?"
I like how Vaati's got hair you can just brush and brush for hours! ;) (http://i168.photobucket.com/albums/u161/Miss_Hayls/ShadowLinkplayswithVaatishair.jpg)
(http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/6/6a/Kuja.JPG)
[size=10]RAWR![/size]
Androgynous sexiness ftw!
And besides, Dalton had the longest hair of all the Bonds. Sean Connery doesn't even hold a candle to his pure sexiness!
Pierce Brosnan? Who needs him? Roger Moore? Dude, that guys even OLDER than Sean Connery. At least he had hair though.
Oh... my... gosh... Commadore Hideo Kuze...
TA-DA!!! (http://revolutionmedia.ign.com/revolution/image/article/707/707560/super-smash-bros-brawl-20060510074454171.jpg)
:D :D
I don't think Link's hot at all to tell you the truth.
Quote from: Sabaku no Gaara on June 10, 2007, 07:20:10 PM
Oh... my... gosh... Commadore Hideo Kuze...
Both the guys
and ladies love Kuja. ::)
I don't either, Vaati, just cute. XDD
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/1152301858_naruto_kiba0211.jpg)
Kiba-kun!! :D
I just think him as a kid is cute. I don't really like the adult Link.
Humbug! That ain't Kuja man
THIS is Kuja
(http://www.limitbreakcosplay.com/images/Ref_ZidaneKuja.jpg)
Zidane's on the right. What's weird is that Kuja looks like he was ripped straight from Dragon Ball Z.
Kamehameha!
Oddly enough, Kuja looks like he and Frankenfurter are twins.
(http://www.rockyrut.com/graphics/home/frank_in_lips.jpg)
That's right ladies, that IS a man.
Oo. (EDIT: TO WHOEVER SAID SHE LIKED KID LINK. XDD)
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/shino.jpg)
Shino-kun!! :D
...No one did?
To Gendo, as much as I love Rocky Horror Picture Show, that's kind of gross. lol.
Dum Gai!! :D
Why is that?
I dunno. Or should it be... Sum Ting Wong?
Quote from: Vaati on June 10, 2007, 07:32:43 PM
To Gendo, as much as I love Rocky Horror Picture Show, that's kind of gross. lol.
As if Brad Majors is any better
(http://www.rockyarchive.org/img/rhps/RHPS-Credits-BarryBostwickL.png)
That's not gross at all.
Now if only I could find a picture where everyone's in drag, hmm...
EDIT: here we go...
(http://rhps.teamone.de/floor-show-rocky.jpg)
And Brad in all his drag-queen glory.
(http://rhps.teamone.de/floor-show-brad-1.jpg)
How about this. (http://www.rockyarchive.org/img/rhps/RHPS-Credits-MeatLoafL.png) Meat loaf rules!
so it's a sexiness contest now? ok,
FTW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
(http://a383.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/28/m_5957dfa9e997744009006dbbc2f3dd7e.jpg)
Hot patootie, bless my soul, Gotta love that Rock and Roll!
Lol. I love Meat Loaf! (And not just the food!) :D
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 10, 2007, 08:12:59 PM
so it's a sexiness contest now? ok,
FTW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
(http://a383.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/28/m_5957dfa9e997744009006dbbc2f3dd7e.jpg)
I'm guessing that's you?
This is I...
(http://i168.photobucket.com/albums/u161/Miss_Hayls/Hayley.jpg)
This is getting a tad off topic, although I suppose we are still talking about what's attractive...
This is confusing...are we still on topic? Well, I like anime guys and some rock star guys, too.
no, thats not me, that's chuck norris age 17, man i do look good in that pic...
but anyways, a hair color i really like girls to have is brown, i like brown hair on girls
Really? I always thought it looked so...blah! Well, everybody likes something! :D
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 10, 2007, 08:12:59 PM
so it's a sexiness contest now? ok,
FTW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
(http://a383.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/28/m_5957dfa9e997744009006dbbc2f3dd7e.jpg)
Let me guess, you?
EDIT: I think I'll start reading posts now... *Hint hint, I'm playing along. XDD
I will NOT participate in posting my picture. I don't think I look "sexy" at all. I'm only 11 for pete's sake!! Oh well...
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/100_3507.jpg)
But...
He's... uh... cute. :D (http://narutosource.free.fr/Orochimaru.jpg)
And this would be me
(http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Forum%20Stuff/IMG_0592.jpg)
I look so much hotter than Rabies.
And you look... uh... I dunno...
Charming... ^_^; (http://www.yale.edu/anime/imgarchive/Naruto/kakashi-sleeps.jpg)
I still look so much better.
(http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Forum%20Stuff/IMG_0601.jpg)
Quote from: Sabaku no Gaara on June 10, 2007, 08:47:34 PM
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 10, 2007, 08:12:59 PM
so it's a sexiness contest now? ok,
FTW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
(http://a383.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/28/m_5957dfa9e997744009006dbbc2f3dd7e.jpg)
Let me guess, you?
EDIT: I think I'll start reading posts now... *Hint hint, I'm playing along. XDD
I will NOT participate in posting my picture. I don't think I look "sexy" at all. I'm only 11 for pete's sake!! Oh well...
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/100_3507.jpg)
But...
He's... uh... cute. :D (http://narutosource.free.fr/Orochimaru.jpg)
You're really pretty!
Thank you!! :D I got better ones, lol.
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 10, 2007, 09:01:48 PM
I still look so much better.
(http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Forum%20Stuff/IMG_0601.jpg)
You wish!!
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/i184216083_82564_6.jpg)
Your picture both scares and intriques me.
Alright, now this is turning into the TDC facebook, which we already have.
But we're too sexy for some silly facebook!
Lol.
QuoteYour picture both scares and intriques me.
Me? Damn that picture... now I'm listening to "Vampires Will Never Hurt You"
Uhhh...
no its turning into a sexy contest,which im winning of course
You guys know this is still in General Discussion, right?
Uhh...
Guess I'm gunna have to sit this one out. (http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/untitled.jpg)
doesnt change the fact that im dead sexy, just look at my stache
I don't fancy 'staches, unless they're on someone I like.
What about me? :P
Uh.... I'll brb for a bit.
i really dont judge girls 6 years younger than me...
Good. :D You'd be a pervert if you did.
yeah.So anyway, no real people atractive yet.Just anime! ;)
Baka.
Chikusho!! No one's on.
So you're basically calling me a nobody, riiiight... 8) 8) 8) 8)
Well, Baka sure is not going to be pleased with what we've done to her topic.
Lol maybe, maybe not.
Quote from: Vaati on June 10, 2007, 09:20:43 PM
You guys know this is still in General Discussion, right?
Yes, let that be a reminder to not get carried away, like we already have.
so, what kind of style of clothes does everyone like the opposite sex to wear?
i find it attractive when a girl wears video game shirts
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 11, 2007, 12:11:33 PM
i find it attractive when a girl wears video game shirts
Whenever you get a picture of one, please show me! :P
But yes, I wish there were more female gamers out there; it would be much easier for me to connect with them.
Ha, I should get a picture of me in my Twilight Princess shirt. Or my friend Leigh in her Four Swords shirt.
I like... striped shirts in the opposite sex, I guess. Or just any shirt I like.
i wear tons of game shirts, my most infamous of which is my darkwatch shirt
Ah, sorry, but I don't have any video game shirts. But my cousin does!! His shirt says:
Finish your video games before you do homework.
Something like that. XDD
Thanks, Darth Wyndsis.
Next time this gets off topic I'm locking it.
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 11, 2007, 12:11:33 PM
so, what kind of style of clothes does everyone like the opposite sex to wear?
i find it attractive when a girl wears video game shirts
Especially when... <_< >_> Nope, I won't even say it.
QuoteWhenever you get a picture of one, please show me!
But yes, I wish there were more female gamers out there; it would be much easier for me to connect with them.
Yes... yes it would.
Quote from: Vaati on June 10, 2007, 07:12:08 PM
To, Gendo, exactly! I'd rather have a guy with long flowey hair that you can play with and run your fingers through, not that short stuff.
>.> <.< *silent cry* YES!
anime or Zelda shirts
Quote from: Baka Nezumi on June 11, 2007, 04:02:57 PM
Thanks, Darth Wyndsis.
Next time this gets off topic I'm locking it.
NOOOOOOOOO! it's the main topic i post on!
wait... girls like guys with long hair? better grow out my hair again...
Soyo!Yes !That is correct!
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 11, 2007, 05:14:21 PM
Quote from: Baka Nezumi on June 11, 2007, 04:02:57 PM
Thanks, Darth Wyndsis.
Next time this gets off topic I'm locking it.
NOOOOOOOOO! it's the main topic i post on!
wait... girls like guys with long hair? better grow out my hair again...
Lose the 'stache dude.
I agree with Orochimaru-sama...
Uhh... I like some long haired boys.
I like long hair, no 'stach, and lose the beard.
Thou art too young to enjoy Facial hair, but you'll find it attractive in due time.
Okay, one, quit using old English, this is the 21st century.
And two, no, I will never like facial hair EVER, it's gross, disgusting and girls AND women hate it. You really don't know what we like.
Quote from: Vaati on June 11, 2007, 08:43:57 PM
You really don't know what we like.
A hint would be nice. :P
HINT: No facial hair. A lot of women and girls hate it. XP
Baka's right. I already told you! :P
I know; I just felt like being a smart-alec (sp?). :P
In the regard of facial hair, there's no way that I want electrolysis to be an option. Shaving's a bit of a chore, but if clean-shaven faces woo the ladies, I'm all for it. XD
It's too scratchy!! :P
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 11, 2007, 09:04:00 PM
I know; I just felt like being a smart-alec (sp?). :P
In the regard of facial hair, there's no way that I want electrolysis to be an option. Shaving's a bit of a chore, but if clean-shaven faces woo the ladies, I'm all for it. XD
Don't complain!! Girls have to shave their legs which is MUCH more skin to shave than your face. >: (
I'm not complaining. I'm just simply saying.
Ugh... I can't wait 'till I can shave my legs. :-*
Oh no you don't!!! It totally sucks a**! (I know you were probably joking, just some useful advice. ;) )
To Baka, Exactly. My dad has a stubble and when he'd give me a kiss goodnight, I'd hate it because it scratched.
Quote from: Baka Nezumi on June 11, 2007, 09:06:09 PM
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 11, 2007, 09:04:00 PM
I know; I just felt like being a smart-alec (sp?). :P
In the regard of facial hair, there's no way that I want electrolysis to be an option. Shaving's a bit of a chore, but if clean-shaven faces woo the ladies, I'm all for it. XD
Don't complain!! Girls have to shave their legs which is MUCH more skin to shave than your face. >: (
Not to mention armpits.
I was trying to keep it clean, okay?
You stupid lucky boys at least have the option of choosing whether or not to shave.
EDIT: Sorry. I got carried away. ;)
That goes a little too far. Let's not call them stupid.
All right, I'm sorry if I said it the wrong way; I didn't mean it that way. It was more playful banter than anything.
Again, I'm sorry. I'll just be quiet now. :-*
Funny thing, I was just looking at your Bridge to Terabithia sig, and my friend Allison had a crush on this one boy named Mike, and he looked kind of like the boy who plays Jesse. But then Mike was being a jerk to her, and now she doesn't like him or the Jesse kid anymore. I must admit, he is pretty cute! (The actor)
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 11, 2007, 09:23:13 PM
All right, I'm sorry if I said it the wrong way; I didn't mean it that way. It was more playful banter than anything.
Again, I'm sorry. I'll just be quiet now. :-*
Ne ne, you don't have to be quiet!! :D
The thing about facial hair is the atmosphere that person presents around himself. You are not yet women, so you wouldn't really be able to understand how attractive it can be... (I'm starting to sound a bit... gay)
On the right face and with the right style, facial hair can look quite sexy to a woman... Ahem...
And besides, shaving your moustache BURNS!
Not all women like facial hair. My mom doesn't like it, and I'm pretty sure my half sisters who are in their thirties, don't like it. Try not to make it a blanket statement.
well most girls like facial hair when they get older, and gendo if shaving your moustache burns, you are using bad shaving cream or you are doing it wrong
Yes, that's what I'm trying to say! Not all girls will like it! A blanket statement is saying that EVERY girl will like mustaches when they get older, but we're, what? 11, 12, 13, 14 year old girls, that not our concern right now.
I'm not a fan of facial hair, and I don't think I ever will be. But some people find it attractive, so all hope is not lost~ (My sister's actually terrified of facial hair.)
Exactly! Just because some women like facial hair doesn't mean we have to sooner or later. :P
I shave with an electric razor. Shaving with a normal one is out of the question because of a little somethin' called 'acne'.
Acne is gross, but that's something that's a little harder to take care (Not much harder) But still.
With facial hair, you can just shave it off 1, 2, 3. But with acne, if you use something like Clearasil, it will take about...3 days I think. I don't use that stuff, in fact, I never get any heavy acne because I wash my face every morning with Nuetragena anti-acne soap.
Oh believe me, it ain't that simple, sweetheart. Even with a continuous process, it'll still return, which reminds me...
*goes off to do something painful to face*
IT BURNS! IT BURNS!!!
Yeah, um, the acne stuff doesn't work for me, so its a good thing I don't have bad acne.
Yes, well... Y'all saw me picture a few pages ago that was taken five minutes before the post... So, how's my acne?
Not that bad, actually.
I don't really get acne. >w> But when I do it takes forever to get rid of.
YAY! Zoidberg isn't Hideous!
Quote from: Fisk on June 12, 2007, 10:17:16 AM
Not that bad, actually.
I don't really get acne. >w> But when I do it takes forever to get rid of.
Quoted for the truth.
Facial hair isn't always bad, look at Johnny Depp <3
But I don't like it on guys in my class, yeah..
And the clothes thing, I hate tracksuits, and tacky too white trainers or hair with too much gel. Erlack
Sometimes a clean-shaven face looks too little-boyish.
Proven fact: Women have a higher tendency to be afraid of men with facial hair.
But on the right face, it CAN look good. But, for some reason teenage boys seem to think having a moustache is, like, the lady-magnet of the universe or something. Trust me, it's not.
Really? Becuase I always thought the exact opposite: that a 'stache looks like total crap. :P
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 12, 2007, 09:05:06 AM
well most girls like facial hair when they get older, and gendo if shaving your moustache burns, you are using bad shaving cream or you are doing it wrong
Lol. XDDD Or you're cutting yourself...
you know what sucks? when you get too much facial hair over time, and you realize it looks like crap, but you have to wait until you get home to fix it. Then you feel like a bum all day.
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on June 12, 2007, 01:34:03 PM
Facial hair isn't always bad, look at Johnny Depp <3
But I don't like it on guys in my class, yeah..
And the clothes thing, I hate tracksuits, and tacky too white trainers or hair with too much gel. Erlack
Yeah, he's cute...but I think he'd look better without the facial hair, personally.
But it would ruin the Swashbuckling Pirate Image!
Well he isn't a real pirate, ladies. Sorry to break the news. :P
Yeah, he was in Finding Neverland, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, and Edward Sciccorhands, and he didn't have his facial hair then.
But as soon as the first Pirates movie hit theatres, his popularity SKYROCKETED!
Who cares? That doesn't mean girls can't like him when he had no facial hair. ::)
Quote from: Sabaku no Gaara on June 12, 2007, 04:02:17 PM
Quote from: Orochimaru on June 12, 2007, 09:05:06 AM
well most girls like facial hair when they get older, and gendo if shaving your moustache burns, you are using bad shaving cream or you are doing it wrong
Lol. XDDD Or you're cutting yourself...
you can't cut yourself while using an eletric, i use a regular razor, i just rock so much i never cut myself
Quote from: Vaati on June 12, 2007, 04:26:41 PM
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on June 12, 2007, 01:34:03 PM
Facial hair isn't always bad, look at Johnny Depp <3
But I don't like it on guys in my class, yeah..
And the clothes thing, I hate tracksuits, and tacky too white trainers or hair with too much gel. Erlack
Yeah, he's cute...but I think he'd look better without the facial hair, personally.
Nyo! He should keep it. Look at how cute he looks in PotC!!
Quote from: Vaati on June 12, 2007, 04:38:10 PM
Yeah, he was in Finding Neverland, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, and Edward Sciccorhands, and he didn't have his facial hair then.
only one of which was good...
Edward Scissorhands was the weirdest movie ever. It wasn't good at all. :o
I loved Edward Scissorhands. And... pretty much every movie Johnny Depp's been in. I do have to say, he's pretty young looking.
Masterkey, why'd you just let your sister post?
(Nick is his real name)
Well... um, I don't think that should merit a warning... just Lunakey, delete your post.
Quote from: LunaKey on June 12, 2007, 04:29:57 PM
Well he isn't a real pirate, ladies. Sorry to break the news. :P
WHAAAT?!?!
I didn't fall for Johnny in PotC, but In Edward Scissorhands, lovely.
Sorry about that post, guys. ;)
Yeah, so anyway, I don't exactrly get what was so attractive about him in Scissorhands. I just didnt see anyhting sexy, is all :P
Quote from: NightKey on June 13, 2007, 07:30:13 AM
Edward Scissorhands was the weirdest movie ever. It wasn't good at all. :o
:o
That movie is so dark and effing awesome!
Anyway, back ontopic...
Well, I can tell you all for a fact that I don't find a man with scissors for hands to be attractive. Or a woman. :P
well, in edward scissorhands, the concept is beauty is on the inside, they fell for him because of his caring soul
Quote from: NightKey on June 14, 2007, 09:27:33 AM
Well, I can tell you all for a fact that I don't find a man with scissors for hands to be attractive. Or a woman. :P
I never said I thought he was attractive, i don't really think that much at all about Johnny Depp in general, I was merely saying that was one of the movies where he doesn't have facial hair. :P
LOL, yes, of course, thank you for clarifying.
I'm gonna throw this out there: for some reason, I find girls who dress goth attractive. I find goth clothing to be attractive. Don't ask why, I really don't know.
And with that, I go to crawl back into obscurity. :P
That's not unusual, I like boys who dress goth, even I dress that way.
girls that dres "goth" (i hate that label...) are attractive to me
i also like girls that dress like what you would call "emo"
I dress goth sometimes. 'Fact, I got an awesome got outfit.
And I would love to see it if you weren't so very far away. :P
Lol I can get a picture of me with me in it sometime. :P
Well, I don't want to be a burden... but if you're willing to... :P
Please... no more pictures... We've seen so many already... :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
Ugh I don't like goth much. It's too heavy. A boy at my school for tag day (i.e. we don't have to wear uniform) came to school, in a huge black coat and black make up oh his face in the shape of tears... It was awful!
I quit elike emo though. I was in the park in the city with my friends once after going on train. I walked past this emo guy and totally melted. But, I had to catch the train so I couldn't stop. My friends would've hated him though. He had hair over one eye, and short 'n' messed up at the back. ANd gorgeous kohl rimmed eyes. Yumsk.,
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 15, 2007, 09:03:21 AM
Please... no more pictures... We've seen so many already... :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
*slaps JQ over head* shut up, man, just shut up!
;)
Well, I kinda lump emo and goth together. They both have a special attraction for me. Only its girls instead of guys. Once again, I dont know why... :o
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 15, 2007, 09:03:21 AM
Please... no more pictures... We've seen so many already... :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
Ok. I think I've posted alot of pictures too... XDD I'm only going to post like, two or three more videos. One's of me being crazy, the other two are based on that. XDD
QuoteWell, I don't want to be a burden... but if you're willing to... :P
Well, look at my slideshow on my myspace (link is in prof.), I'm dressed up as a vamp-goth but I still gotta upload some pictures of me so I can add them to it. (Yeah, they're of me in my awesome outfit. XP)
I find Goth and Emo stupid. Like "look at me I need attention!"
I don't dress up goth because I want attention, I dress up goth because I think it's cool sometimes. I would never ask for attention!! 0_0
You think it looks cool? The goths I've seen just look ugly or creepy.
Are you saying I look ugly or creepy as a goth? Idrc.
He says the ones he's seen are ugly and creepy. He's not making any reference to you.
I like goths. Mainly because they wear dark and kind of evil stuff.
Like Vaati, doi.
Yeah, and other things too. Just evil in general.
Do I dress like anything...? No, I don't. :B
I have to say, I like the emo stereotype the most, though.
Lol. I like emos too. I would like someone with long black hair, dark eyes, and pale skin.
She said yes :)
Who did?
That's just more of a message to some of my friends on here who I talk about personal stuff with...
...Then should that be settled with a PM?
Well, because we can discuss it on here, it is on topic.
Yeah, but the rest of us don't know who or what you're talking about. I'm still confused. Who said yes?
Jo did. My crush. Well, now girlfriend. Anyways, nobody tell KamakaziPlumber this, it's driving him nuts trying to figure out who Jo is.
...Okay...
I have an itty bitty crush, but I'm not going to ask him out, have a relationship, or anything. I just like to keep my distance and only have crushes, not boyfriends.
Because you made that promise to yourself about Vaati, right? :P
That's right. :P And I'm going to grow up, and marry him, too. :P ::)
Actually, you're wrong. I made a promise to myself to never date until I'm out of college. Vaati had nothing to do with it! 8)
I would love to see the kids. Honestly.
If it'll make you feel any better, I drew them! >:( :P
Congratualtions, Shikamara. I'm glad for you. :)
Lol you'll have to put those up! :P
It was in my planner from last year, which is somewhere hidden in deep jungle of papers in my room.
Well, you'll have to find it. Or redraw it. Your choice.
Anyways, what's everyone's opinion on pink roses?
Pink roses aren't as good as white roses, but better than cliche red roses.
I have a rosebush or two out front, and the white and yellow ones now have white & pink spotted babies.
I'm bad at scanning things in. And I'm not going to draw them again. Just use your imagination and predict what they look like. :P
Pink roses are okay, I like red.
Pink roses are nice. But typically, red roses represent love. So go with red. (fyi, white is friendship, and pink is secret admirerer)
The thing was I was going to get her a single lilac, but I couldn't find any lilacs, so I got her a pink rose. I felt a red one was too serious...
Red is the colour of both love and hate... so contradictory.
And white is the colour of friendship or surrender...
I still like white roses best, and I don't have to go much farther than outside my front porch to get them.
I got a white rose for my friend when I went to the dance with her, that's when I get them is for friends. The pink one resembles beauty I think.
Quote from: Vaati on June 15, 2007, 04:09:51 PM
Lol. I like emos too. I would like someone with long black hair, dark eyes, and pale skin.
Then you'd like Orochimaru.
http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/oro.jpg (http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/oro.jpg)
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 15, 2007, 04:14:27 PM
She said yes :)
Congrats!!! :D
I don't really care what the colours mean... you could always go with her favourite colour, I mean, roses come in lots of different colours.
I'm not sure what her favorite color is, but I was going to get her a purple lilac. Lilacs are for new feelings, so I thought it was appropriate, plus I'm pretty sure she likes purple. However, they didn't have purple ANYTHING.
Quote from: Fisk on June 15, 2007, 04:48:39 PM
Red is the colour of both love and hate... so contradictory.
And white is the colour of friendship or surrender...
I still like white roses best, and I don't have to go much farther than outside my front porch to get them.
It's also the color of courage. :)
And, I hate to say it, but SNG, your picture's stretching the page.
and blood. Although I don't think that would be a very good way to ask her out.
"Yeah, I got this flower for you because it reminds me of blood."
What is her personality like?
Red = couragous, love
White = innocent, young
Black = evil, death (Let's not hope it's that, lol ;) )
Purple = Shy
...etc.
I knew it, purple's perfect...
Lilacs are nice. ;) They're pretty and smell good. Or maybe violets, those are cool too.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 15, 2007, 04:54:11 PM
and blood. Although I don't think that would be a very good way to ask her out.
"Yeah, I got this flower for you because it reminds me of blood."
Lol yeah that'd be bad.
Blood is the color of life and passion!
And death.
And hate, as spoken before.
I like lilies more than roses, though. No spines. (Plus, they're more attractive.)
I'd associate Death and Hate with Black rather than Red.
But roses are so classic. They rock. You know what?
Purple roses, for the win!
Rainbow roses. If you could get one of those for me, I'd be happy. :D
Red roses, they remind me of sadness and can speak multiple feelings.
Sadness? ^_~ (http://hoshidreamer.imeem.com/music/CZqx8QSy/sadness_and_sorrowpiano/)
Quote from: PokéKey on June 15, 2007, 06:27:11 PM
But roses are so classic. They rock. You know what?
Purple roses, for the win!
you are getting fined for saying that phrase wrong, it's FTW!!!!!!!
last girl i dated i got her a big batch of yellow flowers, not sure what kind, but she loved them
I think you mean a bouquet. XDD
Getme somerainbow roses,and youwill bringhappinesstothosearoundyou. :)
Hmm she's going to be gone for a week though, I asked her right before she left lol ;)
best of luck to ya buddy
Thanks. She told me she's never been to Arby's :-*
ok... for once i am lost
Let me list all the shocking things...
1. Never been to Arby's
2. Never been to Pizza Schmizza
3. Never golfed or played tennis
4. Never seen Pirates 2
and it just goes on and on...she watches the Superbowl though and we actually had a discussion about the Seahawks/Steelers one ;D
well, fix all those things she's never done, do them with her
Yeah that's a good idea!! And I, too, wish the best of luck to ya, Shika-kun.
I'm going to, making summer plans and everything.
Wow you really want this relationship to work, huh?
Yes, I do. Why wouldn't I?
I dunno. I just hope it works out for you. ^_~
Sorry for the late respnse but, You should go to a nursery and pick up a really beautiful hybrid flower. One guy got me a special hybrid, it was the only one of that type in the nursery. It was so pretty.
Good luck, Shika.
Thanks. and I will try that, thanks for the tip
Shika, you're getting married?
*HIGH FIVE!*
Quote from: Vaati on June 15, 2007, 04:09:51 PM
Lol. I like emos too. I would like someone with long black hair, dark eyes, and pale skin.
What would your opinion as a girl be of blond hair down to the neck, green eyes and pale skin?
Quote from: Link Ordan on June 16, 2007, 08:34:54 PM
Shika, you're getting married?
*HIGH FIVE!*
Yeah, I know, isn't it great! And I'm only 15!
Go to the Dominican republic for your honeymoon. I think it would also be legal there.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 16, 2007, 08:48:43 PM
Quote from: Link Ordan on June 16, 2007, 08:34:54 PM
Shika, you're getting married?
*HIGH FIVE!*
Yeah, I know, isn't it great! And I'm only 15!
Congrats!! XDDD Have a wonderful life. ^_~
HAH! I'm only 18 and STILL a virgin. Of course, that's more than I can say for Rabies.
Quote from: Link Ordan on June 16, 2007, 08:50:43 PM
Go to the Dominican republic for your honeymoon. I think it would also be legal there.
marriage is completely legal for minors, they just have to have parental consent
and JQ, what the duce? ive had more girls than you man(no offense)
Hehe...okay, let's not et TOO explicit now...anyways, she left for her trip this morning and won't be back until Saturday. We're going to reach our one week anniversary without even seeing each other...
wait, so are you actually married?
I wonder if he's actually serious. :-\
I see no reason for him not to be serious. It's not in Shikamaru's character to mess with us like this.
True, well, I kind of like this girl, but I'm to afraid to tell her... I've been talking to her since like last December now.
TELL HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Idk if I should though, cause she told me she liked someone else once, but Idk if she still talks to that person, so I'm gonna give some more time.
Dr. Rabies, while the meaning of the post was....well informed, I recommend they be a little more full.
tell her man, it will feel like a great weight off your back and she might even like you! :D
Ask her out, amigo. Cause if you wait, things go wrong. Trust me, I know. From personal experiences this year. So asking her out sooner (while it may be hard) is better than waiting. Nothing to lose, eh?
yeah, thats where things get bad, I get nervous with those kind of questions to a girl.
So ask via computere. It may be much easier. And less emabrassing.
try my slapping technique, give yourself a hard slap to the face, it will all work out
LOL or, or, you can try a much less painful method. Wing it and hope it turns out well.
a good excuse for the girl to say no, cause I asked someone on the computer once, and they said no... and rabies, I doubt I'm gonna slap myself in the face. ::)
A Pepsi can or ten will do wonders... all the suagr makes it hard to focus. Hence easier. :P
uh, I'm not sure I understand what you mean, like drinking? or staring at? :-\
JUst have like 80,000 cans of Pepsi and you'll get so buzzed on sugar it wont be difficult to do anything.
;D I'll remember that one. :D
Or... you could drink green tea to calm you down.
If it's hard to concentrate... eh, for me, it just gets people mad at me. XD
well. I'm just gonna tell her the next time she's on msn, and if its her sister on(Leandra) I will prevail. >:( lol
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 17, 2007, 02:19:50 PM
wait, so are you actually married?
Of course man! Gamefreak pretty much hit the nail on the head when he said;
QuoteI see no reason for him not to be serious. It's not in Shikamaru's character to mess with us like this.
Also, she's PORNOMOVIES sister. Go figure, huh? :P
Anyways, Jdog, trust me, you get really queasy at first, but once it's done you feel loads better.
Shikamara is right. And that leads me to another question.
SHIKA, ARE YOU REALLY MARRIED?!
OMG shika that is awesome! does she have a twin sister? we could so double!
He's not married. Since WHEN is it possible to be married after only a week of knowing each other? (Well, except maybe for Vegas...)
Quote from: Gendo Ikari on June 18, 2007, 10:18:03 AM
He's not married. Since WHEN is it possible to be married after only a week of knowing each other? (Well, except maybe for Vegas...)
>>; I think we all know he isn't married.
I know, but SOME people are too gullible v_v
Shika does have the tendency to mess with our brains and stuff like that.
QuoteI know, but SOME people are too gullible v_v
*slaps JQ* I, sir, am not gullbile! He made a... very
convincing argument.
I still doubt that he's married. :-X
Are you doubting my word? I know you don't want to accuse a mod of lying now...
I'm just saying, we can't belive you without actual proofe.
Well, I can show you the certificate if you'd like.
Sure fine. whatever. time to wait for someone else to post, we're kind of convo posting here.
The topic is: What do you find attractive in a person? Not, Is Shika married? Get on topic.
Well, did you even read how we got into this?
If she at LEAST read far enough in to see that we were shifting off topic, then obviously, she knows how we got into this current 'off-topic' topic.
Do I need to move this back to Chatboard?
Idk, but I tryied to tell that girl that I liked her, but the words just wouldn't come out right... but I think she's got a good idea of what I was attempting to say... I even did it on the computer too, Idk, I just don't think I was ready to tell her yet.
The first step is ALWAYS the right step.
Yeah, only thing is, I felt like fainting in the middle of asking her. :'(
Like I said, that's how it's supposed to feel. That's how I felt, but as soon as it's over, everything's better. It's like a roller coaster.
I really wanna know if you're married or not... if you are married Shika-kun, you married way too early. :-X
For the love of God, it was a JOKE...
Anyways...I was talking to her for over an hour and a half tonight.
nice man, now be like me and talk for two hours to her, don't use a cellphone, they have a tendacy of grabbing your soul.
so... i find girls that can play guitar extremely attractive
She plays flute. Good enough for ya?
the whole musician thing attracts me to girls i guess, the girl i like the most right now is actually a drummer. she likes me too but sadly she is in a very happy relationship
I can play guitar a little bit and the recorder. Uh... yeah.
I'd apparently be attractive to a few people... yay for being a female musical gamer.
Oh, I like artists, too. 'Cause like... I guess they understand. Most people would be like OH LOL PRETTY. Artists probably understand it at least a little bit better. Though I do know some artists who just say OH LOL PRETTY...
I'm not much of an artist, besides doodling in Alegbra, but I am a musical genius at my school seeing as I'm only one of the people who actually care about band.
music is art sir, you are a fine artist!
Duely noted.
Anyways, I'm still not putting getting a girlfriend right now at the top of my priority list like some people I know. There's way too many other things that I have to take care of right now.
Seeing as how summer is coming up, I picked a good time..
Actually, if you want to get a girl, then you need to be able to hold a good conversataion with her. I talked to my girlfriend once *before we were going out* for four hours straight on the computer.
good job man.
some girls i have long convos with, but they all dont like me that way, with my lady friends im just the guy they go to talk to about emotional stuff cuz im a sensitive guy.
and on the music note (haha, music pun) my parents are renting me a guitar so i can learn how to play
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 20, 2007, 06:38:58 AM
some girls i have long convos with, but they all dont like me that way, with my lady friends im just the guy they go to talk to about emotional stuff cuz im a sensitive guy.
It's like that with me too, man. I have a lot of girls say I would make a good boyfriend and talk to me a lot but they don't like me. It's wierd.
omg same here, they always say rob you are an awesome guy, i have no idea why you are so alone
gah it grinds my gears
I've only ever had two boyfriends and both have been pretty awful. It really sucked.
Oh and I like gentlemen, who treat me proper!
Drink up ye hearts, me lads. We ain't getting any anytime soon.
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on June 20, 2007, 11:30:41 AM
Oh and I like gentlemen, who treat me proper!
Same here :D
And they have to wear black <3
That's such a turn on for me. Can't help it XP
Right there with you Gendo Ikari. lol
speak for yourself JQ
ive been told that im a real gentlemen by girls ive taken on dates
For some reason, girls talk to me about their problems and issues and they also seem to find it easy to talk to me (or so I've been told). *shrug* I assume that's a very good trait, being all nice and sensitive and all. without even trying to be. :P
Your friend Jessica seems to LOVE talking to me. Such a pity we live hundreds of miles apart D:
yea, girls like to talk to me about their problems too
Nick is Doctor Phil in tennage form
He's good with advice 8D
someone called me that once...
it's hard though, girls i like always ask me for advice in their relationships...
D8 That's too bad. You sound really nice too! Maybe you should make it clear that you dont want to be the Dr.Phil figure, and the figure that you want them to be asking advice about. ;D
HEY! I'm the one who's always giving him advice!
(Both Rabies AND Masterkey...)
I talk to girls quite often, but as described above, I'm usually the counselor. It's kind of annoying in a way and comforting in others.
I think I'd prefer to be counseling people's relationships than actually being in one... It just seems it'd be like a chore to be in a relationship. But... that's just me. XD I think I'm scared of commitment.
I'm not scared of it, but I'm not going out of my way at the moment to be in one.
I don't have any guy friends I know personally for advice.
I mean they are awesome friends but more along the lines of playfighting and occasional running up from behind and jumping on them. ><
Yeah I'd like to be able to talk to one of them though./
Well then your advice is great, JQ, because Nick always seems to know what to say!
Heh, I'm too flightly to stay in one relationship long. I like to flirt X3
after my first boyfriend I becane kinda like that.
I like have weird commitment issues.
My first boyfriend dumped me after 3 months and before he even told me we were finished he started going out with my ex-best friend. (we were ex-friends before he dumped me).
After that I couldn't really trust as much as I did. But it's cool. I know I will be able to with the right guy!
At the risk of sounding all sexist. I like a guy to be able to protect me as well.
But also realise I can protect myself.
Gawd no wonder I haven't got a boyfriend.
Its not so bad ^_^
I'm pretty picky with my men as well <3
Yeah, I'm scared of stuff like that happening. I mean, I don't mind if they don't really love me and pick someone else. I just don't want all this weird "Oh, but he loves me!" stuff going on. Ugh, why must people be so confrontational?
Ah ha...It's because people have the desire to breed. :)
its true.
Quote from: DelicateMaiden on June 21, 2007, 11:26:16 AM
D8 That's too bad. You sound really nice too! Maybe you should make it clear that you dont want to be the Dr.Phil figure, and the figure that you want them to be asking advice about. ;D
well, the thing is, i love helping, it's ust a conflict of interest for me
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 21, 2007, 03:52:55 PM
Quote from: DelicateMaiden on June 21, 2007, 11:26:16 AM
D8 That's too bad. You sound really nice too! Maybe you should make it clear that you dont want to be the Dr.Phil figure, and the figure that you want them to be asking advice about. ;D
well, the thing is, i love helping, it's ust a conflict of interest for me
Well then, make it clear to the girls who you have a crush on then and help the ones you dont. Unless you have a crush on everything with female parts :o
Well, I had asked that girl out that I said I liked, but of course, same responce from every other girl, your a really cool person and what not, but I don't like you like that, I wonder how many that is now.... like 40 50? lol
Quote from: Twilight Link on June 21, 2007, 06:08:05 PM
Well, I had asked that girl out that I said I liked, but of course, same responce from every other girl, your a really cool person and what not, but I don't like you like that, I wonder how many that is now.... like 40 50? lol
:( Dont give up! One day you'll find that girl who really likes you! :)
You seem very nice, so I think that that day will be sooner then you might think! ;D
As you'd well know, soubi, asking out was really hard for me too. But, you know, with alot of encouragement (and maybe some yelling) things do get easier.
Jdog, remember: SUGAR METHOD! ;D
Uh, I did that, I had a Vault and like 5 or 7 pops.
well did it work?!
dude, I said I asked her out, but she said no. :(
Oh, I must've missed that... well, I'm sorry, and if you need to, you can PM me (or IM me) to talk.
Yeah, it's hard for me to ask people out too. I let most of them slip by because I'm too afraid or worried, and they end up with someone else who I ended up helping them out with...but I couldn't pass the last one up..
Well, I ask the girl out, its just everytime I do, they happen to like someone else, but idk, this girl Autumn, ryan knows who I'm talking about said if she wasn't dating this guy she'd date me, but yeah, not happening.
When my boyfriend asked me out, he kept blushing and saying um alot but, for some reason I found that cute and said yes.
Quote from: GayleThePirate on June 21, 2007, 08:03:27 PM
When my boyfriend asked me out, he kept blushing and saying um alot but, for some reason I found that cute and said yes.
:) That's so cute!
Yeah. That was two years ago and we are still going out.
have you ever asked someone out? it's very hard
No. And I'll take your word for it.
just let me say this, i had to inflict pain into myself to work up the courage
I would loose my nerve
and die :'(
What will be akward(sp?) is when I ask my boyfriend to the prom my jr. year 8)
it is a very hard thing to do, but when you do it, it either blows up in your face or is a great feeling
Quote from: GayleThePirate on June 21, 2007, 09:01:20 PM
What will be akward(sp?) is when I ask my boyfriend to the prom my jr. year 8)
It's awkward to ask a two-year boyfriend to a dance? Wow, me and Jo have some strange times ahead of us then.
It depends on the person. It's awkward for me 'cause I'm a shy person.
i like it when a girl asks me out
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 21, 2007, 09:15:33 PM
i like it when a girl asks me out
Do all boys? *has her own doubts about asking someone out*
all the girls ive dated asked me
Quote from: DelicateMaiden on June 21, 2007, 09:16:37 PM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 21, 2007, 09:15:33 PM
i like it when a girl asks me out
Do all boys? *has her own doubts about asking someone out*
I think so, everyone has their own doubts
I think it won't matter who asks who, really. If you both like each other, than you'll seize the opportunity regardless of who the asker is. He probably hasn't asked because he thinks you aren't interested, so if you let him know..
Thanks!!! Your so smart!!! ;)
*ahem* yeah. I know. That's how things usually go for me. I give good advice, just can't follow it myself. ;) Besides, what's to lose?
Really? That's interesting :)
yea, there is a lot of girls that i liked, if they would have spoke up and told me they liked me id ask them
You must be pretty out-going then ^_^
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 21, 2007, 09:28:16 PM
*ahem* yeah. I know. That's how things usually go for me. I give good advice, just can't follow it myself. ;) Besides, what's to lose?
My friends come to me for advice too. For some reason they call me the "mature one".
I'm just the comic relief character, no one takes me seriously.....heh ;)
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 21, 2007, 09:28:16 PM
*ahem* yeah. I know. That's how things usually go for me. I give good advice, just can't follow it myself. ;) Besides, what's to lose?
I dunno... Your virginity, maybe?
Anyway, all the super-hot girls with great personalities are either too young, live far away, or both. Heh... Too much internets @___@
Yeah, I know...sometimes it seems the best girls are on the internet. Unfortunately, they may not be like that in real life, and long distance relationships just don't work.
Best girls on the Internet? Hey, hey, hey, guys, I beg to differ. I met the best girl in the world in the library in my school during English class.
That's why I said sometimes. I found the best girl in the same town.
The 'best girl' I know will talk to me about various things until four in the morning (Which is what we did just now) about how all our friends are getting drunk and incidentially waking up next to people they've known but... awkward.
Needless to say, practically all of my classmates are at the beach and I'm stuck in Anson county. I'm not kidding, it almost seems that they took everyone with them but me. I'm all alone ;_;
GREEEEEEAAAT... -__________-
the best girl in my life is taken sadly, if i asked her out a month before i did, it would've worked...
Ditto... Oh well, maybe I'll have better luck with her in College! That's right folks, we're going to the same school! I like some of my friends too much to be away from them forever, other 'friends', meh...
and we all know what happens in college JQ
Oh yeah!
(http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w33/jackals_incarnation/KabutoOrochimarudance.gif)
I just can't wait...those will be the days...
man, that was a wild night, so many chicks man!
Quote from: PokéKey on June 22, 2007, 08:17:49 AM
Best girls on the Internet? Hey, hey, hey, guys, I beg to differ. I met the best girl in the world in the library in my school during English class.
Yeah, talking about INCEST! :)
Shhh.... I was having a messed up day :P :P ;)
Oh, and by the way, college... yeah, thats my calling card right there.
Not to many hot college girls at the college I've been going to. ::)
Because God knows that's what college is all about, Jdog. 8) If you want to further your education, though, you should try the stripclub.
.__.
I dont know if I want to go to college. I doesnt interest me. :)
Ahh, but you must come to college with me and get sickeningly drunk!!! :D
I do that enough already! 8)
I plan on going to college, I just hope the parties are not too wild. 8)
I plan to go to college, but... sometimes I wonder the point of doing so; I don't think you need school to get better at art. uwu
We're... uh, starting to get off topic.
ok kids back on topic here
what do you find attractive in a person?
Someone who isnt only interested in 'you know what'
Yeah, perverted people... eh, I guess I could put up with mild perversion.
Someone like Quagmire? No. Nooooo.
Looks don't really matter to me but, the personallity. But he has to like video games or at least something in common with me.
I can stand perverts, as I'm one, but I dont want that to be the only thing a guy wants me for. :P
Sometimes preverts are funny seeing that I am one but not all the time.
I want a woman who is interested in me. I think I have it. I'm in love at 15.
So cute Nick X3
It's amusing to watch
i want a girl who actually knows who stan lee is, unslike most people here
I know who Stan Lee is! He created Spiderman comics!
and the entire marvel franchise...
Yep. I use to read his comics when I was little. :)
yay! a female marvel fan!
yay for marvel fans! here. *hands Doc a cookie* :D
*eats cookie*
*hands gayle tattered scroll* that thing is very valuable
How valuable?
What's it do?
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 22, 2007, 12:28:39 PM
Because God knows that's what college is all about, Jdog. 8) If you want to further your education, though, you should try the stripclub.
uh, dude, you do relize that I'm just messing around when I say all this stuff right?
let's just say... it is as valuable as your very soul
Okay! :) *hugs tattered scroll* Thank you! ;)
don't do that, it will cut you possibly, and if you, that isnt good
Ouchie! Papercut! :P
Whoa, you guys are so convo posting, not good guys.
Not to mention off-topic.
Though... there's nothing I can add to this topic. I'm sorry.
i might warn us both, but ill overlook it, back on topic ya'll
yeah, idk, I don't care if a girl says no to me when I ask them out, I used to it by now, its happened one to many times. so I pretty much give up with it.
same here, i just ask too early or too late
Idk whats wrong with me, I know its not to early, cause I think 2 months is a lot, but yeah.
the firls i ask say they want to be friends first, and i usually aske after a couple months
Well, I just think it'd be kind of pushy though if they say no the first time and they just wanna be friends, I'm satisified by that, cause they'll never say yes to me, but idk why, I'm just as good if not nicer then this one girl's boyfriend that I used to really like alot.
HAH! A girl that wants to be quote "Just friends" end quote, doesn't want anything with you at all. You should make REAL friends first, rather than try to ask some random girl you have a crush on.
yeah, its no fun being just friends with someone that you really really really like, cause the more I talk to leandra, the more I start to like her, but her boyfriend is meand gets completely mad at me when I give her a compliment or something, like, if I say you look good today, he'll totally yell at me the next day on why to not be checking out another mans girl or something, and I'd be, dude, I was giving a friend a comment, calm your self down, what do you want me to do, insult her or something? yeah, he's not the nicest thing in the country, I don't see what she even see's in him. I mean, I would not stop thinking about this girl at all, and right now, I'm still thinking about her, but I'm gonna stop typing cause I'm way to tired to type any more in this sentence then I already did, wow, I think this may be my longest post ever made! ;D
He yells at you for telling her that she looks nice? Now thats just plain rude ::)
Girls like to be told that they look nice. He's probably afraid that you might steal her away or something. If he wasnt threatened, he wouldnt yell. :)
*sigh* You guys and your success stories.
*sigh* So lonely.
*Bboy needs huggles*
>.>
<.< Nevermind.
Quote from: Link Ordan on June 23, 2007, 09:08:17 PM
*sigh* You guys and your success stories.
*sigh* So lonely.
*Bboy needs huggles*
DDDDDDDD8
DONT BE LONELY!
*suffocating glomp of love* Maiden shall hug you!!!! :)
Well DM, dustin isn't a nice person.
I'm sure you'll all find love someitme or another. But I don't think you can force it or look for it. You need to let it come to you.
Quoteso... i find girls that can play guitar extremely attractive
I'm thinking of playing guitar. I'm teaching myself piano. After guitar, I'll do recorder and harmonica. I used to be able to pluck out Oath to Order, but I forgot it now... Guitar will be really fun!! And don't think that I'm going to learn guitar so you'll like me. >_> I was planning on learning guitar before I even knew any of you guys. So stop getting the wrong ideas. >_<
Cool! I can play some of Sadness and Sorrow with my eyes closed!! I can play Saria's song on the piano too. ^_~
I used to know how to play Fade to Black by Metallica on my guitar, but I sold it cause it was a junky one.
anyways. I hate mean people, they just make me so mad, this guy jeff I ride to kirtland with just makes me wanna punch him right out sometimes, and when I do, its gonna feel so good! I don't take crap from other people, but I don't wanna throw a punch, cause *** will probably "cry" to the driver and I'll end up either walkin home or walkin to kirtland, he just ticks me off, thats why I hate him, I can't stand mean people, I have alot of jerks in my school. I wish I could go to mio school where all my friends are, but my mom and dad won't let me.
...that was a really long post, but nowhere in it were you on topic....warning.....
What do you guys think about height? I know a lot of guys don't like tall girls for some reason.
What the hell? I was so on topic, I was talking about why I don't like someone like mean people, jesus, how was that post not on topic?
I dunno. I don't really care. As long as they appeal to me. And as I said on another topic:
I have a crush on some people here... Hehehe... (http://i98.photobucket.com/albums/l267/Hi-n0_Selj1n/Emoticons/twisted.gif)
And this is so damned true:
http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m308/reader_03/damright.jpg (http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m308/reader_03/damright.jpg)
'Course, Kisame and Deidara (sp?) are cute too. ^_~
QuoteI know a lot of guys don't like tall girls for some reason.
That's bad. I'm tall. I'm 5'3 and I'm 11.
Height is shallow. It doesn't matter. I eman, if you guys are sperate in height by like 2 feet, then yes, it can be awkward. But a few inches up or down doesnt really matter (by inches, i mean like 6 inches or 7 dont matter).
Quote from: Twilight Link on June 24, 2007, 03:14:11 PM
What the hell? I was so on topic, I was talking about why I don't like someone like mean people, jesus, how was that post not on topic?
Twilight Link, drop it.
This is talking about attractiveness, meaning what you look for in a bf/gf. You were talking about another guy who was a jerk to you. Look, it's only one warning, the months close to over, just let it go man.
There are a few guys I know who like tall girls, but there reasons for that are rather....sickening..
no, the topic says what do you find attractive in a person, it don't have to be nessisarly about a boy friend or a girl friend, it can be just about anyone, now, if the topic said in a boyfriend/girlfriend, I'd understand you givin me a warning, but not here buddy, I edited my post to by the way cause you posted right after I clicked post.
Why, Shika-kun? :-*
If anyone wants to know my crushes names on here, you can forget it, pal.
Quote from: Twilight Link on June 24, 2007, 03:17:49 PM
I will not, I was on topic, and I got a warning for making a long post and having it being on topic, someone please tell this boy that that post was so on topic.
Just drop it!! What the hell? Is it really that big of a problem?! And you weren't on topic for pete's sake!! ???
Jdog. It's one warning. It's nearly the end of the month. Just forget it.
No, Gaara, it really is sickening. That's why I don't hang out with them anymore..
Ok. If it's that way, I don't wanna know. Because I'm tall... *Hides behind Shika-kun as those sick-tards walk by*
TOTPD!!! :P :P :P
I like girls that are shorter than me, and there aren't alot of those around here. lol, cause I'm like kind of short, well, 5'7" isn't that short, but I guess it can be short for a guy I mean, most guys at my school are 6'0" something, so yeah, and some girls like guys that are taller than them around here, so thats another reason why I have problems finding a gf, one girl didn't like me just cause I was too short for her, I was really ticked off about that!
Dude, you're short I'm tall.
You = 17 of age, 5'7
Me = 11 years of age, 5'3
tall would be around the height I am, but then again, I have this friend who's a girl and she is just about as short as your Sng and she is like 16 or so. lol
I'm 14. I'm six foot, just about. ;)
I tend to like guys that are shorter than me, because... the guys who're taller than me scare me/are bullies.
Holy crap you're tall. :-X
wow, you are really freaking tall for your age, but then again, I got a friend who is 13 and he's just about 6 foot, so yeah, I hate being shorter than an 8th grader, lol, its so not fun being short. Girls always go for the tall ones before they go for the short ones, its not far.
Being tall sucks. >: I have to duck under stuff no one else has to, and I have to step over caution tape instead of duck under it.
I've always wanted to be short, though.
:( :(
5'4" at my age is just sad.
yeah, I don't think my friend Jub would be able to fit through my door, he's so freakin tall, 6'5" to be correct, lol, yeah, everyone laughs at me cause I'm so short and they're all tall, even some girls say my tallness isn't normal, and I'm like, hey, its not my fault, in every school, there's gotta be at least one short guy. :D
I'm about 5'10" or so... I don't really consider myself that tall. Tall would be over six feet.
Well, JQ, in my book, you're tall, lol, but hey, earlier this year I used to be 5'4" so yeah, don't feel to bad bboy. hehe, I grew like 5 inches over the year, sydney can't laugh at my shortness anymore, cause I'm not longer very short anymore. :D
i am almost 18 an i am 6' something
i to prefer the shorter girls,i'm tall for my age so dating a girl thats taller would be... akward
I really could care less how tall or short the girl is, as long as they like me thats all that matters.
same here, but there is nothing wrong with having preferances
Jo is around my height..a bit shorter...
How tall are you, Shika-kun?
Uhh... I like alot of stuff in boys.
I'm around 5'6", 5'7" now I think. She's like 5'4". Sometimes she gets mad about being shorter, but I wear shoes with really thin soles so it isn't as bad. ;)
yeah, I sometimes get mad at leandra for being taller than me, its not right for a girl to be taller than a guy is it? lol
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 24, 2007, 05:03:56 PM
I'm around 5'6", 5'7" now I think. She's like 5'4". Sometimes she gets mad about being shorter, but I wear shoes with really thin soles so it isn't as bad. ;)
I'm one inch shorter than her. Wow... Dude, you're shorter than my bro.
Now that's the kind of chauvinism that ticks me off. It's like saying girls shouldn't be allowed to work because they can't make as much.
Yep, it's not right for me to be taller than you.
Uh... yeah. Everyone in my school looks the same, short spiked hair, Asian/Latino, gangster, etc. And they all act the same. owo;
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 24, 2007, 05:08:06 PM
Now that's the kind of chauvinism that ticks me off. It's like saying girls shouldn't be allowed to work because they can't make as much.
Yeah. I agree, Shika-kun. It's not right. Everyone should be looked at equally. You shouldn't judge a book by it's cover. (Even though I always do... lol)
Ok, now that is just plan creepy...
What's creepy? How people in Fisk's school are all the same? Conformity is everywhere nowadays. Usually the ones who don't conform aren't noticed even though they stand out. Like Jo.
And like me. I never had any friends. I had like, two. Now I have no friends nearby. I have friends on the other side of town and some online friends.
Anyway, Jo's your girlfriend, right? :)
I stand out 'cause I wear clothing.
I call all the people who look alike clones...I don't like clones.
I do!! Kage Bunshin no Jutsu!
Yes, Jo is my girlfriend. Who I haven't seen since I asked her out nine days ago :'(
[irony]Anyways, I just wish everyone would listen to me and be a noncomformist.[/irony]
Seriously, I don't want somebody who's going to keep changing on me to stay hip.
Awww it's ok. *Pats Shika's back.*
Noncomformist?
I... kinda don't get it. Man, am I stupid...
Quote from: Fisk on June 24, 2007, 05:29:46 PM
I stand out 'cause I wear clothing.
:-[ And... wait... :-[
I am latino but I look nothing like it. Wierd.
If you had to create a perfect boyfriend/girlfriend for you, what would they be like?
Smart, smecksy, gamer, good sense of humor, make me laugh, nice, not gossipy, good political positions(imo).
That's smexy.
Hmm... I dunno.
...All the people I'd describe would probably be gay. uwu
What? :-\
I'm not sure, are you saying you like gay guys? Because that won't really work out...
XD All the good guys seem to be gay, it seems. That's what I was getting at.
Well, that and... I dunno, I like a guy who can cook/clean/etc. I can, but I'm not going to be the only one who does.
Eh, that's not technically gay. It just means they're responsible. Now, if you said you like them in tights...
>> It better not mean I'm gay because I can cook and clean. Seriously if you don't know, you aren't going to be very happy living on your own.
I didn't really mean that's the only reason they'd be gay. XD; I at first described it, then I ended up describing my friend Josh, who's gay. And a few other gay people. >w>;
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 24, 2007, 06:50:55 PM
Eh, that's not technically gay. It just means they're responsible. Now, if you said you like them in tights...
Omgosh... if a knew a girl that liked men in tights (not Robin Hood: Men In Tights), I-I-I-I-I'd just be wierded out. :o
Uh, oooookkkkkk...I once known a girl that liked other girls, I found out, and I was all, ok, that is just plan creepy.
I'm surprised any girl likes guys, we're such jerks.
Yeah. SOME. But, all teh boys on here are so nice it's lovely...
Shika! *HIGH FIVE*
:P Girls don't seem to like polite guys.
I do some. XDD
Yeah, high five! CRASH...I think I just broke the computer...maybe internet high fives don't work...
Hmm, it's all about status when you're in middle school, they do stuff with guys that they think will get them popular.
Lol Shika-kun you so funny. How come like, alot of people on here are funny?
Dunno really.
How important is a sense of humor in a man? I mean, I hear all the time how girls want a guy who makes them laugh, but you don't see girls with posters of the Three Stooges in their rooms, it's the 'hot' guys.
Em... are you okay? That was kinda mean, I was just saying that people on here are funny. -_-
Anyway, Congrats Shika! You're my new buddy of the week!! XDD
Um...that wasn't an insult, it's just something I've noticed. There are a lot of funny guys I know who girls don't like
Oops. My bad. Sorry 'bout that.
I basiclly like anyone who makes me laugh.
Well, I have the somewhat unique ability to make lots of girls laugh. Just ask any random girl that comes here, you'll see what I mean, heheh...
I know you have had a big conversation going on - sorry, and because I have just returned, I thaught I could post what I think! :D
I like a guy who is..
Funny
Sporty
There for me if I need him
Someone I can trust
Fantastick personality
Cute/Good Looking! ;D
lol!!! XD
But I think that you would want more in a person... To me, it's not just simple qualities that can be put on a list, it's something that's a fair bit difficult to explain. The parts that are unique to an individual, just these little things that would make the experience more memorable.
Heh, it is a difficult thing to put in words, but it's about how people find themselves with people but there seems to be a void around oneself preventing one from bonding with one's surroundings. It takes someone who is able to see into that shell and somehow be able to break it.
But really, that is more of a metaphysical thing than anything else. But then again, sometimes you've gotta wonder if there is really any life. So I put this vividness to make everything real, heighten the senses...
Ha... What else is there? Perhaps man should begin to stress these parts as if one were in a blackness of sorts... Heh, it takes someone who's real to that person to really penetrate the dpeths of confusion and illusion.
I just felt the need to mention this... I was a little surprised by all the events of this year, i terms of girls and whatnot...
I mean, last year, I really had no shot at a girlfriend, and this year, my girlfirend has thrown herself like all over me and it's all veyr new and confusing. Basically, I didn't think a girl could ever like me that much. EVER.
Quote from: Sabaku no Gaara on June 25, 2007, 12:08:46 AM
Em... are you okay? That was kinda mean, I was just saying that people on here are funny. -_-
Anyway, Congrats Shika! You're my new buddy of the week!! XDD
no! i lost my title!
and it happens MK, i for one try and fail A LOT but every now and then, i get myself a lady and she acts like a dr rabies fan-girl
You mean like a certain 11 year old did last week?
:P :P
It is certaintly a surprise, no matter what the age may be. Im not exactly the most handsome guy around, like at all. :P
I know this is a bit late but I missed the whole height thing.
I'm around 5'4" and thats like the average height of us girls in my class. Like half of them are my height/taller, the other half are shorter.
I generally prefer guys to be taller, I guess it's that primitive sense of wanting to be protected. But I don't mind if I like someone shorter.
It's weird I have a list of stuff I like in a guy, yet the guy I like is nothing like it.
He's the funniest person I've ever met but he's not overly clever (he's average at most stuff, good at Science and maths though he just doesn't try) and he's far from being hott. He's kinda average, but super funny, and I adore him, we're best mates as well.
Heh <3 I change my mind too often about who I like to settle down.
But apparently I have a fiance. :'(
Tom O'Brein, the Irishman, FTW!
DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD8 Nar! Do not mention the name!
Mr. O'brian can burn for all I care... >:( >:( >:(
She doesn't even like him. She'll be forced to marry him when she turns 18. The only thing her parents want is that he is irish. Well, they have MIGHTY low standards if they'd go for a guy who's 20 and hasn't even graduated high school.
I was only jesting, but yes, I agree with JQ.
Wow, I knew nothing about DM having an arranged marriage...are you guys serious?
Yeah, srsly? Litterally... rofl. XDD
Hmm, I do like funnyness, I like certain things in certain people.
DDDD8 It's not funny!
The thought makes me sick! Can I marry you instead, Nick? Or anyone here for that matter! :)
You can marry me! You already know you want me... <3
Ewww... I'd rather marry... Well, I'd rather not say... I dunno his name yet. Or how old he is... I'll try to ask him tomorrow if we don't have to leave for games too early. ^_~ Or maybe... ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)
I'd marry you, but I'm afraid it'd be illegal.
Oh, I like a guy who would be able to put up with my ramblings, or the fact that I can't talk right. I feel like I'd be a burden if I tried talking and I just ended up stuttering...
And a guy who would be okay with the fact that I cosplay and would enjoy to DDR as a wizzrobe. (it's my current dream.)
Of course Jess can marry me. It'd be complex, but suree! :P :P
Yay! So many potential people who arent Tom! :)
<3 <3 Anyway, I like blondes *___* <--- Obvious blonde fetish
Fetishes... I have a list I'm pretty darfned sure I cant post here...
Eh. I could dye my hair blonde and marry you.
What about me? JK JK~ ;D Srsly. :o I'M SERIOUS!!! I WAS KIDDING!!!
My mom wants me to marry a Christian guy because it'd be hard to live with someone who doesn't beleive in God. So yeah. Maybe I found that "guy" today... :P
Yes, well... I'm a natural blonde. Meaning I have so much more of a likelihood for it, heheh...
FOR ONCE BEING BLONDE PAYS OFF!
Ahem... I don't know too many blonde males... >_> <_<
8D I know most of Nicks fetishes. I tell them to his girlfriend, it all works out rather well.
:) Your so sweet, Shikimaru! :)
Hmm....I guess I believe in God, but I dont need someone who does.
Oh, another fetish of mine, a guy who wears black...And wears it well. <3
Gaara....you're 11 years old...I don't think you already know who you're going to marry...
Anyways, I don't think religion is that important, but there could be conflict if you combine certain religions..
...That sure made my day. I can't be sweeter. I hate myself. I'm like, really wierd, and stuff... hyper... I have a little bit of ADHD.
I have blonde hair!!! I'm a brunnette and a blonde!! SRSLY!!! http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m308/reader_03/Dani2.jpg (http://i107.photobucket.com/albums/m308/reader_03/Dani2.jpg) That proves it. :D
I like this one guy at VBS... ::) Blonde, funny, uhh... cute. Lol that's basiclly all I know right now. XDD
lol I know I'm sweet, that's why Jo likes me :)I think...
I know it is. So,anybody think I'm sweet? Prolly not since I'm so hyper and wierd and... CRAZY!!! Maybe this should be moved to the Chatboard...
No, we always get this back on topic. This has been a very fruitful discussion actually.
Ah. Ok.
I'm annoying, wierd, crazy, and hyper. Anybody want to agree with me? :D
Lets talk about fetishes! :)
I also love bad boys~
Bad boys are hawt~ Not as hot as this one guy though... XDDDD JK~ He's just cute is all. ^_~
???NEVER tell people to talk about fetishes over the internet....bad things happen...
Every girl loves the bad boys it seems.
What are fetishes? :-\
I don't like them that much really.
I love the bad boys in the sense of everyone I like in TV/Movies/Games is a villain. But that's just their way of thinking... Zant's not really a bad guy, and Vaati isn't either. (I'm going by the manga on that one. He's pretty evil in-game.)
I like sensitive guys, though. They don't have to make me laugh or anything. I just like a guy who's not afraid to cry.
That's because Fisk likes beating up the boys and watching them cry. :D
Hah hah <3 I guess your right, Shikimaru
Bad boys are attractive...*sigh* So few of them
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 25, 2007, 05:59:30 PM
That's because Fisk likes beating up the boys and watching them cry. :D
ROLFLMAO!!!! THAT'S SO FUNNY!! :P :P :P :P :P
I'll tell you who I like: UhHhHhHhH...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 25, 2007, 05:59:30 PM
That's because Fisk likes beating up the boys and watching them cry. :D
...How'd you know my secret? D: -punches Ganondorf-
Lol. He'll kill you now with his... strength/SHADOW POSSESION JUTSU!!! WOOOT!!!
lol, wow I was gone for one night and there is two new pages of text lol, you guys must have been busy. XD
QuoteBad boys are attractive...*sigh* So few of them
*coughchokespitdie* excuuuuuse me, princess, but I find the amoutn of bad boys out there being lower is a good thing. Date somebody sensitive. Cause the amount of sensitive guys to normalk guys is like 2:10000.
Usually "Bad Boys" tend to be senstive. I know loads of lads who claim to be "Bad Boys" or who are, and they are quite senstive, but don't really show it because of reputaion and things..
I'm not a bad boy at all, and yet I'm extremely sensitive. Maybe even a little oversensitive.
Quote from: o0Naruto0o on June 26, 2007, 12:07:27 AM
lol, wow I was gone for one night and there is two new pages of text lol, you guys must have been busy. XD
actually it usually moves much faster than that; Baka made a very useful topic. Not growing as fast as JQ's though...
Yeah, it seems as though everyone is a 'bad boy' or a 'gangster' at my school.
Bad boy or gangster. And you say everybody, huh? Your schol sounds like its full of posers.
Bad Boys=Bboys.
YAY! Everyone, love me! ;D
-_- *smacks Bboy*
Anyway, I also happen to find goth girls attractive... did I say that all ready?
No, and I find them creepy. Seriously. They act like they are evil.
Yes, hence the attraction. :P :P
Quote from: PokéKey on June 26, 2007, 07:17:16 AM
QuoteBad boys are attractive...*sigh* So few of them
*coughchokespitdie* excuuuuuse me, princess, but I find the amoutn of bad boys out there being lower is a good thing. Date somebody sensitive. Cause the amount of sensitive guys to normalk guys is like 2:10000.
OISHNCFLKSNWFOISHVNLIWFHNPWhisfwISHFIHSVLINXV LKSFOIHN LN SIVHFIOSHFN !? DONT CALL ME PRINCESS! D<
Lol!!
Omfudging GOSH!!! Today was like, soooo funny!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D One of the guys I like was SUCH good actor in the story time part of the day!!! Srsly!!! So damned funny!! And then I developed a crush on a guy that looks like he's from Naruto. Hehe...
Hm... I like the dead people/zombies, too. Everyone I love in a game/movie/etc. dies. Tragic heroes, I think? Yeah, something like that. I like Tragic Heroes.
Quote from: Fisk on June 26, 2007, 04:24:36 PM
Hm... I like the dead people/zombies, too. Everyone I love in a game/movie/etc. dies. Tragic heroes, I think? Yeah, something like that. I like Tragic Heroes.
I agree! 8D Tragic Heros are great <3
Also, Anti-heros. Not on the heros side, but not on the villans either.
LIke Harry from Spiderman? Yeah, he sure was a HOTTIE.
My perfect man is Mello from Death note <3
He's a bad boy, and anti-hero, and a tragic hero all rolled into one.
Plus he wears black and is BLONDE <3 PERFECTION~!
XDDD How could you tel if hes blonde? The comics are in color!
In the ANIME you doof! *whacks with paper fan*
Anti-heroes, eh? Try Magus from Chrono Trigger. SWEEEEEEEEEEET. He seems to be the main villain in the first part of the game, like one third or around there... ANd you get into one very big awesome boss fight with him, then later he joins your party... Granted, not directly following the boss fight...
So you girls like Meta-Knight, is that wot I'm hearin?
Well, I kind a like this girl on myspace her name is Sarah, she is my age, but she lives somewhere down in detroit, and I live all the way up here, so yeah, Idk what to do right now.
Do NOT trust myspace. Almost everyone there is a spammer. I've had friend requestss with Pics that showed little more than them wearing a bikini, taken from the back... And I've had messages asking me to go to some site for 'more pictures of me'. I'm considering deleting my myspace or having it sent to my spam list.
*slaps jdog* DO NOT have a myspace relationship, a lot of my friends have and it just ends up in disaster
Really man. The only way you could ever BEGIN to trust a MySpace relationship is if they live in the same town and your friends know her or something.
EDIT: I changed the title a bit to better fit the flow of the discussion..
I dont even know how you could start a myspace relationship. Everyone knows they never work. It's fairly obvious!
*And thanks for the fan whack, Jess*
Myspace sucks. End of story. I can't imagine having a relationship on it. ??? Everyone at my old school has a myspace. Even my math teacher. :-[
Even Paul McCartney and Avril Lavigne!!
Why the hell would I want a myspace relationship? I know my cousin would do it 'cause he's stupid and a jerk.
MySpace relationships are usually chance for one of the participants to act like a total and complete a**.
I'll second that Pokekey.
I don't even do myspace to begin with. I already get enough of the jerks at my school. I don't need it at home.
Exactly, and with that being said, I have conluded over time that MySpace is evil.
hey, i do myspace, it isnt evil
NOW BACK ON TOPIC
It is on topic, silly. :P
Ok, today, I gave Blonde-haired-dude some Hawaiin sunglasses, and I said, "Thos are actually from Hawaii." He's like, "Oh, sweet!" Then I'm like, "You can have them if you want." He's like, "Sweet!" Then a lil' later I was like, "Wassup, dude?!" to him. And then LATER I was like, "Goodbye, dude!" then he's like, "Peace out." Lol today was so fun... So, I guess we're like, friends now. XDDD
30,000th POST!!!! WOOT!!!!
Umm...Okay then Gaara....
What do you think is the best compliment to give to a girl?
Hmm... you're eyes are really pretty, you're the most beautiful girl in the world, ummm... that's all I can think of. XDD
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 28, 2007, 02:11:53 PM
hey, i do myspace, it isnt evil
NOW BACK ON TOPIC
Yikes Dr. Rabies. There's no need to yell when telling people to get off topic. All you need to do is give a friendly reminder such as:
Hey, you guys are a little off topic right now, so if we could just get back on topic.
There's no need for that kind of outburst. I would appreciate it if you refrained from doing that in the future. When you post in all caps, it gives the impression that you're yelling.
Really?
ALL ABOARD THE TOPIC TRAIN!
*topic train somehow derails*
err... Ahem... I blame... THAT GUY!
*runs*
Anyway, why are poeple actually stupid enough to fall for myspace? It's like falling for 'free' porn. It always costs something...
Usually much more than you're willing, or able, to pay.
It's those few people who trust MySpace relationships who give it such a bad name.
It's not just the myspace daters. It's the spammers, the bots, the soft-core porn, and the stupid people with no friends.
Thanks for that. 8)
I use MySpace to talk with my cousins if I don't see them that often, but take my cousin Ethan's dial-up, his computer is so slow he doesn't use it. And I mean, REALLY slow. I think he said that it takes 5 hours to upload a video... something like that. Maybe one hour not sure.
He's not saying that's all that go there, he's saying that's what gives Myspace the bad reputation.
Anyways, back on topic people.
If somebody up here asked what good to say to a girl, the general rule is not to say something incredbily cheesy.
Quote from: Gamefreak on June 28, 2007, 07:26:54 PM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on June 28, 2007, 02:11:53 PM
hey, i do myspace, it isnt evil
NOW BACK ON TOPIC
Yikes Dr. Rabies. There's no need to yell when telling people to get off topic. All you need to do is give a friendly reminder such as:
Hey, you guys are a little off topic right now, so if we could just get back on topic.
There's no need for that kind of outburst. I would appreciate it if you refrained from doing that in the future. When you post in all caps, it gives the impression that you're yelling.
Colbert types in all caps though...
those compliments are cliche gaara, i try to pick something special about the girl and compliment that
Haha, someone once went up to my friend and said, "Is there a mirror in your pants, because I can see myself in them tonight."
So she ran away. So don't say that!
Yeah, don't say something you know isn't true, because the girl will just think you're lying.
Find something special about her, that no one else notices.
The "your eyes are pretty..." god, I get that so much. They're just grey-blue, they aren't pretty in the slightest. XD
Hm... I don't like compliments, really. I always freak out and don't know what to say, so I'll end up saying something stupid in reply, thus losing the friend/person's kindness. ;w;
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on June 28, 2007, 09:01:50 PM
He's not saying that's all that go there, he's saying that's what gives Myspace the bad reputation.
Dude, I'm stupid and have no friends. I did have a friend, but she's going back to North Dakota. (I think that's where she lives...)
The whole mkiror compliment made me laugh, but... thats a prime example of what you should NOT do.
Hmm... relationships? Ah, well, even though it's been three days, me and Cho-Cho are friends now. :) I probably won't see him untill next year... Gosh, he better be there next year or I'll be so mad and sad. Well, now I've just... yeah... oh well. Not mad, really. Ok, this is starting to get akward...
there is this girl that im interested in right now, but we are like best friends and we are too good of friends to date, it is annoying
Well, you never know that for sure... my relationship began as a very good friendship, and then the need, or whatever it was, for companionship took over and w ebegan to date. Who knows, you might as well take the risk- what do you have to lose...
Well, if she says no there is a chance their friendship may become uncomfortable, but if you are really good friends it shouldn't matter.
I agree. You never know unless you try, Dr. Rabies.
See, even the woman are agreeing with the guys. In that case, you KNOW that I must be right...
Go for it! We're all cheering you on.
we are supposed to be hanging out sunday, i might ask her then
(check out my new pokemon sig, i love it to death)
I hope it works out for you!! ;D
(I srsly dunno how to read those... XDDD)
Read it like a regular comic. :)
i want to date a girl that works at burger king so i can get discounted western whoppers, damn they are expensive
Lol!! That's funny. XDDD Why is everyone I like... soo... FUNNY?! :P
Good luck Dr. Rabies! I hope she says yes.
I always wimp out when I plan to ask anyone out, not that I do that very often. Because I am in the bakery of aggers and the rack of lurve. Shame. But we must never forget lurve is a mny trousered thing.
All I can get anyone is discounts for afternoon tea, like scones and well tea, well if I get the job that is, they wont let me work there till i'm 15, I dont care about child labour laws!
Uh yeah, good luck again!
TOTPD!! XDD
I do too. Man, I wish I could've like, said that I liked Cho-Cho... maybe I showed it but didn't say it? XDDD 'Cause I gave him sunglasses, I complimented him... Kinda... I said, "You're such a good actor you're funny" to him, so yeah... XDDD
Dude!!! If I wasn't shy, I could've like, called out to one of the guys that was a friend on the second day of this past week and said I liked him, 'cause like, then maybe he would remember me... XDDD And yeah... He looks like a blonde bad guy from Naruto...
Good luck, Doc!! :D
Ugh, I don't know if it is guys in general or just the British ones (The guys on here seem more atuned to matters of the heart than most) but boys tend to be so dense when it comes to flirting.
My best friend has been like non stop flirting with this one guy, and he was loving it. But then someone asked if he liked her and he was like "What?"
And in general I have found guys are the Absoulte worst when it comes to telling if someone likes them.
Boys can be cute, but they can be:
-Confusing
-Jerks
-And all that crap.
Except Cho-Cho... XDDD
TZ: Yes, some guys are extremely slow and they can't teel for their lives if a girl likes them or not. Trust me, I have seen it before. And I have lived it! :(
Sabaku: Yes, indeed, sadly enough, most guys are not... nice at all, especially to their female couterparts. This is an inconvenint truth.
I actually asked Jo why she was interested in guys since we're all jerks :P
What'd she say?
Cho-Cho isn't a jerk!! :D
Eh, she just laughed, and we got interrupted.
Interrupted?
I have to admit, I don't really hate anything. I always feel for something, I love every single little thing in the entire universe.
well, it's possible she won't come over, and i decided not to ask, because she's the kind of friend i need, if we dated and it failed, it'd be to akward from then on
Awww. Why don't you just say, "Look, I don't want this to get akward if you say no, and I really want to be friends with you, but, will you go on a date with me?" Ne?
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 01, 2007, 05:36:04 AM
well, it's possible she won't come over, and i decided not to ask, because she's the kind of friend i need, if we dated and it failed, it'd be to akward from then on
it'd be too akward for me
Mah, I guess you're right.
What you need, my friend, is courage. I recommend finding it in a long necked bottle of amber loveliness.
I get "your eyes are pretty." ??? Personally between that and my hair, I have only two good things about me, imo.
Also, girls, we are sorry we don't understand you but you are really confusing.
*guys is casually talking about this kid is gonna have kids some day*
Kid: Sorry mister, but I don't really like girls. They're horrible. I don't understand anything about them, they're secretive, and they laugh at me and stuff at wierd times.
Guy: Well, you won't think them horrible one day, but I can't deny that other stuff.
Lol that's mean, Licky. :-*
Yet true. :(
SHINNE!!!
I'm kidding. :D
JQ, drinking before you ask a girl out is going to make you use comments like that mirror one...
Well, sure. But he DOES need courage, preferably in amber-liquid form. Got any better ideas?
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 01, 2007, 08:16:27 PM
JQ, drinking before you ask a girl out is going to make you use comments like that mirror one...
Ara? Mirror one?
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on July 01, 2007, 08:29:57 PM
Well, sure. But he DOES need courage, preferably in amber-liquid form. Got any better ideas?
You do realize that drugs and drinking are not going to give you any courage, but rather make you look like a fool and drive the woman away, right?
A girl isnt going to want to date someone who needs to get drunk or high to have the courage to talk to them.
And a better idea would be, maybe, to ask for advice from others, avoid the drugs/alcohol use, be yourself, and just take a crack at it when you're ready. STIMULANTS AND DEPRESSANTS will not help.
okay everyone, im not asking her out, i have other girls that i would like to date more
and jq, i thought you knew i don't drink
Geez, you guys took me too seriously.
In other news tonight, I am now taking two meds at the same time... Ahem, don't ask what they're for, but one of them is Lithium.
Yeah, women are difficult, I'm not gonna lie. I have friends, after all.
Though I'm quite secretive/quiet, but that's not to irritate people.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on July 02, 2007, 08:35:22 AM
Geez, you guys took me too seriously.
In other news tonight, I am now taking two meds at the same time... Ahem, don't ask what they're for, but one of them is Lithium.
Lithium? :D (http://kittyluvr.imeem.com/video/9XEYMTg8/lithium/)
[size=0]
I miss Cho-Cho... ::) 8) [/size]
To all you boys out there: if a girl seems like that kind of material girl like my somewhat-friend, turn-ons include--big muscles, a six pack, and...pretty much being an egomaniac.
For a someone like me whose a videogame freak, a goth, and a tomboy--Only be good friends, don't engage into a relationship. Bad idea.
well, that's just you, some gamer girls i know personally are dating all the time
I know a few gamer girls, but one I like in particular has a very big difference than me. (was that even correct grammar?)
A big difference in what now? (That's why it was grammatically improper)
I am twenty years old and I have not had a single girlfriend. How pathetic is that? No girl is going to want anything with a sociophobe like me, who can't tell her what I think about her. Hell, I have a hard time making eye contact, and the more I like the girl, the harder it is. I don't know how much longer I will go on like this. If there is some miracle drug available to help me cope with my fears, it isn't Paxil. I don't drink, yet, and alcohol is an attractive option... always in moderation though. If one drink could break the ice, if only. My main problem is that I think to much, and that's what makes me worry about stupid, stupid things that are totally irrational. I shot of whiskey might be able to stop me from worrying. My other option is like hypnosis or something. Hey, at least it is healthier than the former method.
I'm not afraid to stare at a boy even if they look at me!!1 w00t!!
See? At least ONE other person has considered alcohol. I'm not the only one here who approves of the drink (to a degree).
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on July 03, 2007, 06:37:33 PM
A big difference in what now? (That's why it was grammatically improper)
Eh, I might be acting a little dumb, but she's a really big liberal and I'm a really big conservative...
That really shouldn't affect how much you like her, Gamefreak. ;)
To quite a few people, it does... You see, some don't realize that politics can only divide people, never unite them. SO it's better to never bring the thing up in the first place.
As for this, it's not impossible to get along with people of opposing political parties. Because, really. They're human like you.
But there is some wisdom behind wanting to avoid a relationship like that. Don't wanna get in any big fights or anything, over a silly thing like politics.
Oh, come now, guys, politics are incredibly minute and unimportant in a relationship. They really shouldn't matter. If you want to only date those of the same political alias, then you will be severly hindered.
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 03, 2007, 03:38:58 PM
well, that's just you, some gamer girls i know personally are dating all the time
It's not just me, my friends and some other girls at my school that I don't really know that well are like that.
Quote from: Gamefreak on July 03, 2007, 07:24:23 PM
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on July 03, 2007, 06:37:33 PM
A big difference in what now? (That's why it was grammatically improper)
Eh, I might be acting a little dumb, but she's a really big liberal and I'm a really big conservative...
I keep telling you to go for it comrade
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on May 21, 2007, 09:05:45 PM
I want somebody who I can do stuff with without having to pause at every shop window so she can check her hair and makeup. Somebody who isn't all cosmetics and possessions, but just wants to have fun. Preferable somebody who isn't judgmental, and is open minded, probably someone who plays video games but isn't a complete addict. Somebody with a sense of humour...
Oooh pick me pick me lol I fit that description rather well actually....
Well I think the person should like videogames+anime (or any combination of it) and if they like video games only won't make fun of my anime obssession. He also won't make fun of my clothes and call me a goth or something (I wear black most of time. It just suits me more I guess) He has to have a good sense of humor but knows when to be serious. He's smart and thoughtful. It would also help if he was Asian (not being racist) because then we would like the same sort of foods and he wouldn't have a problem with my cooking. He also doesn't have to be all muscly but a good body would be nice. We could probably also relate to each other's families more. I have a problem with eye contact and everything though so I probably won't go out with anyone for a while.
Quote from: Rinku on July 05, 2007, 09:24:47 AM
Oooh pick me pick me lol I fit that description rather well actually....
Sorry, already taken :)For almost three weeks now..Three weeks tomorrow, yeah.
Eye contact really isn't that bad of a problem. Most people think it's kinda cute, you don't have to give eye contact much if you still get across how you feel. Besides, it's easier after you get to know them well, trust me.
There's one boy I have a bit of a crush on, I know him pretty well. And it's easy to start up a conversation. We have a lot in common. He has Twilight Princess and he hates the Wii too. Surprise, I thought I was the only one!
Quote from: Vaati on July 07, 2007, 07:25:18 AM
There's one boy I have a bit of a crush on, I know him pretty well. And it's easy to start up a conversation. We have a lot in common. He has Twilight Princess and he loves the Wii too. Surprise, I thought I was the only one!
Fix'd. And no, you aren't alone.
Nobody seems interested in the same stuff as me. I mean no girl in Illinois would spend hours compiling their favorite TP .mp3 songs. Like I did last night.
...You..hate the Wii...? How does that work..?
Anyways, they don't have to have the exact same interests as you, just a few things.
Did you notice I fixed it? She obviously mispoke.
Such as.
Wah..
I'm torn between two guys right now.
(Guy A) I've liked for a while now, we're quite good friends. And I really like him. He's gorgeous in my eyes, but he knows I like him. He once invited me to the cinema but it never happened because the film we were gonna watch never came to our local cinema. He never mentioned it after that.
(Guy B), is like my best friend guy-wise, and we have loads in common. We have really similar interests, but that's the problem, I can't think of him not as a friend. Everyone says he really likes me, even his own friends and on our camping trip we were playing truth or dare in our tent, and he had to kiss me. And didn't try to get out of it or anything.
I don't know what to do, I really like guy B, but I know that I like Guy A more. But I don't think guy A likes me whereas guy b does.
I need advice. I just think it would be mean to go out with someone if i preffered someone else, even though I doubt the other person likes me.
go with guy B
Both at once.
>.>
<.<
What?
Okay, guy B, if guy A likes you, he will like you more, and then if something goes wrong with guy B, then you make A COUPLE!
Mmm. I see him at school on monday so I'll see how I feel.
I don't know if I'll be able to though.
He's like a brother figure to me and more of a friend.
Thanks for the advice ^^
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on July 07, 2007, 01:24:28 PM
Wah..
I'm torn between two guys right now.
(Guy A) I've liked for a while now, we're quite good friends. And I really like him. He's gorgeous in my eyes, but he knows I like him. He once invited me to the cinema but it never happened because the film we were gonna watch never came to our local cinema. He never mentioned it after that.
(Guy B), is like my best friend guy-wise, and we have loads in common. We have really similar interests, but that's the problem, I can't think of him not as a friend. Everyone says he really likes me, even his own friends and on our camping trip we were playing truth or dare in our tent, and he had to kiss me. And didn't try to get out of it or anything.
I don't know what to do, I really like guy B, but I know that I like Guy A more. But I don't think guy A likes me whereas guy b does.
I need advice. I just think it would be mean to go out with someone if i preffered someone else, even though I doubt the other person likes me.
Yeah, I have a guy a and guy b too. I know I won't see Guy B ever again though. Maybe Guy A...
so excellent news, the girl i've been after for the past couple of months is now dating a friend of mine
i want to know why i always fall for girls i have no chance with!
Aw, you poor thing, I guess there's not much you can do if it's your friend.
I always end up liking guys I shouldn't, it sucks.
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 07, 2007, 07:12:28 PM
so excellent news, the girl i've been after for the past couple of months is now dating a friend of mine
i want to know why i always fall for girls i have no chance with!
Maybe, you should not introduce potential girlfriends to your girl-crazy friend. The one that hits on any or most girls he sees...
That really stings, man. There are other girls, though, so dont worry about it. Keep your chin up!
And yes, it'd be a good idea not to spread news of girls you like to guys who are... well guys.
Quote from: Licky the Swampert on July 07, 2007, 10:51:31 AM
Did you notice I fixed it? She obviously mispoke.
...No, I didn't...
And that's not the only thing we have in common, Shika. That what just
some of the stuff.
Actally, I have a confession to make, I'm not really going to wait until I get out of college to have a boyfriend, I was just saying that because Shika was annoying me about me liking Vaati. ???
Seeing as how Vaati isn't real, and I'll never have a chance with him, I'm still going to get married to a real guy someday. But I'm a kid, for heaven's sake! I'm not ready for dating!
Having a crush on a fictional character is pretty much the same as having a crush on a celebrity, you know the odds of dating them are extremely slim, but you still like them anyway. It's a phase young teens go though and will eventually get over.
What I'm trying to say is, I'm aware that Vaati isn't real, but there's nothing wrong with having a temporary crush on a fictional character, is there? I just really hate it when people treat me like a weirdo because of that.
I may be fourteen years old, but I really am just a little kid at heart who has crazy ideas. At least, that's how I consider myself. lol.
All I'm saying is, just let it alone for now and give me time to grow out of it.
I think there's nothing wrong with having a crush on a fictional character.
As long as it doesn't get too weird and serious I think it's perfectly healthy.
Quote from: Vaati on July 08, 2007, 09:10:41 AMI may be fourteen years old, but I really am just a little kid at heart who has crazy ideas. At least, that's how I consider myself. lol.
All I'm saying is, just let it alone for now and give me time to grow out of it.
heh, im 18 and i have a couple crushes on
fictional characters.no real people. i never dated before, and i like it that way :)
High five! ;D
that's a pretty short post no?
to quote borat, very nice high five!
Lol. I was about ot put (In Borat's voice) before that, but I didn't.
Okay, back on topic.
Actually, things with my girlfriend are going very good right now. Shes all the way in Colombia, and I have spoken to her via e-mail as of late. Boy, do I miss her.
Hmm... I wouldn't consider it so 'good', since I bet you only just found out and you were acting all crazy and emotional because you thought she had lost interest in you...
so one of my friends tried setting me up with a twelve year old and fyi i'll be 18 in 3 months
(this topic was too good to die)
Woah... :o And it's not me, because I live no where near you, AND I'M NOT 12!! XDDD MWUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!
*Coughcoughyondaimecoughcoughleadercoughcoughgaaracoughcough*
Trust me man..I have worse...ZV knows all about it... 8)
Ettou... can I know about it or...?
Well...It's really, really bad, and I'm sure I would get ribbed for it endlessly by Rabies. Which wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't one of the frequent checkers of this topic...ZV isn't, so he won't spill the beans. I hope.
You could send me a message about it. :-\ But if you don't want to, that's okay.
ribbed? you mean laughed at or something? i wouldn't do such a thing, let's hear it ^_^
Yes Shika, why don't you... (how do i put this?...) Spill the beans. >:(
Umm... is something, wrong? ;) I'm sure it's not that bad...
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on July 20, 2007, 04:20:58 PM
Yes Shika, why don't you... (how do i put this?...) Spill the beans. >:(
You seriously don't remember what it was about? ;)I kinda told you and had you laugh at me for quite some time afterwards...on MySpace, remember? Now you see why I don't want them to know?
Shika-kun, it's okay! I won't laugh!
Something about your present girlfriend not being your first? Big deal.
You so mean. :'(
No, it had nothing to do with her, or any of my girlfriends really.
Guys, if SHika doesnt want us on the forum to know, let's not pry. Let's leave him alone.
OK what do we do in this topic? :)
We talk about love and trying to get into a relationship with someone.
and crushes, and all that stuff...it's a big thread because everyone can relate and constantly has new stuff to talk about.
which is why it should have never died...
so that girl ive been chasing after these past couple of months has started dating a friend of mine...
That sucks. Then again, they may not last long.
Don't introduce potential girlfriends to girl crazy pervert friends.
Potential girlfriend + pervert friend = PHAIL!
;) heh this is going to be kinda hard for me then. i uhh dont date.. but i have a crush on 3 people(kinda people :D )
...I'll bet Gamefreak is the one who stole her, yeah?
No, I've only had one serious relationship....ever.
Really? I never heard of this, tell me more!
It was before this topic had been started. I met her during our graduation exams and we started going out on the last day of them. We went out for six months, and we broke up before school began again.
Oh. What was i like?
The girl crazy pervert didn't take her GF
apparently it took GF's ex 6 months to find out they had nothing in common
i only had a big crush once and it was a big waste of time ::)
Really? Well, there wasn't a fight or anything, was there?
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 22, 2007, 11:01:26 AM
Really? Well, there wasn't a fight or anything, was there?
this is to Gamefreak.. right?
Yes, of course. Although I doubt it.
ok so i say something like.. I like Kurama? ;)
You can't have a relationship with a fictional person... Unless I'm messing something and Sess has invented something similar to "Who Framed Roger Rabbit" to mix animated and real world.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on July 22, 2007, 12:32:48 PM
You can't have a relationship with a fictional person... Unless I'm messing something and Sess has invented something similar to "Who Framed Roger Rabbit" to mix animated and real world.
well its also what do you find attractive in a person :D other than this i cant really help revive this topic :(
Let's see... would you want a blonde guy? A long haired guy? A skinny guy? If you answered "YES!" to all 3 questions, then baby, pack your bags, I"m the man for you.
haha i always thought you'd have black hair. that reminds me i should do a poll.. look for it in chatbord ^_^
[EDIT]anyways i dont think i would like to date...
This (http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n225/darkphantomime/Myself/IMG_0487a.jpg)
WOuld be my self portrait.
Though I think it looks a little bad now that I think about it...
thats cool.. you used paint hey? I tryed drawing a anime version of myself but i cant draw girl animes to good and it looked like a guy :-X um not that i look like a guy at all.. really..
Acrylic paints. Lots of neat textures in that painting, It was painted on a board that's like 3 feet by 1.5 feet.
last time i liked someone i wasted 2 and a half years ??? just to try to get him to say something to me :P
the hard thing about dating is that you have to be straightforward, but you have to pick the right time to do so
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 22, 2007, 01:18:17 PM
the hard thing about dating is that you have to be straightforward, but you have to pick the right time to do so
i tried to talk to him a number of times but it was like he didnt even hear me :-* maybe he didnt..? i do talk really quiet.. but still.. well anyways i dont care anymore.. its not like i'll ever see him again
So you're a bit like Vaati in a way, where you don't want to date, yeah? I don't know why, you're 18 after all. How did you try to get him to talk to you?
Gah my love life sucks.
I have one guy who everyone says is mad about me and all his friends keep asking if I'll go out with him, and he comes over and talks to me all the time, and I think he probably does like me. But I don't like him that way and I feel really mean because he is a great friend. The thing is I like one of his best friends, who I am pretty sure feels the same way about me as I do with this other guy. It really sucks.
So I cant be bothered any more. We switch forms next year anyway so I doubt I will be in their class.
Hopefully I'll find a nice French boy over Summer, that would be nice...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 22, 2007, 01:27:58 PM
So you're a bit like Vaati in a way, where you don't want to date, yeah? I don't know why, you're 18 after all. How did you try to get him to talk to you?
well i used to play yugioh TCG and i would just sit at the table that he was at.. waiting for the next round of the tournement, and say hi or something about cards.. i tryed to show him my cards once he put a wait finger up, said in a little bit and walked away and never came to see them.. but like i said ill never see him again so it doesnt matter ^_^
I see...well, there's plenty more fish in the sea, hopefully some that aren't uber obsessive over cards to the point where they ignore flirting girls :P
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 22, 2007, 01:37:00 PM
I see...well, there's plenty more fish in the sea, hopefully some that aren't uber obsessive over cards to the point where they ignore flirting girls :P
haha i guess so..
It appears JQ has an interest, so if online relationships are your thing..
I was only playing XD
Speaking of which, I meet several girls that are going to my college, but I don't feel anything much for any of them in terms of 'love'...
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on July 22, 2007, 02:19:32 PM
I was only playing XD
Speaking of which, I meet several girls that are going to my college, but I don't feel anything much for any of them in terms of 'love'...
haha thats probally what im like now :D
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on July 22, 2007, 01:31:29 PM
Gah my love life sucks.
I have one guy who everyone says is mad about me and all his friends keep asking if I'll go out with him, and he comes over and talks to me all the time, and I think he probably does like me. But I don't like him that way and I feel really mean because he is a great friend. The thing is I like one of his best friends, who I am pretty sure feels the same way about me as I do with this other guy. It really sucks.
So I cant be bothered any more. We switch forms next year anyway so I doubt I will be in their class.
Hopefully I'll find a nice French boy over Summer, that would be nice...
you know, i would love to be in that situation, except with girls liking me not guys
i'm lucky if i can even get one girl to like me
Oh, you soo dont wanna be in that situation. I may have worded it wrong, the first guy likes me, the second only likes me as a friend.
And I never wanted the first guy to like me, I think of him more as a brother than anything else.
But we found out our new form groups today, and I am not with either, which is good.
Which is kind of crazy really. If such a situation were to develop, then there would be no such thing as love in there.
Exactly!
That's what makes it annoying that he likes me.
And annoying that the other guy doesn't like me, it's like a love triangle! In a weird way.
god, I'm all caught up in this web of emotions... The same girl that said she hated me last time, apparently likes me again, and I don't want to trust her anymore. I still have strange feelings for her, but I really don't want to give her my heart again. :( I don't know what to do.
Kill all the humans, that always worked for me.
TZ, the least you could do is give your friend a chance, if a girl likes me and i don't like them, i give them a chance, everyone wins
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on July 23, 2007, 01:09:34 PM
god, I'm all caught up in this web of emotions... The same girl that said she hated me last time, apparently likes me again, and I don't want to trust her anymore. I still have strange feelings for her, but I really don't want to give her my heart again. :( I don't know what to do.
Do you really want to fall in love with such a flitty girl? I can't think of the actually word right now (capricious?) Well I mean flitty as in a butterfly going from one flower to the next and back again.
I don't have that sort of problem... eh, I guess I'm lucky, no one's interested in me. Well, I had a friend who asked me out, but I said not right now... we're still friends and everything, so it's okay.
Then again, I don't think anyone'd want me as a girlfriend; playing games and cosplaying more often than talking about my personal life and stuff. It's just that... well, no one cares about my life, so why talk about it? :D
I also tend to be over-obsessive about certain things; I can't stand uncleanliness, and they simply cannot abuse my DVDs/CDs/games/books. Once, I lent Gravitation to someone, and I saw it laying open, face down to mark their place. UGH. (I don't lend my manga out to people anymore...)
I wouldn't go for it if I were you, ZV. She had her chance, and she blew it by saying that to you. If she did that to you once, she'll probably do it again.
And if you guys are wondering why I'm posting in this topic again, then I'm just as confused as you are. :P
Quote from: Fisk on July 23, 2007, 04:16:58 PMOnce, I lent Gravitation to someone, and I saw it laying open, face down to mark their place. UGH. (I don't lend my manga out to people anymore...)
i would freak out if someone did that to my manga :)
Quote from: Fisk on July 23, 2007, 04:16:58 PMplaying games and cosplaying more often than talking about my personal life and stuff.
thats how i am too.. just like that
Oh yeah, I say no way to that, ZV. While you're supposed to give people second chances... no. That's all I can think of to say. Second chances don't work, by the way.
Cosplaying and video games > real life. Real life sucks.
Quote from: MagmarFire on July 23, 2007, 04:17:48 PM
And if you guys are wondering why I'm posting in this topic again, then I'm just as confused as you are. :P
Same here, except I'm not confused. :P
Anywho, on topic, and yet somehow off it as well, I find anthropomorphic girls sexy. Be it the fact that they have the tail and ears of a cat or the wings of a dragon. Complete sexiness right there. Too bad they don't exist in the real world. :'(
*sigh* life would be a lot more interesting if people like that existed....
I wish Vaati or Endrance were real... :'D (though Endrance is very flamingly gay, so...)
Oh yeah, I like animals, so if they don't like animals, we're going to have a problem...well, not so long as they aren't allergic or won't let me have them. I love my cats, chicken, and dog... if they made me get rid of them, I'd have to dump them.
-big cat/reptile person- And I wouldn't enjoy it if they had a parrot/other large tropical bird. Not that I don't like them, I mean, yes, they're noisy, mean, loud, and messy... but it's more that I was attacked by one. D: and I'd rather not go through that again.
something I and another guy posted on a friend's Facebook wall... it sums my relationship with her...
(http://s3.amazonaws.com/graffiti/290d7dc11ecf46ccc760e74bf03a0a0b_315x147.png)
This is what it's pointing at...
(http://s3.amazonaws.com/graffiti/b1c4483589ad8035a4c87e3d58bccb34_315x147.png)
This is what she responded with on my wall...
(http://photos-a.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sctm/genericv2/1076/72/01AwcAXxHuazQAAAADAAAAAAAAAAA:.png)
To sum it up: I'm a guy of humor that will poke fun if others make, well... something that's overly sappy.
Meh, I told Jo that if I heard one pet name I was getting the heck outta there. ;)
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 23, 2007, 01:38:07 PM
TZ, the least you could do is give your friend a chance, if a girl likes me and i don't like them, i give them a chance, everyone wins
It's not that easy, and I dont think anybody "wins"
I wouldn't want to go out with someone if I knew that I wasnt the one they liked and I dont think my friend would either. And I dont want to go out with someone if I like someone else more. It would be living a lie, a facsmile of a sham!
*sigh* your impossible.. why dont you.. you know wait until your a little older to date then?
QuoteAnywho, on topic, and yet somehow off it as well, I find anthropomorphic girls sexy. Be it the fact that they have the tail and ears of a cat or the wings of a dragon.
That's interesting. But I can't say I don't see where you're coming from.
I can't stand idiot girls. I just can't. I know one... >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
I don't really like fat girls, or when they're overly greedy. I hate that. One, she just stopped talking to me for no reason, and then a month later, she asked me for a dollar so she could buy a soda.
I don't like it when they have a new boyfriend every 3 days(I actually know someone like this, I think she just had a kid, and she's 14!)
I like animals, and if they don't much, but I can have a couple dogs, I'm good.
I want them to be nice. Some hate me for no reason, and when I asked her she said that if I didn't know, then she wasn't going to tell me. >:( She's not the only one that hates me. One I think is because I'm friends with her little sister in karate class.
I think the one is light blue like me.
http://s194.photobucket.com/albums/z2/Azure_Kite01/?action=view¤t=BESTDAYEVER.jpg (http://s194.photobucket.com/albums/z2/Azure_Kite01/?action=view¤t=BESTDAYEVER.jpg)
QuoteOne, she just stopped talking to me for no reason, and then a month later, she asked me for a dollar so she could buy a soda.
I can't see how you got mad at this, she was simply thirsty.
Also, there is alot of anger in that post. It's okay to express yourself, but try not to be so harsh cause it might fofend others here. 'Kay?
QuoteI don't like it when they have a new boyfriend every 3 days(I actually know someone like this, I think she just had a kid, and she's 14!)
Well that will be confusing... every three days? :-[ The world may never know.
QuoteSome hate me for no reason, and when I asked her she said that if I didn't know, then she wasn't going to tell me.
Get used to it, sometimes girls think something is really obvious, but because we think differently, its not. Seriously, girls and women will never cease to confuse you, at the very least somewhat, no matter how old and wise you get. No offense to any girls here.
I've gone into deep understanding of the female mind, so much so, that I was told by a girl that I knew more about her than she did herself :P
But alas, there are MANY different personalities, and I've only experienced with a few personally.
Quote from: ~Sess~ on July 24, 2007, 07:48:19 AM
*sigh* your impossible.. why dont you.. you know wait until your a little older to date then?
I'm impossible beacause I dont want to lead someone on?
Just because I'm not going to go out with someone I dont like because
they like me?
Anyway, telling myself "I can only date when I'm older" would be silly. Firstly since I've already started dating and secondly because you can't choose when you like someone, you might miss a thousand chances with great people if you restrict yourself like that.
And I wish the guys I knew personally were more like you ZV, the guys I know are so dense when it comes to girls.
I get that from a lot of people, and yet, I NOBODY who likes me for who I am lives by me. :P
Just murphey's I guess. Anyways, I remember I was with my friend and his girlfriend once, and the ONLY reason a girl will tell you she's ugly, is so that you'll disagree and tell her how beautiful she really is. My friend's gf said "I'm uglyyy.." And my friend said, "Yeah, but I still love ya" :P :P
He got dumped pretty hard :P
QuoteMy friend's gf said "I'm uglyyy.." And my friend said, "Yeah, but I still love ya"
He got dumped pretty hard
EPIC FAIL!
I'm just not into dating right now. I just feel that there's more important things for me right now.
im just saying.. put yourself in the guy who likes you possision.. surely you would like..one chance if you really liked someone
The one that asked for a dollar asks me every moring for a cookie, when she already had breakfast. If she was thirsty, then she could go inside to a water fountain.
I think I did something really stupid. I asked a girl out, and sh e talkied to her friends, and one said she'd said yes, but I didn't believe, and didn't talk to her to find out. :( (Invites 4 slaps from varing people)
Quote from: ~Sess~ on July 25, 2007, 12:54:17 PM
im just saying.. put yourself in the guy who likes you possision.. surely you would like..one chance if you really liked someone
To be honest, no.
It would crush me if I found out the person I was going out with was lusting after someone else.
But I do see your point, I just can't lie to this guy, he's one of my best friends.
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on July 25, 2007, 11:46:38 AM
I get that from a lot of people, and yet, I NOBODY who likes me for who I am lives by me. :P
Just murphey's I guess. Anyways, I remember I was with my friend and his girlfriend once, and the ONLY reason a girl will tell you she's ugly, is so that you'll disagree and tell her how beautiful she really is. My friend's gf said "I'm uglyyy.." And my friend said, "Yeah, but I still love ya" :P :P
He got dumped pretty hard :P
Well, I don't say it so I get that. I. AM. UGLY. PERIOD!! I don't say it so I'll get what I want. That's all. I only like one picture of me and that was taken like, last year I think... I'm done. XDD I just wanted to tell people the truth that they're afraid to say that I really am ugleh. (Did that even make any sence?)
Why must everyone be so self conscious about their appearance (Especially girls)?
Bah, no one is EVER ugly, it's all on aesthetic level that goes by other's opinions in relation to beauty.
In other words, Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
yeah.. i was just thinking noone is ugly
I'm teh ugliest poison on here!! (Poison... lol)
All teh rest of you are pretty and good looking. :)
Sorry, no. I would be handsome, but apparently I'm not.
I'm sure there are uglier people here. BLANK!! >:(
Nah, I'm only joshin him. He said he'll never post a picture, and I just HAVE to imagine why... (http://www.ambrosiasw.com/~andrew/funny/noob.jpg)
In my opinion, ugly people are the nicest people ever. For some reason, its been to my experience that fat people and ugly people are the nicest people I ever met. Except for this one chick in my World Geography class, she's as ugly as sin, and its as if she's on a 24 hour period. 8)
Lol. XDD
You're funny. :D
Yeah. The movie Hairspray tells you that fats and blacks should be treated like white and skinny people. It doesn't say anything about ugly though...
Just because a girl's on her period doesn't make her mean... just speaking from experience, I get more depressed than angry. ^^;
Anyways, I agree; ugly/fat people are nice. Though they're only ugly by society's standards, I think some of the "ugliest" ones are the glammed up drama queens of Hollywood. u_u
I think the prettiest girl I've seen is Emma Watson. :D
yes, normal people are much better looking then celeberties. celeberties are...gross :-*
Some celebrtities look OK, while others don't. Like that fat guy from Tommy Boy, he don't look good, but he's a good actor. Emma Watson looks pretty good, though.
Quoteyes, normal people are much better looking then celeberties. celeberties are...gross
Just because someone is famous doesn't mean they're not normal.
And few celebrities are gross, just look at Ando Masanobu (Kariyama Kazuo in Battle Royale) he's far from gross.
in my opinion.. all celeberties are gross :-*
Doesn't that mean you don't like Kuramas and Tiduses voice actors?
what about poor Vincents voice actor ;P
i was talking about celeberties that you can see and since i dont know what they look like.. i cant say anything about that. i dont want to see them either :)
i had a conversation like this once, celeberties vs voice actors. you dont hear/see tons of stuff everywere about voice actors..
i perfer normal looking real people.. in a past Survivor season.. there was a cute guy named Ian in it..
From what I've heard from the conflicting worlds of AS and NT societies, I've come across a big, disturbing possibility: socializing, be it hanging out or dating, is perceived as many as a GAME--a game where it's "survival of the fittest." This leads to another disturbing possibility: it does not matter how attractive you are. You could be one of the prettiest or most handsome people in your grade level. But all of that matters not, for it's all how you socialize. If you're a social butterfly, you're much more likely to go out with someone. (This could be a reason why "ugly," social people get dates, while highly-attractive, antisocial people do not.)
This is mostly from observation (not by me, by any means!), but it all seems to fit. If it's all true, however, then BOY, am I in trouble! :-*
Where, exactly, did you get that, Maggy? It seems to be quite on target... this makes me reconsider.... :P
bah, those kinda things are a bunch of garbage so dont worry about it :D
when the right person comes.. they come.. simple as that.
I ask the desert: is it possible to find the right person, the perfect match, when you're only 15, like me?
I think it's perfectly possible.
But then again you have your whole life ahead of you, and thousands of people to meet...
I wouldn't know myself, I've certainly never felt that strongly for anyone, but I believe or at least hope, that when you meet the right person you know it.
I've never really felt love; I don't want my teenage horomones to tell me it's love, either. I want to know for myself.
Well, anti-social people probably get hit on a lot, too, being mysterious and whatnot.
Yeah, goth and emo is considered hot apparently. It bugs the heck out of me, I don't want a girlfriend who's going to do nothing but talk about how crappy everything is all the time 8)
Sadly, I can confirm that it is considered a game, my ex girlfriend is evidence of that, as well as a lot of other examples. For example, how many people have you known to go out with somebody for a while, and go all the way, but then have no problem dumping them and forgetting they were ever there? It's all about status and coming out on top.
I don't mind the emo style, in fact, I love it, and though I might get fed up with the complaining every once in a while... I've got not room to talk on that manner.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 26, 2007, 11:27:08 AM
Yeah, goth and emo is considered hot apparently. It bugs the heck out of me, I don't want a girlfriend who's going to do nothing but talk about how crappy everything is all the time 8)
Eh, I may dress up gothy, but at least I don't talk about how everything is crappy.
i am attracted to girls that dress "emo" or "goth", i dont know why
Lol. XDD
I'm attracted to boys who dress all cool, like ummm... somewhat like this:
(http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b109/outused/Hot%20People/Band%20People/ba6ef910.jpg)
I... like long hair in a guy. I mean, not necessarily Vaati length, but long enough to... uh, I don't know... put in a ponytail? XD
I'm also apparently attracted to the colour purple. >w> Eh, yeah.
"I want a guy who's not afraid to say, hey, I like Kissy Kissy Goo Goo and Skull Squisher!"
Honestly, I do like a guy who's not afraid to get in touch with his feminine side.
My friends think I'm weird because I think guys look good in eyeliner. I like shaggy hair, but not long.
The indie look is nice.
Like this?
(http://i195.photobucket.com/albums/z284/_the-cookie_monster-/Gerard%20Way/gway2.jpg) (Yes, I still like him.)
I agree with you, though.
i like simple looking guys who dont do anything special to change how they look and are nice :)
I don't like guys... Sorry to be such a bummer.
As long as it isn't gross or creepy (like lots of piercings) I don't care at all how girls dress. Or beyond my male instincts, I don't care. ::)
What is it girls are attracted to? With us its painfully obvious.
It changes from person to person what girls like... I mean, I personally haven't seen girls flock over one part of the body. Several people like eyes/faces, some like collarbones, etc. I think I heard a study once that said women like the buttocks/back area the most... Me? I'm a collarbone person, I guess. ^^;
I don't mind guys with or without eyeliner; make-up is just clouding true beauty if you ask me... well, at least, when they throw on too much eyeliner (Gaara -shot-) or something. A guy with a touch of eyeliner isn't that bad to look at.
Quote from: PokéKey on July 26, 2007, 07:15:18 AM
Where, exactly, did you get that, Maggy?
Most likely WrongPlanet.net. There's an entire Love and Dating forum there.
Everyone is like, stealing my nickname for Maggy-kun. :P
I like the head area. XDD
Quote from: Fisk on July 26, 2007, 06:06:17 PM
It changes from person to person what girls like... I mean, I personally haven't seen girls flock over one part of the body. Several people like eyes/faces, some like collarbones, etc. I think I heard a study once that said women like the buttocks/back area the most... Me? I'm a collarbone person, I guess. ^^;
I don't mind guys with or without eyeliner; make-up is just clouding true beauty if you ask me... well, at least, when they throw on too much eyeliner (Gaara -shot-) or something. A guy with a touch of eyeliner isn't that bad to look at.
:o Collarbones? Good to know I guess.
Well, it's the first thing I could think of; faces aren't that great, I hate feet, and torsos/bums/crotches aren't exactly where I'd like to be staring at.
Besides, lots of people like collarbones... I think.
Goths scare me. I have an emo friend, who's in touch with his femine side much more than his masculine side.
I've seen a girl that wants to smell a black and white picture of a guy had a 6-pack. :o
...She was just messing around, right?
and yeah, I saw that over there too, Mags. (see, I don't use the nickname)
I like strong necks amd hands.
And eyes, but I find all eyes beautiful so that doesn't relly count.
And defined/high cheekbones. I like strong faces, the ones you really remember, with chiseled yet delicate features.
I mean thats an ideal guy but I can fall for anyone.
Quote"I want a guy who's not afraid to say, hey, I like Kissy Kissy Goo Goo and Skull Squisher!"
Honestly, I do like a guy who's not afraid to get in touch with his feminine side.
I do that all the time, sometimes I think way to well. ;)
Apparently it's a good thing, I guess... ;)
Anyway, I happen to find girls who wear preppy clothing unattracitve. It makes me feel like they arent special; like just another in the crowd.
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on July 27, 2007, 02:00:29 AM
I like strong necks amd hands.
And eyes, but I find all eyes beautiful so that doesn't relly count.
And defined/high cheekbones. I like strong faces, the ones you really remember, with chiseled yet delicate features.
I mean thats an ideal guy but I can fall for anyone.
that is all looks, what kind of personality traits do you like?
QuoteI like strong necks amd hands.
And eyes, but I find all eyes beautiful so that doesn't relly count.
And defined/high cheekbones. I like strong faces, the ones you really remember, with chiseled yet delicate features.
I mean thats an ideal guy but I can fall for anyone.
That narrows it down a bit.
Well I said that's only ideal!
A person could be the polar opposite and I could still like them.
Personalitywise. (In an ideal world)
I'd have to say: Smart, Confident but sometimes shy, adorably naive, strong willed, good fashion sense, optimistic and cheerful, thoughtful, gallant, good at cooking, witty, artistic, deep, a tiny bit overprotective and jealous, patient, warm, spontaneous. I could go on for a long time.
Of course a guy can only have a handful of these traits and I'll still like 'em.
That's just about what every girl says...the problem is, even when girls say they want all these things in a guy, they end up going for somebody without those, and things don't end well. See it all the time, then I have to comfort them for a while after it's over. They never learn though..maybe that's just in Washington though.
I would like a guy who is sort of up to anything and is up to different challenges like rock climbing and who is also adventures lol
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 27, 2007, 11:00:30 AM
That's just about what every girl says...the problem is, even when girls say they want all these things in a guy, they end up going for somebody without those, and things don't end well. See it all the time, then I have to comfort them for a while after it's over. They never learn though..maybe that's just in Washington though.
Nah it's like that everywhere.
There's no way I'm ever gonna find a guy with all that ( I can still hope though ^^). So I dont use it as a guideline for people. It would just be nice is all.
The perfect man is an impossible man, nonexistant and left solely to fantasy. I honestly don't think most girls will know what they want in a guy until a few years later... And I mean truly want...
Not until they make mistakes..
It's all very well talking about how clueless girls are when it comes to love.
Guys aren't much better.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 27, 2007, 11:00:30 AM
That's just about what every girl says...the problem is, even when girls say they want all these things in a guy, they end up going for somebody without those, and things don't end well. See it all the time, then I have to comfort them for a while after it's over. They never learn though..maybe that's just in Washington though.
that happens to me, girls i like always complain that they keep going for the bad guys and they hate it, it gets quite frustrating
Guys and girls can both be as clueless and as dedicated.
It's about the individual. ^^ I'm pretty paranoid so I'll make sure everything works out, but something bad will happen, I'm sure. After all, it always happens, right? bad things and good things happen to a couple; they just bring them closer.
I haven't technically been dating, but... well, I know what not to do. I do watch other people a lot... they seem to do things to piss the other off, but they either don't notice or don't care. If they don't care, then you should probably get away from them while you can.
I guess I'm sort of like that girl who says "you know what you did" when you piss me off. It's just that it's really blatantly obvious to us (not necessarily women; just that type of person) and we feel more insulted when you say you don't know what you did. I feel bad, though, because... argh, I'm not supposed to be like that. it's just that I tell them what's irritating me, and then they do it anyways... just to piss me off... that's their goal... ugh...
SO. in short: If your girlfriend/boyfriend tells you "don't do that, it bothers me," don't do it anymore. Then again, if it's something that involves a lifestyle change, like "don't say the word 'cat' anymore, it bothers me" ... well, you can see how that would work out. ^^;
my last girlfriend told me not to touch her feet, and i was joking around saying i was going to, but i said it in a playful manner, and she got all mad at me...
maybe her feet have a horrible secret :-X
I've learned that most girls have ticklish feet, I use that to my advantage when I can... ::)
Anyways, the guys usually DO know what they want. Unfortunately, it's usually to go all the way and then go after somebody else once that girl is boring to them. It's not that they don't know what they want, it's that they only want that until a certain point in their lives--although some never change.
Quote from: ~Sess~ on July 27, 2007, 01:14:38 PM
maybe her feet have a horrible secret :-X
Lmao!
QuoteI've learned that most girls have ticklish feet, I use that to my advantage when I can... ::)
I don't. Usually when someone tickles my feet I don't really flinch. Well, I guess I KINDA do... But, I dunno. My feet haven't been tickled in a long time.
I don't like being touched. I'm not ticklish, either. I guess I could be, but... eh. People make it a habit to poke my ribs because... it amuses them. :(
It's kind of a generalization to say all guys know what they want and that all girls don't...
I mean mostly along the lines of the guys that the girls like at our ages, because they just want the 'hot' guys and the jocks and such. It's all about status..
I hate jocks...
I want someone who doesn't always call me "babe". That-that-that-that-that's just annoying.
Thats weird because most of the beautiful girls at my school prefer a muscular jock who will treat them like crap, instead of an average everyday guy like me who will love them with all their heart. Its so strange...
Besides, I hate football and stuff like that. xDD That's what jocks are, right? :P
i dont like jock either :-* there kinda annoying
Yeah. I just wanna slap 'em. :P
Quote from: Sasori no Aka-suna on July 27, 2007, 01:52:12 PM
Thats weird because most of the beautiful girls at my school prefer a muscular jock who will treat them like crap, instead of an average everyday guy like me who will love them with all their heart. Its so strange...
From what I've heard, that could because said girls will try to change said jock into NOT treating them like crap, but...well, I don't need to tell you how it usually ends up. :-*
Again, that's just what I heard, so I don't know if it's feasible.
We dont have jocks at my school, I mean we have the guys that play sport, but the word jock is too american.
You've just got the rugby players, cricket players and footballers (soccer). We have basketball at our school but all the tournaments are for those three.
Most of them are perfectly nice, if sometimes slightly big headed.
And on the ticklish thing.
I'm ultra ticklish, you just have to touch my sides and I squirm. I also have a very sensitive neck.
i like people who like animals, like dolphins :D
Ian from survivor was a dolphin trainer :)
Wow. I actually know Ian. I watched the finale at his house while he was... you know... at the finale.
It was rather surreal, even though I knew him indirectly.
EDIT: Oh, and just so this isn't spam, I look for desire in a person. Not only sexual desire, but just the want to succeed in something is enough.
It's a rather bad stereotype to judge all jocks to dumb, abusive morons. There's a couple jocks at my school that I talk to at school, and they're not bad people...that I know of.
Most jocks are thatg way, however. Sad but true. However, there are a few exceptions to the rule, as with anything else.
Just keep in mind that if a girl is dating a jerk, usually they'll come to a sensitive guy for support/advice.
Why is it that when girls are mean and snoby, and all that other stuff to you, you can't do the same thing without everyone hating you? :o
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on July 27, 2007, 01:52:12 PM
Thats weird because most of the beautiful girls at my school prefer a muscular jock who will treat them like crap, instead of an average everyday guy like me who will love them with all their heart. Its so strange...
lol Have you watched Naruto Abridged yet? In one of the episodes, Naruto's like, "Hey, Sakura! Will you go out with me? I love you and take care of you and treat you like a real person!"
And then Sakura's like, "No way, Naruto! Affection is sooo last year. Everyone likes the emo kids who treat them like dirt nowadays." (Or something to that extent)
I don't like the whole muscly thing on guys- Just a little is fine, but if they look like a body builder I find it creepy :-X
ANy gender that's too muscular looks really really creepy to me. It looks almost unnatural and inhumane. I don't want to date somebody who is an absolute beast. Believe it or not there are some girls who are very very muscular, and i find it gross.
And guess what? 9 out of 10 times the sensitive guy gets blown off.
Yeah, it's been repeated, but it's a good thing to keep aware of and a look out for.
And I'm one of those 9 out of 10 people. ;)
This is true. But auch is the life of a guy who isnt a muscle-head. Not like it matters. You'll get your chances, soon.
all the girls i like come to me with relationship advice... it's hard not to sabotage
I know. It's not fair, how the sensitive guys get ignored for the jerks, then once the big problem happens and they come to us for advice, they forget all about us again and go after another jerk.
Thats exactly what just happened to me. And you know what I'm gonna say to her?
"I'm sorry. but you're dating. You had your chance with me, it didn't work out like we wanted. We're just friends now, and thats all we'll ever be."
I don't want to be mean to her, but its the truth. She has a boyfriend, but she's kind of sick of him. So she asked me to come over and show her a good time. We're friends again, but I don't think I'm gonna just bend to her will. Any advise on this? I could just hit and run :P :P :P :P :P
(don't repeat that young-ins)
QuoteAnyways, the guys usually DO know what they want. Unfortunately, it's usually to go all the way and then go after somebody else once that girl is boring to them. It's not that they don't know what they want, it's that they only want that until a certain point in their lives--although some never change.
>w> <w< Shika, you do realize we are all nerds here?
I don't have any friends who are girls... T_T
I have no hopes.
I'm sure that you can find some, you just have to look, man.
ZV, is this the same girl from before? You know what I'm talking about.
why don't i get filled in on these things...
im hanging out with a girl wednsday, we've been somewhat flirting on myspace, maybe ill ask her out, i dunno
Well, how well do you know her?
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on July 29, 2007, 09:47:24 PM
I'm sure that you can find some, you just have to look, man.
ZV, is this the same girl from before? You know what I'm talking about.
The very one mon :P
And yeah, I know she wants me right now, but... I think I'll live up to what she used to call me, "a tease". lol! I'll tease her with all this until it finally starts to hurt her.. then maybe I'll give her what she wants. Sure, she might never speak to me again, seeing as how she's getting what she's wanted from the beginning, but I'm okay with that. She'll finally leave me alone, you know? :P :P
not all to well, i'll probably wait, problem is though, she is 15 and i'm almost 18
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 30, 2007, 08:28:00 AM
not all to well, i'll probably wait, problem is though, she is 15 and i'm almost 18
1. If you've never met her before, I wouldn't suggest meeting that person somewhere....
2. Thats quite an age difference. ???
Doesn't mean it won't work. I have a friend in my grade who's going out with a senior friend of mine, it works out well.
Wow, ZV...So, has she changed any though?
well, ZV, she lives failry close to me, im not worried about hanging out with her
and the age difference really isn't a problem for me, just some of my friends would be dissapointed in me
I'm afraid thats what I'm going to find out. She claims that commitment has made her "itchy", and she just needs another guy right now. I'm beginning to wonder if thats what happened to me.. she was sick of being committed, and she's dating a total jock strap right now. It kind of pisses me off, but go figure, she's sick of him, comes back to the "sensitive" guy" for REAL love and affection, and she'll blow me off for another guy. But hey, if I make a good enough impression: maybe she'll see what she's been missing.
Quote from: Miles Edgeworth on July 29, 2007, 06:58:01 PM
QuoteAnyways, the guys usually DO know what they want. Unfortunately, it's usually to go all the way and then go after somebody else once that girl is boring to them. It's not that they don't know what they want, it's that they only want that until a certain point in their lives--although some never change.
>w> <w< Shika, you do realize we are all nerds here?
I don't have any friends who are girls... T_T
I have no hopes.
And I'm not a nerd. nothing wrong with it, I've just never been considered a nerd.
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 30, 2007, 08:32:35 AM
well, ZV, she lives failry close to me, im not worried about hanging out with her
And just making sure. You getting raped by a 50 year old dude is JUST what my mom needs to see on the news. Then she would pretty much tie me to my bed, and slide my meals under my door :P
no offense to the girls on this forum, but most girls nowadays are fickle, they say they want a long loving relationship then go for the guys that just want physical love, and they always complain to us sensitive guys how they just want someone to love them and care for them but they can't see that that is all we want to do for them
True, very true. This girl... when we were dating. I loved her so much... I would have died for her a thousand times over again. I didn't know she'd be the one to kill me...
You met her on myspace?! I ought to slap you next time I come over.
she's a friend of rachels GF, chill out
an i know what ya mean ZV, the last girl i dated i leaped through hop after hoop just to make sure she had a spectacular first date then she dumps me a week after
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on July 30, 2007, 08:38:14 AM
no offense to the girls on this forum, but most girls nowadays are fickle
JQs going to really give it to me when he gets back ??? but ive liked Kurama for 3 and a half years so far :)
We mean real life Sess. ::)
i know that ??? thats why i said "JQs going to really give it to me when he gets back"
I'd like to think I'm not fickle.
Though I did say I didn't want to date someone who really does care for me. ;_; I feel bad about it, but we're still friends.
Then again, I'm not quite sure if even should date at all. o_o
everyone should date! if you don't date you wont find that special someone!!!
Quote from: Dr. Shigekuni Yamamoto-Genryusai on July 30, 2007, 11:13:18 AM
everyone should date! if you don't date you wont find that special someone!!!
For someone like me, it's kind of hard TO date if I can't even approach the girl without being afraid of her getting suspicious of my intentions. 8)
slap yourself and the fear leaves, trust me
QuoteTrue, very true. This girl... when we were dating. I loved her so much... I would have died for her a thousand times over again. I didn't know she'd be the one to kill me...
Awww. :'(
QuoteYou met her on myspace?! I ought to slap you next time I come over.
ROFLCOPTER!! *Ahem*
I have decided I'm not talking about any relation-ship kind of thing on this here thread.
Its not really a matter of fear. Also it make come off as wierd if I'm constantly slapping myself.
i go to that girl's house today, i found out she likes another guy -_-
Maybe is you lose the 'stache... XDDDD
Quote from: Pein no Akatsuki on August 01, 2007, 12:23:44 PM
Maybe is you lose the 'stache... XDDDD
sadly, I must agree :P
Awesome. XDDD Umm...
One word post...
Anyways, what about staches? Do girls like them or not?
I think it's already been established that many don't. ;)
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 01, 2007, 03:31:26 PM
I think it's already been established that many don't. ;)
Emphasis on "many".....
A lot of girls actually DO want a Sensitive realtionship. And it's not because they're fickle that they go out with the jocks. Sometimes a guy seems sensitive at first but after a couple dates they realise (sp?) that he's purely physical and it's hard to get out of said realtionship.
Does that make any sense?
Then the girl can tell them theey don't want to be with them. Unless they're scared, in which case they should bring several friends to do it for them.
well, I hate it when a dude is let down real easy, and he acts like it was a freaking slaughter, and then they try to act emo. Its almost funny :P
I know. XDD Funneh.
something ahppened and i wasnt allowed over -_-
and yea shika, most girls dont like moustaches untill around their 30's at least thats what ive ben told by some of my teachers
depends what kind it is i guess... if its like marios then maybe not :)
Quote from: ~Sess~ on August 02, 2007, 10:35:37 AM
depends what kind it is i guess... if its like marios then maybe not :)
rofl :P
If it were like Wario's, then I would be worrying ;D
Quote from: Baka Nezumi on August 01, 2007, 08:44:59 PM
A lot of girls actually DO want a Sensitive realtionship. And it's not because they're fickle that they go out with the jocks. Sometimes a guy seems sensitive at first but after a couple dates they realise (sp?) that he's purely physical and it's hard to get out of said realtionship.
Does that make any sense?
So...does that mean that some to many girls will consider sensitive-looking jocks as more-qualified dates more than they consider "regulars" who ARE genuinely sensitive? :-\
idk, I play three sports, so we know that isn't true.
Not every person that plays sports is a jock.
Isn't that pretty much what a jock is though?
Nope. An athlete is someone who plays sports. A jock is somebody who plays sports and gets all bigheaded about it, pumping iron nonstop and thinking he's all that becuase he's a sports star.
Yeah, but usually girls like all the sports players, and I play three of them and I still get rejected.
Then what you need to do is get some huge guns, wear muscle shirts and walk around like you're the best thing since sliced bread. Although I think peanut butter already holds that spot. So the best thing since peanut butter.
haha, yeah, I doubt that will work out the way I want it too, but still.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 03, 2007, 05:24:18 PM
Then what you need to do is get some huge guns, wear muscle shirts and walk around like you're the best thing since sliced bread. Although I think peanut butter already holds that spot. So the best thing since peanut butter.
Dude, thats the last thing you want to do. I know this sounds like real cruddy advice, but the best thing to do is to be yourself. I find that actually falling in love with a girl after spending time with her is much better than love at first site. You see, my girlfriend... I don't know, people told me she was ugly, and that I could do better. But you know what? I loved her on the inside, and soon, it became a reality.
She was the most beautiful girl in all the world while were dating. And you know what else? I didn't have to put up an act for her because she loved me just the way I was. That was awesome! Having to put up a front is bad news dude, just be who you always are, and you'll find yourself a much happier person. :) or you could follow my new motto: Being free is not being tied to someone, test many, and leave.
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on August 04, 2007, 01:19:07 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 03, 2007, 05:24:18 PM
Then what you need to do is get some huge guns, wear muscle shirts and walk around like you're the best thing since sliced bread. Although I think peanut butter already holds that spot. So the best thing since peanut butter.
Dude, thats the last thing you want to do. I know this sounds like real cruddy advice, but the best thing to do is to be yourself. I find that actually falling in love with a girl after spending time with her is much better than love at first site. You see, my girlfriend... I don't know, people told me she was ugly, and that I could do better. But you know what? I loved her on the inside, and soon, it became a reality.
She was the most beautiful girl in all the world while were dating. And you know what else? I didn't have to put up an act for her because she loved me just the way I was. That was awesome! Having to put up a front is bad news dude, just be who you always are, and you'll find yourself a much happier person. :) or you could follow my new motto: Being free is not being tied to someone, test many, and leave.
Wow... I've never met a guy with such words of wisdom. :)
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on August 02, 2007, 10:40:07 AM
Quote from: ~Sess~ on August 02, 2007, 10:35:37 AM
depends what kind it is i guess... if its like marios then maybe not :)
rofl :P
If it were like Wario's, then I would be worrying ;D
(http://i198.photobucket.com/albums/aa48/S_n_G/roflcopter.gif)
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on August 04, 2007, 01:19:07 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 03, 2007, 05:24:18 PM
Then what you need to do is get some huge guns, wear muscle shirts and walk around like you're the best thing since sliced bread. Although I think peanut butter already holds that spot. So the best thing since peanut butter.
Dude, thats the last thing you want to do. I know this sounds like real cruddy advice, but the best thing to do is to be yourself. I find that actually falling in love with a girl after spending time with her is much better than love at first site. You see, my girlfriend... I don't know, people told me she was ugly, and that I could do better. But you know what? I loved her on the inside, and soon, it became a reality.
She was the most beautiful girl in all the world while were dating. And you know what else? I didn't have to put up an act for her because she loved me just the way I was. That was awesome! Having to put up a front is bad news dude, just be who you always are, and you'll find yourself a much happier person. :) or you could follow my new motto: Being free is not being tied to someone, test many, and leave.
Dude, I didn't actually believe that, I was just saying that's the case with jocks, that's what they do and it works for them. Although their relationships are a lot more meaningless...
*Sigh* Some people will beleive/not beleive anything...
I'm starting to like this one girl that goes to my school, but I think she likes someone else right now, so I'm gonna wait awhile before I actually tell her to see if she likes anyone else at the time.
Then if she starts going out with that guy, you've lost the chance. Let her know that you like her, and be really nice to her; Who knows, maybe she'll start liking you instead. You have to give them a sign.
I'm not looking for a boyfriend... I think I'll be waiting for one. I mean, I'm not looking at just anyone and saying "LOL I LOVE YOU -^_________^-"
In my opinion, the words "I love you" are said far too much and meant far too little...
in a relationship, I want someone who won't use me. getting used sucks.
Yes, I know...that phrase has no meaning anymore the way people use it.
I hate to say this, but probably nobody's going to show an interest in you unless you make it known that you're interested in them...
I know no one would show an interest in me until I show an interest in them, but... well, honestly, I don't care. My experience with people is very... bad, so I'd really more likely screw it up than get a date.
But... I don't mind. When I find the person I think is right, then I'll show an interest. Right now, my first priority is to be able to stand people for longer than a few minutes.
I'm pretty sure that you'd more than be able to stand someone like me.
:D
indeed it does
i went to a girls house yesterday, i was bending down to plug a cable and she grabbed my behind, we have one of those friendships where we just do stuff like that even though there is nothing between us
even though i like her -_-
I've seen a lot of those...I have seen more butt slaps when we were making Anne Frank than I cared to see.
Anyways, Vaati, wouldn't it help to at least try so you have some experience, and don't mess it up when the perfect person comes?
When you get as old as me, you start to lose interest in all girls of sexual persuasions. By that point in time, you've met so many girls that there's simply no point in having interest in a single one of them.
PS: I have NOT been Neutered.
...I'm Fisk, not Vaati. ^^;
Anyways, yeah, but I'm just really uncomfortable in your average situation... ugh, people scare me, to be honest. I can't stand touching, speaking, anything, really. Skin is filthy...
Hmmm....really....? Dislike of social interaction...that's actually a sign of autism. I dunno, anyways, are you really afraid of their skin?
I'm socially maflormed too... Quite antisocial. Not always a clear sign of autism, but also general Anxiety disorder among other things...
*coughs*
*Has Anxiety Disorder*
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 05, 2007, 10:12:32 AM
Yes, I know...that phrase has no meaning anymore the way people use it.
I hate to say this, but probably nobody's going to show an interest in you unless you make it known that you're interested in them...
that isnt entirely true shika, all the girls i have expressed my interest for shot me down
I'm not afraid of the skin; it's the motive behind the movement.
I'm just... really afraid of physical abuse, and... well, my relationships with people haven't been the greatest. /: I flinch at everything anyways.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I get a bad vibe from people. I'm really uncomfortable with people...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 05, 2007, 10:29:50 AM
Hmmm....really....? Dislike of social interaction...that's actually a sign of autism. I dunno, anyways, are you really afraid of their skin?
That doesn't nessisarily mean that they're autistic. Some people just aren't social. I know I wasn't with my sisters when I was little, except I talked to everyone when I went to the park.
I have a crush on this one boy at school (No, it's not Vaati :P ) but he's kind of like me where he's not really into dating, just a good friendship. He smiled at me at my sister's graduation...
Well, if you two like each other, maybe you can break down that wall.
and Fisk, there are ways to tell if a guy's going to be like that. Unfortunately, most girls don't know those ways. However, one of the best tools you have is the past. Talk to the guys past girlfriends and stuff and see what they did.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 05, 2007, 10:46:51 AM
Well, if you two like each other, maybe you can break down that wall.
I was thinking about that. Thanks. :)
I know how to tell if someone's going to be a good person or a bad person. Believe it or not, I'm not that naive when it comes to dating.
Honestly, though, I'd rather get to know the person before I date them. I don't want to walk up to some stranger I barely know and say "hey, wanna go on a date?" lots of problems could arise from that...
Though, what is a boyfriend, really? Someone to hang around with? It's like a friend you can kiss...
Yeah, my friend would hook people she knew up with blind dates. I told her to never do that with me.
Blind dates never work. I mean, if you think about it, you basically go on a date with someone you have never met before and... well, you'd really have nothing to talk about because it would be kinda awkward. You're better off going out with someone you know. Or at least know well.
Quote from: Fisk on August 05, 2007, 10:27:21 AM
Anyways, yeah, but I'm just really uncomfortable in your average situation... ugh, people scare me, to be honest. I can't stand touching, speaking, anything, really. Skin is filthy...
SOMEONE WHO
UNDERSTANDS!!!!!! :D
I think much of that is a big reason why I'm not much into flirting, really...
Quote from: PokéKey on August 05, 2007, 12:43:43 PM
Blind dates never work. I mean, if you think about it, you basically go on a date with someone you have never met before and... well, you'd really have nothing to talk about because it would be kinda awkward. You're better off going out with someone you know. Or at least know well.
They could work. You may be set up with the perfect person. Blind dates can be fun if you have nothing to do, but I wouldn't rely on them for long term relationships unless you really hit it off.
I don't need blind dates. I find the perfect girl for me my own way. Of course, when I get too lonely, all I have to do is walk into the mall, and drop a bunch of stuff. A bunch of girls rush over to help, kill eachother over me, and the last one standing earns dinner :P :P :P
J/K DON'T EVER TRY THAT :P
lol wait you're only joking? So am I the only one who can make any woman faint at the sight of me? Wow, I feel sorry for you guys now..
Nope, women just run from me. ;D
I think I'm rather invisible to women, actually... Maybe my feelings conflict to the point where there's a "feedback loop" that makes it stay that way? It's not like I can just WALK UP to a girl I like without fearing that she'll identify my feelings. :-X
Why is it so bad if they know you like them though?
I guess it's because I don't like the thought of rejection. Plus, if they do know, then I'm afraid that their personal views about me will change, and not in a positive way!
Besides, I don't really know how to come across to them about my feelings. Do I say it directly or indirectly? And I dislike both to an extent, but one of them is required. But that's when I get to the problem of the fear of rejection.
i agree with you there magmar, i have been told by guy and girl alike to be subtle about telling them, my direct policy doesnt work well
i too fear rejection, but the more you get rejected, the less it hurts, trust me
Why would they get a negative opinion of you if they figure out you like them? They'll probably think it's sweet.
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 05, 2007, 10:39:26 PM
I guess it's because I don't like the thought of rejection. Plus, if they do know, then I'm afraid that their personal views about me will change, and not in a positive way!
Besides, I don't really know how to come across to them about my feelings. Do I say it directly or indirectly? And I dislike both to an extent, but one of them is required. But that's when I get to the problem of the fear of rejection.
Don't worry mags, I've been rejected like 5 times this month, its not so bad, but its still not fun. expecially when its a girl you really really like.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 06, 2007, 11:07:03 AM
Why would they get a negative opinion of you if they figure out you like them? They'll probably think it's sweet.
Usually, it makes their opinion of you more positive. Who
doesn't like to know that someone thinks they're special?
And, yes. Shika, you were absolutely right. At least for me and 99% of all the girls I know.
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 06, 2007, 11:07:03 AM
Why would they get a negative opinion of you if they figure out you like them? They'll probably think it's sweet.
some girls at our school just aren't very nice, I can name a few of them too, but the ones I do talk too, are pretty cool.
Gah, you guys don't really understand, do you? You can't really, really like a girl unless you actually know her quite well. All other things known as love give proof to a famous quote
"Men say love is blind, but men love solely with their eyes."
That's not the exact quote, but it's close enough.
And again, that goes back to my fear of having my intentions being read like a book, JQ, getting to know them... But regarding to that quote, isn't a part of love getting to know someone well instead of just looking at them all googly-eyed? ;)
And yes, I do fear that a girl's opinion about me will change negatively if she knows I like her, and possibly for a very good reason! The first girl I had a crush on pretty much said she hated me when I revealed to her that I liked her.
In other words, I've had bad experience. :-*
'I hate you' usually means "I may not like you now, but I may be interested" the first time a girl says it to you... But if she keeps saying it and for the sixth or seventh time she says it, you know wby that point that her dislike for you is geniune. But the first time, not so much...
The point with my quote was that men often think they love a girl when she's very pretty, but they really have no other interest in mind besides procreation.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on August 06, 2007, 05:14:33 PM
'I hate you' usually means "I may not like you now, but I may be interested" the first time a girl says it to you... But if she keeps saying it and for the sixth or seventh time she says it, you know wby that point that her dislike for you is geniune. But the first time, not so much...
I'm one of those guys to take a statement like that to face value. Besides, I was younger back then, so if there were nonverbal cues that she was giving off that match your description of the phrase, "I hate you," I wouldn't be able to read them very well anyway.
Keep tryin' dude, you'll eventually find a girl. XPPP Unlike me with boyz. XPPP Hehe.
Pein, you're how old again? 8)Dating's not gonna happen for another few years...
Mags, trust me, you deserve to be a lot more confident than you are.
I know. XPPP I'm just bein' random and hyper here. XPPP
But I agree with Shika. XPP
*sighs*
Maggy, the nonverbal cues (or lack thereof) are important, but you are putting WAY too much importance on them. If a girl is really interested, it should be obvious, even to you.
Unless you like shy/quiet/antisocial girls. Then you have a problem.
Plus, you are way too sweet and kind for a girl to hate you. Have some confidence, man.
Shyness generally kills confidence.
Just learn to numb yourself the first time and you'll be able to take it easy from that point on.
Quote from: Baka Nezumi on August 06, 2007, 10:31:41 PM
Plus, you are way too sweet and kind for a girl to hate you. Have some confidence, man.
I have to agree. XPP
I have to say if a girl can completely emasculate a guy with insults, I'm hooked. Bitter, dry, sarcastic, and mean are all well appreciated. But that's just the outside. I'm pretty average with what I'd like in a girl's personality.
yeah, same here.
Mmm, thanks, guys.
I also suppose the concept of asking someone you've known for only a few months, give or take, feels kind of...strange to me. Well, it's a strange feeling... Maybe that contributes to fear? I dunno... :-\
Trust me, Mags, it was the same way for me. You feel a lot better once it's over though.
Really? Thanks, Shika. ;)
I can't really say how I would feel if I got rejected, though... Would that strange feeling subside then? :P
Yes, and if the girl was good enough for you to like, she'll be fine with being your friend. And who knows, maybe later on she'll have a change of heart.
yeah, but some of the girls that I actually really really liked, ended up going out with someone else like a few days right after they turn me down and what not. so yeah, not all the time that will happen...
You guys just need to learn how to approach talking to a girl.
My advice is to never listen to them; What they have to say is boring and worthless. Just cut them off and make demands of them, they like it when you're in control. Also, be sure to call them diminutive names and act really pervy. [/badadvice]
You know, there all girls on this site don't forget. 8) (If you get what I mean. I don't mean that girls on here want you guys. I meant... oh screw it.)
Quote from: Pein no Akatsuki on August 08, 2007, 03:56:56 PM
You know, there all girls on this site don't forget. 8) (If you get what I mean. I don't mean that girls on here want you guys. I meant... oh screw it.)
you realize you had crushes on most of us right???
yeah, thats just a little scary...
She had a dream that I slept in her bed with her :oSo I'm kinda scared. Also Pein, highlight that message. I was joking. That's horrible advice to follow.
Yeah, I was going to say... Pretty much all of that is the last things I would do. :-[
If you're gonna try and talk to a girl, you should, for one thing, look your best. Other than that, be yourself. Clichem yes, but it works. It works.
Hopefully my crown necklace will help me look my best. :P
But I usually try to look my best whenever I go to a big social gathering, and I've been doing that a lot more often ever since I moved south.
Just keep in mind loks don't matter. For example, I currently dont look to good (refer to Chatboard topic I will soon make) but my girlfriend didnt mind kissing me. It's all in the personality, guys.
You should take a key as well, Mags, the biggest one you can find. Then use some really cheesy lines for it, like walk up to a pretty girl and hand it to her and say she's got the key to your heart or something :P
1) Shika, you make me LOL :P :P That is so corny. But hell, it might work on some sappy girls...
2) If you're using keys, I am the master key. You'd have to use me, fools. :P
You're the PokeKey. He would only use you if he fell in love with a Jynx or something.
You know what, Shika? Just for you, I'm changing my name back. >:( ( ;D)
lol, cool, anyways, back on topic, idk, girls are so confusing, my friend is having girl troubles, he keeps getting a girlfriend, then like a month or so later, they break up, thats happened like 6 times since I started talking to him, its weird, how a girl thinks they like you, but then when you start going out with them, you or them break up with each other...
Yes, well, the point of dating is to see if you really like each other, right?
yeah, but still, usually when you date someone, you normally stick with them for like, a long time. not a month or so.
Not necessarily. Maybe it only takes a month for some people to figure out they don't like each other as much as they thought they did. Maybe it takes a month to figure out that they do like each other as much as they thought they did, and in another month they figure out they like each other a lot more than they thought they did.
yeah, I guess your right, man, relationships are so weird like that alot.
Yes, well, love is weird.
Small thing really, and off topic, but it's "a lot," not "alot."
aw well, anyways, I also like a smart girl, one that don't do bad things like get in trouble with the law, trust me, I know plenty of girls like that, I don't like those kind.
i dont bother dateing, such a waste of time... when the right person comes then they come
Even so, it might not be a bad idea to date them. But then again, I've been single my whole life so far, so I don't have much room to talk.
well yeah, when that person comes
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 09, 2007, 11:07:03 AM
You should take a key as well, Mags, the biggest one you can find. Then use some really cheesy lines for it, like walk up to a pretty girl and hand it to her and say she's got the key to your heart or something :P
Well, I DO have a Keyblade replica... :P
I think that would be more likely to scare away a girl. :P
Unless she plays Square Enix RPGs. Which would be awesome, considering she'd be more likely to get the reference/pun...and laugh. :P
Maggy, if you do that and word gets aroun to me that you did, I'm gonna have to punish you.
Please. As if I would love to risk a girl and my physical health for using Kingdom Hearts-related pick-up lines. :P
You would be shunned by the immediate society around you.
yeah, unless that girl has zero clue what your talking about. :P
Dude, I don't care, I'd totally date the first person to run up to me with a keyblade and say "this is the key to my heart." XD
Uh, yeah, I don't know. I like a guy who would... deal with my cosplaying as obscure RPG enemies/characters and... my art. Especially the selling art for food money part; I don't want someone who is just upset at my job choice. o_o
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 06, 2007, 11:07:03 AM
Why would they get a negative opinion of you if they figure out you like them? They'll probably think it's sweet.
Really? I got like "WTF? NO!" :(
QuoteDude, I don't care, I'd totally date the first person to run up to me with a keyblade and say "this is the key to my heart." XD
I'd do the same thing with the master sword. "This is the thing you stab me with, now."
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 09, 2007, 12:42:39 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on August 09, 2007, 11:07:03 AM
You should take a key as well, Mags, the biggest one you can find. Then use some really cheesy lines for it, like walk up to a pretty girl and hand it to her and say she's got the key to your heart or something :P
Well, I DO have a Keyblade replica... :P
"Hey, baby. You know what they say about men with big keys."
Anyways,
Quotewell yeah, when that person comes
But won't you be more likely to meet said person if you got yourself out there and looked? You gotta meet him halfway, girl.
and no, you don't technically go out with someone for a long time if you date them, only if things go well. I know a lot of girls who jump from guy to guy so fast it's unbelievable, and my first girlfriend only lasted two weeks. I've been with Jo for almost two months now, though. So that's going well...
my first two girlfriends dated me for a month, the last one gave me only 2 weeks
I dont see how you guys have all these relationship issues... I'm an insecure, not very attractive, quirky, nerd-ish loser and I've had the same happy relationship for 5 months. Maybe you guys need to try and be... more honest.
My relationship is built on brutal honesty, and its been working.
Quote from: ChargedKey on August 11, 2007, 09:19:33 AM
I dont see how you guys have all these relationship issues... I'm an insecure, not very attractive, quirky, nerd-ish loser and I've had the same happy relationship for 5 months. Maybe you guys need to try and be... more honest.
Was some of that directed at me (particularly the last sentence)? If so, it isn't honesty that's the problem for me. I'm actually a very honest person--sometimes a little too honest. It's actually getting INTO the relationship that's the problem for me.
Isolation does that to you. You can't really associate with others and they'll all get on you if you don't go for something....
Okay, my train of thoughts is a bit messed up.
But what can you do if you're antisocial? I recommend try to numb yourself qand get through the first tiem. It's easier after that because you adjust to it.
I suppose actually forcing yourself to get out there and be social is the way to counteract being antisocial. I have Youth Group downstate, and it's pretty big, too. It's the perfect place to be social (especially because they have Super Smash Bros. Melee over there, and I can whoop them all at it! :P ). Right now I'm trying harder than ever to find stuff to do that doesn't involve me staying at home all day.
Dude, you live down freaking state, there should be plenty of things to do, compared to where I live, we live in such a small town, I don't even know where half my friends live.
You obviously didn't read my entire post.
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 11, 2007, 12:13:15 PM
I have Youth Group downstate, and it's pretty big, too. It's the perfect place to be social (especially because they have Super Smash Bros. Melee over there, and I can whoop them all at it! :P ).
Quote from: Dr. Gin Ichimaru on August 09, 2007, 07:33:56 AM
Quote from: Pein no Akatsuki on August 08, 2007, 03:56:56 PM
You know, there all girls on this site don't forget. 8) (If you get what I mean. I don't mean that girls on here want you guys. I meant... oh screw it.)
you realize you had crushes on most of us right???
Eh, I have crushes on my distant cousins now. XP So who really cares, man? I just like them 'cause of their Irish accent. (Boo-yeah!)
Quote from: ChargedKey on August 11, 2007, 09:19:33 AM
I dont see how you guys have all these relationship issues... I'm an insecure, not very attractive, quirky, nerd-ish loser and I've had the same happy relationship for 5 months. Maybe you guys need to try and be... more honest.
My relationship is built on brutal honesty, and its been working.
i'm honest like a fox man! i got honesty down!
QuoteBut won't you be more likely to meet said person if you got yourself out there and looked? You gotta meet him halfway, girl.
heh not if im not interested :-*
I just wan't someone thats not mean or cranky all the time, someone nice, friendly, and someone who talks, lol, its boring having a relationship with someone who doesn't talk, cause there is this one girl I know, and she don't talk very much.... which is a shocker, cause most girls around here talk all the freaking time. ;D
Quote from: Ethan on August 12, 2007, 01:23:53 PMcause most girls around here talk all the freaking time. ;D
i dont.. im a very quiet person.. i act like Oswin from FE7 most of the time -_-'
wow? yeah, but then again, I also wan't a girl who doesn't talk about sex and what not all the time, lots girls around here do that, and sometimes it can get very annoying. ::)
not very lady like 8)
Those are what we call pervs, my friends. They are everywhere. But I dn't mind them. :P ;D
::) bah, those kinda people are just idiots
Agreed. I'll spare you all the horror that is the conversations at the back of my bus.
I don't ride the bus, but anyways, girls can sometimes be a litte confusing to understand, am I not right?
just a little? you have to be kidding me!
oh, sorry, a lot confusing...
Quote from: Ethan on August 13, 2007, 08:23:34 AM
girls can sometimes be a litte confusing to understand, am I not right?
I don't know. I think my cousins are. XP But my Irish cousin Aiden just didn't understand me because I had food in my habit reminder, my mouth was dry, I can't say my "s"'s very well, and I talked to fast.
PNA, he means "how they act" not "whether or not you understand what she's saying".
I'm glad I'm a girl. In general, boys are easier to read....
Hey! *shakes fist* ???
We are not.
Quote from: That One Minion on August 14, 2007, 06:46:03 AM
Hey! *shakes fist* ???
We are not.
Yes, we are... We're usually more straightforward about what we want, instead of indirect. Or is that just me? :-\
no, its because girls know that guys either want love or sex, that's it, i for one am one that wants love
once a girl finds out which one we want, the rest just falls into place
True, I am also one that wants love. :D
Well everyone says they want love. They just mean that in differnet ways.
Quote from: Dr. Gin Ichimaru on August 14, 2007, 08:46:23 AM
no, its because girls know that guys either want love or sex, that's it, i for one am one that wants love
Are you saying that the two are mutually exclusive? That's a pretty immature way to look at things.
not exactally, thats just a wde perspective, i mean, every guy wants sex to some extent, some just want it much more than others while some barely want it at all
oh, time to bring the views of the forum furfag to this discussion.
Although every guy wants sex to some extent, yes, I've met guys that you'd think had no idea what sex is.
*sigh* why is it always the cute ones that have no libido?
And I've met girls who are the complete opposite. Not that I'm complaining.
Then again, this is from a furry. Furries are odd, to say the least
(tentacles = <3. Damn it, where's my genetic modification kit...?)
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 14, 2007, 08:31:34 AM
Quote from: That One Minion on August 14, 2007, 06:46:03 AM
Hey! *shakes fist* ???
We are not.
Yes, we are... We're usually more straightforward about what we want, instead of indirect. Or is that just me? :-\
Yes, we are incredibly easy to read, we don't play games like girls do...
i dont know these games of which you speak.. that girls play..? :-X
Playing hard to get, trying to make jealous, pretending not to like him, having rules about what you do when she oes that, all that crap.
i only played hard to get once because every other blasted thing i tried failed >:( and so did that :-*
To me, playing hard-to-get would just delay getting into a relationship, if anything. Of course, all people are different, so that technique might work with some of them, but it definitely won't work with all of them. It would be possible that you would just make the girl (or guy, for you girls out there) grow impatient, and ultimately have the entire thing blow over entirely.
i dont know.. its all too confusing for me :-X
It's confusing for a lot of people, trust me. ???
What he said...
Girls seem to think I'm playing hard to get. And do the same. When I really hate them. ??? They seem to think that nobody could not like them. Why, why do only creepy girls like me?
You need to reconsider your standards. Maybe you're judging them too harshly.
I have no clue, but what do you mean by creepy?
that ahppens to me bboy, i ignore the girls i dont like and in turn they become infatuated by me... its not fun
Quote from: Dr. Sosuke Aizen on August 17, 2007, 06:28:07 AM
that ahppens to me bboy, i ignore the girls i dont like and in turn they become infatuated by me... its not fun
I suppose they interpret it as hard-to-get and are turned on by it? In other words, you don't try to play hard-to-get, but it works? The irony! ;D
maybe i will start ignoring girls i do like
I've tried that before, it kills you inside :'(
that matters not, I'm already dead *evil laugh*
I don't really ignore anyone unless they're mean, then I go straight to ignoring, and I can think of a few that I do in fact ignore.
I find that the only girls that are mean to me are the sluts and chavs.
All the other girls meet are friendly. I think it has something to do with having the same interests (I.E, men)
What about the lesbians? (http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p55/Commodore_Axilon/Forum%20Crap/stupid.gif)
well, since the total number of lesbians I've met (knowingly) = <1, the don't count. They do make good friends though
mmmmmmmmhmmmm, this as turned into a rather interesting conversation...
Well I wouldnt say that looks dont matter. But I mostly find personality to be a girls best trait. I like girls that are not constantly adjusting their make up. But I want a girl that cares too little about it. My standards kill me. :'(
I wouldnt want a girl thats just like me though. We'd have to have our differences.
Quote from: Ethan on August 17, 2007, 05:58:54 PM
mmmmmmmmhmmmm, this as turned into a rather interesting conversation...
Instead of saying that. Why don't you say something to contribute to said conversation?
I have a really bad habit of making guys think I like them, when I'm just being friendly. I'm not shy like a lot girls I know and I like to hang out with guys anyway. As said, they're easier to read and don't mess with you with their mind games. It really sucks when a guy I'm having an intelligent conversation with has a girlfriend, because the gf always assumes I'm trying to "steal him". Gawsh.
Quote from: Rinku on August 18, 2007, 02:18:00 PM
It really sucks when a guy I'm having an intelligent conversation with has a girlfriend, because the gf always assumes I'm trying to "steal him". Gawsh.
I hate situations like that. Sure, I've never encountered one like that, but who
would like it, whether they experienced ones like that or not. Paranoid people who think that their dates are going to be stolen when they're being social are quite sad, really. :-X
*sigh* i cant blame them... i'de be the same way
Yeah, there's this one girl who's always hangin up on me at our school, and who I'm guessing is her boy friend gives me dirty looked :-* I don't even know her all that well XD
I met the perfect girl at my new school.
And then I woke up.
:(
Well at least I get a fresh start for high school.
Hahaha, "then I woke up".
Yeah thats got to be anoying. Hangin out with someone who's girl/boyfriend is the jealous type.
heh i guess im annoying then
Wow, this topic hasn't been touched in a while...
-clears throat- I'm still not dating. So this is kind of pointless, haha...
But, I have been asked out by two people. One, I rejected because I just didn't feel right in a relationship with... call me a **, but... well, I prefer platonic friendship over dating. Oh, and the other one? Well, she was a crazy-stalker person who I was dating because she said so. >_> Yeeeah. Some rather awkward moments there...
I've decided that dating isn't really that attractive. I mean, sure, they may want to ask me out, but they don't know my bad... habits, if you will. I'm undatable, I guess. I've heard that from several people... I'm just too... out there, I guess.
well, I did go to school in that bunny hoodie...
Well, dating can rawk, if its with the right person. I'm not dating anymore either, but its only because I'm afraid of having my heart cracked open again :-*
We're still doing well, but have incredibly bad luck. Such as all the dances being cancelled when we've made plans :-*
*raises hand* Still single. :'(
You know...sometimes I feel that I'm going to stay that way. Okay, quite often I feel that I'm going to stay that way. I hope not, but...I just wish that there were someone whom I could talk to, to see what I'm doing wrong. But alas, I've had no luck.
I don't dance, I just hang out around the doors with my best friends, and point out the nerds and fat ppl :P
Its mean, but really funny when you're with the right people. Its different from making fun of mentally handicapped people, because they had no control over what happened to them. Its the people that can't go a second without a fork in their mouth, or the people who can't LIVE without WoW that had control about who they are. Its easy to tell who is big boned, and who is just a flubber-nugget.
Mags and Fisk, I was the same way, just wait until you DO find someone.
Say....
Shika, how did you meet Jo in the first place, how did you get to know her, and how did you ultimately get the courage to ask her out? Did you have a specific process, or did you wing it?
And do you have a hammer to hit me with for being so overbearing? :P
Like I said, I'd prefer a platonic relationship. I think I'm afraid of commitment. Though I do kind of need someone to tell me I'm pretty, I guess. Yes, that does sound stupid, but I like it when people tell me the truth. Even if they said I was hideous, as long as they weren't a total ** about it, I'd be happy. Because, honestly? I don't like how I look that much. But I love compliments (though I never know how to respond to them) and stuff like that. (not... that I get that much, actually. though I was called cute a lot in the bunny hoodie.)
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 28, 2007, 06:53:26 PM
Say....
Shika, how did you meet Jo in the first place, how did you get to know her, and how did you ultimately get the courage to ask her out? Did you have a specific process, or did you wing it?
And do you have a hammer to hit me with for being so overbearing? :P
Well, we both went on a class trip to DC, although we didn't talk much, and I thought I was way too immature for her. So I kind of tried not to think about her throughout Freshman year, and she ended up being taken by someone else anyways. I had a lot of crap happen to me relationship-wise, and I realized that I wanted somebody like Jo. She was still going out with that other guy, but I still talked to her every now and then, although not much more than hi, because I was afraid of embarrasing myself. They ended up breaking up because he never paid any attention to her, and I couldn't help but hang around her whenever I could. I just loved to be around her. So, that went on for two months or so, then we started talking about stuff, and I was trying to figure out if she liked me or not, because one of my friends kept saying that a bunch of other guys liked her, and that she always talked about how I always annoyed her. (This is the same friend who set me up with the first disastrous relationship :-*) I found support in a few of my other friends, and they encouraged me, and I went to school early (To 'make up a test' ::)) and got a flower from the store across the street. I emptied my backpack and carried all my stuff with me that day so I wouldn't have to open it, put the flower in my backpack so it wouldn't fall over and spill the water, and left a note to my locker partner saying not to touch it. Then, at the end of the day, I went to talk to her as usual and said I had to get something out of my locker. So we went over there, and one of my friends started asking her questions to distract her while I opened the locker. Then I tapped her on the shoulder, gave her the flower, and asked. I'm pretty sure she said yes based on how she acted afterwards, but I blacked out for a second :P Seriously. :-[ So yeah, she got a lot of reactions towards the flower and everything. She was happy. I was ecstatic.
Mostly, I guess it was because I got a few friends to support and help me.
I almost have one. But I'm confuseded. How can you tell about les filles(girls)?
Ah, so you went for the indirect approach for the first period of time, tried to build up momentum, and then switched to the direct approach? Valuable info! Thank you! :D
However...
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on September 28, 2007, 08:33:59 PM
Mostly, I guess it was because I got a few friends to support and help me.
That's probably where I could use the help.
Find a few friends who you trust unconditionally, and just ask them what they think of a girl. BTW, pick girls, they're more sensitive to that and won't poke fun at you and stuff.
yay! i love this topic!
one of my best friends who is a girl is helping me, but she is way to defensive towards me so basically no girls make it through her very fine filter
Quote from: Shikamaru Nara on September 28, 2007, 10:12:36 PM
Find a few friends who you trust unconditionally, and just ask them what they think of a girl. BTW, pick girls, they're more sensitive to that and won't poke fun at you and stuff.
May take a while; I'm new at my school. Even if I weren't new, it probably still would be hard because I'd also need courage to talk about it with somebody. I guess I find it most effective for them to ask me about that kind of stuff. I dislike taking the initiative and talking about it. :-*
good God, this one chick won't stay AWAY from me!!!! >:( >:( >:(
Its my ex again, and she's crying to me, because the guy she dumped me for cheated on her. I don't want to be a jerk, but no matter what we go through, she won't stay the hell out of my life :-*
I don't know why, or HOW, but I still... I still kinda... I mean I can't forget about her if she doesn't leave me alone, but...
Hmm...have her told you everything YOU feel about what SHE did to YOU and ehst your point of view is?
Let me put this in a video game perspective, ZV: she set your heart at 300% damage, chaingrabbed it, spiked it, threw a Bob-omb at it, and finished it off with the Home Run Bat.
In a non-obsessive perspective, she's now getting a taste of her own medicine, and from what I understand, she deserves it. Letting her come back into your life is just giving her another opportunity smash your soul to pieces. But hey, if you know that she's not just trying to get you to suck up to her and leave you vulnerable, then what do we have to worry about?
On the other hand, I still think that if you give her the chance, then the consequences will only replicate. I'd try to resist it. But this is coming from a guy who never had his heart broken in a relationship.
Hmmm... a bit intesne and rough there, eh Maggy? Though from what I have heard I think you're right in syaing what you've said.
And just to throw this out there... I mean the majority of us are teenagers. What do we really know about love? Do we know anyhting? We're so young an naive...
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 29, 2007, 10:26:30 AM
Let me put this in a video game perspective, ZV: she set your heart at 300% damage, chaingrabbed it, spiked it, threw a Bob-omb at it, and finished it off with the Home Run Bat.
In a non-obsessive perspective, she's now getting a taste of her own medicine, and from what I understand, she deserves it. Letting her come back into your life is just giving her another opportunity smash your soul to pieces. But hey, if you know that she's not just trying to get you to suck up to her and leave you vulnerable, then what do we have to worry about?
On the other hand, I still think that if you give her the chance, then the consequences will only replicate. I'd try to resist it. But this is coming from a guy who never had his heart broken in a relationship.
That really put things in perspective for me magz. ::) :P
And just so you know (for those of you who are like "why the hell is ZV still considering this?") love is blinding. It does things to a guy that he can't describe, no matter how many years of literary school he's had. When you really love(ed) someone it blinds you to reality. I had myself set on avoiding her at all costs, and now look: we're talking again.
QuoteI just logged on to Aim to see if you were there so I could tell you I had a dream about you...and me.
The type of dream around the lines of what happened at Barry's house on that ice day, talk about it later!
I found that kitten a home, her name is poket now!!
Now look at that. She acts as if my heart was never in shambles. I really don't know what to make of this situation. :-* And don't anyone ask just what
did happen at barry's house, because you will be severely ignored XD
PS: Also, anyone who talks to me over AIM, don't say ONE WORD about this, because my mom reads everything I type, and everything that was sent to me over AIM conversations later when I'm not around (the PC saves it). Sometimes they treat me like a total ex convict. ???
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 01:19:33 PM
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 29, 2007, 10:26:30 AM
Let me put this in a video game perspective, ZV: she set your heart at 300% damage, chaingrabbed it, spiked it, threw a Bob-omb at it, and finished it off with the Home Run Bat.
In a non-obsessive perspective, she's now getting a taste of her own medicine, and from what I understand, she deserves it. Letting her come back into your life is just giving her another opportunity smash your soul to pieces. But hey, if you know that she's not just trying to get you to suck up to her and leave you vulnerable, then what do we have to worry about?
On the other hand, I still think that if you give her the chance, then the consequences will only replicate. I'd try to resist it. But this is coming from a guy who never had his heart broken in a relationship.
That really put things in perspective for me magz. ::) :P
And just so you know (for those of you who are like "why the hell is ZV still considering this?") love is blinding. It does things to a guy that he can't describe, no matter how many years of literary school he's had. When you really love(ed) someone it blinds you to reality. I had myself set on avoiding her at all costs, and now look: we're talking again.
QuoteI just logged on to Aim to see if you were there so I could tell you I had a dream about you...and me.
The type of dream around the lines of what happened at Barry's house on that ice day, talk about it later!
I found that kitten a home, her name is poket now!!
Now look at that. She acts as if my heart was never in shambles. I really don't know what to make of this situation. :-* And don't anyone ask just what did happen at barry's house, because you will be severely ignored XD
PS: Also, anyone who talks to me over AIM, don't say ONE WORD about this, because my mom reads everything I type, and everything that was sent to me over AIM conversations later when I'm not around (the PC saves it). Sometimes they treat me like a total ex convict. ???
Awww poor Sasori-donno!! I'd say to forget about her, maybe talk to her a little bit. I dunno, do what you want to do. I can't control you. (My dad can, or so he says.)
Aww! Demo... demo!! I wanted to know what happened at Barry's house. :'( JK JK
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 01:19:33 PM
And just so you know (for those of you who are like "why the hell is ZV still considering this?") love is blinding. It does things to a guy that he can't describe, no matter how many years of literary school he's had. When you really love(ed) someone it blinds you to reality. I had myself set on avoiding her at all costs, and now look: we're talking again.
Nah, I'm not thinking the thought in parantheses. I, as well as everyone else here, know it's hard for you. After all, you're not weak willed--whenever you go down, you bring yourself back up again. We've all seen it time and time again. It's a good trait to have, ZV. :)
That in itself further proves your point that love is a powerful thing. Very powerful. If you find it hard to resist now, then very few could've resisted it if anyone else were in your shoes back
then! Unfortunately, it is indeed fickle, and it can all backfire painfully; I guess in other words, you loved her so much that when she broke away from you, it was like all the love you gave her turned against you.
. . .
Sorry, this is just my interpretation of it. If I'm wrong in anything that I said, ZV, please correct me.
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 29, 2007, 01:50:10 PM
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 01:19:33 PM
And just so you know (for those of you who are like "why the hell is ZV still considering this?") love is blinding. It does things to a guy that he can't describe, no matter how many years of literary school he's had. When you really love(ed) someone it blinds you to reality. I had myself set on avoiding her at all costs, and now look: we're talking again.
Nah, I'm not thinking the thought in parantheses. I, as well as everyone else here, know it's hard for you. After all, you're not weak willed--whenever you go down, you bring yourself back up again. We've all seen it time and time again. It's a good trait to have, ZV. :)
That in itself further proves your point that love is a powerful thing. Very powerful. If you find it hard to resist now, then very few could've resisted it if anyone else were in your shoes back then! Unfortunately, it is indeed fickle, and it can all backfire painfully; I guess in other words, you loved her so much that when she broke away from you, it was like all the love you gave her turned against you.
. . .
Sorry, this is just my interpretation of it. If I'm wrong in anything that I said, ZV, please correct me.
Thats
exactly what happened Magmar. She took all the love I had poured out to her over the years, and shoved it back down my throat. It hurts, believe me, and the way you described it hit the dot. And yeah, you have a good point Gaara, but... I just don't know.
So you're telling me that 'love' is equivalent to vomit? EEEEK!
*Point made from ZV saying 'shove my love down my throat'*
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 10:08:23 AM
good God, this one chick won't stay AWAY from me!!!! >:( >:( >:(
Its my ex again, and she's crying to me, because the guy she dumped me for cheated on her. I don't want to be a jerk, but no matter what we go through, she won't stay the hell out of my life :-*
I don't know why, or HOW, but I still... I still kinda... I mean I can't forget about her if she doesn't leave me alone, but...
Here's my advice to you: Don't be afraid to tell her off. Tell her it's her fault she dumped you. It was her mistake, not yours. Tel her you're sorry about the other guy but you don't like her anymore. (If you don't.) She needs to learn to move on.
Quote from: Vaati on September 29, 2007, 02:54:59 PM
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 10:08:23 AM
good God, this one chick won't stay AWAY from me!!!! >:( >:( >:(
Its my ex again, and she's crying to me, because the guy she dumped me for cheated on her. I don't want to be a jerk, but no matter what we go through, she won't stay the hell out of my life :-*
I don't know why, or HOW, but I still... I still kinda... I mean I can't forget about her if she doesn't leave me alone, but...
Here's my advice to you: Don't be afraid to tell her off. Tell her it's her fault she dumped you. It was her mistake, not yours. Tel her you're sorry about the other guy but you don't like her anymore. (If you don't.) She needs to learn to move on.
You don't even know how bad I've been wanting to say something like that, but... I still kind of love her... Its not like you can date a chick for such a long time, and then just forget all the times you shared... I hate my life sometimes ???
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 02:34:53 PM
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 29, 2007, 01:50:10 PM
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on September 29, 2007, 01:19:33 PM
And just so you know (for those of you who are like "why the hell is ZV still considering this?") love is blinding. It does things to a guy that he can't describe, no matter how many years of literary school he's had. When you really love(ed) someone it blinds you to reality. I had myself set on avoiding her at all costs, and now look: we're talking again.
Nah, I'm not thinking the thought in parantheses. I, as well as everyone else here, know it's hard for you. After all, you're not weak willed--whenever you go down, you bring yourself back up again. We've all seen it time and time again. It's a good trait to have, ZV. :)
That in itself further proves your point that love is a powerful thing. Very powerful. If you find it hard to resist now, then very few could've resisted it if anyone else were in your shoes back then! Unfortunately, it is indeed fickle, and it can all backfire painfully; I guess in other words, you loved her so much that when she broke away from you, it was like all the love you gave her turned against you.
. . .
Sorry, this is just my interpretation of it. If I'm wrong in anything that I said, ZV, please correct me.
Thats exactly what happened Magmar. She took all the love I had poured out to her over the years, and shoved it back down my throat. It hurts, believe me, and the way you described it hit the dot. And yeah, you have a good point Gaara, but... I just don't know.
I know you still feel and all, but, maybe it'd just be best to forget about it all together. It might make you feel better, and, oh, I dunno... But, as I said earlier, I can't control you. Do what you think is best, ZV. :)
QuoteNow look at that. She acts as if my heart was never in shambles. I really don't know what to make of this situation. :-*
I'm so very sorry, ZV! /_\ I don't know what to say. This makes me, like, cry inside. >< It makes me... be emo... inside... >< I feel for you. I would really like to help somehow, but, I might make it worse, or-or... I might make you hate me or... I might just completely ruin your life, then you'd block me, or... quit, or-or... >< Ok, I'm just going to shut the hell up 'cause I'm making this worse. >< <> *Bangs head on table*
Quote from: Deidara no Akatsuki on September 29, 2007, 04:10:21 PM
I don't know what to say. This makes me, like, cry inside. >< It makes me... be emo... inside... >< I
Me too Gaara... me too. I would never hate you for like any reason, so don't sweat it. Its the thought that counts.
(http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s74/SammyGrl007/238652-109580196421926.gif) (Ok I swear that was supposed to be a soft smile for me 'cause it's better than :) but it's also kinda perfect for this situation and- Ok sorry I'll shut up.)
Ok... (http://i149.photobucket.com/albums/s74/SammyGrl007/238652-109580196421926.gif) (Ettou... *Nervous laugh* Nothing to say except that... He..hehe... *Gets all comfty in my Akatsuki cloak and hides in a corner* Gomen nasai! I'm being stupid and I just have mixed emotions and- @~@ *Bangs head on wall*)
ZV, I happen to understand entirely the situation you're in, because I happen to be in on that's exactly the same (only im still with that person).
If I put it into perspetive if that happened to me, I'd comfort her but I'd aslo tell her to buzz off. See I think she's using you for comfort and shes trying to get back together with you for comfort. And she all ready shot you down once, so... I'd say screw that. Be there for comfortbut not for another relationship. Man's gotta protect himself too.
Mashterkey? i'sh never hear nushing about you being in a relationship.
Yeah, he's had a girlfriend for...a few months, now?
I think it was more like the whole year, lol, but yea, haven't talked to him in awhile, so not sure. and rabies, the you needing dates in bulletings on myspace aren't usually a good idea, lol, just to warn you.
actually a girl i really like responded to it, but she isnt in middle school so she couldnt go
Wait, if she's not in middle school, what's stopping her from going? Unless... *GASP!* She's in elementary school! O__O
In which case, Rabies would be a pedophile.
HOLY CRAP!! Man, Rabies will do ANYTHING to get a girl... >< Tha's-Tha's-Tha's jus' WRAWNG!! ><
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on September 30, 2007, 10:19:32 AM
actually a girl i really like responded to it, but she is in middle school so she couldnt go
fixd
she's in 8th grade
I suppose I'm ignored again.
Aw no you're not, your question was a bit vague, though...
The guy I like is so strange. He talks too much and gets annoying but I still think he's great. He's in my oppinion gorgeous looking, but everyone else says he aint that special. I wish I had more confidence to do something more than talk to him casually, I hate being shy.
Anyway enough of my ranting. Lets all sit down and talk about our problems!
Since I'm a vegan I don't want a girl who wants to hurt animals. New York's attitude toward animals is ok. Other than that I'll take any kind of personality, but the girl has got to be a dime piece.
*thinks very hardly of what smily to add*
How I used it isn't exactly how it's supposed to be used, but it's a perfect woman. One that's a "10", smart, independent, sweet, good personality, has had few, if any, sexual partners, and can be your future wife.
like that one song..
shawty you a ten!!! hey!!! a ten!!!
after like 50 thousand times it gets kinda annoying..
Quote from: Knil on October 02, 2007, 02:26:02 PM
*thinks very hardly of what smily to add*
How I used it isn't exactly how it's supposed to be used, but it's a perfect woman. One that's a "10", smart, independent, sweet, good personality, has had few, if any, sexual partners, and can be your future wife.
no offense, but that's a tad impossible
that girl i talked about on the last page wants to hang out saturday, i'm pretty nervous, and on myspace she keeps telling me to call her
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on October 02, 2007, 03:31:51 PM
Quote from: Knil on October 02, 2007, 02:26:02 PM
*thinks very hardly of what smily to add*
How I used it isn't exactly how it's supposed to be used, but it's a perfect woman. One that's a "10", smart, independent, sweet, good personality, has had few, if any, sexual partners, and can be your future wife.
no offense, but that's a tad impossible
I wouldn't say "impossible"... It's more like "highly improbable," depending on what you look for. Perception of a girl's beauty differs from person to person, as does her intelligence.
Quote from: Knil on October 02, 2007, 02:26:02 PM
*thinks very hardly of what smily to add*
How I used it isn't exactly how it's supposed to be used, but it's a perfect woman. One that's a "10", smart, independent, sweet, good personality, has had few, if any, sexual partners, and can be your future wife.
Sorry, but that is nearly impossible in todays time. Most women at my school, most women I have
dated of this generation seem to make it a goal to have sex as early in their life as possible. Only after they do everything, do they look for a guy who will actually love them, and
that my friend, annoys me to no end.
I felt really bad for this one chick in my class. She was new to the school, and nobody even talked to her, or said hi, or anything. Then, this girl comes to class, and she's like jaw-drop sekzy, and like everybody was crowding her, asking her name, and to hang out. Its just wrong, just so wrong ???
Well, that's about 90% of the male population for you. ???
Anyway, in my sixth hour class, there's this girl who has been flirting with me for the past two days. Playful or serious flirting, I'm not sure. What to make of this...? :-\
Quote from: MagmarFire on October 02, 2007, 04:43:46 PM
Well, that's about 90% of the male population for you. ???
Anyway, in my sixth hour class, there's this girl who has been flirting with me for the past two days. Playful or serious flirting, I'm not sure. What to make of this...? :-\
you should flirt back :]
Eh, I don't really like flirting. There are too many factors involved. Plus, it makes me feel weird to do it. :-*
All flirting, by definition, is playful.
I guess you're right. I'm still not sure what to make of it, though.
oh, come on... flirting is easy, and fun!!
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on October 02, 2007, 04:39:15 PM
Quote from: Knil on October 02, 2007, 02:26:02 PM
*thinks very hardly of what smily to add*
How I used it isn't exactly how it's supposed to be used, but it's a perfect woman. One that's a "10", smart, independent, sweet, good personality, has had few, if any, sexual partners, and can be your future wife.
Sorry, but that is nearly impossible in todays time. Most women at my school, most women I have dated of this generation seem to make it a goal to have sex as early in their life as possible. Only after they do everything, do they look for a guy who will actually love them, and that my friend, annoys me to no end.
I felt really bad for this one chick in my class. She was new to the school, and nobody even talked to her, or said hi, or anything. Then, this girl comes to class, and she's like jaw-drop sekzy, and like everybody was crowding her, asking her name, and to hang out. Its just wrong, just so wrong ???
That... is just... disturbing... :o *Runs away as I scream and hold my head* OMFG THAT'S JUST TO FREAKN' DISTURBING MAN!! AHHHHH!!!
Quote from: alex on October 02, 2007, 06:58:54 PM
oh, come on... flirting is easy, and fun!!
I beg to differ. :P
I tried to be more flirtatious. I didn't exactly get the results I wanted. ZV knows about that.
Quote from: Sasori no Akasuna on October 02, 2007, 04:39:15 PM
Quote from: Knil on October 02, 2007, 02:26:02 PM
*thinks very hardly of what smily to add*
How I used it isn't exactly how it's supposed to be used, but it's a perfect woman. One that's a "10", smart, independent, sweet, good personality, has had few, if any, sexual partners, and can be your future wife.
Sorry, but that is nearly impossible in todays time. Most women at my school, most women I have dated of this generation seem to make it a goal to have sex as early in their life as possible. Only after they do everything, do they look for a guy who will actually love them, and that my friend, annoys me to no end.
I felt really bad for this one chick in my class. She was new to the school, and nobody even talked to her, or said hi, or anything. Then, this girl comes to class, and she's like jaw-drop sekzy, and like everybody was crowding her, asking her name, and to hang out. Its just wrong, just so wrong ???
I wasn't stating how "possible" it was, I was just saying what is was.
I have a hard time saying 'sorry' to someone, much less saying 'hi' to a girl I like. Don't get me wrong, I have people left and right trying to hook me up. I'm like a 'k' I shoot many rounds hoping that one will hit the target.
Quote from: MagmarFire on October 02, 2007, 07:16:43 PM
Quote from: alex on October 02, 2007, 06:58:54 PM
oh, come on... flirting is easy, and fun!!
I beg to differ. :P
Don't be silly! Just act natural, and smile!
I myself am a stickler for compliments but never overdo it as the girl will think you're lying...
I agree. Just be yourself and relax. ;)
-_-
How come you can say stuff so much better than me Maggy? I have the same type of problem.
Quote from: Link on October 03, 2007, 02:37:30 PM
-_-
How come you can say stuff so much better than me Maggy? I have the same type of problem.
It's a gift. :P Nah, I'm generally terrible at describing thing. I guess the right words came together at that moment.
Anyway, she was flirting with me again today. What's more, she's been saying that we've been going out for, like, a week, even though I never said yes to any probable courting question she asked me.
I don't know what to say or do about it, really. I've hardly ever been in a situation like this, so it's all very new to me. I guess it's a good thing I wasn't assigned homework today, though, because her sitting next to me and staring at me (flirting, no less) made it kind of hard to focus on the work I gave myself. :P
im to scared to tell the guy i like that i actually like him... so im in a bit of a pickle :D (that is how the saying goes... right??)
Hmm...that's how it always is...just write a letter or tell one of your friends to.
Quote from: Vaati on October 03, 2007, 02:11:07 PM
I agree. Just be yourself and relax. ;)
another lie of the world, that never works
Yeah. Just be what she wants and relax.
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on October 03, 2007, 04:46:46 PM
another lie of the world, that never works
8)
Dr., how is it a lie? Being yourself is actually the best thing to do because it's essentially being honest. If you fake a personality, you're bound to screw it up as the relationship goes on. If you just be yourself, however, your girlfriend (I'm saying this from a general male perspective, just so you guys know) will know that you're being honest. I mean, let's face it: being yourself is easier to do than being Brad Pitt.
I also read somewhere that women have an uncanny sense of detection. If you have a facade around you, they can sniff it out. It may sound like a generalization, so a verification about that would be nice. ;)
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on October 03, 2007, 04:46:46 PM
Quote from: Vaati on October 03, 2007, 02:11:07 PM
I agree. Just be yourself and relax. ;)
another lie of the world, that never works
Well, if you act like a different person to win her over, she'll like you for that guy, and not the guy you really are. Do you want to put up an act all the time?
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on October 03, 2007, 04:46:46 PM
Quote from: Vaati on October 03, 2007, 02:11:07 PM
I agree. Just be yourself and relax. ;)
another lie of the world, that never works
I have to disagree as well. What if every person in the world acted like somebody else to get girls?
Don't act like you understand the world if you don't. Don't base the whole word on your experiences.
Seriously, just be yourself. It bugs the crap out of me to see a guy fake everything for a girl.
And, yes, a lot of girls can tell if you're faking. At least in my school.
Quote from: Mario on October 04, 2007, 03:19:41 PMWhat if every person in the world acted like somebody else to get girls?
Actually...I think that's relatively common. I also read somewhere that there are quite a lot of guys who just hang around and "hound" girls. For instance...
QuoteThen, this girl comes to class, and she's like jaw-drop sekzy, and like everybody was crowding her, asking her name, and to hang out.
I actually don't need to explain much here. It seems that the girls getting hit on by guys like in that example aren't given much of a moment's peace. So that's definitely a uniform tactic that a lot of guys use.
to respond to you all,
being MYself doesn't work, because my personality is not wanted by many at all
Being someone else doesn't work well either. It just makes it all harder in the long run. Besides, your personality can't be that bad.
So Dr? Pretending to be someone else to get a girl who wouldn't like you in the first place hardly seems fair does it?
I suppose it could depend on the situation. Just as long as it's not like those guys on Springer who find out their wife/husband is really a man/woman.
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on October 04, 2007, 04:48:59 PM
to respond to you all,
being MYself doesn't work, because my personality is not wanted by many at all
Also, I'm sure being a pessimist about it really helps the situation.
If a person doesn't like you for who you are then they aint worth it.
Quoteim to scared to tell the guy i like that i actually like him... so im in a bit of a pickle (that is how the saying goes... right??)
Me too! I hate it, with any guy usually I can just go up and talk to them easily, but when it comes to the one I like, I get all nervous, it sucks.
Flirting then not flirting. V_V SO CONFUSED.
Quote from: MagmarFire on October 04, 2007, 12:26:28 PM
Quote from: Dr. Game & Watch on October 03, 2007, 04:46:46 PM
another lie of the world, that never works
I also read somewhere that women have an uncanny sense of detection. If you have a facade around you, they can sniff it out. It may sound like a generalization, so a verification about that would be nice. ;)
I can tell if people are faking, if that's what you mean... er, I watch people, so I notice changes in actions and clothing and speech. It's not that hard...
Back on subject, well, I have some advice: Don't be afraid to be picky looking for someone... personality-wise. If you don't care, you'll get a crappy boyfriend/girlfriend.
...I would probably offend anyone who cooked for me by smelling my food for poison beforehand. o_o
Is that all I'm doing wrong?
/sarcasm
idk, but yea, I kinda like two girls right now, I'm not really sure which one I like better though, both are cool in their own little ways.
Man, this has been out cold for days. :P
Anyway, last Friday, I met these girls...four, I think. They recognized me because I did the Napoleon Dynamite dance at the school (many times more than I wanted to, no less :P ), and they gave me their MySpace URLs (I don't have one myself, so it's kind of useless for me to reply to them...kinda busy on the Internet as it is, what with being a moderator at this forum, a co-administrator at another one, and a member at another) and their phone numbers.
The thing is, though...there's only one of them who I'm interested in, and luckily, she gave me her cell phone number. But even so, I'm a shy guy, and I get nervous before talking to any girl who I hardly know and gives me her number.
Advice, anyone? :-\
Let me put this in a very clear manner...
[size=15]GO OUT WITH HER, PICK UP THAT FREAKING PHONE AND DIAL THEM DIGITS!!!!![/size]
Ahem. I haven't been too well lately, I've spent all this time being a coward, and I've been afraid of everything. But if there is one thing I can say, do NOT miss your oppurtunity, take it while you still have it or you'll regret it.
I would say, just get myspace, and add them, if you ask me, its easier talking to a girl on the internet then in person or on phone, but yea, if your interested in the one girl, I say go for her man, and if she is nice and hott, I'd really say, Go for her, XD
whenever you feel nervous, do what i do, slap yourself. hard. trust me, even though it sounds dumb, it helps A LOT
Thanks for the advice, you guys. ;)
I'll also try to remember your technique, Dr. It does sound more effective than freezing up as a defense.
you really shouldn't be nervous...
i mean, they GAVE YOU thier number.
just try not to be nervous, its not any fun when your nervous. its like impossible to have fun when your nervous!! so dont be :]
you need to notice that you are your own enemy, and what better way to disrespect your enemy into submission then to slap them?
Quote from: alex on October 14, 2007, 03:03:55 PM
you really shouldn't be nervous...
i mean, they GAVE YOU thier number.
just try not to be nervous, its not any fun when your nervous. its like impossible to have fun when your nervous!! so dont be :]
:( :( :( that was so beautiful. I mean, gasp! but yea, she has a point there.
I'm so stupid... but I'm so happy.
My ex and I, well you guys know the story.
We made up. And I'm taking her to homecoming. I know, I might live to regret this, but my heart screams louder than my brain.
Good for you! I'm proud of you, ZV! :)
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on October 18, 2007, 02:54:51 PM
I'm so stupid... but I'm so happy.
My ex and I, well you guys know the story.
We made up. And I'm taking her to homecoming. I know, I might live to regret this, but my heart screams louder than my brain.
heh, I know what you mean by that, but thats cool man! PARTY FOR ZV XD
Yeah, she told me it would be worth my time (nudge nudge) :P
so... that 14 year old girl i told you all about, we were talking and we told each other we like each other, even though she said "a little bit" i'm pretty happy about this
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on October 18, 2007, 02:54:51 PM
I'm so stupid... but I'm so happy.
My ex and I, well you guys know the story.
We made up. And I'm taking her to homecoming. I know, I might live to regret this, but my heart screams louder than my brain.
Careful, bro. XDDDD Hope it works out for you. Yet... I guess I'm a bit jealous, yeah. XD I'm a loser.
Ne ne, I got two... crush like... things... Well, three. Not tellin' who though. *Whistles* One... is from here, I... guess... Well, I guess I could tell you. One's my cousin's friend, and this one kid from KN, Greg. Ho!
ZV...I guess you'll have to see if she's really changed...you really can't count anything out...just don't get too used to the idea..
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on October 18, 2007, 02:54:51 PM
I'm so stupid... but I'm so happy.
My ex and I, well you guys know the story.
We made up. And I'm taking her to homecoming. I know, I might live to regret this, but my heart screams louder than my brain.
best wishes to you!! :]
byyy the wayyyy
i guess i could tell you my crush's name..
QUINN!!
ahhhh.. it feels good to let that out of my system..
I agree with Shika. Don't give her your whole heart until you feel safe to. And be on guard, she might be using you again to do the same thing to you. I would never get back with an ex, unless I really liked them. Like, oh I dunno... But, you're risking it. Just be careful, I don't want you to get hurt again. Do what you think is best, okay?
I still hope it works out for you.
Hmm, I'm in a bit of a dilemma. Jo broke up with me about three weeks ago, and I'm confused as to what to do. It sounds like we may get back together, but she doesn't really seem to like me that much. I don't know why she wanted to go out with me. It's confusing...maybe she just has trouble showing her feelings? I'm not sure...but I have two other girls who are rather obvious with their liking me, but I don't really know what the smart thing to do would be...
Take the a**-hole douchebag way out and go out with on of them until Jo is jealous, and comes back to you. :P
Nahh, thats a BAAAAD idea. A heart is nothing to toy with, but you wouldn't believe how many guys actually do that >.<
What I don't believe is how well that method actually works.
That's the thing though, is I'm not sure which one I would be happiest with. Jo is extremely laid back and never messes around or anything, won't joke around, like, at all. But she's really nice and trustworthy. Then one of the other girls is incredibly goofy and fun to be around, but I'm not sure if she can ever be serious or not. The third one is quiet a lot, but loosens up if she gets comfortable, and will joke around. The last two girls are involved in theatre as well, although I'm not sure if I'm going to be doing any more shows now that Brigadoon is over. I dunno.
Maybe I should take up theatre. :P
But this really is quite the dilemma... However, a major part of dating is getting to know the other person. How will you know the "goofy" one is never serious unless you take her out? (I'm not being pushy or anything; just making a point and using her as an example.) But of course, if she's not serious when you want her to be, try to be blunt with her and say that you need some seriousness in that point in time.
Again, it's just an example. The point I'm making is maybe you should kill two birds with one stone: go out with one of the other girls and bide your time. Or just wait it out a little while until Jo makes up her mind and then make whatever move you choose.
You should take up theater...but stay away from the horny techs. Really. They sleep with everyone and cause all the Drama.
The thing is, I really don't have the resources to take anyone out. I am going to a play tonight though with some of the people from Brigadoon, the third girl included, so I'll get to spend more time with her then. I thought a lot about it last night, I think I'm giving up on Jo. We really didn't have much in common.
I know how it is Saber... I feel like giving up on my ex sometimes. I get all these offers from other girls at my school, but... I still love her so much. I can't help but stay awake some nights wondering if she feels the same. She's an evil genius, believe me, I've seen her at work. It wouldn't be any task to her to make some love-struck guy think he's loved back. She said things though that made me swell... If you want to hear some of the things she said that made my heart go nuts in my chest, just ask. For now, though, I'll get back to my advise for our dear friend SNH.
Dude, give her time. Thats all I can say. You can't get emotionally attached to someone, and just drop them, and not feel an empty space. The thing is, do things with her that no other guy has. Say things that no one else would... Make an everyday thing remind her of you... and before you know it, she realizes something is missing.
Thats kind of what happened on my end, and thats most likely the reason we're back together. What you need to do, is find another girl, not to get at Jo's weak spot, but to take your mind elsewhere. Depression isn't good for you. It changes who you are, and I get that all the time. Just give it time dude, and pray. I'll keep you in my prayers bro, just hang tight. God will make a miracle happen. He did it for me. He'll do it for you.
I... don't quite follow. Shika didn't exactly make any real implication at being depressed, did he?
People have to move on and around if they're going to have a successful love life. You can't stay with your first girl forever, heheh.
True. Most say you'll find your true lover in college.
That's what I heard, too. Here's hoping it's true... :-\
But hey, if ZV says to give it time, Shika, I'll support it. He IS the "Love Guru," after all. :P
I'm not trying to get at Jo, we're friends, we just realized we really don't have that much in common. I'm not just dropping her, it took me three weeks to give up. I'm not depressed either, just a bit unsure of which direction to take.
Shika, get to know the other two girls better. After you've seen what seems to be a rather good representation of the girl(s) as a person throughout, then choose.
I dunno if I've said this before, but a mentally retarded (literaly) boy likes me. I've told him to back off (somewhat discreetly sp?) and gotten my Martial Arts teacher to make sure he backs off but.... it has gone too far. He stares at me constantly and even tried to kiss me.
I'm getting to know them, the incredibly goofy one actually can be serious, I found out. The thing is, now I feel obligated to the other one, because she calls me a lot and I try to help her with her problems...I don't know what she's expecting...
You need to talk to his parents/supervisor and tell them that he needs to stop--politely, of course. They've probably had this problem before.
I have no advice for you guys, I'm terribly sorry... I guess, Baka, you could ask his parents to get him to stop.
Shika: I hope you're happy with whatever choice you make.
I personally have an issue. There's a girl who likes me. I'm not gay (not that I have anything against it; I'm actually quite supportive.) and I don't want to just be like "OH HI BTW IM NOT GAY. :|"
But... honestly, it's really annoying being around her. She constantly hugs me, and I'm... just not a very huggy person. >_> and she gets mad at me for not letting her touch my things, or when I'm reading a "normal" book and not manga. And, she has this one trait that's a personal pet peeve of mine; she wears shirts and merchandise of bands/games she doesn't even like.
Augh... what should I do?
She sounds like an uber control freak...Just give it to her straight. Tell her that you don't appreciate the way she acts towards you. You don't have to say it's because you aren't gay, but you just don't appreciate her being rude like that.
I say Fisk drop subtle hints like " OMG Don't ya just HATE it when people wear shirts of band/games they don't like?" &c, but I have never been in a similar situation so i wouldn't know ^^
Ha there's a girl in my form who is engaged to a guy who is about 20. She's getting married Christmas day 2009.
How old is your form again/
I'm in Year 10 so it's 14 and 15 year olds.
She turned 15 a few days after me which was abou a week ago.
Geez, the girl's that young!? :o
Well, in olden times, people did start marrying at that age, but...there's quite an age difference there. :-X
She'll be 17 when they get married... You know, I'm starting to think that the point of 'young kids marrying back then' is an illusion, as people are STILL getting married at a young age. Generally we have it that the average has gone to favor people in their mid to late 20's.
though I find it a bit more disturbing when they're marrying at <18 and the groom is five, six, seven years her senior.
I especially rue that when it's someone I know and I'M STILL BLOODY SINGLE!
I actually don't mind huge age gaps between relationships. I mean, I don't want a 12 year old getting married, but as far as I see it, 15+, as long as the person is mature, is perfectly fine.
Yeah, I think I'll try to drop subtle hints, but if that doesn't work, I'll just tell it to her straight. I hate to hurt people's feelings if they like hanging out with me, but I seem to do it a lot. /: -cold person-
Aw, I've never thought of you as a cold person.
On the internet I'm much nicer, apparently. XD I'm not sure exactly why. I guess I don't go out and try to befriend everyone like I do online. and I smile a lot more. -makes a tired/sad look a lot in real life-
My natural face is a mixture of boredom/depreessed-ness.
This sucks because most of the time I'm perfectly happy and I continually get people asking me "Are you okay" which makes me want to punch someone ><
If you want something that's actually more natural, walk through the streets with a crazed/manic/hyper look in your eyes. I do it all the time.
I don't mind age gaps as long as they're past twenty. Because if you're still in High School, you're incredibly naive to the real world. I am as well, I admit that. It's nearly certain that guy's using her.
My natural face is kind of a childish one. I dunno. I look young I guess, it's kind of a slight smile.
You think thats disturbing?
You don't even want to KNOW about little lupe
??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? ???
I really wish my cousin would have just not shown me what I saw...
And yeah, thats a bit odd. If the parents don't mind, then hell, let her marry. Love isn't restricted to age, and by 15, we can fall in love, and know when its real.
Fisk, I have NO advise for you. This one dude back at my old school was gay, and he sat next to me on the bus. I knew he was gay, and it creeped me out BIG TIME. What was worse, is when he leaned over, and layed on me. I elbowed him right in face, really darn hard, and he started crying and bleeding, and although he really deserved it, I did feel like quite the douche.
Violence won't solve problems, but maybe you should just be verbally violent. A lot of people would completely understand your frustration. Any other advise, would be hangin around with a prettier girl, so that she'll be attracted to her instead XD
Don't go with the homophobe, kids. People that tend to bash gay people usually haven't even really met a gay person (I know ZV says otherwise, but fighting is NOT the way to get to know ANYONE). So what? He's gay, doesn't change the fact that he's still a human being. Not to mention, Gay hate is about the same as misogyny in terms of source. So that'd mean that ZV beating up someone like that would mean... that he's doing the same as douchebags that treat women like dirt.
[/rant]
Anyway... concerning young marriage... There's a reason why you'd have to be a legal adult to get married... Getting a real taste of real-world responsibilities outweighs getting married at a younger age. There's a reason for everything, because you may THINK that you'll be able to do fine if you're 15 and on your own... But understanding the points of being an adult can only be done if you already have real experience being 100% independent of your parents/family.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on December 02, 2007, 08:57:58 PM
So that'd mean that ZV beating up someone like that would mean... that he's doing the same as douchebags that treat women like dirt.
[/rant]
NOT TRUE.
Point #1. If you tried to force yourself onto a woman, you'd get slapped right? He was a guy, and I have no problem hitting men, especially if they try to kiss me :o
Point #2. I would never hit a girl, and you know it. I'm just not that kind of guy. I'd never treat a woman any differently than the way she wanted to be treated.
Point# 3. I bet JQ is gay, and thats why he's defending his sexual preference!
:P
Nope. I have gay friends though. We all do.
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on December 03, 2007, 07:06:54 PM
Point #1. If you tried to force yourself onto a woman, you'd get slapped right? He was a guy, and I have no problem hitting men, especially if they try to kiss me :o
Point #2. I would never hit a girl, and you know it. I'm just not that kind of guy. I'd never treat a woman any differently than the way she wanted to be treated.
(After viewing both points...) And gender should determine whether or not s/he gets treated the way s/he wants to be treated...how? Kind of unfair, if you ask me, giving immunity to one gender and not the other... Although I do understand that you must never hit a girl (really, no man should), you really shouldn't hit guys, either. Unless, of course, your very life is at stake and you have no chance of retreating.
However, I must say that this advice of yours...
QuoteAny other advise, would be hangin around with a prettier girl, so that she'll be attracted to her instead XD
...was hilarious. :P
I don't believe there's anything really wrong/sick with it, I just think it's a bit stupid. I mean when you leave school and go to university or start working the amount of new people you meet is huge. In school you stay with the same people for about 7 years.
Jesus, ZV. Are you a homophobe or what?
I mean you're on a bus. You're going to get uncomfortably close to someone sometimes and they may take advantage of that. Elbowing people in the face is going too far. You should feel like the little douche after that.
After 16, I don't care if they get married. It's their choice, wise or not. Age difference doesn't really bother me. That guy seems to be using her, though.
Seeing as we are on the topic of age gaps in relationships, a 50 year old waitress hit on me today, just thought i'd let you all know
I don't care about your little fact, Doctor; you totally should've gone for it. :P
Oh man, ZV, that was great advice. XD
So, like, the girl who liked me... hates me now. ^^; I don't really talk to her, and I've been far too busy trying to read my book for English (we need to finish To Kill a Mockingbird by next Monday) to really talk, actually.
So, she kept saying "you hate me/111/1/1!" and... I told her I can't stand those words at all. She got upset and started ignoring me, which I don't understand; Why get mad when I told her what upset me? I still don't get women... >_>
Quote from: SHNHS on December 07, 2007, 11:45:49 AM
I still don't get women... >_>
Welcome to
my world! :P
Haha.. I think it's a bit worse for me, as I am a women myself... Speaking of women, though, everyone thinks I'm gay, which sucks... well, either lesbian or banging my black friend.
u_u I'm so tempted to just like... beat them. Beat them until they realise I wouldn't be able to stand being in a relationship with another woman. No offense, but most of the bisexual/lesbians I've come to know... er, they're scary.
Meaning extremely horny and such? Know what you mean.
A lot of people think I'm gay too. Go figure.
Not that scary. Estrogen-Testosterone hybrid scary.
And I'm still lost and confused. Don't know how to talk about it, no real point in doing that.
No, I mean they're ***ing crazy. >__>
I'm a... "clumsy" person. I... "fall down the stairs" a lot. Get what I mean? Yeah, I don't enjoy hanging out with people because half of them have the hots for me and end up being let down to know I don't like them back. They're not so nice to me afterwards, to say the least.
Then screw them! If they have the potential to be true friends, they would treat you nicely regardless as to how you feel for them romantically.
Slap me if I'm jumping too far to conclusions again... >.>
Oy, this one boy in my English class has a crush on me. One day he's going to ask me out and I won't know how to tell him I'm not interested in love. :-*
I would just go out with him that one time anyways to make him happy, don't do anything of course, but just hang out with him and have fun as friends. Then, when you're in a more private setting you can try and explain. Better than having him have a meltdown in the middle of class or something.
I don't even want to go out on a date. This may sound silly, but I don't want to screw up my record for years without going out. I'd feel too...girly. Anyway, I'm not allowed to go out on dates. (At least I think I'm not allowed to. I hope I'm not. That would save alot of time) ;)
But thanks, SNH. That was useful advice. :)
You don't have to go as boyfriend/girlfriend, just hanging out. Do you hang out with friends at all?
Only girls. If I'm with a boy, there's other people there. Going alone with a boy would just make it weird.
Well, what do you think of him?
A bit annoying.
But is he generally a good guy?
I dunno. I guess. But I still don't want to hang out with him. I mean, to me, that would be like getting to first base! Which is too far for me. :-*
Well, you mustn't lie to him...which I doubt you would do anyway, but I'm just being sure. As hard as it is, you're eventually going to have to let him know that you're not interested in him. When it is, is up to you, but it's inevitable.
As a tip, tell him the "good news" first, and then the "bad news," and try speaking in the passive voice, not the active voice. It will help make the truth less of a blow to him.
For instance, instead of saying, "Sorry, but you don't really interest me," try saying something along the lines of, "I'm not that interested in people [for lack of a better term]."
I'm not really helping, am I? ;)
Actually, that is quite alot of help. I mean, it is true that it's not just him I'm not interested in, it's pretty much just everybody ('cept Vaati ;) ). So there I'm telling the truth, right? :)
Quote from: Vaati on December 14, 2007, 01:45:34 PM
So there I'm telling the truth, right? :)
You most certainly are. :)
But remember,
passive voice, not
active. ;)
Me, I like guys who are fit, mucsles! :) But usally the qualities(sp?) you want, you won't get. But when you find that special person, you accept the way they are. So prophetic lol. ;D
Yeah, one thing I've noticed is that every girl says they want the same things in a guy, but still ends up going after the hunks and such. It's kind of confusing...
Could be possible that they see it in them...or that the guys are possibly just playing the part to butter the girls up. ::)
As for me, I'm a girl, and I like boys as much as any other girl. But I don't find boys that are "hunks" attractive. They're muscles kinda freak me out. :-* As for my friend, she LOVES hunky boys. In swimming, our senior leader was in his swim trunks and was jumping off the diving board and my friend was squealing so much, and I was laughing at her, for she does that with pretty much every boy. ;D
I agree. When I said muscles I didn't mean body builder type but more like.... well Link actually ;) but a tad bit more muscular.
I meant like...muscles really, at all. I actually like less-fit boys better. Like scrawny, or a bit chunky, or just normal. No muscles for me.
I see. So kinda the pretty boy type, like ummmm.... Yuki in Fruits Basket? Or Satoshi in D.N. Angel. Those arn't very good examples but I see what your saying. ;)
Quote from: Vaati on December 17, 2007, 07:07:37 PM
I meant like...muscles really, at all. I actually like less-fit boys better. Like scrawny, or a bit chunky, or just normal. No muscles for me.
I myself am skinny as a rail. I could've sworn that it was unattractive to the majority...but I'm glad to hear that there are exceptions.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on December 17, 2007, 05:51:09 PM
Yeah, one thing I've noticed is that every girl says they want the same things in a guy, but still ends up going after the hunks and such. It's kind of confusing...
Really? I think that's a generalization, a lot of my friends and myself included don't go by looks alone. But to be perfectly honest, of course looks matter, call me shallow but if a guy is attractive I am more likely to be interested in them. That's not saying I would reject someone on the grounds of looks, it just helps.
I like a bit of muscle, strong enough to pick me up would be cute! And could defend me if I was attacked by bears.
Of course. Nothing completely wrong with that, really. I mean, opposites (generally) attract, and if you think of it like magnets, is a rock going to attract a magnet? Depends on the rock. Sure, many rocks may not look magnetic at first, and probably aren't magnetic, but it's not completely what's on the outside. Inside the rock could be a ferromagnetic material, a.k.a. attractive personality qualities. ;)
Of course, let's say some rocks coat themselves with iron to mask their unattractive personalities. When the magnet comes to them, the iron just comes off. So basing it on looks can be deceiving! But of course, who doesn't want a bar magnet? :P
Not that I think you guys will be deceived; this is just a stupid metaphor I came up with that I felt like typing. :P
But now that I think about it, maybe I should've just kept my keyboard shut... :-\
But again, there's nothing wrong with liking someone on his/her looks. That's what gives me the initial attraction towards girls. You ain't alone. ;)
:) Mag I agree, you can't base a person on their looks. Another way to put it is you can't judge a book by it's cover. But to me I guess I'll say what I want in a guy, but but sometimes i get attracted to the total oppisite of what I said. Kinda like magnets, a north and a south. ;)
I have to admit that I am a bit shallow though. I've only liked girls I thought were cute. Then again, opinions of cute vary.
Mags, that was a brilliant metaphor.
I mean, hey, that's just how we teenagers are! :) I don't think I know anyone whose gone out with someone JUST because they're nice. Alot is also based on their looks.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on December 18, 2007, 09:40:13 PMMags, that was a brilliant metaphor.
You really think so? :-\
I thought it was kind of overdone with scientific stuff. :P
It might chase away the dump preppy girls, but anyone with half a brain would see the relevance in it. As long as they've taken the right classes, which for us in Washington is 8th grade physical science.
Yeah, it is...Jen got me a Christmas present, gave it to me today since it was the last day of school before break, I feel stupid because even though I got her something I didn't give it to her today. I really hope I'm able to see her before Christmas is over...
Yep, I see where this is going! ;)
All the pieces are in place, Shika... I see something between you two in the future. :)
But then again, my guesswork is about as good as Weathernews on the Wii. :P
XD I know what you mean, it'll say it's night in the middle of the US with day on both coasts...
Anyways, we've been officialy going out for a day, although we've technically been going out for a month.
Eh, it's because they don't update it as frequently as the Weather Channel does. Go figure. :P
And really? Heh, my extrasensory perception is better than I thought! I can now predict something a day after it happens! :P
But anyway, good luck, you two! ;)
So i have a date to my school's winter formal dance, just saying
Nice. ;)
Funny story, my friend (not the boy-crazy one) got a boyfriend a while ago. And her parents are really strict. I mean, they don't like any of her friends (including me, just because I think I had purple hair when I met them) and they wouldn't even let her go to the Homecoming dance because they thought she was going to do something with a boy. Well, now that she has a boyfriend, she mentioned to me and the boy-crazy friend that she would kiss him about 30 times a day. And I said "I take your parents don't know about this." and she said "No, they actually don't." ;D
I wish my girlfriend kissed me 30 times a day. Oh, wait, I don't have one...
Hey, you don't need a girlfriend to be happy. Just have friends! That's what I say. :)
Haha! you will soon realize Vaati that the beatles were right and love is all you need!
Bleh. I don't need love. I've got MONEY!!! jk.
Really, I don't want to fall in love. I've got better things to do than waste my time with a boyfriend. I'd rather spend my time writing stories, drawing, scuplting, and playing videogames. I mean, having a boyfriend isn't a graduation requirment, is it? :-* My sister is a freshman in college, and she's never had a boyfriend yet. Nuns aren't allowed to have any kind of love relationship (I'm not saying I will become a nun). I'm just saying, if nuns can survive without boyfriends, then, couldn't I?
I dunno, maybe it's people like Keisha Castle-Hughs and Jamie Lynn Spears that make me want to not be involved.
Problem is, sometimes you don't know what you're missing... For an intimate relationship to develop is very natural, You realize that everything that you were doing before was different... but now... There's a feeling of closeness.
Err... I'm still single though. And Isolated. Maybe that's why I want an intimate relationship so much...
But I don't want to be like that. As I watch the world crumble around me (everyone getting a boyfriend) it makes me hate love even more.
You'll see what will happen...
I withdrew from the world and it makes everything alien, foreign... But eventually you'll find someone - anyone where you'll realize that there can be a strong bond between you two.
Thanks, JQ. :)
Also, looking for love is what got Jamie Lynn pregnant in the first place. She saw a hot guy, and said 'hai u want c me nakkid?' and look what happened. If you let it come to you, though, and you find something developing, for the love of God don't reject it or you'll regret missing that chance.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on December 22, 2007, 06:57:26 AMBut eventually you'll find someone - anyone where you'll realize that there can be a strong bond between you two.
Does that mean I'm love blind? Or just terrible at looking? Or both? Or just plain terrible?
CUZ IT SHUR SEEMZ LIEK IT!!! :(
So i have a girlfriend now, here's a picture (not the best):
(http://a953.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/68/m_5df2bde68db13f331f428ba8d1c137d0.jpg)
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 04, 2008, 08:10:57 AM
So i have a girlfriend now, here's a picture (not the best):
(http://a953.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/68/m_5df2bde68db13f331f428ba8d1c137d0.jpg)
And HOW long has that been your myspace default picture?
since i took it, we only started dating last night
But like... David and I were looking over my friends list a few nights ago, and that was your default :-*
I have pictures of me and male friends, and we're not dating... :3;
Er, yeah, I'm gonna leave now, no love interest for me right now. ... I also have (yet) another lesbian stalker. It's creepy. You'd think they'd leave me alone, you know, being me and all. D:
-pulls out a metal pipe to defend self- DX
i took t a week ago, and put it on there the next day, i asked her out last night
I like the cute and innocent types, not like Saber's example of Jamie Lynn:
Quote'hai u want c me nakkid?'
Though I would have to comply if someone graciously asked me that question......
:P And that's why AIDS is spreading like wildfire on a hot summer day. :P
ANYWAY! Love is really complicated, Vaati. I read what you posted up there. And while you may want to avoid having a boyfreiend now, you will want it eventually. And from how your personality is here, you sure have a good chance in my opinion. :)
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 04, 2008, 08:10:57 AM
So i have a girlfriend now, here's a picture (not the best):
(http://a953.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/68/m_5df2bde68db13f331f428ba8d1c137d0.jpg)
God, she needs a shave...wait...which one is you again?
Just kidding, she looks very...enraptured by you. ;)
OMG Aurel, I completely forgot my Jamie Lynn thing...hehe...
I'm probably breaking up with Jen for reasons I don't want to disclose in public.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 04, 2008, 03:41:20 PM
God, she needs a shave...wait...which one is you again?
BURN! :P
Man, I have to have a pic for this.
Crap, I need to get some "burn" pics. Until then, let this picture show how I'm still laughing at the above quote.
(http://i244.photobucket.com/albums/gg14/FeetLord/Forum%20pics/bwahaha.jpg)
I'm really just kidding, Dr., I know this is one of the things you don't joke about (too much anyways), she does look pretty. And enraptured with you as well.
Also, HNS, I got a load of pics, I'm going to be updating my photobucket in a bit if you want to rob it again.
Sure, PM me over at HA2 when you're ready.
Still happily single, by the way. Not that I would complain if I did get a girlfriend, but I don't venture out into social hot spots like ever.
Same here, my friend. Of course, I do manage to have lesbian stalkers anyway. It's really disturbing. It wouldn't even be as bad if I had male stalkers.
-should invest in an "I'M NOT GAY... but supportive!" shirt-
HNS, would you be more willing to go to these 'social hotspots' if they contained gene splicing women who had attached kitty ears and tails?
Yes. That, and I think most of the clubs are down on the Oceanfront. Which is quite a ways from where I live if I were to walk.
One long walk is worht it to reach the destination of your dreams, right HNS? ;D
I hate dances and/or parties. Pretty much anything that involves loud noise. A long walk to a club will not be worth it. Besides, only the foolish or criminally minded walk city streets at night.
What if you took a girl you really liked out to a fancy restaurant and just talked? That'd be cool, right?
To find the quiet, cute and innocent girls I like, I simply go for long walks in the park with mah Shih-Tzu, or go looking for them in Barnes and Nobles.
Barnes and Noble? I go there with my girlfriend all the time. We spend hours sitting and reading and talking. It's totally awesome.
Quote from: MasterKeyX on January 04, 2008, 08:57:28 PM
What if you took a girl you really liked out to a fancy restaurant and just talked? That'd be cool, right?
Hopefully I can afford a fancy restaurant by the time I start dating. >>
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 04, 2008, 04:23:44 PM
I'm really just kidding, Dr., I know this is one of the things you don't joke about (too much anyways), she does look pretty. And enraptured with you as well.
Also, HNS, I got a load of pics, I'm going to be updating my photobucket in a bit if you want to rob it again.
It's ok, i lol'd at that part too
And thanks, lol GF had to listen to us talking on the phone last night.
Oh God, you're not doing that thing where you freak out your friends by being uber mushy in front of them, are you? You just started going out ???
...I don't think I'd ever be able to have a boyfriend, anyway. Fluffy would never allow it.
She gets jealous of my costumes, so a person... ;__; She'd probably claw his face off.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 05, 2008, 09:52:21 AM
Oh God, you're not doing that thing where you freak out your friends by being uber mushy in front of them, are you? You just started going out ???
haha, we did say i love you to each other a lot last night
And you've been going out for a few days at the most?
I tried getting a girl, or some portion of reality where I can BE with people. Unfortunately, that didn't work out too well and I ended up institutionalized.
I REALLY hope you think I'm kidding. Really, really, really hope.
I've been dating for 10 months nowq and things have been going pretty well... ;)
Quote from: MasterKeyX on January 05, 2008, 06:46:57 PM
I've been dating for 10 months nowq and things have been going pretty well... ;)
*stands up in an accusing manner and points*
[size=12]LIAR![/size]
*slaps JQ with heavy leather glove*
[size=10]YOU DARE QUESTION ME?![/size]
I guess going out with a person for 10 months is possible. I mean, there's couples that are married and have been going out since high school. But that rarely happens nowadays. As for me, if I were to go out with someone, it would have to be someone I plan on staying with the rest of my life. And if I dated someone I didn't feel too strongly about, I'd say two days at most. ('Cause to me my friends, dating isn't cool)
But I hope it works out for you, MasterKeyX! :)
You do not want to dabble in the realm of puppy love?
EDIT: my bad, I misread your post, Vaati. I fixed it
Peer pressure is retarded. Don't give in to it, and dpon't pay attention to it. I guarantee you'll be 150% happierin a day. Or your money back. :P
Thanks, Vaati! I hope it works out to! :)
Me and my lady got to hang out last night, it was one amazing night
Vaati, i'm telling you that a relationship is a magical thing, you would enjoy it.
The reason most relationships don't last that long is because of the reasons behind the relationships. Most of the time it's because they're hot, and once they get bored of that person they move on to another.
That would be what we refer to as "shallow."
Well, it's not necessary shallow. It's more 'love em and leave em'. They get madly obsessed with someone and that person is their whole world, and they'll do anything for and with them--For about a month.
And that's pretty gross. I mean, you can't obsess over someone and then just drop them. If you're truly in love then you would date longer than a week or two.
I tell you, some teenagers make me wanna gag...
Oh, but they are in love. Nobody else just understands what they believe to see in that person--When in reality, they only see things on that person, you know what I mean?
I understand perfectly. Becuase things ike that run rampant in my school. And I hate to see girls get s upset when they have their hearts broken, when in relaity it was so stupid to begin with...
What I can't stand is when you are sincere as hell and try to help a girl, and she gets into a bad relationship with some muscly jock. He ends up screwing her and then cheating on her, and you're there to comfort her. She talks about how she wishes she could find a nice, sincere guy, and goes after another muscly jock.
Face it; Girls are a lot shallower than they admit. EVERY girl I've talked to has said that all they care about is that the guy is nice, funny, and smart. WRONG.
Well, I mean sure, I'd kinda have to agree that alot of girls are really really shallow. But to be fair, so are alot fo guys, who only care about bob size or figure or "hotness."
And it's true alot of girls say things like that they dont mean. If they truly meant it then they wouldnt date the jerks. But, like I said before, to be fair, guys really are no better.
In short, the whole world is generally pretty shallow.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 06, 2008, 08:50:20 AM
What I can't stand is when you are sincere as hell and try to help a girl, and she gets into a bad relationship with some muscly jock. He ends up screwing her and then cheating on her, and you're there to comfort her. She talks about how she wishes she could find a nice, sincere guy, and goes after another muscly jock.
Face it; Girls are a lot shallower than they admit. EVERY girl I've talked to has said that all they care about is that the guy is nice, funny, and smart. WRONG.
True that hommie. They want a masculine man, it is in their nature. That is why they go out with jerks. Just like female animals search for the alpha male, human females do the same. They do not want a feminine man because that is their roll, not the man's. They want someone strong, reliable, and doesn't give a crap
I'm pretty feminine compared to most guys and I got a girlfriend. :P
For a long time too. You found a good girl there.
I can be playful sometimes. Other times I am a hole of a donkey. I have 8 girls after me that I know of (yes Saber, I met my goal).
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 06, 2008, 09:17:18 AM
For a long time too. You found a good girl there.
You know, I really appreciate that. Thanks a lot, Shika. :)
I'd hug you but you might slice me. So how about a high five?
*lifts hand*
NO! He's going to Galick Gun me! DESTRUCTO DISK! *hurls disk of energy through Masterkey's gut*
When a relationship lasts that long, it's usually for one of three reasons:
1. She REALLY likes your money
2. She REALLY likes you in bed, and does so frequently
3. You're both good people and a good match
I doubt you're a billionaire before you even graduate, and you don't seem like the kind of person to get frisky, so the third option it is.
Im tyoo shy to get frisky, I currently have only $24 in my entire budget, SO...
Third option, yeah.
And sicne my bowels are falling out as I speak due to a certain energy disk from out of NOWHERE, I have notu much else to say.
QuoteFace it; Girls are a lot shallower than they admit. EVERY girl I've talked to has said that all they care about is that the guy is nice, funny, and smart. WRONG.
Not entirely true shika. Sam, my gf, loves me for me. I guess it does help that she thinks im good looking (even with teh facial hair) and that im a great kisser.
Some girls I know get confused about love. I'm no longer in high school, so how girls think about relationships (most of the time, anyway) is quite different in college.
I've talked with some of my friends and some get confused on if they should love and develop a relationship or not. Well, at least ONE girl... *ahem*
Making the transition from high school to college is a thing to take seriously ... Because now you're almost completely independent from your parents, your home and you have to make decisions on what to do with yourself. (Heheh, what can I say? But a lot of people at big/advanced colleges will tell you that the first semester is always the hardest)
You might continue a relationship, but I must stress the difficulty in trying to make long distance relationships work. Some girls I know get so conflicted about their loves, their home, and their family and College on the opposite side.
Hah, you kids are so naive... Then again there's no real way of 'preparing' except experiencing it for yourself. But I cannot understate the emphasis on how much things just change in that transition from High School to College. And how it takes time to adjust yourself and really get comfortable.
And how many girlfriends have you had, JQ?
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 06, 2008, 11:16:10 AM
Hah, you kids are so naive... Then again there's no real way of 'preparing' except experiencing it for yourself.
Ignorance is bliss; knowledge is agony. ;)
Anyway...
QuoteWhat I can't stand is when you are sincere as hell and try to help a girl, and she gets into a bad relationship with some muscly jock. He ends up screwing her and then cheating on her, and you're there to comfort her. She talks about how she wishes she could find a nice, sincere guy, and goes after another muscly jock.
Face it; Girls are a lot shallower than they admit. EVERY girl I've talked to has said that all they care about is that the guy is nice, funny, and smart. WRONG.
That, my friend, is when you would suspect
gameplay to be a factor. After all, that's what many people consider it to be: a
game. Full emphasis on this is impossible.
Heh, to think...I play video games all the time and I love them, but not being able to play the game of love very well... The irony. :P
Some people say life is a game, as well...
I guess I'm playing the game of love, too. >: Pretty badly, too. I wish there was a GameFAQs for it... >_> -opens new tab-
Actually, I'm afraid of playing Love.
It's like Silent Hill; I just can't do it by myself. ;w;
I dont like love. A girl asked me out in the seventh grade, when I said no she stopped coming to school. Then I found out she tried to commit suicide. :'(
Gawd, then I gave a picture to the girl I liked as a christmas presant and when I turned around after talking to my friends, I saw her rip it up and throw it away :'(
Love hates me.
Quote from: KingPyramidHead on January 06, 2008, 11:46:59 AM
I dont like love. A girl asked me out in the seventh grade, when I said no she stopped coming to school. Then I found out she tried to commit suicide. :'(
Gawd, then I gave a picture to the girl I liked as a christmas presant and when I turned around after talking to my friends, I saw her rip it up and throw it away :'(
Love hates me.
Wow, I'm sorry... I'm speechless about that. Suicide...not funny stuff at all. Ripping up that picture...man, I hate to imagine how much of a blow that must've been to you... ???
I've had relationship suicide experiences too, trust me, they suck.
So... have I. It sucks so bad... especially because, you know, you don't LOVE them, but for them to kill themselves... it's a lot of responsibility.
I mean, it's the sort of stuff that haunts you for your life.
Of course, people who commit suicide because they were rejected... well, I'd have to say that they may as well die. I don't like people like that... the people who would be so stupid as to kill themselves because someone they like doesn't like them back. It's not like you can't be friends or anything.
u___u; that's my honest opinion on the matter.
.. and the picture thing? I've had a similar event take place, as well. I was halfway through with a picture for them and they yelled at me about it... because I wasn't doing it their way. because I made the person in my style. because I drew them in different clothes. because I wasn't colouring with high-quality pencils.
I quit drawing the picture and ripped it up and threw it away. then they got mad at me for that.
man, I haaate women.
Yeah, Ive yet to find a girl. Im like the anti Cassanova. ;)
The whole suicide thing is actually what happened to me and Jen.
Yeah, it was a very bad experiance for me, mostly because I blamed myself for her issues. And it didnt help that she came back to school this year.
Quote from: Aureliano on January 06, 2008, 11:30:50 AM
And how many girlfriends have you had, JQ?
Absolutely none. I try to get a little smooth on them, but alas, 'tis only good for quick, fun impressions.
Of course, I've err... tried to get a close (female) friend to like me in a romantic context, but she still would say stuff in a playful manner, like 'loser', or other funny little things. Heh, we all have friends of the same sex that we're particularly close to, the same should be said between me and her.
I tried to make friends at this college I went to... Unfortunately, that didn't work out too well...
What I said before wasn't exactly a joke thjough...
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 06, 2008, 12:36:33 PM
The whole suicide thing is actually what happened to me and Jen.
Wait, what!? :o
Jen's suicidal? Or is it a third party who is?
Erm, if I'm being to nosey, you don't have to answer. :P
Wow, I never knew some people had girl problems this bad. My friends worst girl problem was being dumped after being together for a year. Mine was moving to Georgia when I was perfectly happy with a beautiful girl I thought was my equal.
Don't worry you guys, I am here to help :)
Quote from: MagmarFire on January 06, 2008, 01:15:02 PM
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 06, 2008, 12:36:33 PM
The whole suicide thing is actually what happened to me and Jen.
Wait, what!? :o
Jen's suicidal? Or is it a third party who is?
Erm, if I'm being to nosey, you don't have to answer. :P
Well, starting on New Year's, she would call every night and talk about how nobody cared about her and noone would miss her if she was gone, and no matter what I said she would say I'm lying. We had these conversations for hours each night. Then on my birthday she called and we went through the entire thing again, and my parents got REALLY angry. It's...Hard to deal with something like that. She made it feel like it was my fault she was feeling that way, that I wasn't doing enough.
Sounds to me like she's wanting you to keep telling her that what she says about no one loving her is untrue so she can get a morale boost. Possible, I guess...but what do I know?
I dunno, but...She kept saying it didn't seem like I cared about her.
Maybe it's time she started seeking professional help? It can help... a little bit... well, that and medication...
*coughcough*
Not that I've ever been through that sort of thing myself. Just saying.
And Aureliano - is part of your statement referring to me? Heh... What'd you think about what I had to say?
I keep urging her to seek help and get some medication, the same with her dad, I've even had ZV call and talk to her. My stepdad also has depression, and he uses medication for it. He's good most of the time.
I've read several posts about girl problems here, not just yours.
And I think it is amazing someone out of high school hasn't had a girlfriend. That, of course, is my own personal opinion, and I do not mean it as an insult.
Well Aurel, we're not all sexy beasts like you. I have to work my butt off to get a girl's interest, and it still usually doesn't work.
Let's just say that my circumstances have made things a bit... uniquely challenging. Not just the relationship area, all areas.
Well, I haven't had a girlfriend, and I don't plan to. >__> And finding a decent boyfriend is like so totally hard omg. ... Not really, I'm afraid of commitment. and ghosts. and dogs, and water, and...
of course, I still have girl problems. I think sometimes that god hates me...
You don't really have to worry about the commitment part, unless you plan on cheatin gon them. That's as far as commitment goes in dating.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 06, 2008, 05:43:19 PM
Well Aurel, we're not all sexy beasts like you. I have to work my butt off to get a girl's interest, and it still usually doesn't work.
I'm not
that sexy of a beast. It's just trial and error. What didn't work, discard it and change it into a new battle plan, until you have won.
And Fisk, there are decent guys out there. Maybe they just hide. That's what I do :)
Or maybe the town is too small and, well, decrepit?
I agree shika, it's hard for us nice honest guy's to get a girls interest, i usually attract girls i don't even like, just this time it was someone i did like ;D
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 07:33:55 AM
I agree shika, it's hard for us nice honest guy's to get a girls interest, i usually attract girls i don't even like, just this time it was someone i did like ;D
And pray tell, what did you see in her that's different from the others?
You guys should give the honest people more credit.
I think as you get older, girls mature and start to like the honest, good guys better.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 07, 2008, 07:39:00 AM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 07:33:55 AM
I agree shika, it's hard for us nice honest guy's to get a girls interest, i usually attract girls i don't even like, just this time it was someone i did like ;D
And pray tell, what did you see in her that's different from the others?
She makes everything in my life that much better, true she worries me quite a bit, but i still love her
How does she worry you?
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 08:36:19 AM
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 07, 2008, 07:39:00 AM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 07:33:55 AM
I agree shika, it's hard for us nice honest guy's to get a girls interest, i usually attract girls i don't even like, just this time it was someone i did like ;D
And pray tell, what did you see in her that's different from the others?
She makes everything in my life that much better, true she worries me quite a bit, but i still love her
And umm... what were the other girls like?
Quote from: MasterKeyX on January 06, 2008, 05:33:47 AM
Peer pressure is retarded. Don't give in to it, and dpon't pay attention to it. I guarantee you'll be 150% happierin a day. Or your money back. :P
Thanks, Vaati! I hope it works out to! :)
It's not peer pressure(peer pressure is for losers who do drugs and crap), we just all agree. Love sucks.
Mainly the reason we don't like love is because lots of people who have boyfriends or girlfriends make-out in front of everyone to look "cool". (There's this one couple who makes out in the hallway all the time FRENCH-STYLE!!! :-*) And we don't want to become like that. Even if we kiss in private, those losers kinda ruined it for me. I hate to say it, but love scares me. Just like religeon. loves is way too awkward. Love is a private personal thing. No one cares that they're in love! I mean, it's like they haven't heard of the freakin' PDA! (Public Display of Affection) :P
One time in seventh grade, a boy who I really didn't like asked me to be his girlfriend. I mean, he was a sick jerk! He asked if I'd be his girlfriend, and I said I'd think about it. Then he said, "There's another thing I wanted to ask you...well, at Sunny Hill (the elementary school), I saw a guy and a girl doing it in the slide."
"...Whithout their clothes?!"
"No, they had their clothes on."
"...Okay...so what about it?!" (Thinking) Scratch that. Don't tell me. I don't wanna know! :o
So the next day I said no. And I'm glad.
Quote from: Fisk on January 06, 2008, 05:49:07 PM
Well, I haven't had a girlfriend, and I don't plan to. >__> And finding a decent boyfriend is like so totally hard omg. ... Not really, I'm afraid of commitment. and ghosts. and dogs, and water, and...
of course, I still have girl problems. I think sometimes that god hates me...
You want a great guy? LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS :P
Quote from: Fisk on January 06, 2008, 05:49:07 PMI think sometimes that god hates me...
Oh, God hates everyone. Why do you think he keeps on flooding the earth?
He doesn't? Um, look! A demonic duck! *runs away when everyone is looking at the demonic duck*
Oh, MasterKey and Vaati, peer pressure isn't always a bad thing. Surely your peers pressuring you to
not do drugs is a good thing?
Exactly. I mean, as long as it comes from the right people, anyway.
I'm a grown bender. I'll bend what I want, Who I want, when I want, and there's nothing you can do about it.
Even if it means doing something others aren't so fond of, I make my own decisions.
Quote from: Vaati on January 07, 2008, 04:04:35 PM
Quote from: MasterKeyX on January 06, 2008, 05:33:47 AM
Peer pressure is retarded. Don't give in to it, and dpon't pay attention to it. I guarantee you'll be 150% happierin a day. Or your money back. :P
Thanks, Vaati! I hope it works out to! :)
It's not peer pressure(peer pressure is for losers who do drugs and crap), we just all agree. Love sucks.
Mainly the reason we don't like love is because lots of people who have boyfriends or girlfriends make-out in front of everyone to look "cool". (There's this one couple who makes out in the hallway all the time FRENCH-STYLE!!! :-*) And we don't want to become like that. Even if we kiss in private, those losers kinda ruined it for me. I hate to say it, but love scares me. Just like religeon. loves is way too awkward. Love is a private personal thing. No one cares that they're in love! I mean, it's like they haven't heard of the freakin' PDA! (Public Display of Affection) :P
They aren't in love, they just want to get sexual satisfaction. Vaati, it's the reasons behind the dating that count.
And besides, peer pressure stops being a reason for doing something by the time your a bit into High School. Well, that is if you've grown a bit.
SHOCKER!
People actually HAVE reasons to do something, reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with any form of 'Peer Pressure'.
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 08:36:19 AM
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 07, 2008, 07:39:00 AM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 07:33:55 AM
I agree shika, it's hard for us nice honest guy's to get a girls interest, i usually attract girls i don't even like, just this time it was someone i did like ;D
And pray tell, what did you see in her that's different from the others?
She makes everything in my life that much better, true she worries me quite a bit, but i still love her
You were only going out for her for less than a week and you can actually say that?
You're talking as if you're some old couple.
Quote from: Gamefreak on January 08, 2008, 06:04:32 PM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 08:36:19 AM
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 07, 2008, 07:39:00 AM
Quote from: Dr. Rabies on January 07, 2008, 07:33:55 AM
I agree shika, it's hard for us nice honest guy's to get a girls interest, i usually attract girls i don't even like, just this time it was someone i did like ;D
And pray tell, what did you see in her that's different from the others?
She makes everything in my life that much better, true she worries me quite a bit, but i still love her
You were only going out for her for less than a week and you can actually say that?
You're talking as if you're some old couple.
Jeez... No kidding. If you love her that much already, you're... you're just. I don't want to say anything mean, but you seem fickle.
It seems a lot like the typical 'madly love 'em and leave 'em' relationship...I dunno...
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 08, 2008, 09:29:31 PM
It seems a lot like the typical 'madly love 'em and leave 'em' relationship...I dunno...
And not to mention that they've already split.
What, they have? Well, that was quick...
Well, I kind of saw this coming, but not THAT fast :P
He probably tried to put a smooth move on her too early in a relationship. Thats what ended my first relationship :P :P
No, i'm a good person ZV, it's a long story of what happened between us
A long story of a three day relationship? Doubtful.
Actually, I suppose I don't have that high of expectations.
I just... well, my friend Ben likes me. I don't mind it at all; he's honest, nice, funny, and like... actually cares about me. We go on dates, but we're not dating, if it makes any sense. I just... don't like him like he likes me, I guess. I feel so mean for saying so, but... >_> Whoever does end up with him, though... I'm sure that they'd be happy.
Even though he can be a jerk at times. u___u;
Quote from: Fisk on January 11, 2008, 03:07:15 PM
Actually, I suppose I don't have that high of expectations.
I just... well, my friend Ben likes me. I don't mind it at all; he's honest, nice, funny, and like... actually cares about me. We go on dates, but we're not dating, if it makes any sense. I just... don't like him like he likes me, I guess. I feel so mean for saying so, but... >_> Whoever does end up with him, though... I'm sure that they'd be happy.
Even though he can be a jerk at times. u___u;
Wait, wait, wait, wait....
I thought you said you were tired of the lesbian stalkers. But LOOK! now you have a boy that likes you!
I don't understand that logic though...
Well, he's liked me since some time last year. I told him I'm not really interested, and thank god he's not like... hating me for it. We're still friends, actually.
I'm still tired of lesbian stalkers, though. You see, Ben won't like... grab parts of me I'd rather not have touched, or actually go so far as to find me in the beginning of school (...granted, yes, he looked for me once, but it was actually important) and to hug me and be like "LOL I LUV U ^^"
u__u; I wouldn't mind the hugging if... well, they didn't like.. grab my chest/butt when they did so D: It's really uncomfortable and awkward.
Oh god, My ex got all catty with this one girl who was flirting with me XD
If you could only have seen the sparks in her eyes :P :P :P
Not suprisingly, no relationship here!
Also ZV, she better stay away from you. I might eat her.
BBoy, you have no idea how wrong that sounded in the right mind.
Also, I may have another girl interested in me. I dunno. At least this whole thing with Jen has made me a lot better at picking out the right personality...
Yeah. You never came off as a cannibal until now.
Please don't eat me; I taste bitter. D:
@Both: That was intended. I failed at making a funny.
Don't leave me like everyone else, guys!
Quote from: Fisk on January 12, 2008, 07:42:48 AM
I'm still tired of lesbian stalkers, though.
Oh boy, am I too. There's this one girl in my gym class (and Algebra), and I could swear she liked/likes me. ??? One time in swimming, we were showering. And she was the second person to get to the showers (I was the first one). And she gets to the shower next to me and starts splashing water on me. I kept telling her to stop, but she kept doing it. So I went to a different shower, and she followed me. And ten I went to another shower, and she followed me. And when we got dressed, well, you know how when you're wet, and your clothes get stuck to your skin? Well, that happened with my bra, and I started blurting out curses and she laughed and said, "Do you need help with that?" (Meaning my bra) And I'm like " :o.....No." :P
Zomg! Thats...creepy! And the whole crabbing of the chest thing is puzzling. If thats the right word. Almost every guy I know at school will just suddenly approach girls and go, "HONK HONK!" And grab thems parts! I cant stand it, Im a guy but I just think thats kinda out of line. ;)
Quote from: KingPyramidHead on January 17, 2008, 08:12:47 PM
Almost every guy I know at school will just suddenly approach girls and go, "HONK HONK!" And grab thems parts!
.....Bwahahahahahahahah! ;D >:D (snicker)..."HONK! HONK!"
Kinda reminds me of this kid I know. He pretends to grab at girl's crotches and he says "Operation baby-maker!" But we don't really care, because he's gay. I actually laugh. ;D
Lol. Mos of the guys at my school are pervs like that.
What kind of crazy insanity is going on over there?
I speak of 'crazy', but I'm not too different considering how 'far' I've gone.
As for me, things are on considerably bumpy territory with people I'm trying to get out with (being in a new place and all). Unfortunately, I somehow make people feel uncomfortable, which is really, beyond my understanding of what 'uncomfortable' is supposed to be.
But it just seems that a lot of people don't like it when someone tries to get in close with them.
But again, a lot of it doesn't make sense, so I'm at a loss.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 17, 2008, 09:05:18 PM
What kind of crazy insanity is going on over there?
The repetitive redundant kind.
Quote
As for me, things are on considerably bumpy territory with people I'm trying to get out with (being in a new place and all). Unfortunately, I somehow make people feel uncomfortable, which is really, beyond my understanding of what 'uncomfortable' is supposed to be.
But it just seems that a lot of people don't like it when someone tries to get in close with them.
But again, a lot of it doesn't make sense, so I'm at a loss.
You'll have to find someone mature enough to be able to deal with your thoughts. You're a very deep thinker; Most college guys are frat boys who's most complex thought is 'Maybe I did have too much beer...' If even that.
Problem though - this is a dry campus, which unfortunately nmeans no booze. Terrible, terrible thing...
My sister's campus is like that, but she has a roomate who drinks all the time and invtes friends over (it drives my sister crazy), and they never get caught.
Like I always say, "It's only against the rules unless you get caught." :)
Ugh~ There's no one at my school I really like anymore. I mean there are guys who I would say yes to if I was asked, but no one that I'm head over heels for. It sucks...
Yeah, thas how it is over here. :'(
I'm madly in puppy love but I'm moving by the end of this semester :'(
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 18, 2008, 06:38:56 AM
Problem though - this is a dry campus, which unfortunately nmeans no booze. Terrible, terrible thing...
Tis' a mockery of the U.S college system.
QuoteUgh~ There's no one at my school I really like anymore. I mean there are guys who I would say yes to if I was asked, but no one that I'm head over heels for. It sucks...
That's good, means no unrequited love.
And JQ, I'll bet they still drink anyways.
Yeah I guess, but I miss the excitement...
And outside of school, the only guys I've met have been really quite odd.
the girls I know are kinda, well how shall I say it? awkward. yes, awkward, we'll use that word. take this one girl, I give her the idea to put in a top 8 on her myspace page, and she fails to put me in it. this happens to be magmarfire's sister I'm talking about. and she said tj was bugging her about it longer than I was. ::)
Oh my God. You're not in her top 8. She must hate you.
How is that even awkward? That doesn't make her awkward in any sense of the word.
Quote from: x*Twilight Zelda*x on January 18, 2008, 09:47:19 AM
Ugh~ There's no one at my school I really like anymore. I mean there are guys who I would say yes to if I was asked, but no one that I'm head over heels for. It sucks...
OMFG!I know how that is! I'm not head over heels for anyone either. I mean, for me, it would take someone I REALLY love madly (more than Vaati) for me to go out with them. But I don't feel that way about anyone. If I would, it would be some long-haired rockstar-like person. But rarely anyone at my school is like that.
Vaati, how can you fall madly in love without dating someone first?
Oh wait, that supposedly happens all the time in High School. 8)
Anyways, me and Jo are talking again, apparently. After we broke up I kept talking to her, and she didn't like it, told me to leave her alone. So now she's better I guess. I dunno. I don't understand girls...
Some girls can be like that. My friend broke up with her boyfriend, and he comes up to her from behind and hugs her. She doesn't like it.
My Girlish Side Says: If I had a boyfriend and broke up with him because he was a jerk or I just really didn't like him, then I wouldn't want him talking to me, but if it was just one of those things where he was nice and all, but I just didn't think it'd work out, I wouldn't mind talking to him (or vice versa) just as friends. But her suddenly wanting to talk to you after she hated you talking to you before is just how girls are. They're very fickle.
My Boyish Side Says: Girls are hard to understand, even I, who is a girl can't quite understand us.
Quote from: Shikamaru_Nara on January 20, 2008, 09:55:13 AMI dunno. I don't understand girls...
You ain't alone, Shika. You ain't alone... :-*
Actually, come to think of it, I hardly understand
anyone! :P
Well, my other friend has a boyfriend now, too. u_u; and a rather nice guy at that. We're not on the best terms personally (he keeps claiming my harpies are the Rito people from WW. D:) but he's not a bad guy at all. He went out and bought his ex a glass rose and spent almost all of his money on her... only to have her get mad at him and ignore him for about a month.
Now I'm all alone... ;__;
No, I don't really care. I don't really care about a thing, got the world on a string... 'cause I've got the cure for all of my blues...
NO, Fisk! Stay away from Marijuana until you're of age!
Why did she get mad at him for buying her a glass rose..?
She's a strange one. She gets mad at him a lot for stupid things/nothing at all.
But she was upset with him for something from before the dance, and when he gave her the rose, I guess she thought it was because he wanted to buy back her trust or something. o_o
I don't know, people are strange D: Oh, and she said he was too clingy, but he didn't... cling... o_o
I just asked a girl out yesterday, and she said yes. I guess that means I am not single anymore :o
NOOOOOO :'(
Wait, what? O_o
You asked someone out, and yet you're dismayed because she said yes?
PEOPLE CONFUSE MEEEEEE!!!!! :P
Me and a friend went to the opening night of a club yesterday but all the guys were disgusting ><
The closest I got to anything was some guy grabbing my butt, I turned round to slap him but I was too late and whoever it was had disappeared. But yeah the cutest guy there was one of the bar crew...
Quote from: MagmarFire on January 25, 2008, 09:03:55 PM
Wait, what? O_o
You asked someone out, and yet you're dismayed because she said yes?
PEOPLE CONFUSE MEEEEEE!!!!! :P
It's called "Saying Bye-bye to the high times of bachelor-hood."
Reminds me of a quote from the Breakfast Club:
"Claire Standish: Why do you have so many girlfriends?
John Bender: Why do you have so much stuff in your purse?
Claire Standish: I don't like to throw things out.
John Bender: Neither do I."
Alright, well...Remember Jo? Well, she is now being stalked by my friend that she broke up with after a month of dating. He's calling her over ten times a day and continually asking her out again and again. She changed her cell phone number because of this, and he's still calling the home phone and hounding her at school. Should I step in...?
Destroy him, and eat his heart so you gain his courage, his tasty courage
On a more serious note, tell him to back off. If that doesn't work, that's what restraining orders are for.
If you have the ability to take action, you should probably take action. Or maybe have the authorities take action, like Hi no Seijin suggested.
But is it my place to step in is the question...
If Jo is still a friend, yes. If she asked you to stay out of her life forever you ungrateful son of a monkey's uncle, then hey, it's her problem.
easy, they must be hot. Have black hair(or dyed)and thats pretty much it.
Quote from: Hi no Seijin on March 27, 2008, 07:59:01 AM
If Jo is still a friend, yes. If she asked you to stay out of her life forever you ungrateful son of a monkey's uncle, then hey, it's her problem.
She's still a friend. Hmm..
Well, I am still going out with the girl mentioned earlier, and things are going great. She is completely smitten with me and she never fails to tell me every day.
And Saber, I think you should ask Jo if she would like you to step in....
Hmm...She doesn't even want to do anything about it though. She's too nice.
Tell her she doesn't have to be the one not being nice. You'll be mean for her.
She's still too nice to let even THAT happen ::)
Go behind her back. It's not like she can fire you for it.
Job-wise, no. Literally, yes. She posesses pyrotechnic abilities.
Which I find hot. In the literal and figurative sense.
Well, over the year, I've met this girl named Amy from mio. I really like her, she's nice to me. Except for this one time when she thought it would be funny when I asked for her number, and yea, she gave me her friend alix(who is also my friend and a girl alix just to let you know). I texted her in class... and yea, bad things accured at this. lol, I then relized that Amy was just pulling a prank. I was haha, real funny... she is pretty funny, im not going to lie to you. We haven't really hung out that much though, but we talk like once every day just about. Did I mention she is hott? lol. Great combo there, nice, hot, and funny. Oh, and she likes videogames. I think. Perfect woman right there. lol
Well then Saber, be the dominant manly man you were born to be and kick the little motherplumper's behind.
To Pit: Don't mess it up, she sounds very pleasant. Don't let her get to your head though, since she is only one of many.....
QuoteDid I mention she is hott?
She's not that Christian bassist, is she?
Hrm... As you stated your problem earlier, I'd say to try and at least get the guy to stop calling as much, if she won't do it herself.
Or wait until her parents get the phone bill and kill him themselves, granted they don't strangle him from calling so much in the first place.
Quote from: Shika on March 29, 2008, 11:49:21 AM
QuoteDid I mention she is hott?
She's not that Christian bassist, is she?
hahaha, but no. She is hotter. and her name is Amy. She's on my myspace. She hasn't been on in awhile though. so I haven't really seen her. and since neither of us have cars. I can't go see her yet, but in the next month, I plan on doing so. Hopefully.
Quote from: Pit on March 29, 2008, 07:30:35 PM
Quote from: Shika on March 29, 2008, 11:49:21 AM
QuoteDid I mention she is hott?
She's not that Christian bassist, is she?
hahaha, but no. She is hotter. and her name is Amy. She's on my myspace. She hasn't been on in awhile though. so I haven't really seen her. and since neither of us have cars. I can't go see her yet, but in the next month, I plan on doing so. Hopefully.
...You've never met this person in real life, so you're going out with her? And you're going to meet her?
But worst of all,
you're trusting MySpace pictures?!?!?
Blind dates, Shika, they happen all the time.
Kids these days, am i rite?
Quote from: Commodore Morrison on March 29, 2008, 09:08:18 PM
Blind dates, Shika,
Wait, so on top of all this, she's
blind?!?!?
Jdog, what's wrong with you?!?!?
How else is he gonna get a date?
(http://i125.photobucket.com/albums/p55/Commodore_Axilon/Forum%20Crap/rimshot.gif)
[size=1/8]oh god i'm so sorry please don't kill me[/size]
(http://i244.photobucket.com/albums/gg14/FeetLord/Forum%20pics/lolz.jpg)
Shika, Commodore, I applaud you. You both win.
I concur, you both get the doctor rabies award of the day
That was cool, wasn't it? Kinda like a cooperative comedy routine. High five, commodore? *holds up hand*
(http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w33/jackals_incarnation/Awesome.jpg)
Anyways, I think the stalker thing is resolved...
Quote from: Rev Rabies on March 30, 2008, 12:32:10 PM
I concur, you both get the doctor rabies award of the day
Cheesy award name stealer... ::) (Nah, just kidding.)
I'll second that and give you BOTH the
MagmarFire Award of the Day for March 30, 2008! Let's give them both a round of applause for their greatness! *clap, clap, clap, clap* Man, that was a
burn. JDog, you just got
burned.
Burned, man.
Burned.Anyway, well, just the other day, I've heard a cute girl say she liked me. Not sure if she was being serious or not, but she does say hi to me when I'm waiting for my Earth Science class to start. :)
whatz should i do!?!?!? :'(
Say hi back. Get into small talk. Find out her interests. Sit with her at lunch.
All good choices, really; don't rush into things and say "LULZ GO OUT WIT ME?!" when you barely know her-it'll scare her, most likely.
On the other hand, I may consider dating my friend Ben. I don't know... I guess I never really thought about looking for romance in people. I can never distinguish feelings, I guess-I know there's the feeling of disgust/you have to get away now, but for the most part, all the nice fuzzy feelings are one big mass of... stuff. Not really fuzzy stuff, either. Like, cotton as opposed to some fluffy bear.
Quote from: Lovely Rita on March 30, 2008, 01:39:31 PM
Say hi back. Get into small talk. Find out her interests. Sit with her at lunch.
But...
I'm scared to do that!!! Besides, I don't even know for sure if she was being serious.
I'm screwed, aren't I...? :'(
mmmhmm, buddy, I say, if you got the chance to get a girl. I say go for it.
Up where you are, however, I learned that if I jump into people's business, I get reprimanded. So I'm afraid to.
Sometimes I wonder if the people at my old school scarred me for life... ::)
mmmhmm, might I suggest going all super smash brothers brawl on them if this happens?
You're using "if" in the future sense when MagmarFire used the past tense. Congratulations, Jdog, you opened up another wormhole! When Sephiroth comes back, I hope he visits you first; I'm sure the two of you will have a nice chat.
Well, now he knows he can do that instead of being a fraid. so anyways.
You don't get it, do you? Sephiroth is going to kill you and steal your girlfriend. Are you going to let him do that, Jdog? Are you?
He wouldn't dare! TIME TO GET SORA IN HERE AND TEACH HIM A LESSON!
Quote from: MagmarFire on March 30, 2008, 01:42:21 PM
Quote from: Lovely Rita on March 30, 2008, 01:39:31 PM
Say hi back. Get into small talk. Find out her interests. Sit with her at lunch.
But...I'm scared to do that!!! Besides, I don't even know for sure if she was being serious.
I'm screwed, aren't I...? :'(
Mags, don't bother thinking about a relationship when you're talking to her. You can think about that later. For now, just think of her as a friend and learn stuff about her. If you like what you find out, just be honest and tell her. Does she know you're autistic? If so, she should understand that you have trouble with these things.
...
Are you aware that if you have someone else come in to defend your girlfriend, she's just going to go to him instead?
Damn you HNS, Now I shall defend her myself, get out of here sora, you worthless pile of garbage. lol
so anyway, I just asked Amy out. but she's not on yet, but I predict she will be soon. I've known her for almost a year. its hard to believe. but I met her in the summer of 07. So yea, I've her for a long time, and I've really gotten to know her. so I'm hoping.
Do you have her number? Because calling her would have been so much better.
yea, but I get nervous about that sort of thing actually talking to her. I find it easier to send in message.
Quote from: Pit on March 30, 2008, 04:37:31 PM
yea, but I get nervous about that sort of thing actually talking to her. I find it easier to send in message.
I sense a productive relationship in your near future.
Well, actually, I don't have her number anymore because my old cell phone died horidly, and I had to get a new one. so yea, the next time I talk to her, which is hopefully soon, I'll get it from her.
Quote from: Shika on March 30, 2008, 04:30:26 PM
Mags, don't bother thinking about a relationship when you're talking to her. You can think about that later. For now, just think of her as a friend and learn stuff about her. If you like what you find out, just be honest and tell her. Does she know you're autistic? If so, she should understand that you have trouble with these things.
Ah, how do I say this...? Well, it's kind of hard for me to think of her as a friend if I hardly know her. Hence the reason why I don't know if she's being serious or not. Other than that, though, I like the process you're describing. To put it into practice...THAT'S going to be a bit tough.
Just talk to her. You aren't obligated to go out with her. Only do what you're comfortable with. If you're too shy or nervous, just tell her that. You don't owe her anything whether she likes you or not. Just find out who she is, and if you like her then there you go. If not, that's fine too.
Im going to have to agree with shika on this one mags, trust me, I've been their before.
Well...all right. Here's hoping she says hi again to put the ball in the court. Thanks, guys. ;)
Quote from: Pit on March 30, 2008, 04:37:31 PM
yea, but I get nervous about that sort of thing actually talking to her. I find it easier to send in message.
wait wait wait, u asked her out in a
message??
...
dont ever ask a girl out in a
message!! u have to do it
in person. girls like it when u do it in person. it makes u look outgoing and sutff... its just more, idk, romantic or something... (tip for guys who have yet to ask a girl out)
Their entire relationship so far exists online, alex...
Also, Mags, what did you do the first time she said hi...?
Er...well, actually, the first thing she really said to me was, "I think you're cute," or something along those lines. You get the gist of it. Another reason why I'm unsure whether she's sincere. I mean, who says outright to people, "I think you're cute," and means it? no one :-[
To answer your question, though, I said, "Glad to hear it!"
When she actually said hi, I said hello back. Too indirect? :-\
You're right, MagmarFire. They say it to your sister behind your back and mean it.
Quote from: Shika on March 30, 2008, 06:15:49 PM
Their entire relationship so far exists online, alex...
oh, musta skipped over that part ;)
Well, its not my fault we live in seperate towns and neither of us have a car yet. But I will soon.
Apparently it isn't resolved. He started calling again yesterday, and now she's feeling sick from the stress.
And yet she's still trying to put up with it? Does she feel that she deserves it?
She's too nice to do anything about it. *sigh*
Wait, so it's considered "nice" to be passive? That it's rude to stick up for yourself?
You guys need to be men. Shika, I think you should put the guy in his place, and if you do, do not tell people. If you put the guy in his place and tell Jo, she will feel the need to cough up a "thank you" right there and then. Remaining silent will let her do it at her own will (which is much more gratifying).
Magmar, the girl is basically throwing herself at your feet. You can say she is exposing a weakness. What should you do when people do that?
Take advantage, of course! Your reply should have been "I get that alot, how do I know you're not like every other girl trying to get in my pants?" It makes you sound cocky and it makes you seem like you know what you are doing.
When you are around her, don't be nervous. She is the one who came onto you, so she should be the one nervous in your presence, not the other way around (then again, if she has the reputation of being a flirt just leave her alone).
Jdog, I don't know the exact details of your relationship thing, but it sounds kinda wrong. I disagree about non face-to-face asking out, and are you sure the girl likes you? If she doesn't and flat out rejects you, then it will strain your relationship with her.
I know I sound like a know-it-all jerk, but considering from what I have read here, it seems like I am one of the more experienced ones in the forums.
Quote from: Colonel Aureliano Buendia on March 31, 2008, 01:30:54 PM
Magmar, the girl is basically throwing herself at your feet. You can say she is exposing a weakness. What should you do when people do that?
Take advantage, of course! Your reply should have been "I get that alot, how do I know you're not like every other girl trying to get in my pants?" It makes you sound cocky and it makes you seem like you know what you are doing.
When you are around her, don't be nervous. She is the one who came onto you, so she should be the one nervous in your presence, not the other way around (then again, if she has the reputation of being a flirt just leave her alone).
So, in other words, act like somebody I'm not? That'd be rather shallow of me. I heard it's best to be who I am when seeking a relationship, and I want to stick to that.
And again, I hardly know her. How could I know her reputation?
I guess what I meant to say is to be in control. I put myself in your situation and posted what I would have said:
Quote"I get that alot, how do I know you're not like every other girl trying to get in my pants?"
Go ahead and be yourself, but don't give yourself to her just yet. Be confident and have a good time. Just remember that she apparently likes you and actually told you, which requires courage.
And like Shika said, if you decide not to go out with her, then you'll have a great friend that thinks highly of you, which means that she will speak highly of you to her friends, which always leads to meeting new people.
I view most things like a battleground, for some odd reason ;)
BTW, when she told you you were cute, did she seem nervous, or did she say it like she was talking about a puppy? Latter bad, former good.
Neither, really. She just...said it. Reasons of suspicion, if you ask me.
I can has girl soon maybe?
I think if we did go out, it would go well. I just...Well, she's got somebody stalking her right now. Like, going to her house uninvited and trying to contact her constantly. She's in the play I'm doing, and he's come every night, sitting in the front row and sending her stuff, and trying to meet with her backstage. Thank God one of our friends is holding him back. Honestly, I'm afraid to go out with her until this guy is taken care of. He's unhealthily obsessed, and he's already shown a disregard for her being. If he hears she's going out with a younger guy (She's a junior) I don't know what else he might do. I don't want to have her followed home and everywhere else. She really likes me, she's made that evident through conversations, and I return the sentiments. I dunno. How can I get this guy to back off?
Punching people in the face generally gets people to leave you alone.
...Okay, that's a lie. I've done it twice, once I accidentally knocked her into admiration for me (o_o I don't get it either) and the other caused fine china dishes to be thrown at me. :'D So don't physically assault him.
Call the cops if it gets worse, though.
How about...getting a bunch of people to just ask him to back off? Gather a group and let him know that you know that he's stalking her and that it just won't be tolerated. You're using neither force nor threats. Just...ask him to back off for the time being.
Thing is, he's a senior and I'd prefer to stay unknown to him. I'm trying to convince her to get a restraining order, and she actually likes the idea, so she might do that. She's done everything but that, her parents have told him to stay away from the house, etc. But they can't stop him from going to the play and following her at school and such.
All right, a restraining order works, I guess. ;)
Didn't I suggest that the last time you presented a similar problem?
I may be terrible at my own relationships (due to commitment issues because of my ex-fiance cheating on me), but when it comes to other people, I'm somewhat of a guru.
So, if someone would please sum up the past few pages for me (because yeah, I'm that lazy), I'd be glad to pitch in my advice.
QuoteI think if we did go out, it would go well. I just...Well, she's got somebody stalking her right now. Like, going to her house uninvited and trying to contact her constantly. She's in the play I'm doing, and he's come every night, sitting in the front row and sending her stuff, and trying to meet with her backstage. Thank God one of our friends is holding him back. Honestly, I'm afraid to go out with her until this guy is taken care of. He's unhealthily obsessed, and he's already shown a disregard for her being. If he hears she's going out with a younger guy (She's a junior) I don't know what else he might do. I don't want to have her followed home and everywhere else. She really likes me, she's made that evident through conversations, and I return the sentiments. I dunno. How can I get this guy to back off?
That's all we're really talking about, I just revived this topic a few posts ago. He's a senior, I know that she spends at least twenty minutes walking home and from school in between periods (She has a break in her schedule) and I'm afraid of what he might do if he's pushed a bit farther.
Uh, she really likes you, right? You like her too, right?
Start going out. Make it really plain and obvious, and that could scare Mr. Stalker away. Talk to him. Ask him to back off, but don't say anything confrontationally. Use "I" statements, rather than "You" statements. Example, "I feel that sometimes you're overstepping your boundaries and making her feel uncomfortable," rather than "Dude, you're ****ing creepy!".
If that doesn't work, then yeah. Go with a good old-fashioned intimidation maneuver or-- in worst cases-- get a restraining order.
Or you could just hire someone to kill him. *cough*
Tacheon, are you making an offer?
Should I just keep it quiet at first? I mean, she said she was considering getting the restraining order.
For now, I'd say so. Like, why steal the house when you already have the deed, right? (Not that I'm calling her a house; just a metaphor.) In the meantime, however, you may want to look out for her--watch her back until all of it gets settled.
And out of curiosity, about how many stalkers are at your school, anyway? It seems that every other girl you date ends up getting stalked at one point. :P
Not that I'm suggesting anything... :-\
Mags, I like to keep in touch with my exes, but I'm not that desperate 8)
And this is only the second girl I know of that's getting stalked, and it started before I knew her. Well, I guess not before I knew her since she was in Anne Frank a year ago, but I was quiet then and never talked to anyone, so I didn't really know her. But lately we've gotten to know each other, so yeah. Anyways, I'm having a bit of trouble deciphering your metaphor, with my being all tired and stuff. You think I should date her without letting this guy find out?
Quote from: Awesome Ninja on May 12, 2008, 04:05:20 PM
Mags, I like to keep in touch with my exes, but I'm not that desperate 8)
Like I tried to say,
I wasn't talking about you!!!And my metaphor basically means, why try to solve a problem when you already have a solution to it? In other words, why try to do something about it if something's already being done about it?
As for your other question...Tacheon, help me out here...
I just talked to her, here's what the message said:
Quote1) Talked to *stalker* in the morning, he was all mopy so I asked him to leave me alone and informed him ONCE MORE, that we'd never be together
2) He got upset
3) I stayed at school all third and fourth
4) Lunch *our friend* had to comfort *stalker*, he was still all upset, but didn't approach me
5) People were teasing me about being Mrs. *insert my last name*
6) *stalker* heard, freaked out more
7) He leaves in the middle of class still freaking calls 911 and goes to hospital
8) I puke
9) He follows me around when he gets back, I ditch him
10) *our other friend* walks me home after *our director* talks to me about it.
See, I'm afraid of this stuff happening...Not only what could happen to her, but to him. Apparently he knows now anyway, but...I don't want to feel this kind of guilt again. Happened with my last girlfriend, and this time it's an outside source that's causing the grief. I don't want to give up on a relationship with her, I just don't know how to work around this.
Perhaps you could...deprogram him somehow? Maybe get his eyes on another girl?
...Yeah, like that would work... *slaps forehead* >.>
He's been after her for quite some time, Mags. I was hoping he'd be the kind of guy to change girls quickly, but...
When a person focuses on one thing, he or she likely won't notice other things around him or her. Perhaps if he's that obsessed, he doesn't notice that there might be another girl like the one who likes you and follows her blindly? A theory, of course.
But then again, nothing says "deprogramming" better than a baseball bat. >:D
In all seriousness, if negative repercussions from this guy are to be avoided, either he's just going to get over his obsession over her or he's just going to have to find someone else. Seems to me like the latter would be most beneficial.
Actually, let's go with the baseball bat. "Look, either you get over her and look for someone else, or we smack you down so you end up dating ants."
I recommend that the Stalker seeks counseling. If he's enough of a tard to call 911 over being upset, he's in serious need of psychiatric evaluation.
Talk to his parents, try to coerce them to follow through on that.
We've been going out since Saturday now, apparently the guy freaked out and asked her not to kiss me and not to talk about me when he was around and such. He's still following her around apparently.
I know a guy that can take care of him for you.
I agree with mags, get him attracted to another girl, pay a girl to go out with him, something along those lines
Why does anyone think that pawning him off on some other girl so now he's her problem is a good thing to do? That's pretty awful if you think about it.
Apparently he's left the state for a few days because he needs a vacation from it all. He...really needs to get over her...
Glad to see that I didn't miss too much from my absence.
Quote from: Commodore Batman on May 22, 2008, 01:21:33 PM
Why does anyone think that pawning him off on some other girl so now he's her problem is a good thing to do? That's pretty awful if you think about it.
As far as I see, he needs to find someone else and/or get over her. I can't think of any other alternative. And I said
nothing, or thought of nothing, along the lines of, "He's your problem now."
Say, you could mention some of your ideas, you know. >_>
Quote from: Dr Rabies on May 22, 2008, 12:27:07 PM
I know a guy that can take care of him for you.
Shut up, I told you not to advertise me like that.
Well, I'm glad that at least he's not trying to stab you in the face or anything. I mean, you could always just shove her face into yours whenever he comes near-- just to piss him off, but I'm not exactly sure that'd be the
wise idea.
It'd be pretty good for thrills, though. :P
That's what a bunch of guys said to Richard Nixon, and then Watergate happened.
Tacheon, your political humor makes me happy.
Anyways, I really hope nothing more comes of this. But he just can't get over her, and I don't know how stable he is. It's pretty freaky, especially when he's controlling as well as obsessive. Yelled at her when he took her to Prom, she went home early and everything.
Well...I guess I'll say more, but it seems the majority of it is filed under "Crap That People Already Know." (RvB reference, FTW.)
Of course, how much more of him do you know? Maybe if you find out more about how severely hotheadded and obsessive this guy was in the past, maybe you can judge whether or not it's a good idea to openly date her. If it's precedented, worries might be short, but if it isn't...dang it--got another domain error...
Well, thing is, it's not much of a secret anymore. People in the theater are extremely loud. We've been going out since Saturday, so it's almost been a week. I know that she dated him for a month as a rebound, and they didn't get along at all really. Well, he liked her (a lot) but she didn't return the sentiments. Even now, he's broke because he spends all his money on buying her things, even though she keeps telling him to stop and gives them back.
Well, domain error aside, is his behavior precedented or unprecedented? Or do you not know yet?
He's been kind of obsessing over her for eight months now. So...I suppose this is in line with previous behavior. I'm just worried he's going to kidnap her or something when he comes back.
A tracking device works quite well in situations like those. :P
I suppose you could just make sure nothing happens to her as soon as he returns and while he's away. I don't think he'd be up to kidnapping her with witnesses around.
Depends. He'd probably go for Sexual Assault over kidnapping any day.
There's that, too. Still, not many witnesses would just stand by and watch someone else get attacked like that.
Quote from: MagmarFire on May 23, 2008, 08:11:42 PM
There's that, too. Still, not many witnesses would just stand by and watch someone else get attacked like that.
Ugh. I'm sorry, Mags, but you're completely wrong. I mean, why do you think militant occupations work so well? People would rather pretend that nothing's happening-- even at the expense of others.
-------------------------------
On the brighter side of things, I've got a lovely lady that has been going out with me for quite some time now. We're very happy together. :D
That does seem to be the case, come to think of it... Gah, why is it that I agree with just about every counterargument to my arguments!? WHY!? D:
Anyway...nice work, Tacheon! I'm happy for you! :D
Now, where did you guys meet!? DETAILS, MAN!!! :P
QuoteI suppose you could just make sure nothing happens to her as soon as he returns and while he's away. I don't think he'd be up to kidnapping her with witnesses around.
Problem is we have no idea when he's returning. I can't just hover over her constantly. Then I'd be a hypocrite.
What's 'quite some time' in this case, Tacheon? I'm glad you're happy.
We met at a bar. The 31st is the two-month mark. Her name is Ellie. No, we haven't 'done it' yet. Yes, she is beautiful. No, no pictures, same as me.
No, she isn't a gamer.
Yes, she is intelligent.
"Intelligent" as in "trigonometrically and stoichiometrically proficient"? If so, I approve! :D
I suppose she definitely approves of you being a gamer then, seeing as how it's still going after two months. Glad you found a smart one.
Well, I was going to ask my friend Ben out, then I thought he was mad at me and I was all like "D:!" and then it turns out he was just asleep.
... so basically I'm not dating because I'll be a crazy.
Hey, crazies are the best kind of girls to date. Ever see The Wedding Crashers?
I dunno... like, I guess I feel like I'd be either too distant or too clingy.
and I hate hugs, too XD so...
Why not give it a try though? He's been your friend for a while, he must like your personality.
XD I guess it can't hurt to try... I just hope that I don't screw it up and lose a friend. >:
And hey, if it doesn't work out, then you know whom to beat the crap out of next time you log on. (http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n71/MagmarFire/linkwink.gif)
But good luck with it. Hopefully, it doesn't end up like the latter, but I doubt it will. He's never changed hands on you, has he?
Well, it's the 30th. Tomorrow is the 31st, and consequently, would be the two-month mark.
Would be-- if she didn't dump me today. I know I really shouldn't be as broken up about it as I am, but I dunno... I really thought things were going well. She didn't even give me a reason. I'm not mad at her, but still... I'm pretty sad.
*snif*
I need a hug.
>: awwww. Well, I guess it's better to have broken up sooner, than later. though if you ask me, she should've at least given you a reason, it's kind of ridiculous to say "oh, btw, dumping you lol"
-hugs-
By the way, you may want to edit that one word out of your post-I don't think that language is allowed here, and best to catch it before a mod does. ;3
*hugs Tacheon*
That's gotta really suck, Tacheon... :'(
Still, there are more women out there! Just hang in there.
Thanks...
You know, I really love you guys.
We love you too, man! *hugs tighter*
I'm not willing to enter a relationship with you, though. For legality's sake, of course.
It's called a civil union, Shika.
duh
Ow, that must be awful. I can't begin to imagine how that must feel,the last time I had a relationship for longer than a month was when I was about 11, it doesn't count.
My love life is pretty non-existenet at the moment, I went to Fusion last night and there were only two guys I found attractive, one had a girlfriend and the other was a 20-something barman. I did dance with some guy but he was an utter perv who I knew from my old school so after a few dances I just pushed him away.
It sucked.
What exactly is this fusion?
Relationships are tricky becuase you have to know how to deal with them. It's sort of like a balancing act. Only harder, and if the pieces fall, then you feel like ****.
The best thing for a relationship is honesty, and a shared love for certain things. (Like Zelda, maybe? ;))
All I know is that if things turn out badly for you, its no reason to give up. Gotta keep trying. Gotta get out there.
OPTIMISM, MY CHILDREN!
Quote from: Awesome Ninja on June 01, 2008, 11:59:25 AM
What exactly is this fusion?
It's a "13-17 club night they held at r.i.v.a.l.s nightclub. Run in full partnership with the Kent Police" otherwise I think we might just all start killing each other. So yeah it's a nightclub for people under 18.
It's fun but the amount of heels I had stabbed into my feet was unreal, it's always packed full of people.
Quote from: MasterKeyX on June 01, 2008, 12:28:02 PM
All I know is that if things turn out badly for you, its no reason to give up. Gotta keep trying. Gotta get out there.
OPTIMISM, MY CHILDREN!
Though the battle to go forward seems, needless to say...futile for some. *cough*
Quit making fun of me, Mags! :(
You should never give upo, even if you think thigns are totally hopeless.
In the pasdt year mylife has been rocked with emotional stress from my girlfriend. And I still go with her...
I love her.
It does feel like a wild goose chase for me. But hey, after seeing all the events in my life thus far, finding love should eventually be a piece of cake...or heart. (Cookie if you get the reference...which you should. ;) )
Quote from: Awesome Ninja on June 02, 2008, 03:45:12 PM
Quit making fun of me, Mags! :(
Please. If I wanted to make fun of you, I would've busted out the monkey on the chocolate unicycle. XD
Quote from: MagmarFire on June 02, 2008, 05:42:30 PM
Quote from: Awesome Ninja on June 02, 2008, 03:45:12 PM
Quit making fun of me, Mags! :(
Please. If I wanted to make fun of you, I would've busted out the monkey on the chocolate unicycle. XD
Now that's just cold.
Anyways, I think things are going to go smoothly now. Said stalker has graduated now and won't be at school for the rest of the year, although that's only two weeks or so. He had a meltdown in front of her last Thursday but...He's gone now. Hopefully.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAH
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
AHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAA
Please, don't delete this. This isn't spam, just a general summary of my emotions as of this point in time.
Is that screaming or laughing? The fact that you're alternating between A's and H's makes it hard, but I'm guessing it's the former. Did something happen?
I'm just still grieving.
I'm pathetic, man.
You're pathetic...by continuing to feel grief? That's not pathetic in the slightest. You shouldn't have to feel pathetic if you're still trying to have your emotional wounds heal. It's like saying that you're a weakling because you can't wrestle because of a broken arm.
You're not pathetic, man. ^^
Just curious, how does everyone here feel about the length of a relationship? Like, how important is it? Some of my friends will stay in a crappy relationship just because they want it to last long. They get caught up thinking about reaching landmarks and don't think about whether or not it's actually working.
Quote from: Awesome Ninja on July 14, 2008, 11:21:58 PM
Just curious, how does everyone here feel about the length of a relationship? Like, how important is it? Some of my friends will stay in a crappy relationship just because they want it to last long. They get caught up thinking about reaching landmarks and don't think about whether or not it's actually working.
Length shouldn't matter. It's just about the happiness factor.
Yet it seems like everyone in school is always saying "Oh, I'm so excited, it's almost been six months!" yet when you see them together, he treats her like crap or vice versa, or they just don't get along. I dunno.
Wonder if it's the whole childish 'high school status' thing.
Hmm.. It is interesting to read about your own relationship online from another person's point of view...
Quote from: Brizzy on July 14, 2008, 11:44:26 PM
Hmm.. It is interesting to read about your own relationship online from another person's point of view...
Ah yes, the final test.
Read and enjoy, Bri.
It was enjoyable, although funny. I didn't know he was quite so concerned with my stalker. Nor did I know his ex had one! Geeze he tells me nothing.
Congratulations Shika, you survived! :3
Everyone I like doesn't like me, pretty much.
Unless it's online, then it's vice versa.
Or vice vice versa versa.
He's pretty safe for now, as long as he doesn't ignore me for his computer again. It's a good thing his family likes me or I would have killed him.
-_-'
I'm starting to wonder whether it's such a good thing to have a girlfriend who shares the same interests as you >.>'
Nah, it's really great. None of my previous girlfriends would ever play something as time consuming as Zelda, not to mention RPing...adds another dimension to the relationship that I enjoy.
and I was incredibly concerned with the stalker. I worry too much. And I told you about my ex's stalker, you probably just weren't listening. (Wow, I got to use that line :-[)
You did not tell me about it?! Which ex was it? Maybe you said it once in passing, but if anything we never fully conversed about it. I mean, I remember everything we talk about. Normally it's you who doesn't pay attention.. :-X
M'kay, this can be finished on AIM, over PM, or in person. O_o
Yeah, I wasn't really planning on having an actual conversation about it...
So, Tacheon, how have you been doing lately? I've gotten some hints from you, but...not really sure on the specifics. Unless you'd rather not talk about it, which is also fine.
Eh, I'd really rather not talk about it.
WAIT
I actually made some MS Paint pics detailing my recent conversations with Ellie.
Most recent:
(http://aquate.us/u/ms_PAIN.jpg)
Poor Tacheon... :'(
...Did she really say those things? Not in 1337 speak, but with the same meaning?
Quote from: The DHARMA Initiative on July 15, 2008, 12:20:52 AM
Eh, I'd really rather not talk about it.
WAIT
I actually made some MS Paint pics detailing my recent conversations with Ellie.
Most recent:
(http://aquate.us/u/ms_PAIN.jpg)
omg that made me lol so hard :P
Quote from: MagmarFire on July 15, 2008, 12:25:29 AM
Poor Tacheon... :'(
...Did she really say those things? Not in 1337 speak, but with the same meaning?
Yes, she did. =\
How come everything seems so much less.. serious in stick figures?
Honestly though, that bites.
What, eh...what has she been doing?
Quote from: The DHARMA Initiative on July 15, 2008, 12:29:42 AM
Quote from: MagmarFire on July 15, 2008, 12:25:29 AM
Poor Tacheon... :'(
...Did she really say those things? Not in 1337 speak, but with the same meaning?
Yes, she did. =\
I sincerely apologize about everything.
Well, I kinda like this one girl. We're goin to hang out like thursday or friday. And I've know her for like 2 or 3 years. Basically I was one of her first friends when she moved up here. Idk if I should ask her out or not though... Cause we just started talking again... and idk if I'm moving to fast or not... any advice???
You're not moving fast enough, marry her. NOW
seriously, just play things as they go, if you feel it's the right time, go for it
dr, your a brillant man! :D and um, thanks...
In my Martial Arts class I have several people who like me. Two of which are twins who compete against each other. When we're just hanging out, the twins sometimes make me choose which one I want to hang out with and it gets awkward. I go out of my way to treat them equally and I'm getting tired of having one move over so I can sit between them and such.
Advice?
Date them both, bigomy rules!
Go on seperate dates with both of them, see which one you like better
You could be direct with them. Tell them you don't want to have to choose between them and risk one of them being hurt.
Or you could have them fight to the death for your love.
Hmm.... bigomy..... jk.
I'll try your advice Maggy. Although, Doctor, I may try dating them both seperately, see how it works.
Or you could with plan c, have them fight to the death... lol jk jk...
That was...a bit off-topic, wouldn't you say?
No, I was telling here to go with what Dr said about the whole fighting to the death part...
I don't think that had much to add to the discussion, however. No biggie, though.
Yea so anyway, don't you hate it when I guy askes a girl if they want to hang out, and they get kinda weirded out about it???
Unfortunately, their black belt father would then whup my butt. And everything else.
Although that may happen if I tried to date both of them anyways...
Since when is it his business of whom they should or should not date? If they were endangered because of it, that's a different story, but I don't see that happening.
I just don't think he would be fond of my switching from twin to twin immeadiately. It's like having two daughters and a guy dates one, decides he doesn't like her and moves on to the next one. You know?
Seems kind of skanky if you ask me. Just tell them you're not interested- unless of course you are...
You don't want one of them to think you love him, and then switch, because then he'd be heartbroken.
I can't believe you. I can't believe how women in general treat men's hearts like toys or games.
It absolutely sickens me. A heart is a toy you can't just snap back together after you break it. It doesn't work that way, and don't condone any of this.
Not like a real date. Just like a hang-out for a day see what happens kind of deal. They're my friends and I've hung out with them before like that.
Quotecan't believe you. I can't believe how women in general treat men's hearts like toys or games.
It absolutely sickens me. A heart is a toy you can't just snap back together after you break it. It doesn't work that way, and don't condone any of this.
Wow, thank you for thinking so highly of me. I'm honored.
I'm not going to go confess to one, say "Oh, never mind, I like the other one better" and run off with his brother. I'm not foolish enough to do that.
Honestly, if you read my post just before yours, you'll see that I agree with you.
Don't just judge people like that. All it does is make them angry.
Maybe the best idea then would to be friends with them, nothing more
Yea, thats what I tried to do with leandra my self. But she still has this crazy idea that I want to date her... which of course is half true. lol
well if she likes you and you like her go for it.
Quote from: Zelda Veteran on July 16, 2008, 11:59:15 AM
Seems kind of skanky if you ask me. Just tell them you're not interested- unless of course you are...
You don't want one of them to think you love him, and then switch, because then he'd be heartbroken.
I can't believe you. I can't believe how women in general treat men's hearts like toys or games.
It absolutely sickens me. A heart is a toy you can't just snap back together after you break it. It doesn't work that way, and don't condone any of this.
it's not like women know what it's like to have a broken heart or anything. 0:
anyway, not much news-someone liked me, but then realised there was a 5 year gap between us, and I said "no, I get that all the time. o: I'm still cool if you want to hang out or something, though. XD"
So I did-just got back from his house, actually. We watched the Silent Hill movie and made Aerosmith jokes. I'm not sure why, either-we laughed through most of the movie, though.
I'm still not sure I even want to date, since I... kinda fail at being sane about things. And... I'd call them my wife and lose track of where they are all the time.
Quote from: Dr Rabies on July 16, 2008, 06:00:42 PM
well if she likes you and you like her go for it.
Well thats just it, she doesn't like me in that way... and its really depressing to me...
I'd like a girlfriend who doesn't believe in all that "You have to impress me" crap. I mean whats the point?
And she'd have to like and play Video Games. ;)
Sounds like Fisk had some fun today...
And, by the way, LN, if she doesnt like you, it may hurt, but... don't be overbearing. Just.. move on. the pain will fade.
yea, too bad you didn't tell me that two years ago when I ment here... it was like, wow... sadly I asked her out two years ago, and she still holds that against me everytime I ask if she wants to hang out or anything(I even told her just as friends and what not...).
No offense, but that sounds pretty messed up to me.
Sorry!
What's messed up about it???
She shouldn't keep regurgitating that on you. Not cool.
Oh that... well things like that happen sometimes, but still, that did happen two years ago. Plus she was one of my first friend's I had in Highschool. And I was one of the first she met. Idk why she just doesn't like me that way, why can't it be like the movies, where you meet a girl... its instant love, and yea... never happens in real life. :(
Quote from: Ike's Nobody on July 16, 2008, 08:00:26 PM
Quote from: Dr Rabies on July 16, 2008, 06:00:42 PM
well if she likes you and you like her go for it.
Well thats just it, she doesn't like me in that way... and its really depressing to me...
And what about this girl you loved right when you met her? Jdog, you're taking stuff too seriously. And it doesn't always have to make sense who you like. There's just a...spark. It happens between certain people, you never know who it's going to be with. People always say they never see me and Bri together. Stuff just happens a certain way, you can't always explain it, and there's no point in worrying about it because it won't change anything.
Yea, I guess I understand what you mean, but still... it does hurt that she doesn't like me the way I do. or did, idk which.
I can understand being hurt, it's poopy that she doesn't feel the same, but if you're thinking you aren't good enough, know that is a big old smelly turd. That comment may have seemed out there, but I've found when people are hurt by not being liked back they sometimes jump to not being good enough. Which is feces, no one is better than anyone else, although some people are more well off. Does that make sense? I dunno. I find the good guys are the ones always doubting their own worth, while the cruel ones are there boasting about themselves(and mean it.)
Nice forceful post! I like it! You should listen to her..
But edit out the word crap. I don't want you to get warned. ;)
You can't get warned for the word 'crap'. If so...well, that'd kind of be screwed up what with some of the words we do allow.
And Jdog, if you've been friends with her this long, why not just be glad you have her as a friend? I mean, she seems like a really good one. Even if she's not romantically interested, you're lucky to have her, and she'll be there to help you with other relationship problems you may have.
Well just in case I editted out all my dung.
Just a bit of advice to all the guys. Don't try to be everything. You can't. It just leads to problems. If other people tell you you aren't doing enough for your girlfriend...well, don't trust them. They don't see everything. Relationships take trust. That includes trusting each other to say if there's a problem. If she's not saying something's wrong and someone else is...well, just keep going with what you're doing. You try to patch up problems that aren't there, you end up getting frustrated. Things get blown out of proportion, feelings are misconstrued...it just doesn't end well.
Advice duly noted.
Did something happen to acquire this information?
Yes, something did happen. I kind of screwed everything up.
Aw, crap... ???
Does that mean everything's beyond repair?
I'm not sure if it is or not. I mean, the way things were before was awesome. But, I guess...I got to the point where I realized just how much I enjoyed the relationship. You know, we really connected. I guess then, I started to get a little afraid of screwing it up. So then when some of my friends started saying she didn't seem too happy with me, I got afraid I wasn't doing enough. I started seeing all my flaws and trying to cover them up, and it just started this huge chain of events that got worse with time and eventually trashed it. I kinda wish I could go back, but I'm not sure if she would want to. I wouldn't blame her if she hated me, honestly.
Geez, the domino effect, eh? Sorry about that, man. :-*
There is this one girl who I've wanted to ask out for a while, you know, to just go see a movie or something like that. But it seems as though I always forget to get around to calling her.
Call her now maybe?
Dammit, I still can't get Ellie out of my mind.
It's getting to the point where I feel like I'm turning into a creeper.
Maybe if you call this other girl, you'll feel less like one? Gah, what do I know...?
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 05, 2008, 07:19:55 PM
Maybe if you call this other girl, you'll feel less like one? Gah, what do I know...?
wat
what other girl
Quote from: The Scout on August 05, 2008, 06:48:35 PM
There is this one girl who I've wanted to ask out for a while, you know, to just go see a movie or something like that. But it seems as though I always forget to get around to calling her.
That one. >.>Thanks, JQ, for pointing out my mistake. Sorry, guys! ;)
THEY'RE NOT THE SAME PEOPLES!
Quote from: Â on August 05, 2008, 07:10:34 PM
Dammit, I still can't get Ellie out of my mind.
It's getting to the point where I feel like I'm turning into a creeper.
Have you been hounding her or anything? I mean, thinking about someone's not a crime. Perhaps there's something you've left undiscussed that you need for closure?
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 05, 2008, 06:38:29 PM
Geez, the domino effect, eh? Sorry about that, man. :-*
Yeah. What stinks is you don't realize what's going on until afterwards, usually. But life goes on. It's a learning experience, you know?
I mean, I guess technically relationships can work at the first try, but it's rare. Especially nowadays. I mean, used to be noone ever got divorced, now it's a majority of the marriages that end up that way...wonder why.
It's because of the way we live nowadays... divorce isn't looked down upon anymore, despite the horrible things it can do to children and a family.
And, Tacheon, if you keep thinking about somebody, then clearly you must like her a whole lot. Forget about her thinking you're a creeper. Contact her or you'll go mad. Maybe she'll think you're really interested if you keep at it. That could give her some positive signs.
And I have been dating my girlfriend for 17 months now.
One problem: She broke up with him... I THINK
Quote from: ÂJQ Pickwick on August 09, 2008, 06:29:32 PM
One problem: She broke up with him... I THINK
Aye.
And my apologies son, but I'm far beyond the point of madness already.
Sorry, Tach if I sounded like a jerk. I didn't know your situation.
You'll find somebody else though, I'm sure of it. You're a funny guy.
Indeed. With your personality, wit, and experience, it's mathematically very likely that you'll find someone.
That is laughably naive I don't know where to start.
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 09, 2008, 08:18:22 PM
Indeed. With your personality, wit, and experience, it's mathematically very likely that you'll find someone.
...
I would love to find a mathematical formula for relationships. Just to see what it'd look like.
QuoteIt's because of the way we live nowadays... divorce isn't looked down upon anymore, despite the horrible things it can do to children and a family.
I think a lot of it has to do with idealism too...
Quote from: ÂJQ Pickwick on August 09, 2008, 08:20:12 PM
That is laughably naive I don't know where to start.
Well, you might as well start. ::)
No matter how much wit, charm or whatever other factor one has, loneliness will always strike to ruin things. Some people just have very bad luck.
Well, I at least hope that tacheon has better luck in the future with women... considering some of the stuff that's happened :\
JQ, that's not true. Things aren't always ruined, and when they are it's usually not just bad luck or 'loneliness'. I screwed up mine, I can hardly write that off as bad luck.
Yeah, don;t be so negative. Negativity doesn't help anything, and it certainly won't help you to get a mate.
Positivity, friends.
It was bad luck that the door happened to be open; it was bad luck that she saw you. That what happened the way things happened is an incidence of bad chance.
Wait
JQ
Who are you talking to again
Talking about Shika.
Yeah, but there is bad luck and good luck in life. If you focus only on the abd you'll never get anywhere.
Exactly. And the fact that I had any relationship at all with someone as amazing as her was good luck. A lot of it, too.
I've never been in any type of relationship with anyone before. This is the reason why I feel so jaded and negative and mention the 'bad luck'. I want to have relationships with women... but because of my hearing disability, a lot of the social growth you guys have, is lost to me. I didn't really have a social life :\ summers were always lonely, school was always lonely... when I got home from school was usually the loneliest time of all.
I never said that I had a lot of social growth... You aren't alone there.
Forgot to say this, but... uh, my friend Justin sort-of asked me out. Like, my dad won't let me date him, but he says he's willing to wait.
For a few weeks I was really nervous about the whole thing - I mean, I don't know if I'm cut out for a relationship (I'm really not the relationship type) but last night at our Homecoming football game, I was waiting for my friend to get back (It was like... an hour before the game started) and I suddenly called him (which I never do) and talked with him and he eventually came to the football game and we just.... hung out (I stay for the band :B) and stuff.
I was really unsure about it for a while, but now I'm willing to say that I'm willing to try... and if it doesn't work out, we can still be friends, you know?
Quote from: Fiskers on October 25, 2008, 08:34:40 AM
Forgot to say this, but... uh, my friend Justin sort-of asked me out. Like, my dad won't let me date him, but he says he's willing to wait.
For a few weeks I was really nervous about the whole thing - I mean, I don't know if I'm cut out for a relationship (I'm really not the relationship type) but last night at our Homecoming football game, I was waiting for my friend to get back (It was like... an hour before the game started) and I suddenly called him (which I never do) and talked with him and he eventually came to the football game and we just.... hung out (I stay for the band :B) and stuff.
I was really unsure about it for a while, but now I'm willing to say that I'm willing to try... and if it doesn't work out, we can still be friends, you know?
Congratz, Fiskas! Just know that no matter what anyone says, if a relationship doesn't work out-- there's ALWAYS going to be at least a little bit of awkwardness, but it's always going to be worth the try.
Freaking awesome! I wish you guys luck if the wait is successful. :)
Well done! I hope it works out!
Ugh I met up with a guy a couple of weeks ago, it wasn't really a date we just walked around the Canters for like an hour and talked. I hadn't told any of my friends on purpose because most of them knew him and I didn't know if it would work out but OF COURSE we bumped in to three of my friends while we were there and they like screamed. So I had to endure a week of people asking me if I was going to meet up with him again (which I was NOT) and about how cute we looked together. The guy was okay, lived in the Middle east but boards at a school near where I live, likes Classic Rock. But he was quite boring, and he didn't call me so yeah...
My love life sucks.
You must approach your love life with a new vigour! You must seize a love and bring out your experiences, rather than wait an infinite length of time for a relationship to appear out of nowhere.
Quote from: AliCal on October 25, 2008, 01:29:52 PM
My love life sucks.
Twenty Rupees says mine sucks even more. (http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n71/MagmarFire/linkwink.gif)
Neither of you are disabled or have a deceased parent. My Life's suckiness trumps both of you.
Er, she said "love life," not life in general.
......
Whoops.
Well I'm stuck here in college isolated in my dorm room, week after week goes by and still I am unable to find many friends, let alone girls that I can habitually meet and converse with.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on October 25, 2008, 01:55:14 PM
You must approach your love life with a new vigour! You must seize a love and bring out your experiences, rather than wait an infinite length of time for a relationship to appear out of nowhere.
Thank you, Mr. Fortune cookie.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on October 25, 2008, 02:10:37 PM
Neither of you are disabled or have a deceased parent. My Life's suckiness trumps both of you.
I've got you beaten there, mate. My LOVE life might be awesome-- but keep in mind that you were born with your disability (and my condolences, mate), but mine was suddenly thrust upon me like a loose woman.
Quoteisolated in my dorm room
QuoteI am unable to find many friends, let alone girls
That may explain something right there. Just get outside, put yourself in view and at least make yourself somewhat known if you want anything to happen.
Easier said than done. It's very hard to talk to anyone in the open unless I have my laptop or a pen with me. I'm afraid of talking to people for this very reason.
You don't necessarily have to talk at first. Just put yourself in view. Take it all one step at a time.
I don't think Bri will be coming back to TDC anymore.
Blargh...
What happened?
Watching spiders mate is surprisingly entertaining.
Please enlighten me as to how that's even remotely on topic.
My guess is that Bri is a black widow, the reason she's no longer coming on to TDC is because they're through, she's done eating his frail corpse and all of youtube will be entertained by this mating ritual.
That works, I suppose. Thanks.
...
That's...not close at all o_0
At least, I don't think so. I...don't quite understand it.
Anyways...well, I'm still trying to figure things out. I think...I was too busy to think as much about her as I usually do, and I was afraid of coming off as not being interested anymore. So I ended up worrying way too much about her problems and not leaving time for myself, and it made me start to resent her...and it came out in a bad way.
Someone should invent a meter that tells you when you're worrying too much about something. I know I have this problem as well.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on November 01, 2008, 08:59:23 PM
Someone should invent a meter that tells you when you're worrying too much about something. I know I have this problem as well.
What's getting at me is that I didn't used to do this. I think it may be because I've been around my stepdad and his depression too much. I remember working with him over the summer, our entire conversation consisted of how much the world and everything in it sucked, and how everything was going down the toilet. He'd really unnerve me. I've been trying to talk to him about it though. Problem is that our house is packed with people and it's hard to find some privacy. Plus he's not all that willing to listen. Last time I brought it up I was kicked out of the house :/
*sigh* All I know is that if it's going to change me enough to make me lose someone like her, I need to get it sorted out.
...
He kicked you out of the house?
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on November 01, 2008, 09:14:54 PM
...
He kicked you out of the house?
Yes, I had to stay at Scotty's for a few days.
Anyways, that's off topic.
Commenting on our relationships with anyone, including step-dads would be on topic for a thread labeled 'relationships topic'.
I know my stepdad has threatened me with the same several times before, as I'm now an adult, he is under no obligation to have me stay.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on November 01, 2008, 09:47:15 PM
Commenting on our relationships with anyone, including step-dads would be on topic for a thread labeled 'relationships topic'.
I know my stepdad has threatened me with the same several times before, as I'm now an adult, he is under no obligation to have me stay.
Look, I don't want to discuss this.
I wonder if it's still worth trying to fix things. Before I wanted to fix them but thought that if I took the time she would become disinterested and find someone else, and then it would be pointless. Well, she's found someone else now, so...meh. I wonder if it would've made a difference?
Do you want to improve the world?
I don't think it can be done.
The world is sacred
it can't be improved.
If you tamper with it, you'll ruin it.
If you treat it like an object, you 'll lose it.
There is a time for being ahead,
a time for being behind;
a time for being in motion,
a time for being at rest;
a time for being vigorous,
a time for being exhausted;
a time for being safe,
a time for being in danger.
The master sees things as they are
without trying trying to control them
She lets them go their own way,
and resides at the center of the circle.
- Tao te ching
Maybe that's the problem? I mean, ever since the first thing went wrong, I've felt like I had to make it up to her. Kept thinking that if I worked at it hard enough, I could fix it.
Yeah, my advice is to just... stop. Just let things go, don't interfere or try to 'fix things'. Just let things go naturally and things will work out.
Right. She's happy with the new guy, I'm glad for her. I may not mean even as much as a friend to her now, I'll just have to accept it. I made a mistake. I need to take care of my own life. I want her in it, but that may not be possible anymore.
Just relax. Relationships can take a lot of stress. You just need to relax, calm down.
I am relaxed, actually. I'm not upset about her as much as I am about myself not being...myself? This isn't my personality in the slightest. I always just took things as they came and never got stressed about it :/ These have just not been a good few months for me lately. Lots of stuff going on. Bri just happened to get caught in the crossfire...That's what I feel worst about, I guess. She didn't need any of this to happen to her. But honestly, I'm fine. It's kinda odd, but now that she has someone else that makes her happy, I'm not afraid of losing her so I've been able to focus on my own stuff.
To bring a little bit of lightheartedness into the conversation, Justin bought me the Silent Hill Homecoming guide. It's really nice. And my friend said "lol you're taller than her; you two would look good together" and it just... made everything really awkward.
To go on with the melancholy conversation, I'm probably going to be flip-flopping on whether or not I like him. I don't.... feel anything for him romantically, but that's not all that different than usual. I think that's what bugs me the most- I don't know if I like him or not.
I think maybe your experiences have created some numbness in that area. Of trust, love, relationships...
Trust is always the first thing to go.
I know Shika is strong, so I'm sure he'll be handling this much better than I did. I was P.W.'d, no joke.
So anyways, I have some awesome news.
My ex is a wreck.
My girlfriend and a few of my friends who were hanging with her at the time ran into my ex at What-a-Burger the other night. She's dating Josh now, the same one on my brawl hit-list. My girlfriend asked why he was dating her, and his response was "I dunno... I don't even really like her." lmao. I also heard from all the people there that:
Her face was majorly pitted.
Her hair was all ratty.
She was wearing the sluttiest dress they'd ever seen-
Chock another one up for ol' ZV.
My victories are piling up.
Holy CRAP, I'm a creep >.>
...you're really emotionally violent... :o
I mean, you fell in love extremely quickly, and then when things got bad it rocketed to the other end of the scale just as fast. I guess it seems odd to me, I take a long time to like someone, and it's hard for me to hate anyone no matter what they do.
I don't suppose your ex has approached you lately?
Eh hem.. I resent the fact that y'all (that's right y'all) thought I wouldn't return over relationship drama. In any case, congrats Shika! You finally found the settling calm I wanted you to find.. at least for now. I must apologize for not posting Shika, but I know this is an outlet for you and I have been busy.
Back on topic:
How can you know it's safe to trust someone in a relationship?
The only real way is to have been friends with that person prior to dating. I trust Barbara (my current gf) entirely. We were best friends for a year, and I know how she operates. Thats really the only way, other than talking to that person's ex boyfriends/girlfriends. Other than that, you're leaving it all up to blind chance. Don't do that. Trust ol' ZeeVee on that one.
>.>
None of his exes live around here and.. we were friends for a bit, but it kind of exploded. I am still grasping for straws.
Why don't you trust him?
Well, then you've got two options:
1. Leave it alone for now, and keep your heart out of harm's way.
2. Give him a shot, but don't let the ground beneath your feet give way to complete unrestrained love. Be careful, and keep a bug on all of his clothes.
To Shika:
I do.. I just don't think I should. THAT is the issue.
To ZV:
I am screwed if those are my only two options. He has already said he loves me and I'm his soulmate etc.
...he has...?
...
This brings back some memories. I think I see what's got you worried. I think...he's one of those guys who doesn't really cherish love. He'll either say it to make you happy and get what he wants, or he's constantly clinging to one girl, then another.
Then again, I don't really know him. It's...really, it's your call.
I agree with Shika.
Normally words like that only pour out of a guy who hasn't had a girl-friend yet.
Seems fishy- but again, thats all your call.
If he asks you to put out within the first month or two, thats a red flag to get outta there.
Just letting you know.
I wouldn't trust my love-saying advice completely though. I mean, I've never told anyone I loved them.
And I'm sure she knows about the putting-out thing. She's not a stupid girl.
Well, I know a few girls who thought it was "romantic" and ended up getting cheated on, dumped, and hurt.
I know far too many like that as well. It kills me when they get used like that. What really hurts is when one of my friends doesn't learn from it though. Had one all throughout Middle school and freshman year, six guys. Every time, she came to me in tears, and said she'd never repeat the mistake. And within a few weeks, the same thing would happen again. She lives a few towns away now. Still wonder whether she ever got stuff worked out :/
Another reason I'm glad not to be a girl; guys can be real jerks.
So can girls Shika....
So can girls...
And what kills ME is that girls tend to date these guys more often than the ones that will love them forever. I've been over this, so I'll spare you the rant.
Hmm, honestly, I think we exaggerate that part a bit. The world's not that horrifically unfair.
No.
We don't exaggerate that ENOUGH.
Thats why it keeps happening >.<
My girl saw in me what nobody else did though.
Not only does she NOT think I'm ugly, but she says I'm the hottest guy who's ever had any kind of interest in her. There are some other things that could be said, but I'd rather not.
THANK YOU GOD.
Physical attraction is essential to a good relationship! Me and Eva Longoria would be perfect together!
Honestly though, is...that all she's said about you? :-[
Hehe. Hey, Bri. Dode.
No, she totally loves me.
We realized it after I went on vacation, and we felt sick without each other.
And no, there've been other things said, but they're unmentionable here. :-\
Quote from: Zelda Vet on November 03, 2008, 05:06:41 PMAnd what kills ME is that girls tend to date these guys more often than the ones that will love them forever. I've been over this, so I'll spare you the rant.
That's probably 'cause they treat dating like a
game.
A very sickening game, too.
Of course I am not that STUPID, but impulsive is another story.
Just saying.
DODE
I guess...until you're sure, just avoid those situations...
Dode.
As Shika is well aware, I have broken up with my girlfriend of 19 months about 2 weeks ago.
It was the suckiest week and a half of my life, and the suckiness continues. But there is another girl.. things're getting better... slowly...
I can't imagine how big a mess it's been. But...well, then again, what were you really expecting to happen?
Allow me this moment to say...
...
Okay, I don't know what to say other than asking you what happened. But that's none of my beeswax anyway...
I'm an ignoramus and I hate it. I also hate that I can't spell ignoramus.
*googles ignoramus*
* finds results of a play in 1615*
*googles ignorant*
*finally gets it*
What makes you say that? You don't really seem like that.
and dude, you don't even know ignorant until you've met my little brother. >.>
More girl trouble?
Actually, no. It's more trouble with myself. Deciding what I want, I guess. But relates to relationships. Is my possible gain worth someone else's possible pain?
Depends on what you mean by "gain" and what level the "pain" is at.
Pain when it comes to relationships and emotions is inevitable. Eventually most relationships end up falling apart.
The thing is how you perceive this type of pain. Pain is an experience that is natural. The option of hurting others accidentally is going to occur and sometimes it can't be prevented.
Maybe accidentaly, but what if I have a feeling it'll happen, so it's not quite accidental even if I don't want it to happen?
Think about it. Your feelings are put into motion by anxieties. You'll always be afraid of it even if it never happens. You need to find a way to relieve yourself of these anxieties.
I'm not that anxious though. Just kind of curious and confused. The whole young and naive thing. I dunno.
Why is it that guys feel the need to play girls? One of my friends who is a great guy cheated on the girl that he said was everything to him and all that and is playing the girls against each other.
It's because that, evidently, they think of dating as a game that should be won.
It's a cruel, cruel observation.
Less depressing news: I gots myself a boy. :B
You know the rules. No bringing boys unless you have enough to share with the class. What's his name?
His name is Justin AND HE MET ME JUST IN TIME GET IT
He's really nice but sometimes he freaks me out because he's... passionate, I guess? It's not a bad thing, I'm just not used to it.
YOUR PUNS REMIND ME OF RACHEL KEEP IT UP
Eh...he's not like, obsessive or anything, is he?
No, he's not obsessive- he's just... really passionate. I don't know how to explain it. It's not a bad thing by any means, but he's more of a "hug ^__^" type person than me.
He also buys me gifts a lot and is just... idk, it's kind of scary because he's very in-the-moment and I'm not. I like him, really, I just.... uh, yeah.
Well, he's probably excited. The whole puppy-love stage where you think the person you're with is much, much better than they really are. It happens a lot. Erm, not saying you're not worth all the attention, just...he's excited, I guess. Expecting a lot. Kinda...everything's all...happy and cuddly and...
God, I need to learn how to phrase things better. Am I making sense?
Don't worry, I'm crap for words, too! I understood it just fine.
Yes. Congrats, Fiskers.
And you know that if things end up not working out and he turns out being a total jerkwad or something, all you need to do is give us the address and we'll make him pay <3
Seems nice though.
The weirdest thing happened to me. In Mexico I met this amazing girl and we got along, but we only got romanticaly involved during my last weeks of my vacation. Since then, I have not been able to aproach girls or anything of that nature. I think I have am smitten :(.
I still keep in contact with her, and she tells me that she wants to wait for me, but there are two issues:
1) Distance
2) Age
I am confused as to how to proceed with this. Anyone have experience with long distance relationships or something? Like, should I continue or nip it now, since I will only see her during my vacation?
How old is she compared to you? I mean, you're still pretty young.
Umm... ahem...
*looks uncomfortable*
*FLEES*
Ummmm, Well, that is the main MAIN issue.
Her b-day was today
That would make her ummmm....
6 years 7 months older?
Quote from: Colonel Aureliano Buendia on December 19, 2008, 11:12:14 PM
Ummmm, Well, that is the main MAIN issue.
Her b-day was today
That would make her ummmm....
6 years 7 months?
.............................................
Also, JQ, don't even.
That's why a part of me wants to nip it at the bud before something unwanted happens. Then again, she is very important to me.
...older or younger?
She is older
EDIT: Look, I edited it so you don't get nailed for the one-word rule.
...
Here's what you have to ask yourself:
Why isn't she dating someone her age?
Well, that settles that.
Go get her cowboy.
Edit: This post is so going to make me burn in hell if she's actually 7 years old man.
She told me many times she did not like younger guys, and I saw her refuse a guy one year younger than she was, even though she liked him alot.
I was the first younger guy she ever dated, and my cousin, her bestest friend since they were born, assured me this.
It sounds like puppy love babble, but it is true.
Hmm...it just seems odd. I mean, at 21 you'd think she'd be living it up with slightly older guys.
I don't know. I completely expected that too, but I got to know her pretty well, and she doesn't seem to be like one of those girls. She gives off this vibe that tells you she's not. My cousin also told me this. She says that she loves her independence and being single.
That's why I enjoy her company so much.
I also truly do not know how she denied a guy one year younger than her, but then ended liking me.
Still, I am technically jailbait and we still have the distance issue
Any help and/or advice?
I'm thinking she probably just thinks you're cute, and is a little infatuated in that way, but can't think seriously about you. That's just going off of experience.
I have been through something like that before. This seems different because she showed emotion. It's hard to explain....if she couldn't think seriously about me, she wouldn't have cried when I left, or open herself up like she did to me. I must admit though, your point is completely valid, Saber
I guess all I can do is wait how my next meeting with her goes.
And thanks for editing my post, btw. I only edited it because I though there was something wrong with my profile for a second.
Just don't put all your hopes on this, alright? It could be crushing if you build up a year's expectations.
Speaking of editing posts, the warning stands, JQ. You can't pull that crap, it's an abuse of power.
Right, I see exactly where you are coming from.
Plus, she could be like all rest of the girls who only want guys for their body. Girls are so perverted
O M G ;)
Hey, if you can get girls with just your body, you have my respect.
What's your secret?
I recommend 200 sit-ups a day for sexy abs.
Too bad it's all flab now.
I tried to change the common stereotype that guys are perverts into the less commonly known one that targets females as pervs.
u sa wut i did thur?
Secrets? Well, eat more green veggies than meat, drink more water than soda, have sweets when you feel you deserve them, and make routine where you work out every other day (one day for resting your sore limbs, the next for making your rested limbs sore).
Facial hair, yes or no? If yes, I'm screwed.
If you feel that facial hair will make you look good, then yes.
Heck, if you feel that looking like the lead singer of Tokyo Hotel makes you feel attractive then knock yourself out. Being confident is what matters most.
I don't have my 5 '0 clock stubble either :(
Quote from: Colonel Aureliano Buendia on December 20, 2008, 12:53:11 AM
then knock yourself out.
The ladies like the unconciousness, yes?
Meh, I can go without shaving a few days before it looks noticeably bad.
I need a solution to this problem my sister has:
My sister isn't very talkative, but there's this one guy (we'll call him Bob in case he doesn't want people knowing his name or something) who does talk to her. They started talking last year when they were juniors. My sister was glad to finally have a friend to talk to. Now, this year, Bob told her that he liked her, he even told me, too (he's my friend on DeviantART, and I know him from Photoshop Club at school). But when my sister said she didn't like him like that, he said "It's 'cause I'm fat, isn't it?" when it wasn't. It's just that she's not interested in dating yet, much like me (I have a friend who likes me, but when I told him I didn't want a boyfriend, he understood, and we're still good friends). But Bob doesn't seem to want to let go of her.
When I was chatting with him on MSN, he told me that he had a character he made up on World of Warcraft (we'll call his character Bill, because the real name of his character is also his DeviantART name) who was, as he said "epitome of evil" or something like that. Like his character would kill children just so he could survive and stuff and Bob told me that Bill was like his alter ego, and only friend for a little while. Kind of scary, if you think about it, having a pure evil imaginary friend. But he said that when he met my sister, Bill went away. So I thought "Oh, that's a good thing." but then thinking "Oh God! Maybe it's not so good!" Because my sister doesn't like him back, she's also starting to find him rather annoying (and so am I) because he has a tenancy to be...rather rude at times, but I know he doesn't mean to be. For example, when I had something called "Shingles" I had it on my back and I told him about it. When I was talking to him a while later, he said "Is your arse still itching?" so I said "Umm...I said it was on my back..." and he kept insisting it was on my bottom, which was really starting to get on my nerves since I was the one who had it, so I should know. Also, he kept making light of my Crohn's disease, saying "So, you're in the hospital for Crohn's? Are ya having explosive diarrhea and stuff?" Like I said, I know he's just kidding around, but he doesn't seem to realize that some people get annoyed with that. He most likely doesn't pick that up because he doesn't talk to people very much, you know.
Every time he tells me how much he cares about my sister, and how she doesn't seem to like him back, I just want to tell him "Quit wasting your time. She doesn't like you the same way you like her. Let it go." but thinking back to his alter ego, Bill, I see he's just lonely. And I can kind of see why he doesn't want to let my sister go. When he chats with me on MSN, he says "Is there something bothering her? I really care about her, so I wanna help her but whenever I try to talk to her, she never seems to wanna talk to me." I'm tempted to just tell him bluntly, "Leave my sister alone! You wanna know what's bothering her? It's you! She already told you she's not interested, but you can't seem to take a hint! If you want to help her, if you wanna do her a favour, then don't do anything and leave her alone!" But the thing about Bill keeps me from saying that because he has a fragile self esteem and for some reason, I'm afraid if I or my sister say something to him and make him mad, Bill might come back and he'll...I dunno, start shooting up the school or something.
Can anyone help with this? Ladies who've had some experience with guys? Gentlemen who can relate to Bob?
I think you may have to be blunt with him, tell him that you're not comfortable with the crap he's been saying to you and your sister. Sometimes it's better to be blunt than to have someone keep being a jerk.
If he doesn't understand what he's doing wrong, then there won't be progress. You shouldn't be afraid, just let him know that he can be friends, just not the way he wants to be, like in an intimate relationship. He needs to understand that.
Alright, that sounds good. Thanks, JQ, my sister and I owe you one! :)
Don't make too big a deal out of relationships. It's not like a proposal or anything.
This isn't a big deal, compared to other cases I've seen. The PM was really only huge and juicy with details because DH92 knows what I'm talking about.
If you get along well, there's no reason not to give it a shot. Don't expect to be soulmates right off the bat or anything though. You expect everything to work perfectly from the beginning, and you overlook the things that are wrong...anyways, you're too young to worry about that.
Point is, it shouldn't ruin the whole family friendship unless you pull some really stupid stunt. So just be relaxed and do what you feel is right.
Sorry, but I fail to see how. Unless they're incredibly paranoid or something.
And "not looking at you the same" doesn't necessarily mean it will be bad. If anything, it's plausible that they'd find it, for lack of a better term, "fluffy" and good natured.
He won't need to be cautious unless you give him reason to be cautious.
Treat her with the utmost respect. See her as an equal. That's the only way things can work. If either of you thinks that one is too good or not good enough, there goes the balance and one of you's going to end up looking like a jerk or a fool. Just relax. If you think it's what you want, then give it a shot. Nothing else is important. If she thinks it's right, she'll say yes. It's that simple.
Okay, Here is my predicament. I like a girl who is younger than me, we talk a lot and she's awesome. A lot of my friends think shes ugly, and I'm like "Who gives?". Thats not the Problem.
She's like a perfect copy of me in personality terms she even likes LoZ (and she's helping with a movie I'm making) Also not the problem.
I just don't know how I should tell her I like her. And yes, She's younger like I said. OH NO! She knows about this site and my account on it! What if she decides to come here!
I find that action is better than inaction.
Also, don't be scared of rejection. If she rejects you it is simply because she didn't like something you did/do, not you entirely. Also, if they reject you, they miss out on all the wonderful assets you have to offer. That also means that she probably wasn't meant for you and that is a good thing. Imagine how it would go for you if you went out with her and there was no compatibility?
Look at it as a win-win situation
I guess, I'm also not sure if she's even interested in dating. I've also gotten some really weird chain mail from her. But I'm not sure if she sends it to just me or everyone.
Wait, how much younger is she? Like, 3 months or 3 years?
She's 2 years younger...
Edited to avoid one word rule
Well, how about not directly telling her. Like, instead of having her come over to play video games, take her to the movies, or out to dinner. Kinda slide into a relationship. Let it progress.
Well we meet at the library to discuss the movie I'm making, She's also illustrating my book. No it isn't a fanfic.
Well, do you see her at any other time (except school)? Like, do you have her over, or anything like that?
I'm homeschooled ;D I see her every other week at the library and we talk on the phone alot
Oooooooooh. Then try just inviting her over or something. Nothing huge. Just to get closer with her.
We do need to get started on the movie. Okay I'll try it. Also I really hope she doesn't find this site....
Sliding it sounds good, but it there is the posibility it can turn into a friends with benefits thing, which isn't that great after a while.
My advice would be to act upon it
Bleh Fw/b Idea scares me...
Well, if you want my input, nothing brings a couple together quite like Brawl. ;D [/kind of a fanfic reference]
Sounds to me, though, that the good advice has already been said, or is at least being taken care of. My work here is...done?
MAGMARFIRE YOUR A GENIUS! No really you are, I can't believe I didn't think of a brawl Party.
Edited due to spamminess
My boyfriend's a guest speaker at a furry convention this year. Like, they're paying for his hotel room and everything. It's crazy. (It's not like, some backwater Texas convention no one goes to, either, it's the biggest furry convention in the US in California)
Nothing else really big is happening, though. ( I SOUND LIKE A FURRY LOL ) My parents are warming up to him, which is good. I thought they'd hate him forever for being an old person. :U
Thats Great Fiskers. No really it is. But furry's scare me.. :-X
Quote from: linkdragon0 on January 03, 2009, 09:27:27 AM
MAGMARFIRE YOUR A GENIUS! No really you are, I can't believe I didn't think of a brawl Party.
Whoa, you think that's a good idea?
Yay! An idea of mine that doesn't suck! :D
Of course it's a good idea, Didn't you read the post i put up she likes Zelda and games as much as I do.
Oh, yeah I heard... But they're two different game series, technically. :P
However, I'm glad you like the idea.
I can guarantee she knows enough about Games to rival any of us guys.
Sounds like you have your eyes on a winner, man. Nice work. ;)
But like I said alot of the guys I know say she's ugly. But also I said Who cares not like I'm in it just for looks, I want company. (no word twists please)
Quote from: Fiskers on January 03, 2009, 10:40:16 AM
My boyfriend's a guest speaker at a furry convention this year. Like, they're paying for his hotel room and everything. It's crazy. (It's not like, some backwater Texas convention no one goes to, either, it's the biggest furry convention in the US in California)
Nothing else really big is happening, though. ( I SOUND LIKE A FURRY LOL ) My parents are warming up to him, which is good. I thought they'd hate him forever for being an old person. :U
Wait, old? How much older?
/just curious
He's older than me by.... 3 or 4 years. Doesn't bother me, though. :U
I would recomend somewhere that isn't too cliché like the movies.
Mini golf and/or go carts sound fun and not predictable.
I would do whatever sounds good. Honestly, if you're going to do things you hate to make her happy, it's pointless. Just see what sounds fun at the moment, it's not that big a deal. Heck, me and Bri's first date was a movie. Had a great time. Cliches aren't that big a deal, relationships aren't a game or anything. No stats to keep track of.
...
Though in some cases, stats could be helpful. Hmm.
Clichés are clichés for a reason. ;)
A good point.
...
Though honestly, if the movie is terrible, it won't be much fun. Ironman was an amazing movie. Then again, if you're seeing the movie with someone who has a good sense of humor, seeing a bad movie could be absolutely hilarious. May disrupt anyone in the area, but meh.
Parents aren't that big a deal, I don't know why everyone freaks out so much about them :/
Quote from: Shika on January 05, 2009, 06:36:01 PM
Parents aren't that big a deal, I don't know why everyone freaks out so much about them :/
My parents don't let me date :(
How about you speak thoroughly with your mom about the situation
I think where you choose to go on the date depends on how comfortable you are together. The cinema is good if it's a new relationship because you don't have to talk alot and afterwards you can always talk about the film.
If you know each other quite well, I think a walk is always nice, you can really get to know the person, plus you wouldn't have the driving with your parents thing.
My love life still sucks, since I last posted in this topic I was asked out, but it was by some guy who thought I'd say yes just because he has a car and is like 3 years older than me. I said No, plus I didn't know him at all, I only knew of him because he is a friend of my brothers and I'd answered the door a few times, apparently he told my brother he thought I was fit (I was quite flattered), my brother went a bit mental when he asked me out.
Alright, I guess I like a guy who is easy to talk to and is really easy going but loyal.
Also, to the previous conversation: I would go to the cinema if I was a bit nervous, but if you feel really comfortable I would love if I guy asked me to go for a walk with him :]
Well, the distance doesn't seem that large of a problem.
Better than three hours, anyway. :P
But if it works for you, go for it.
What's your opinion on physicality in relationships...? I mean, not what are you comfortable with, but what kind of effect do you think physicality has on people's feelings?
Physicality? Could you be a bit more clear on what you mean by that?
Meaning intimate contact. Making out, fondling, the like.
Having no experience with relationships, I'm merely speculating here, but "making out, fondling, the like" shouldn't be the only aspect of the relationship. While it may be enjoyable, it seems to be a superficial aspect, and the relationship ought to run deeper than that to be healthy. If you can't talk to your partner about what have you or share your feelings with him/her, then you probably shouldn't be in that relationship.
It's my opinion that being physical with someone can make you feel an attachment that wouldn't be there otherwise. You could be completely noncompatible with someone, but if you're extremely physical, the endorphins released by the actions make you think you're in the perfect relationship. Problem is that in today's relationships things get rushed...they do too many things ahead of time. I'm not saying it's bad to be that intimate, I'm just saying...if the feelings aren't there ahead of time, being that physical is dangerous...I've seen several of my friends stay in horrible, abusive relationships. When I ask why, they say it's because the guy 'loves them', even though it's clear that he either doesn't care about them much at all or there just isn't anything there between them. I think the physical aspect of the relationship is being portrayed as love now...I've always seen it as a statement of your attachment, not the attachment itself. But it seems like it's become that, and it's causing so many people to stay in unsuccessful relationships...they overlook the problems.
Nice psychological break-down right there.
I believe intimacy is important, though I wouldn't go with HNS' line of thought of intimacy as entirely superficial. I haven't been in a relationship either. But I would say that it promotes a bonding experience. Though I can agree that a lot of relationships are based on the physical aspect, I must associate the physical and the emotional together in definition of intimacy.
It's just...I guess mostly when I dated that girl a year ago, she got extremely upset that I didn't kiss her right away. In a way, it kind of made me afraid to be very physical in my relationships. Seeing the way it affected her, I didn't want to be that dependent on physical intimacy. So I tried hard to restrain myself and make sure that I didn't do anything with anyone unless I felt absolutely sure that I already felt that strongly about them and they were worth it. I may have held back too much though.
So basically... You weren't intimate, she got upset, then with your future relationships you decide never to be intimate. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
If you go about without physical contact, physical touch, intimate touch you end up appearing cold. You want to be warm, open, intimate. Not cold.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 26, 2009, 01:58:58 PM
So basically... You weren't intimate, she got upset, then with your future relationships you decide never to be intimate. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
Deciding to be intimate != being afraid of being intimate, JQ. However, if it means going out of his comfort zone to be that way, of course it makes sense for him to be afraid about it.
Quote from: MagmarFire on January 26, 2009, 02:15:56 PM
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 26, 2009, 01:58:58 PM
So basically... You weren't intimate, she got upset, then with your future relationships you decide never to be intimate. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
Deciding to be intimate != being afraid of being intimate, JQ. However, if it means going out of his comfort zone to be that way, of course it makes sense for him to be afraid about it.
lol I can't believe you didn't see the sarcasm there.
Sometimes one's comfort zone has to be extended, this is so in relationships as one's comfort zone between lovers is more 'close', than between normal people. The point is that he's afraid of extending his comfort zone for some unkown reason, as a result his relationships suffer.
Not that hard to figure out.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 26, 2009, 01:58:58 PM
So basically... You weren't intimate, she got upset, then with your future relationships you decide never to be intimate. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
I didn't decide never to be intimate. I just realized how important it was to see how things work without the intimacy. I saw how she really was. Besides, it's hardly like I went months without doing anything; it lasted two weeks, and it was after three days she started getting...yeah.
Quote
If you go about without physical contact, physical touch, intimate touch you end up appearing cold. You want to be warm, open, intimate. Not cold.
I try to be intimate in other ways though, through eye contact, actually caring, holding conversation, compliments, that kind of thing. Does that not count?
And yes, it may be causing my relationships to suffer, that's why I'm trying to figure it out.
And people wonder why I'm staying single.
She's probably trying to hint you at something.
the personality is what its all about for me. cant be a jerk, and must be close to my hieght for the min. preferably taller than me. lol.
So... How tall are you?
5'11" haha. I hate having to look down at guys ha.
Man I feel short at only 5'10"
haha. its okay. don't feel bad. im extrordinarilly tall for a female.
Heh. Height. Last year during one of the plays we were all hanging around backstage talking and joking, I said something funny I suppose, we laughed a bit, then one of the girls (who I wasn't even interested in anyways) who is pretty darn tall looks down at me and says "Hah, I'd probably like you if you weren't so short."
aww. that is so mean. i hate when people do that. I mean I'm going to like someone regardless of how tall they are. I mean its a bonus if i can't see over their head, but its not like its a big deal. how tall are you?
I dunno. 5'8"ish I think. I don't really think too much about it. And I wasn't upset or anything, it was kinda funny.
aw well as long as it wasn't offensive thats cool ha.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on January 26, 2009, 08:18:39 PM
Man I feel short at only 5'10"
Here, I'll make you feel tall again. I'm about 5'7".
I don't much care for height. If she's taller than me, then so what?
However, most women I know are shorter than me.
You all are irritating me, I'm 5'4 ;___;
heh no I kid I kid add a foot to that.
Quote from: Davy Jones on January 26, 2009, 08:31:23 PM
You all are irritating me, I'm 5'4 ;___;
heh no I kid I kid add a foot to that.
ahh. someone taller than me!! yay.
jk :P
I'm 5'7" or so, but I always feel short, mainly because all the people I hang out with are like 6 something.
As for dating someone shorter.. I don't know how I would feel, but I like to wear heels and be taller than my guy... but I also like to be shorter so I can nuzzle in a hug just right.... -conflicted-
Going back to intimacy, I think it's a key aspect to a relationship, but the severity and type depends on the relationship itself.
I'm about 5'5 maybe a bit more haven't been measured in ages, I'm about the same height as most girls in my Year at school.
I love my height though, a guy being taller than me is a huge plus, I like to feel protected, that's why i have a HUGE thing for broad shoulders as well (and I'm not too fond of lanky guys), and being my height nearly all guys are at least a little taller (except for the short ones haha), and it means I can wear gorgeous heels without looking like a giant.
And on Intimacy: I totally agree with Brizzy, I think it's very important but to varying degrees.
I also want to add that I do agree with Shika, too much dependancy on intimacy is bad. You start to need it and you can't let it go. No matter how bad the situation is.. you can't bring yourself to leave them and leave that. It's just easier to stay with them then have to start all over with someone else.
Dang, I am not sure if I said what I wanted to say or even if I said it right. :-[
And it can make you feel more for someone than you really should. If a relationship can't survive without physical contact...not saying it shouldn't not have some, just...if it's necessary, then it may not be a good relationship.
Then again, if you feel strongly enough about someone...I guess there are times when you should take the risk. I always held myself back so much...hmm. I guess I've been too conservative, too afraid of taking risks. Too logical instead of emotional, I guess.
My boyfriend's actually 2 inches taller than me, and it works out perfectly. :3 I dunno, couples are more... aesthetically pleasing when the male is taller than the female, but I don't like it when there's a huge height difference (like, even 5" is a little much in my opinion) because... there's a gap.
I'd feel like a jerkface for saying I don't really like guys shorter than me (5' 11" - 6') but I don't like to be the dominating personality (which gets pushed on me a lot because I'm rather thick-skinned & tall) in a relationship, and that tends to happen. I'm actually quite the opposite.
Hm... well, to be honest, my relationship hasn't gone very far since the last post in here. We're quite content, but I'm still quite a bit distant- on Valentine's day I told him I'd give him a hug, and that's sadly a pretty big leap for me.
What does this have to do with relationships?
I just recently acquired a new girlfriend. By recently I mean about three months ago. I haven't actually been here. :P She's pretty spunky and super. Way too hyper and happy some of the time, but hey. It gets me out of my darker moods.
And you've apparently been having a lot of drama with your ex still >.>
I'm still kind of amazed at how quickly you let go and went to the new girl. Was your other relationship not that serious or what?
It was actuallyreally serious. If you're wodnering, I still have random breakdowns over her from time to time. I just recently achieved some form of closure. Hopefully it'll stop.
Yeah, hopefully. But it is good that you've moved on at least a little bit.
Quote from: MasterKeyX on February 11, 2009, 05:22:53 PM
If you're wodnering, I still have random breakdowns over her from time to time.
Yeah, I know what you mean. Well, that answers a few of the questions that were bugging me then.
You know what i love? when you really like a girl, and they hit on you and give you signs, and you get ready to ask them out...then they start dating someone else just like that, and break up with them two days after it started... i am really mad at that girl for doing that, i don't know if i still have the same feelings for her anymore... but i still think about her, but I try not to, and yea, it makes me mad...
I know most relationships are first based off of crushes, but if she's really someone worth loving, then she wouldn't do that.
Or perhaps she could very well, just be like me where I want to be friends with some boys, but not boyfriend and girlfriend, and the ones who wind up liking me feel heartbroken because they thought I was being kind to them because I liked them like that, when in the end, I just want to have some friends of both genders. Just friends, really.
But, of course, if she was really flirting with you. I mean really acting like a tart, and now she's just ignoring you and acting like "Ew! Why would I go out with you?!", then I say up hers and throw her in the trash.
I agree with Vaati on the point about how irritating it can be when guys mistake kindness for a crush.
People go on at us girls for being fleety or showing mixed signs when it's never entirely our fault. It's often because the majority of guys are completely dense when it comes to reading us. They either don't get that we like them, even when we make it blindingly obvious. Or they mistake simple acts of friendship as something more.
I don't mind that guys dont always know what you mean, it can be cute, it's just when people start accusing girls of being manipulative or leading people on that it makes me angry.
And then after i told her about this, she didn't tell me her mom doesn't let her date senior's or junior's. yeah i was defently mad at that.
Yeah I definitely agree with the girls. I flirted with one guy for like 2 years straight and he never noticed. I just gave up on him after that. The other day he asked me why I'm not as friendly anymore and I just stared at him, thinking to myself: you are an idiot. haha.
I AM IGNORING EVERYTHING THUS FAR TO POST THIS
NOTICE: I AM VERY OPINIONATED AND USE MODERATE (BUT NOT INAPPROPRIATE) LANGUAGE BELOW.
I'll post this clipping from a Facebook convo (so don't expect to understand half of the banter)..
I know, I'm attracted to f'ed-up girls, too. Let me run through the list.
First girlfriend, MICKEY, anemic, depressive, kleptomaniac, compulsive liar, has ovarian cysts, has essentially every f-ing mental and health problem you can ever think of.
Second girlfriend, MINNIE if you remember her, is a total slut who can't decide anything and broke up with me ON VALENTINE'S DAY BECAUSE SHE LIKED ANOTHER GUY (and told me so as she was breaking up with me. I like to know, but I mean goddamn)
Third chick, UNCLE SCROOGE. I didn't exactly date her, we had a purely physical relationship. On her boyfriend's bed. Every time we got together as a group. Occasionally while he was in the same room.
^^^^^^^^^^These are all in the same circle of friends I've had since the 7th grade, btw.
Fourth, GOOFY. Definitely a case of Myspace angle gone wrong. She was also a cutter.
Fifth, DONALD (not the halfrican). Crazy overly-possessive nympho with a knifeplay fetish.
Sixth, DAISY. You might have seen her on my friend's list/wall. She's an emo pothead with a fetish for pain.
Seventh, MORTIMER. She was a Christian *****.
Eighth, PLUTO. *list of Ellie's problems*
Keep in mind I was on-and-off with MICKEY between essentially every girl on this list, and you have a summary of Jay's love life to date.
This is not counting the various girls I have sexed.
The names have been changed to protect the ignorant.
If I have missed any profanities, please, warn me for them. Set an example and whatnot.
Well, Tacheon, If you have that many problems with them, then why go out with them?
Then again, if you're attracted to those qualities, then... I'm not sure how I can help ya there. ;)
Quote from: FishyRules on February 22, 2009, 11:53:56 PM
Well, Tacheon, If you have that many problems with them, then why go out with them?
Then again, if you're attracted to those qualities, then... I'm not sure how I can help ya there. ;)
Anyway, I finally decided to ask out that girl, then the week I was going to, I got hit with the flu. In those two weeks she got asked out, but any other time before that would've been fine with me. :-*
oh man that sucks so hard
and yeah I'm just unconsciously attracted to screwed-up girls.
But really that sucks,
Me? No. Single by choice. I'm fed up with women (and men, Shika, don't try it).
Quote from: Davy Jones on February 23, 2009, 12:12:05 AM
I'm fed up with women (and men, Shika, don't try it).
Nice catch. ;) :P
Anyway, When you say
Quote from: Davy Jones on February 23, 2009, 12:12:05 AM
Single by choice.
it sounds permanent. Do you plan to stay that way, or just for now?
It's indefinite.
JQ's love life has been filled with massive, epic failures. Basically it boils down to this
1. I scare people.
2. I come on too strongly
I have insanely high/particular standards when it comes to guys, at least that's my excuse, so whenever a guy likes me there is a high chance I wont like him back, I am extremely picky.^^
Plus all the guys in my year are immature prats.
It should be better next year though because I move into sixth form where we mix with the year above.
Quote from: FishyRules on February 23, 2009, 05:14:38 PM
Seems I have three options. The first (staying single) doesn't sound so great.
It may not seem so great, but it really is the best option. I've never seen or even heard of a successful Middle School relationship. ever. Trust me, wait 'till High School to date the girls you want. Then at least you'll have a chance for success.
Quote from: FishyRules on February 23, 2009, 05:14:38 PM
-I'll be taking a girl from King Komali. (not cool.)
Nicole is anything
but KK's girl.
Quote from: FishyRules on February 23, 2009, 05:14:38 PMone of them was just like "Nicole desperately wants you to ask her out".
Don't fall for it. I can't tell you how many times her friends and even
she tells me that. But she never got upset when I said no.
Bottom line, if you want to go out with her, do it. If not, don't. But I am certain of one thing, if you go out with her now, you'll break up with her. Then you blew your only chance. If you want to get
rid of her, go out with her now.
Man, you kids are lucky to be getting into relationships when you're in middle school. When I was your age, I was just a sad wandering soul. Come to think of it, I'm STILL a sad, wandering soul.
I give you my permission to break her heart. :P
God I'm sick. Every freaking time I talk to her it reminds me of why I asked her out.
Quote from: Shika on February 24, 2009, 06:33:42 AM
God I'm sick. Every freaking time I talk to her it reminds me of why I asked her out.
Ain't it a *****?
Quote from: Shika on February 24, 2009, 06:33:42 AM
God I'm sick. Every freaking time I talk to her it reminds me of why I asked her out.
Antecedent of
her, plz?
Bri, of course. God, I've tried to move on so many times, but I'm such a picky little brat...
Then...maybe the best thing to do is say nothing in particular? Just hang out?
Well I'm still communicating with the 22 year old, and we are still doing the whole long distance thing. I am glad actually because all my past relationships were based on the physical, and this relationship has matured me emotionally. I now see that being physical is important, but not as much as a strong emotional bond. Also I have a clearer idea as to what I want in both my professional life and love life
And Fishy, Mag's idea is a good one because then there is less pressure on both sides and you get to feel each other out.
Well me and Kate are together now. And just so you know Akumann wasn't a guy, it was her.
We talk to each other all the time on the phone and we try to see each other as much as possible.
Anyway good luck with all your guys' relationship/
Aight, here's how it went yesterday.
Nicole: Hey, Zack. Can I have a hug?
Me: Sure. *coughYEHScough* (I didn't actually say that...)
Nicole: Alright, bye!
Me: Actually... Are you free this weekend?
Nicole: Uuuuuuh... not really.
Me: What about Friday? (Which is now today.)(This was yesterday.)
Nicole: nnnnnnnnnno.
Me: Alright, then.
Nicole: Are you asking me out?
Me: Yeah.
Nicole: Ok, bye! *Scurries off*
...I'm not really sure what to walk away with after that conversation. ;)
It's called "rejection" and is frowned upon in most societies.
I thought there was a difference between the person saying no because they don't like you, and saying no because they can't.
It still could be the first one, though. ;)
Think I should ask her again? Wait, I'm going away Friday through this weekend. Oh well.
After going the first time, I wouldn't ask her. You don't want to make it look like you're forcing yourself on her. That doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to her, though.
Heh. Some friends want to be really involved in who their friends date. Kind of amusing, really.
That's exactly her friends.
I always crack up after talking to them.
Okay you single or newly coupled people. here are some tips based on my experience.
1: Flattery works
2: Talk to them as much as possible without being clingy (very hard to do.)
3: Find stuff you both like.
4: Be ready to change for her. I had to get rid of my mustache for my girlfreind and I haven't regretted it.
Okay I'll come back with more tips later.
Quote from: FishyRules on March 11, 2009, 05:42:38 PM
That's exactly her friends.
I always crack up after talking to them.
When kids at my school ask eachother out, normally they don't say, "Want to go to the movies?" or "Want to go to the dance?"
They say "You wanna go out?" and then it spreads in rumors that they are dating. After about a week, they start asking them to go places.
Of couse, we are all 13 and 14 years old.
AND WERE FROM ALABAMER' ( I'm serious.)
Edit: Decided to give my relationship status.
Well, I am single, first off. I have two girls I can choose from.
Girl 1: Alot of rumors appear about this girl. A couple of idiots have taken advantage of her. Has small mental problems.
Girl 2: Really, really nice. She isn't a **** like most girls in my grade.
Stops people from bullying other kids.
Girl 1 is single, Girl 2 is not. Aye Carumba! (spellcheck please)
I'm fairly sure that word isn't allowed. Fix'd. -Twilight Wolf
I have a date on saturday with the girl at the movies. :)
Dats cool. Girl 2 is single, so I'm thinking about asking her out.
Ah, good luck, you two! Hope it all goes well! ;D
She got walking namonia this weekend, so we didn't go. :-*
What did you do about it?
As in what you told her.
When I asked what she wanted to see, she said she was really sick. I told her to feel better, and that was on saturday. I saw her today at school, and then she told me what she had. I said that's horrible, and then I was pulled away, I was supposed to be somewhere else.
I feel so bad...
Pneumonia, you mean? Dang, that blows hard, dude. ???
A person sick with Pneumonia would NEVER be allowed to come to school. My dad died of Pneumonia, as have many, many others.
I don't think it's pneumonia.
Hmm... You do make a good point, JQ. A reason for suspicion...
It could be a misdiagnosis, but I wouldn't count on it.
I went to school with walking pneumonia 2 years ago. It's the same as regular pneumonia, but you don't really look or feel that sick. I remember it was so weird when I had it.
Question: How do you get courage to ask a girl out?
You must free yourself from every emotion, become numb for a moment. At least that's how I have done it, and, while it doesn't always work, at least it brings you to ask her out every time.
That's deep. Thanks dude, but should I do it when other people are around? I mean, I only see her alone about once a month, but I see her with people around everyday.
That's harsh...
All you need actually is one or two minutes, or even 30 seconds really, if you already know each other.
Yeah, I had the chance and it completely slipped my mind.
I vote you for the "MEMBER WITH BEST KNOWLEDGE OF RELATIONSHIPS" award.
Don't, I don't really have that many experience, I just know my way aroud people.
And too bad, dude, I know the chance will come again.
*nudges the award in his face*
Take it. You deserve it.
Well, my friend has stopped being so...goading with getting my sister to like him. And I've already told him no one in our family is really into dating, but he told me he wants to keep trying and he's going to ask her to prom. He said that she may not feel that way right now, but he's willing to keep trying and wait for her.
At first, it was just my sister who was getting annoyed with this, but now it's starting to bug me too how he just keeps rambling on about how much he "loves" her. I mean, that's just gross! You don't talk about how much you like you crush to their sibling! Sick! I don't wanna hear it! :P Not even the freshies are this "forceful". In a way, I feel sorry for him because he has no one else. But, I wanna tell him to leave my sister alone. In all this time he's wasting, there could be someone else for him.
I know your her sibling and all, but when it comes to relationships, its between him and her. You telling him to back off will just make it worse. He wont leave her alone tell she gives a no.
This is the thing: she HAS told him "no", but he's just way too attached to her for his own good. I know what the pressure of knowing someone is infatuated with you and you feel nothing for them. It's stressful!! When the boy who liked me wrote me a love poem about how I was "an angel" and how when he looked at me all the bad things went away, I started crying when I got home because I was stressed of the situation.
And as her sister, I feel it's my duty to help him realize he has to let go.
Well, if someone was super-dooper in love with me, I'd certianly go out with them. It seems to me like you dont like him because of his looks. They is a saying if you keep trying you will succeed, so maybe he is sticking to that.
Question: Is love where you would want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Is it where you feel nervous, happy, and caring when you see them? Can you fake yourself into love? What if that person doesn't love you back? Can you keep trying? Does love prevail?( as in if you love someone will it all work out)
She hates his personality. It's like Meg said in Hercules "Well, you know men. They think "No" means "Yes" and "Get lost" means "Take me, I'm yours"." If you keep pestering a girl (especially the way the guy who likes my sis does) she's only going to hate him more. Common sense, people! And you can't force love, FunTykoon. You seem more ready and you'll jump on the opportunity when it comes. But she doesn't want that. "Not ready" means "not ready". It doesn't mean "Oohhh. I'm too nervous!" or "I only like them for their looks!" It's a plain "not ready." Nothing more, nothing less.
And as for me, you don't seem to be able to grasp the fact that I do NOT date! It grosses me the HECK out! ??? I don't even want to marry. Who says the world revolves around romance, anyway?! Susan Boyle is in her 40s and she's never gotten married or been kissed.
Oh, look at me! I'm a successful honours student with a hobby, a dream for a career, but oh no! I'm going to die because I DON'T HAVE A FRIGGEN' BOYFRIEND THAT I DON'T NEED!
I'm sorry for the outburst, but love is a very sensitive subject. I believe strongly that love is barely worth it. Unless it's like, Vaati, or something, then maybe. That's right! I'm still a hardcore VFG! What are you gonna do?! :P But anyway, this is about my sister not me. Love isn't a problem for me because the guy who was obsessed with me has calmed down but we're still friends. I'm not worried if I'll ever marry, because...well...I think people are disgusting. My sis thinks different. She wants to have a relationship someday when she's ready, but not yet. You can't change that.
Quote from: FunTykoon on April 15, 2009, 01:51:46 PM
Question: Is love where you would want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Is it where you feel nervous, happy, and caring when you see them? Can you fake yourself into love? What if that person doesn't love you back? Can you keep trying? Does love prevail?( as in if you love someone will it all work out)
Okay, can someonw answer this for me?
^ I'm rather sure that the answer to all of those depends on the person in question.
You shouldn't really try to search for that answer, because "love" means something different to virtually every person in the world, maybe you should try to look for that answer yourself.
In my experience, people must put effort in their relationship if it is not based solely on sexual attraction.
Is it possible for a 13 year old to be in love?
Quote from: FunTykoon on April 19, 2009, 06:03:15 PM
Is it possible for a 13 year old to be in love?
Yesh...I think. I guess. *Thinks*
...Ya XD
I'm not sure but since I'm almost 13 I guess I can sorta answer that question XDD
QuoteIs it where you feel nervous, happy, and caring when you see them?
And yeah, I guess that's a good way to describe it.
I don't think it's the same kind of love you have for your parents, though. XD
Sorry for barging in, just kinda bored is all XDD
And I say looks matter little, it's what's on the inside that counts. :)
Kay I'm done. Baii
Sorry if this is spam-ish in any way D:
I think it is possible but some people tend to just get very emotionally/physically attached and mistake it for love.
Quote from: Rinku-Arrika on May 01, 2009, 09:34:21 PM
I think it is possible but some people tend to just get very emotionally/physically attached and mistake it for love.
I'm pretty sure that being emotionally attached is love. And I have no pyshical attraction to her.
I broke up with my boyfriend on Thursday... it just wasn't working out at all. He hasn't talked to me since, even though I want to still be friends.
I'm not torn up about it at all, which is probably a bad thing, but it was mostly a one-sided relationship to begin with. I'm not very loving. /:
I'm glad to see that it seems you're taking it well. ;)
How well's he taking it, I wonder?
Girls, would you find it wierd if a guy came up to you and complimented you on something just to engage you in a conversation?
I mean, I pretty good friends with the girl I like, its just that I need a womans advice on this. What about asking for your phone number. I had hear phone number, but when I lemonade-tsunami'd all over it, I lost all of my numbers. I was thinking about asking for it again.
I suppose it depends what it was, a simple "You look nice today" can be very sweet, but often with compliments they can come across a bit creepy or sarcastic, just make sure to be sincere.
And if you already had her number I'm sure it would be fine to ask for it again, just tell her you lost all your numbers and she'll understand.
Quote from: AliCal on May 10, 2009, 03:40:33 AM
I suppose it depends what it was, a simple "You look nice today" can be very sweet, but often with compliments they can come across a bit creepy or sarcastic, just make sure to be sincere.
And if you already had her number I'm sure it would be fine to ask for it again, just tell her you lost all your numbers and she'll understand.
Like, where would it become creepy?
Don't say, "You smell good" or "I like your nailbeds" or anything too particularly specific. It makes it look like you've been stalking her. Say something like "I like your shirt/shoes/etc." that you can notice on someone right off the bat.
On the other hand, Mags, I'm taking it well and he totally isn't. Blocked me on MSN and so on, and stripped me of admin powers on GatorAIDS. It's all very petty and immature, but eh... I don't really care- I think it just shows his faults and stuff.
Quote from: Capt. Fiskers on May 10, 2009, 03:07:56 PMIt's all very petty and immature. . .
This. It summarizes my final impressions of the situation quite well... V.V
At least you're handling it well, though. :)
Quote from: Capt. Fiskers on May 10, 2009, 03:07:56 PM
Don't say, "You smell good" or "I like your nailbeds" or anything too particularly specific. It makes it look like you've been stalking her. Say something like "I like your shirt/shoes/etc." that you can notice on someone right off the bat.
On the other hand, Mags, I'm taking it well and he totally isn't. Blocked me on MSN and so on, and stripped me of admin powers on GatorAIDS. It's all very petty and immature, but eh... I don't really care- I think it just shows his faults and stuff.
Oh, well that is easy. I just thought that if I said something too nice she would find me creepy. We are friends, so if I said " I like your nailbeds" she would probably take it as a joke.
PS: Her nailbeds are awesome.
Quote from: FunTykoon on May 10, 2009, 04:38:14 PM
Quote from: Capt. Fiskers on May 10, 2009, 03:07:56 PM
Don't say, "You smell good" or "I like your nailbeds" or anything too particularly specific. It makes it look like you've been stalking her. Say something like "I like your shirt/shoes/etc." that you can notice on someone right off the bat.
On the other hand, Mags, I'm taking it well and he totally isn't. Blocked me on MSN and so on, and stripped me of admin powers on GatorAIDS. It's all very petty and immature, but eh... I don't really care- I think it just shows his faults and stuff.
Oh, well that is easy. I just thought that if I said something too nice she would find me creepy. We are friends, so if I said " I like your nailbeds" she would probably take it as a joke.
PS: Her nailbeds are awesome.
hahaha. i love jokes like that.
but seriously. just be yourself, but make sure she realizes that you like her as more than a friend.
short rage burst real quick:
http://forums.gatoraids.com/showpost.php?p=5427&postcount=80
http://forums.gatoraids.com/showpost.php?p=5430&postcount=82
mmmyep because he couldn't not demote me for such stupid reasons, makes a lot of sense to me lol
Someone needs to call him on his BS. Honestly, he seems like a jerk if he does this after you break up with him.
I have to agree. That is just incredibly petty. ::)
I can't believe people do that...
Quote from: Pyrgusfinn on May 10, 2009, 06:32:33 PM
Quote from: FunTykoon on May 10, 2009, 04:38:14 PM
Quote from: Capt. Fiskers on May 10, 2009, 03:07:56 PM
Don't say, "You smell good" or "I like your nailbeds" or anything too particularly specific. It makes it look like you've been stalking her. Say something like "I like your shirt/shoes/etc." that you can notice on someone right off the bat.
On the other hand, Mags, I'm taking it well and he totally isn't. Blocked me on MSN and so on, and stripped me of admin powers on GatorAIDS. It's all very petty and immature, but eh... I don't really care- I think it just shows his faults and stuff.
Oh, well that is easy. I just thought that if I said something too nice she would find me creepy. We are friends, so if I said " I like your nailbeds" she would probably take it as a joke.
PS: Her nailbeds are awesome.
hahaha. i love jokes like that.
but seriously. just be yourself, but make sure she realizes that you like her as more than a friend.
We're not close friends, but sorta flirty-friends, if you will. I mean, she looks at me alot more than she did. A month ago she wouldn't ever shoot a glance my way unless I engaged her in conversation, but now I catch her looking at me every day. Is it a sign?
I think it certainly means she is paying more attention to you.
I posted on that thread, Fisk. He's probably going to delete the post or give me a warning or ban me even. *shrugs* It'll only just show how immature he is.
LAWL! John gave me a warning for 'creating drama'. Most BS-y rule I've ever heard.
Everyone should register and PM the following to everyone:
Quote from: The Chandrunator;5429Did she resign?
Nope. She broke up with dracophile. Dracophile of course, just happened to decide to demote her, even though she still wanted to be friends. Quite petty, if you ask me.
I tried posting this in the same thread, but John kept deleting it. Quite petty... I've even received a couple warnings for 'creating drama' and releasing classified information.
My advice: Spread what I say around and let everyone know how immature Dracophile is.
Edit: I got banned. HAHAHAHAHAHA. Totally worth it. VIVA LA REVOLUCION!
Quote from: Capt. Fiskers on May 10, 2009, 03:07:56 PM
On the other hand, Mags, I'm taking it well and he totally isn't. Blocked me on MSN and so on, and stripped me of admin powers on GatorAIDS. It's all very petty and immature, but eh... I don't really care- I think it just shows his faults and stuff.
I did not block you on MSN, firstly. And I didn't STRIP you of your powers on the website. Like I mentioned in the email I sent to you, I posted a thread in the staff's lounge regarding your status and if you wanted to keep it or not because I was fine with it if you wanted to still hang around. You had been responding to me the entire week on LiveJournal so I just figured you were ignoring the GA website and by proxy wanted to quit, so the other day I just demodded you and thought nothing of it. I didn't know you still wanted to work on the website.
To be quite honest at first no I did not take things well but life is life and regardless of how I felt things were not going to change after you made your point clear, so the only option was to just move on with my own life.
Quote from: Capt. Fiskers on May 10, 2009, 07:03:50 PM
short rage burst real quick:
http://forums.gatoraids.com/showpost.php?p=5427&postcount=80
http://forums.gatoraids.com/showpost.php?p=5430&postcount=82
mmmyep because he couldn't not demote me for such stupid reasons, makes a lot of sense to me lol
I said that because I didn't want to start a lot of needless drama. "Let's leave it at that" is all I said because I just wanted to keep personal things personal and not let it get in the way of everything else. The regular user there doesn't need to know about things like that, it's irrelevant to the community imo. It's just gossip.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 08:03:09 PM
I posted on that thread, Fisk. He's probably going to delete the post or give me a warning or ban me even. *shrugs* It'll only just show how immature he is.
LAWL! John gave me a warning for 'creating drama'. Most BS-y rule I've ever heard.
Everyone should register and PM the following to everyone:
Quote from: The Chandrunator;5429Did she resign?
Nope. She broke up with dracophile. Dracophile of course, just happened to decide to demote her, even though she still wanted to be friends. Quite petty, if you ask me.
I tried posting this in the same thread, but John kept deleting it. Quite petty... I've even received a couple warnings for 'creating drama' and releasing classified information.
My advice: Spread what I say around and let everyone know how immature Dracophile is.
That's fine by me if you don't like the website but I would appreciate it if you guys wouldn't troll all of us just because of Fiskers breaking up with me. Obviously as you can see here, I'm not making an honest effort to strike her back or spam up the places she goes to - and she's the one who left ME.
Fiskers I don't know why you feel like I knifed you in the back, but I didn't. I have just been doing my best to try and move on myself. I was very emotionally invested in you and maybe it's just harder for me to get over it than you. Please tell your friends to leave me and my friends alone. :(
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 08:03:09 PM
I posted on that thread, Fisk. He's probably going to delete the post or give me a warning or ban me even. *shrugs* It'll only just show how immature he is.
LAWL! John gave me a warning for 'creating drama'. Most BS-y rule I've ever heard.
Everyone should register and PM the following to everyone:
Quote from: The Chandrunator;5429Did she resign?
Nope. She broke up with dracophile. Dracophile of course, just happened to decide to demote her, even though she still wanted to be friends. Quite petty, if you ask me.
I tried posting this in the same thread, but John kept deleting it. Quite petty... I've even received a couple warnings for 'creating drama' and releasing classified information.
My advice: Spread what I say around and let everyone know how immature Dracophile is.
Edit: I got banned. HAHAHAHAHAHA. Totally worth it. VIVA LA REVOLUCION!
HEY!! I got banned as well.
I'm sorry, but your story has several errors, all of which point to a heaping pile of BS. You didn't block her? HAH! And you went with the action of demodding her, she did not ask to be demodded, you demodded her because your so freaking immature that you can't even let it go.
Hey, we'll just ban you from our site! How would you like that, eh? Your people ask questions, so you might as well tell the goddamned truth. Enough people already know now. There's very little you can do besides spam the banhammer.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 09:28:13 PM
I'm sorry, but your story has several errors, all of which point to a heaping pile of BS. You didn't block her? HAH! And you went with the action of demodding her, she did not ask to be demodded, you demodded her because your so freaking immature that you can't even let it go.
Hey, we'll just ban you from our site! How would you like that, eh? Your people ask questions, so you might as well tell the goddamned truth. Enough people already know now. There's very little you can do besides spam the banhammer.
Look, I'm not here to start trouble, I am here to politely ask you all to leave me alone. I'm not even going to try and defend my side of anything, I would just rather you let things be as they are and just mind your own business.
JQ, you shoudn't have done that.
O RLY? Then why'd you bring your friend John along for the ride, eh?
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 09:34:56 PM
O RLY? Then why'd you bring your friend John along for the ride, eh?
I just registered, for nothing. :P
JQ, you shouldn't have attack us, oh yes, I already read your posts about doing this before I registered.
JQ, stop it. You're not helping anything.
You're being immature.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 09:34:56 PM
O RLY? Then why'd you bring your friend John along for the ride, eh?
He notified me of "the spamming problem" on the GA website, I decided to find the source (here), and told him that I found where the posts were coming from. Neither of us are here for retaliatory purposes. He's probably here for the same reason I am - to see how and why you all are taking the liberty to attack people you don't even know.
Honestly I think this is stemming from a misunderstanding/miscommunication, regardless of whether or not you take my defense at face value or not doesn't matter to me in the least bit - it's a sound defense and it's 100% the truth. I am quite aware I am not playing on "home turf" here seeing as how my ex has several thousand posts and seniority on the forums, plus you all are her friend. She said it herself that she's fine about the breakup and that it doesn't bother her in the least bit, so rather than taking it upon yourselves to attack a forum I really would urge you to consider just letting things stay as they are and go about things as normal. Attacking my website isn't going to solve anything.
The thing is, she still wanted to be friends, but you blocked her from MSN and demodded her, all because she broke up with you. Now if she wants to stay friends with you, you should keep communication channels open and put her back on your moderator team. Your reactions honestly seemed quite petty.
Just as a reminder to all parties, you are beginning to spam this topic. Although what you are saying is slightly relevant to the topic, I think you really should take it to pms.
*Le sigh*
Stop it, both of you.
It's not gonna get you anywhere...
It's jsut gonna get you a warning.
JQ shouldn't have interfered in the first place.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 09:42:13 PM
The thing is, she still wanted to be friends, but you blocked her from MSN and demodded her, all because she broke up with you. Now if she wants to stay friends with you, you should keep communication channels open and put her back on your moderator team. Your reactions honestly seemed quite petty.
You didn't read my message. I don't know how or why she assumed that I blocked her - because I didn't. Keep in mind apparently she is NOT supposed to be on the Internet during the week, she broke up with me on a
Sunday. I've been online mostly every day since then, perhaps less for studying for final exams but still online regardless. She's been offline from Messenger the entire time.
I posted a thread in the staff-only forum on the GA message boards asking her if she wanted to keep her spots there. Here, I have visual proof of my claims to prove my point. Observe the following screencap of GA's staff forum:
http://tinypic.com/r/2uppwuf/5
Note that I asked her on Wednesday May 6th. I gave her a full 2 days, until Friday May 8th before I decided to demote her.
Here is my proof that she had online correspondence with me prior to me posting that:
This link no longer exists.I will admit before anything else that my timezone is messed up on LJ, that is the incorrect post time by about 7 hours I believe. Regardless of that fact, it was posted the same day that I posted that thread in the staff lounge. She had correspondence with me after she posted that, and I assumed she was simply ignoring the GA website and I took THAT as her resignation.
edit: I am sorry Moderators, this is my last post about the issue. Hopefully the pictures will speak for themselves.
You admitted yourself that she isn't allowed on the internet during the week, so how come you didn't wait until the weekend before demoting her? The sequence of events does not add up, I can only conclude that you did so because she broke up with you.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on May 10, 2009, 10:06:39 PM
You admitted yourself that she isn't allowed on the internet during the week, so how come you didn't wait until the weekend before demoting her? The sequence of events does not add up, I can only conclude that you did so because she broke up with you.
If you want to shoot holes in my "logic" then I will do so to yours. Clearly by poking around on LiveJournal she is in violation of the rule to begin with, therefore if she is checking messages on LJ on the 6th (also 7th and 8th) then chances are she will be checking messages on GA... at least by my reasoning at the time - I have since learned otherwise and admit that I was incorrect in assuming that.
I realize you are sticking up for her because she is your friend and I respect that because I would do the same for my friends and I am not here to attack you. Like I said, I was only here to politely ask the influx of users to stop, and it has and I do appreciate it. You can believe I did whatever I did for whatever reasons you choose to believe - I am not here to say my side of the story is correct because both sides have their truth, all I want is to be left alone and that is all. This is all just a big mess and I sincerely do not want it to get ugly. I have been dealing with the breakup on my own, and I just want it to have ended peacfully and on good terms, and to be left to my own thoughts - by Fiskers, by my own friends pestering me about it, and by this forum.
I declare an end to this conversation with my imaginary powers. It has gone too far and needs to be dropped. Thank you.
Quote from: Pyrgusfinn on May 10, 2009, 10:17:46 PM
I declare an end to this conversation with my imaginary powers. It has gone too far and needs to be dropped. Thank you.
Haha I'm done. I'm sorry, I said the post with the pictures was my last one about the issue - I should have stood by that claim.
I would also like to apologize to Fiskers for the apparent misunderstanding regarding, well, everything.
Quote from: Pyrgusfinn on May 10, 2009, 10:17:46 PM
I declare an end to this conversation with my imaginary powers. It has gone too far and needs to be dropped. Thank you.
This is probably a bit late, but yeah, I second that. It's best we just let this go.
I'm sorry about all of that, I really am. /: I don't mean to bring irl drama into my forums, I just had to do a short rage burst last night because, imo, that was really uncalled for. He knows better than anyone that I can't get online during the week, so it was just poor judgement to make a post for me to decide whether to go or stay. (Not that there was any reason I would leave- personal business has nothing to do with internet business.)
There was a miscommunication on both our parts, and I'm sorry for brashly stating them aloud here. I never saw the posts in the moderator's forums because I usually check GA logged out.
ALSO, HI DRACOPHILE, REGARDING F-LOCKED POSTS ON LJ... they are friends-locked for a reason, private matters should remain private. don't do that again, bro. especially since i posted that at school.
Bawwww. I'm sorry for bringing this up here in the first place now, but I needed to vent. I guess I shouldn't do that anymore here... thanks for keeping it (somewhat) civilised here while I was gone, though I don't approve of sending out friends against friends. :c (it means a lot to me to know that you're watching out for me~)
MOD EDIT: I personally find using His name in that way a little offensive. No warning, but...this is more for my comfort than anything, sorry. :/
What causes such irrational hatred after an ended relationship?
The desire for it to have never ended, perhaps?
Need some more help, Shika?
I don't really need help with anything, just have a hard time understanding.
I HATE WIMMENZ
I hate them very much. They never make any sense and you care too much and give everything to them, and then they turn around and give everything THEY have to someone out of the blue, no warning or nothing. They tell you they want to, but they don't know how-- and then they prove you and themselves wrong but with the wrong person. And then the super-cute, wonderful, nice girl comes along with an aching heart who just needs a hug, and you want to be the shoulder to cry on but you just don't know how and are too scared to try and there's that part of you that never wants anybody else but the first girl.
*Charlie Brown yodel*
Quote from: Davy Jones on May 19, 2009, 03:58:19 PM
I HATE WIMMENZ
I hate them very much. They never make any sense and you care too much and give everything to them, and then they turn around and give everything THEY have to someone out of the blue, no warning or nothing. They tell you they want to, but they don't know how-- and then they prove you and themselves wrong but with the wrong person. And then the super-cute, wonderful, nice girl comes along with an aching heart who just needs a hug, and you want to be the shoulder to cry on but you just don't know how and are too scared to try and there's that part of you that never wants anybody else but the first girl.
*Charlie Brown yodel*
awww. Tach! I'm sorry. =/
Just let her know that you are there for her. Straight tell her that if she needs a shoulder to cry on, yours is available.
EDIT:
whoops. wait... are you talking about two different girls?
Yeah, sorry, Tach. I wish I could help more than just sympathize. :/
Do what pyrgus said, but beware the friend zone
You know, a lot of girls put everything into the relationship and not you, I've realized. They'll say all these nice things about you because they see you as the one who's going to fulfill their dream of the perfect relationship and all that, but it's so empty it doesn't take them long to turn around and say terrible things about you.
Tach... I know how you feel bud.
I had all this stuff planned out, I was going to woo her like she had never be wooed before, and one of my friends told her, because he thought it was funny. She only thought of me as a friend, and she didn't even want a boyfriend. It's changed me though, it has. I'm going to be a better person. I still have feelings for her. I think she is the one.
I think its because you both put a lot of emotion and feelings into something that ended. No doubt anger is sparked.
But I don't feel anger...and I don't see any need for it.
Its not always a two way thing. Maybe she doesnt want to be anything BUT your girlfriend. Like, being just friends isnt good enough. So she's angry that she cant have that.
Except it didn't turn out that way, with me rejecting her and all. I dunno. It just doesn't make sense.
I too have a problem.
There's this girl who's been hitting on me since the beginning of the grade, and I don't like her. I have a girlfriend, but the girl doesn't get it. She sees us talking all the time and hugging, but she's still hitting on me. Also, she talks to my girlfriend every day about me and how the moves she's been making are working. I can't get her to go away, and she hasn't been getting the hint. I hardly even knew she liked me until my GF started telling me about her fawning over me each day.
I've been ignoring and avoiding her, but I have a class or two with her and see her often during the day.
Assistance would be greatly appreciated.
What I'd do is just straight out tell her you're not interested.
Quote from: FishyRules on May 27, 2009, 02:46:24 PM
I too have a problem.
There's this girl who's been hitting on me since the beginning of the grade, and I don't like her. I have a girlfriend, but the girl doesn't get it. She sees us talking all the time and hugging, but she's still hitting on me. Also, she talks to my girlfriend every day about me and how the moves she's been making are working. I can't get her to go away, and she hasn't been getting the hint. I hardly even knew she liked me until my GF started telling me about her fawning over me each day.
I've been ignoring and avoiding her, but I have a class or two with her and see her often during the day.
Assistance would be greatly appreciated.
Is the saying that to your girlfriend because she's stupid, or because she's trying to intimidate her?
If the first, tell her that you're just not interested in her but you appreciate the compliment.
If the second, tell that chick to **** off.
Or you could just, I don't know, not do anything because it isn't a big deal. You aren't going to cheat on your gf and you're a freaking middle schooler anyways. 'Hitting on you' can mean absolutely nothing at that age.
Well, we're both annoyed, and I keep being made fun of.
But you may be right.
^Being made fun of by whom?
A few things:
People sometimes put so much stock into relationships because it is all they have. Their boyfriend/girlfriend is their support system, the person who is always there. The one who stands up for them and sometimes stands for them. Sure, you might say, "Hey there is always someone else," but there isn't someone else at the time and they need the support now. OR you might say, "It can't be all you have," but sometimes it is. Just because you say it isn't doesn't make it true and even if you say you'll be there for them, how often does that happen? And you cannot fill the role of the missing boyfriend/girlfriend. People always want a happy ending, especially with the high divorce rate, and happy endings take effort and give/take. No relationship is ever perfect.
As for anger after relationships. Sometimes just the sight of the person pisses you off to the extreme. I know that I am a pleaser by nature (do not take that the wrong way) and in relationships I give and give and give until it kills me. I put up with things I shouldn't be it and try to be overly patient, understanding, and comforting. Rarely, that fails and then someone has to let go of the other, reguardless of their feelings for the better.
I'm the whole opposite, I look for a match that accepts me just the way I am, this just because I'm lazy and do not like changing the way I am for someone else. I guess this is my biggest fault relation wise. It doesn't mean that I don't give in a relation, I just won't do it if it conflicts with my principles. Maybe that's why I'm usually not angry when a relation is over.
Yeah the thing with me I'm a mix, I'm willing to change and if the person changes for me in return, Bonus.
I know you can't always change some things (My current problem is my height I'm too tall) But if it's minor and will make you better I say It's fine to change.
Quote from: MagmarFire on May 27, 2009, 06:40:48 PM
^Being made fun of by whom?
Others at school. Alot actually.
Eh, I know how that is... Don't let it get to you.
Quote from: MagmarFire on May 28, 2009, 12:35:27 PM
Eh, I know how that is... Don't let it get to you.
Mags made fun of?
Sexy voice mags?
It doesn't, but it won't hurt for it to stop. ;)
Dude, I go through a bunch of Flak for having a 13 year old for a GF.
Don't sweat it.
Quote from: Pokemon Professor Roy on May 28, 2009, 02:46:06 PM
Mags made fun of?
Sexy voice mags?
Even I. ;)
It's just something that one needs to ignore, of course.
Quote from: MagmarFire on May 28, 2009, 07:07:32 PM
Quote from: Pokemon Professor Roy on May 28, 2009, 02:46:06 PM
Mags made fun of?
Sexy voice mags?
Even I. ;)
It's just something that one needs to ignore, of course.
People make fun of others cause they are jealous. Maybe their voice isn't as sexy as yours?
It may have been jealousy, but I think it was more likely to be my quirkiness that got me a one-way ticket to Bully Kingdom.
To fix bullying, I find that three things have worked in my favor:
a. Become about 6' tall. People don't usually mess with someone taller than you. (obviously this is a joke don't try and use steroids to get taller)
b. Be confident and don't be open to attack. If you're confident and assertive enough, people back off. It's easier to go after the weaker ones.
c. I beat the crap out of a kid in the 6th grade and almost hospitalized him. I found out that most people leave me alone now.
As for relationships, my ex is now dating an acquaintance of mine from school, I think. She's kind of a flirt and started dating/befriending him after I dumped him, which isn't too unusual. I'm not astonished or anything, but I didn't expect that to happen.
*snif*
*snif-snif*
I got rejected.
I know what you are all thinking, about to post a animated gif. of
Pheonix Wright screaming OBJECTION!, wondering how someone of such masculinity could be shot down. But, me being the optimist and total toughguy I am, still is very happy. I am still on great terms with the girl, she still talks to me without me even having to talk to her, and it's just and all around great little rejection. I think it has changed me for the better though. See, nothing ever bad happens to me. I reall, really liked this girl, and realized that life is going to be a great floaty boat that I though it was.
Thing is, she'll be back. They always come back.
You seem to be handling it very well. Very good. ;)
It took me a while to think of what I really look for in a girl. Then, I discovered it was friendship. I was always interested in a more serious relationship. I am still going out with my first girlfriend, and we have been together for two years and have no signs of ever stopping. We've never had an argument and have always been their for each other, even though she's a year older than me and left for college and I'll be going to a different college. Prior to dating, we had been good friends for four years. She was one of my best friends, and still is. Our dates consist of going out to the movies, going out to dinner, playing Super Mario Galaxy, Super Smash Bros. Brawl, Punch-Out, Legend of Zelda, watching video game related fan made YouTube videos, and it's just amazing.
Just thought I'd share my experience. I believe close, well-established friends make the best lovers.
You're darn lucky to find a girl who plays Smash. You found a winner, mate. :D
My relationship is going swimmingly. (Pun intended) Next week, it'll be 3 months.
She plays Kingdom Hearts, Pokemon, Brawl... It's awesome.
Sounds like you found a winner, too. Glad to hear it's working out.
Nany-Nany-Boo-Boo-Im going-on-a-date
Going to the mall with my new girlfriend tommorow.
Yeush.
congrats and have fun ^_^
Eh, not so much. I dumped her because she is strange.
...What? Just like that? Without warning?
Quote from: FunTykoon on August 17, 2009, 04:32:28 PM
Eh, not so much. I dumped her because she is strange.
She was 'strange'? Please define 'strange' as it's a rather broad term.
I mean I could understand if she was a stalker, but other than that, there's really no excuse.
I must agree. How was she strange?
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on August 17, 2009, 06:38:50 PM
Quote from: FunTykoon on August 17, 2009, 04:32:28 PM
Eh, not so much. I dumped her because she is strange.
She was 'strange'? Please define 'strange' as it's a rather broad term.
I mean I could understand if she was a stalker, but other than that, there's really no excuse.
I'm pretty sure there are many reasons to dump a person other than that of them being a stalker.
If it didn't work out it didn't work out. It's always crueler to string someone along if you know you don't care about them in that way
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on August 17, 2009, 06:38:50 PM
Quote from: FunTykoon on August 17, 2009, 04:32:28 PM
Eh, not so much. I dumped her because she is strange.
She was 'strange'? Please define 'strange' as it's a rather broad term.
I mean I could understand if she was a stalker, but other than that, there's really no excuse.
Blah he's a teenager and dumped a girl, leave him alone. It's not like he impregnated her or something, or did anything to harm her.
My girlfriend's best friend hates my guts. >_>
I've been nice to her, but I don't know what to do to make her like me. Any advice?
Have you asked your girlfriend for input?
Yeah. She tries to convince her, but no dice.
Then I guess there's really nothing you can do. If she hates you so much, that's her problem, not yours.
I mean, she hits me on eye-contact. ;)
I'm near her a lot, and I'm not sure what to do...
If I get along with someone and like them, they become attractive to me. And you know, having a personality and an attitude that doesn't suck, helps too.
That kinda happens to everyone, really, whether they like it or not. There's nothing you can do, especially when it comes to people who you get along with a lot.
I hate people like that, I would never hate a friends new girlfriend or boyfriend but it seems there always is someone ready to hate you for no reason when you get into a new relationship. It happened to me before but I ignored the girl because she is one of those people who doesn't have anything else to do. Maybe the same with this friend of your gf. Just ignore her or try not to pay much attention to her. Maybe she will get the idea and stop
So Michelle's slowly snaking her way into my mind again, dammit.
Also, I think I have a little internet crush. How odd.
Is this a good thing or a bad thing?
Quote from: Davy Jones on September 27, 2009, 06:14:19 AM
Also, I think I have a little internet crush. How odd.
*holds breath in anticipation*
Also, you should practice Occlumency. That'll teach Michelle.
I wouldn't say it's a good thing, but I wouldn't say it's a bad thing. A change is a change is a change, and that's all. Still though, it would be nice to have either closure or a proper relationship again, but I suppose it's just not written for me.
Also, Shika, we're already in love, I meant someone besides you.
Quote from: Davy Jones on September 27, 2009, 07:01:40 PM
Also, Shika, we're already in love, I meant someone besides you.
duh. Its me :P
*gasp* I thought WE had something special?! >:(
I think it is safe to say that we all have something special.
Q: Is it a good thing when your GF is a freshman? ;)
well, I personally don't think that it matters. Why are you asking?
Well, because I'm kinda in that situation right now. It doesn't matter to me either, but you know, it's never really been shown as a good thing in the media, being a senior and all that....
I mean it is something that is generally considered odd, but if you like the girl, I say go for it.
It really shouldn't matter to anyone but you and her.
It's not odd, it's the status quo, and that's what's stupid about it.
Wow, been a while since I've been in here.
Anywho, age shouldn't matter all that much if you're really in love with the person. It only really becomes an issue if you're having sex with her; you know, sex with a minor and all that (although, you're still considered a minor yourself). Of course, as you're both in high school, any sex at all is a bad idea, given the risk of teenage pregnancy.
The rate of teenage pregnancy is not because teenage men are somehow more virile or women more fertile, it has more to do with the alarming rate at which contraception is ignored and unused, or improperly used. If you want to have sex, guys, please know how to properly put on a condom-- there's more to it than one would think relying solely on intuition.
Also, an interesting fact - 37% of people who don't practice contraception say it's due to a "latex allergy". However, only around 3% of the people who say so actually have such an allergy.
Thank you very much for the health lesson. It has truly enlightened me. ^_^
Also, what he says is, indeed, quite true.
I don't know what the age difference is between a senior and a freshman ><
But usually abit of an age gap isn't too weird, especially since girls are meant to mature at a different rate and are technically at the same level of maturity as guys older than them when they are in school, though often it isn't the case. I have known some people where the age gap was a bit too weird though, like a guy in the year above me, who is 17/18 going out with a 12/13 year old, that's a bit creepy I think.
Quote from: AliCal on September 30, 2009, 11:09:10 AM
I don't know what the age difference is between a senior and a freshman ><
But usually abit of an age gap isn't too weird, especially since girls are meant to mature at a different rate and are technically at the same level of maturity as guys older than them when they are in school, though often it isn't the case. I have known some people where the age gap was a bit too weird though, like a guy in the year above me, who is 17/18 going out with a 12/13 year old, that's a bit creepy I think.
Say, Britian wouldn't happen to be a safe haven for pedobear, now would it? I mean, we in america have all kinds of insane laws that make no sense, especially regarding the whole 'sex-with-minors' thing.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on September 30, 2009, 02:57:24 PM
Quote from: AliCal on September 30, 2009, 11:09:10 AM
I don't know what the age difference is between a senior and a freshman ><
But usually abit of an age gap isn't too weird, especially since girls are meant to mature at a different rate and are technically at the same level of maturity as guys older than them when they are in school, though often it isn't the case. I have known some people where the age gap was a bit too weird though, like a guy in the year above me, who is 17/18 going out with a 12/13 year old, that's a bit creepy I think.
Say, Britian wouldn't happen to be a safe haven for pedobear, now would it? I mean, we in america have all kinds of insane laws that make no sense, especially regarding the whole 'sex-with-minors' thing.
Its not like everyone follows that rule. Just saying.
Quote from: AliCal on September 30, 2009, 11:09:10 AM
I don't know what the age difference is between a senior and a freshman ><
But usually abit of an age gap isn't too weird, especially since girls are meant to mature at a different rate and are technically at the same level of maturity as guys older than them when they are in school, though often it isn't the case. I have known some people where the age gap was a bit too weird though, like a guy in the year above me, who is 17/18 going out with a 12/13 year old, that's a bit creepy I think.
It's getting to the point where none of the kids are really maturing at all anymore, even into college.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on September 30, 2009, 02:57:24 PM
Quote from: AliCal on September 30, 2009, 11:09:10 AM
I don't know what the age difference is between a senior and a freshman ><
But usually abit of an age gap isn't too weird, especially since girls are meant to mature at a different rate and are technically at the same level of maturity as guys older than them when they are in school, though often it isn't the case. I have known some people where the age gap was a bit too weird though, like a guy in the year above me, who is 17/18 going out with a 12/13 year old, that's a bit creepy I think.
Say, Britian wouldn't happen to be a safe haven for pedobear, now would it? I mean, we in america have all kinds of insane laws that make no sense, especially regarding the whole 'sex-with-minors' thing.
What?? Well it's illegal to have sex if you're under 16.
here it's illegal for an adult to have sex with anyone under 18, though age of consent is 16 in most states.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on October 01, 2009, 11:58:39 AM
here it's illegal for an adult to have sex with anyone under 18, though age of consent is 16 in most states.
In MOST states. But chances are we aren't in those states. That is the one problem I have with this country, and I know, I say that a lot. Not all the rules that pass through will apply to EVERYONE.
Quote from: JQ Pickwick on September 30, 2009, 02:57:24 PM
Say, Britian wouldn't happen to be a safe haven for pedobear, now would it? I mean, we in america have all kinds of insane laws that make no sense, especially regarding the whole 'sex-with-minors' thing.
This country was founded to get away from the hardships of Monarchy. However when we arrived, we led a massacre on the people here in the name of God, and began a government- not immediately, mind you -that insists on getting in the faces of the people it has been started to protect, saying that we must follow the rules that THEY set, even though this is a country run BY the people, FOR the people, and yet, for the last several years, maybe even longer, we have had our lives controlled, basically, by a book that claims there is only one almighty being watching over all of existence, and that book has been the template for our laws since this country was founded. WTF? We live in a country of freedom, and yet we insist on having our own lives run by people claiming to be our protectors, who follow whatever a pile of papers written by some schizoid (no offense) who probably thinks the world will end in the year 2012. The sex-with-minors thing should be the least of our worries. (Feel free to correct anything I may have mixed up.)
Anyway, I digress. The whole relationship is going, but I had to slow it down a notch today. We were taking the whole thing WAY to fast.
Maybe I'm missing the point here, but I doubt that the Bible is the only reason we have laws against having sex with minors.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure there can be some negative psychological effects on the child. 5 year olds just aren't mature enough for sex.
Then again, I'm sure some teenagers and adults aren't mature enough for it either. >>
5 year olds aren't physically old enough for sex either, though.
And the psychological effects that it could have are really only due to unconscious conditioning from birth based off of celluloidal delusions.
Those are very good points. But what about those 15 or older?
That's a relatively recent social thing, children need to prepare even more now before they leave the nest.
Oh, and actually, records suggest that Mary was in her teens when she had the baby Jesus.
But they also say she was a virgin. As Joseph, I would be personally upset if some Almighty Being got my teen wife pregnant without my consent.
So, uh... There's...a girl. Yeah.
I feel I should make a slight move, but...what do you guys think?
Mags, being who you are, eternal nice guy and pure awesome I say go for it.
It all comes down to being confident if you do want to ask her out. But if she knows you she'll definately go out with you.
So I say make the move.
Thanks, man. :D
I don't want to come across as too direct, of course. Hopefully just asking if she's free sometime this weekend would be gentle enough.
Yeah, that should work.
Also try not to drop TVtropes references until the third date at least.
(You should get this joke.)
All righty, then! Here's hoping this doesn't eat my self esteem alive! :P
(Not sure I get the joke, but that's not bad advice, actually. XD )
Don't worry, if it doesn't work out don't take it that hard.
Okay. I'll try. Thanks again. :)
EDIT: Well, I tried.
I think she said yes. XD But the scheduled time may not work for her, so does it still count?
If she said yes, then it's a...
COMPLETE SUCCESS!
But if it turns out it can't work for her ask her when would be good for her.
Turns out it couldn't work out for her. My paranoid side is telling me that she's trying gently reject me, but there are too many variables to jump to a conclusion right now. :P
I figured I'd ask her again later, like next Wednesday or something. Too soon?
Start off casual like "Hey, I'm hoping you're free ---- cause I found a really great place I'd like to show you. I think you'd like it,"
Girls really don't care, as long as you LOOK confident.
It's a little late now; she really was just trying to say no after all. :P
Aw, well. I'm over it. Plus, there is someone else that my friend is seemingly helping me see if we hit it off, so hey, we'll see.
=Underdog=
Hi guys! I love you all :) Its my first time here i'm glad to visit this room.. Thank you and God bless!!!
Wow. Nobody's posted here for a long time.
Well, I haven't really been all that comfortable discussing my relationships online for a while...but yeah, I've been dating someone for 14 months now.
And I haven't had any relationships to speak of, really. Big surprise, eh? :P
Quote from: Kixash on July 01, 2010, 11:32:47 AM
Well, I haven't really been all that comfortable discussing my relationships online for a while...but yeah, I've been dating someone for 14 months now.
Good on ya, mate!
...
Mags, are you Australian?
No, I just like saying that. Got a problem with that, punk?
It is quite fun.
Back to relationships: I'm in Germany at the moment, but my bf(Pea-Tear) is in America. I MISS HIM!!!!! He's sad...
Aw, this will only make the reunion more awesome. Just wait for it. :D
You're right, but I don't think he'll see it that way lol. He's a hard head.
my bf is in costa rica right now...
i kinda know how ya feel, water within
we've been dating for over a year. i cant help but feel a little insecure when he is away.
Yeah we've been dating for a year and oh...7 months?
that is mighty impressive!
do other people ever poke fun at you guys? my friends, none of which have been in a lengthy relationship, tend to tease me about how longggg we've been together.
Me, I poke fun at my friends who are dating, period.
I'm a shipper in-universe, too, you know.
(It's about time you came back, Alex! Welcome! :D )
Bump'd. ...Oh, wait, this is a stickied thread, isn't it?
(http://www.codeodor.com/images/homer_doh.png)
Anyway, no, I'm not in a relationship (if you're surprised, then I am, too XD ), but I did get shipped with a friend of mine on my way back from work today. It was awesome.
Where'd they ship you to?
Oh, no not that kind of ship. This kind. (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Shipping)
Apologies for the lack of clarity. :P
I've got to say, being in a committed relationship in college is interesting.
EDIT: Not complaining about it. I'm still happy to be with her.
Do elaborate, Shika.
Okay, so, yesterday night I had a date with my girlfriend and saw the movie Red (it was awesome.) So, since it has to do with my relationship I thought I'd post it here.
It was an awesome date, we had crepes (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/DateCrepe) (our mall has a crepe store that opened up like... the day before yesterday.) and we got our drinks at JellyBall. Which is a weird Japanese drink place. It seems Virginia Beach is becoming a Weeaboo hangout. :P
Anyway, yeah, that's all for now, I'll tell you how our convention trip goes after it's done.
Quote from: MagmarFire on October 16, 2010, 11:17:50 AM
Do elaborate, Shika.
Everybody's sleeping around like crazy. It's kind of weird being the only one that isn't eager to make out. Maybe I'm asexual. I guess I'll find out if I've budded in the next five years.
CAUTION: THIS POST CONTAINS ADULT THEMES OF A DISTURBING YET STRANGELY AWESOME NATUREQuote from: Nagi Sanzen'in on October 17, 2010, 08:34:52 AM
Okay, so, yesterday night I had a date with my girlfriend and saw the movie Red (it was awesome.) So, since it has to do with my relationship I thought I'd post it here.
It was an awesome date, we had crepes (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/DateCrepe) (our mall has a crepe store that opened up like... the day before yesterday.) and we got our drinks at JellyBall. Which is a weird Japanese drink place. It seems Virginia Beach is becoming a Weeaboo hangout. :P
Anyway, yeah, that's all for now, I'll tell you how our convention trip goes after it's done.
Sounds fun, Chuck! Congrats.
Quote from: Shikatache on October 17, 2010, 09:36:56 AM
Quote from: MagmarFire on October 16, 2010, 11:17:50 AM
Do elaborate, Shika.
Everybody's sleeping around like crazy. It's kind of weird being the only one that isn't eager to make out. Maybe I'm asexual. I guess I'll find out if I've budded in the next five years.
I'm jealous, man. My sexuality drives everything I do. I'm in a really confusing relationship circle right now-- in fact, I'm going to type it all out here. For therapeutic value, or something.
The first and foremost female in my life is Michelle. I've loved her from the moment I met her, and we've dated on and off for years. Recently, we rekindled contact after almost a year of not talking. I visited her at her college campus and it was just like old times again. I met a few of her friends, and it was nice. Later, however, I learned that one of the people I'd met, Hayden, was her ex-boyfriend that she was still pining over. Turns out she's in love with him, and he did pretty much the same awful, painful things to her that she did to me. Karma, I suppose.
Still, it hurts to know that she was hurt, and I helped her through it. The only problem is that she's obsessing over him, much like I did over her. Every time we hang out or talk all she can think about is him. All she ever talks about, too. I still have the deepest of feelings for her, and I've hinted toward it several times, but I just can't convince myself to outright confess to her. After all, her heart's still bleeding over Hayden, and she has several other people that want her for relationships or pure sex. She's my muse, and just being around her inspires me to no end. I've written several songs and stories purely since we started seeing each other again, about a month and a half ago.
Then there's Carolyn. We hung out all the time back when she was in Virginia, but she recently left for college in Florida (culinary school or some **** like that). She's super-cute, and has had a crush on me for a very long time. I've always been quite attracted to her myself, and have recently realized that she also has a personality, and one that I'm compatible with at that. She's coming back to visit VA in December, and she wants me to take her virginity. Normally, I'd be all for that, but I think she's looking for a spark that just isn't there. She wants a relationship, and love, and I just can't give her that right now. At least, not until I know where I stand with Michelle (or as I call her, Miki).
Now here's where it gets disturbing. Read at your own risk.
Then there's Ginny. We've been great friends since I was, like, 4 years old-- and she's six years older than I. I've always had a crush on her, and she knew it and played off of it, getting me to do her dirty work for her. She's married to a nice, bi guy named Joey, and we're pretty good friends as well. Recently, though, we've been exchanging emails and that kind of thing, and the three of us are starting to fool around. She's a submissive person (in bed), and her husband's trying to be dominant for her, but he's also a sub by nature and she has to dom for him every now and then. She's not getting much satisfaction out of it, and so she wants me to start joining in in their games. I'm okay with this, as I'm a pretty horny guy, and she's pretty smexy. Only problem is, I'm ALSO a submissive person, but I can't really let them know that. So I pretend to be dominant, which is hard. And I'm bad at it. And I have a feeling she thinks that there's more to the relationship than just smex, friendship and drugs, but really that's where my feelings for her end. I suppose I could just be ignoring what might be there, but I have good reason for that. Anything deeper than that would just end badly for all three of us.
I also have a bunch of other chicks who want in my pants, but I can control those urges for the time being and so I just casually shrug them off or ignore their furtive glances.
wat do, guise?
Sounds like you need some seme friends and you need to stop hanging around all those uke.
But yeah, I have no idea what to do, since I don't plan on sleeping with anyone for a while since I'm planning to go out with my girlfriend for a long time, and when she moves away to college I'm pretty sure I'm going to follow her.
Quote from: Nagi Sanzen'in on October 17, 2010, 11:54:39 AM
Sounds like you need some seme friends and you need to stop hanging around all those uke.
But yeah, I have no idea what to do, since I don't plan on sleeping with anyone for a while since I'm planning to go out with my girlfriend for a long time, and when she moves away to college I'm pretty sure I'm going to follow her.
Seme? Uke? Explain, I don't understand your moonspeak.
Quote from: Zaraki Kenpachi on October 17, 2010, 11:59:37 AM
Quote from: Nagi Sanzen'in on October 17, 2010, 11:54:39 AM
Sounds like you need some seme friends and you need to stop hanging around all those uke.
But yeah, I have no idea what to do, since I don't plan on sleeping with anyone for a while since I'm planning to go out with my girlfriend for a long time, and when she moves away to college I'm pretty sure I'm going to follow her.
Seme? Uke? Explain, I don't understand your moonspeak.
Seme is the Japanese for "giver/pitcher" and the uke is the "taker/catcher" in the battery. If you get my meaning.
I see.
Well, I like 'em. :P
I'm afraid that I, too, am not sure what advice to give, since I'm one of those guys who's all for sex strictly within a marital relationship. ...Which, on my end, probably isn't going to happen for a loooooooooooooooooooooooong time, if at all, but I digress. :P
I suppose what I can say is to make a decision that keeps future negative repercussions to a minimum. Of course, if there are negative repercussions, don't be afraid to tell us and get it off your chest. :D
It's not that I don't have a sex drive, Tach...I hope. I better have one.
As for your situation, all I can really say is FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF--
:(
Warning, if you got used to me blabbing about "I love my girlfriend yadda yadda" stop reading this NOW.
Alright, I knew you wouldn't. So my girlfriend and I are no longer an item. We've been getting pretty distant, she fell for someone else, one thing led to another and that led to a heartbreaking, but clean, break up and we are going to remain friends.
Sadly, as the NEET I am I have little to no chance of meeting another girl. There is my neighbor, but she has a really intimidating brother, which is... Scary. Still, I heard she hada crush on me and I may have a chance. She's pretty much all my physical tastes, but she's sadly more Yan than Tsun when it comes to the Dere-dere scales.
So it's either her or I go on as a totally pathetic, single NEET.
Yeah.
You've already received my response, so I'll spare you the second time.
I say try to test the water with your neighbor for a bit and go for it when you're ready. Also, try not to be intimidated by her brother; he could consider you and his sister an OTP. ;)
Quote from: Nagi Sanzen'in on November 02, 2010, 02:55:00 PM
So it's either her or I go on as a totally pathetic, single NEET.
Yeah.
I certainly hope you're not referring to the Wikipedia definition.
QuoteIn the United Kingdom, the classification comprises people aged between 16 and 24 (some 16 year olds are still of compulsory school age). In Japan, the classification comprises people aged between 15 and 34 who are unemployed, unmarried, not enrolled in school or engaged in housework, and not seeking work or the technical training needed for work. The "NEET group" is not a uniform set of individuals but consists of those who will be NEET for a short time while essentially testing out a variety of opportunities and those who have major and often multiple issues and are at long term risk of remaining disengaged.
That definition? Yeah, right now I'm the short term version. I'm done with school and I'm just floating right now. I am sorta looking for a job, and when I get one I'll be more of a freeter, but I'll still be pretty pathetic.
I also would spend a good majority of everything I make at the job on various anime and manga. I don't go out much, so yeah, I'm pretty much the definition of a NEET right now.
And I'm confused on what an "OTP" is.
Technically, you don't fit the long-term version; not all the conditions are completely met, namely the "seeking work" thing. Of course, that's not to say that the status can't be fixed if it's reached, either. And isn't that just the Japanese version of that?
"OTP" == "one true pairing"
I just broke up with the girlfriend I've had for a year and a half. It's been hard since I moved, so I decided to end it. It feels SO GOOD to have that relief, I've been trying to get her to break up with me for the past month or two. :-X
Ah, you broke up with her because it became an LDR? Can't say that I blame you.
Well, I had wanted to break up for a little while before I did, so this was the perfect reason to. I mean, I'm only an hour away, and I'm in my old town every weekend. >_>
But now that my old girlfriend's, like, out of commission, I'm stuck in a very interesting situation at this new school. My friends describe it as a harem, which is the biggest change in this school. My days used to be spent watching anime, listening to my ipod, and playing my PSP and DS. But now, whenever I do that, I get swooped up bu all these groups of girls, to listen to them talk about oher girls. @_@ I like one or two of them, but it's so hard to get close to them since I'm the new kid, and they travel in packs. XP I thought it'd be a good thing being friends with a bunch of girls, but it hasn't proven itself fruitful yet. "What do you guys want to watch?" "Soul Eater's on the anime channel right now. :O" "HA, no, we're watching teen pregnancy dramas. :D" x_x
Quote from: Graceful Assasin on December 08, 2010, 07:07:23 PM
Well, I had wanted to break up for a little while before I did, so this was the perfect reason to. I mean, I'm only an hour away, and I'm in my old town every weekend. >_>
But now that my old girlfriend's, like, out of commission, I'm stuck in a very interesting situation at this new school. My friends describe it as a harem, which is the biggest change in this school. My days used to be spent watching anime, listening to my ipod, and playing my PSP and DS. But now, whenever I do that, I get swooped up bu all these groups of girls, to listen to them talk about oher girls. @_@ I like one or two of them, but it's so hard to get close to them since I'm the new kid, and they travel in packs. XP I thought it'd be a good thing being friends with a bunch of girls, but it hasn't proven itself fruitful yet. "What do you guys want to watch?" "Soul Eater's on the anime channel right now. :O" "HA, no, we're watching teen pregnancy dramas. :D" x_x
PSH screw the normie girls, I'm trying to woo a cute otaku girl right now, I'll tell you about that in a bit, but hold on...
DO NOT WATCH THE LAST EPISODE OF SOUL EATER. FOR YOUR OWN GOOD. It ruins the series.
But anyway about that otaku girl, I met her at the con and I am currently romancing her with the intent of a relationship, she's a month younger than me (almost exactly) which is awesome, since I don't usually date my own age.
Anyway, if all goes well in life, around December next year... Well, me and her may be going to Japan together for a year. Regardless of if we're in a relationship.
I finished it months ag. XD Part of me died inside. :D
Quote from: Shoe-sama on December 08, 2010, 07:19:29 PM
Anyway, if all goes well in life, around December next year... Well, me and her may be going to Japan together for a year. Regardless of if we're in a relationship.
... !?!?!?
CLARIFY.
Quote from: Graceful Assasin on December 08, 2010, 07:36:29 PM
I finished it months ag. XD Part of me died inside. :D
Quote from: Shoe-sama on December 08, 2010, 07:19:29 PM
Anyway, if all goes well in life, around December next year... Well, me and her may be going to Japan together for a year. Regardless of if we're in a relationship.
... !?!?!?
CLARIFY.
Well, my parents are planning on sending me to Japan for a year, they came up with this on their own, mind you, I did not tell them to.
I told her and offered to let her come along with me, so she accepted and it's what we talk about quite a bit (other things like anime, moe, and general random ranting get the rest) so I think we're pretty set to go to Japan together.
Also, FRICK. I think she has a boyfriend, but they're in a pretty unhealthy relationship, and all he seems to care about is his libido, while she wants a decent relationship, it seems all they talk about now is, to put it nicely, ecchi.
So I'm trying to see if she thinks it's an unhealthy relationship (part for my own gain, though mainly because I truly care) so if I'm lucky she'll realize it and date me, the true hero of this story.
... You're not getting off that easily. You have to tell me more about Japan, but this isn't the topic for that. >_>
So, you really think their relationship will last a year? And her boyfriend will be fine with her going to Japan alone(?) with you?
... Most importantly, if my memory serves me correctly, you're a Junior right now, and she's even younger. How the HELL are the two of you getting out of school for a year? :-X And where would two teenagers be living there, by themselves?
Quote from: Graceful Assasin on December 08, 2010, 08:14:06 PM
... You're not getting off that easily. You have to tell me more about Japan, but this isn't the topic for that. >_>
No it's not, message me, I'll tell you about it then, or get on AIM.
Quote
So, you really think their relationship will last a year? And her boyfriend will be fine with her going to Japan alone(?) with you?
I'm hoping it won't last that long, and I'm hoping I get to start dating her. Although I hope she picks up on my hints a little bit. She seems not to notice.
Quote
... Most importantly, if my memory serves me correctly, you're a Junior right now, and she's even younger. How the HELL are the two of you getting out of school for a year? :-X And where would two teenagers be living there, by themselves?
HAHA! In that case your memory fails you! I AM A SENIOR! I WILL HAVE GRADUATED BY THEN.
Not only that... BOTH SHE AND I ARE HOMESCHOOLED! SO HA! ANOTHER WAY IT'S POSSIBLE!
Third, WE'LL BE 18 AT THAT POINT! So we could easily make use of Manga Cafes, Apartments, or Love Hotels.
Oooooooh...
... I can't believe how perfectly that works out for you. :P Putting my undying jealousy aside, I wish you congratulations! :D
Quote from: Shoe-sama on December 08, 2010, 08:20:08 PM
Third, WE'LL BE 18 AT THAT POINT! So we could easily make use of Manga Cafes, Apartments, or Love Hotels.
Dude, TMI. 0.o
Still, if you two become an item, that will be epic.
BUMPIN'
Anyway, last night, around 9:45, I recieved a semi-planned call from who shall be known as "Girl-A."
The call's duration was 33 minutes and 53 seconds. The call took place outside of my house, in the rain, in temperatures ranging from 24-32 degrees farenheit. I was without a jacket.
It was so cold that the rain was freezing on the trees and on my hair and hands almost as soon as the rain touched them, meaning that my knuckles were throughly frozen when I returned.
Over the course of the call we talked about various things, my heart pumping in nervousness for even more various reasons. ;)
As we started I believe I apologized for hanging up on her as I got up to go outside, since I have very little privacy in my home. She responded that it was all fine, and that it was pretty funny, because not many people just up and hang up on her, at least not her friends. To which I responded jokingly "Maybe I'm not your friend. Hahahahaha!"
We laughed for a few moments.
I then asked her if she had watched the episodes of Seikon no Qwaser that she said she would, she said she forgot, and then we talked about how rediculous the show sounds. Then I brought up Gurren Lagann's later rediculousity and Kamina's sword when he meets Viral. Which we totally twisted to mean things that should not be discussed on a family forum.
After that I do believe I asked her about when she wanted to see Tron. She told me when she was free and that it was all a matter of getting a ride (we're both too lazy to go get our licenses :P) and that her mother isn't a fan of boys and girls "mingling" so if I went to pick her up she'd be all "You can't go with him. He's a boy" To which I responded "Since I'm an ota, you could tell her what most Japanese think about us ota, that we're 'semi-gay' since we're too busy with anime to deal with real women."
She then told me that she had been telling her friends that in order to get them to stop asking about me. (May not be a good sign :-[) But I laughed, since I shoulda told that to you guys to get it so you wouldn't bug me about her all the time. :P
Afterwards the subject changed to shotacon and lolicon, I'll leave that part out since not much of it is very good to talk about here, but I will tell you that she called me onii-chan around 50 times throughout the conversation, which I though was insanely cute and had a moment like this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GAziBVp0l-Q) almost exactly, with her also sorta playing the slightly weirded out girls saying "Onii-chan hentai desu." Which was great fun.
After that my hands had almost gotten frostbite, so I told her I'd message her on AIM when I got inside, since she was already on the computer, and ended the conversation.
PEOPLE. TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK.
Here's what I think:
MOAR :V
We need MOAR!
Quote from: MagmarFire on December 19, 2010, 12:20:53 PM
Here's what I think:
MOAR :V
We need MOAR!
I CAN'T GIVE MORE! UNLESS YOU WANNA HEAR MORE ABOUT THE LOLI CONVERSATION! AND THAT WAS
NOT GOOD FOR YOUNGER EARS!
Actually, scratch that.
I want a relationship upgrade! And I want a verbatim account of said relationship upgrade when it happens! :V
Well, Now how is this for an update...
MALL. TOMORROW.
TRON.
I SHALL TELL HER AS WE SEE IT.
EAT THAT!
SOUNDS GOOD! :D
But in the middle of the movie? Why not lead it with a romantic walk outside first? ;)
Quote from: MagmarFire on December 19, 2010, 07:47:02 PM
SOUNDS GOOD! :D
But in the middle of the movie? Why not lead it with a romantic walk outside first? ;)
SHH
I'll tell her after the movie that I like her, not sure if we'll date.
I know an awesome way to confess for when I do want to start dating her.
Oh, and I called her tonight too.
I JUST REALLY HOPE YOU GET TOGETHER WITH HER.
'TWOULD BE EPIC!!!
Alright...
Date went great, Tron was EPIC as expected.
And that date went so good I'm going to her house.
Very... VERY... soon. XD
I'll let you know how it goes. ;)
GOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOOOOO
LEVEL UP!!!
Well hello there... You say you want to hear how it went? Alright. Here we go. Lets start with when I got there...
She answered the door (Strangely, her mother knows my dad. Small world.) and let me in. I thanked her for letting me come over. I don't think she'll mind me telling you how she dressed, so she was wearing a... skirt? With a shirt (I think that's what I'd call it, I dunno) but I was most enamored with her adorable black thigh highs with purple ribbons. (Lemme just say, MOEEEEE)
Of course, she was calling me "onii-chan" the entire time, first we sat at the couch in her living room and got things ready, showed her what I brought (for our anime veiwing) which happened to be my laptop (for it's large screen) several DVDs, my Hard Disc, DS, games, and a hat (an awesome hat)
After I got everything done, we turned on the computer and watched the first Episode of CLANNAD (great starting point, right?) and then talked for a while, looked through pics on my computer, then started watching Christmas Theme anime episodes (We watched Hayate no Gotoku 1 and Strawberry Marshmallow 12) After Hayate we actually went back to her room, since her mom needed us out of the way.
Yeah, HER ROOM.
I'mma not tell you much about it, out of fear for my life. But she had to clean up embarrassing things before letting me in. XD, inside we fooled around hung out (i gotta stop saying that, it gets misconstrued) she showed me all her moe clothes, and well... Dressed me up in an awesome coat and a petticoat (the things that fluff up skirts. Just shut up guys.)
Afterwards I messed around with her hair, found an AMAZING way to put her hair (low twintails, with big white bows. So cute...) and then we started watching more anime (DURARARA!! if you're curious, on of her favorite anime)
BUT!
Instead of watching too much anime we sorta... Fell into the famous "sleep cute" form, her head on my shoulder, my head on hers.
Then Fishy messaged me, she took my phone, wanting to talk to Fish, and told him to spill the embarrassing secrets he knows. (He knows a few, but she knows more.)
I was worried he might tell her that I liked her, so taking advantage of the fact the was practically screaming it (and hopefully I had been putting out equally large hints) I told her I liked her. Although not quite like I wanted to, I think it was quite romantic.
I'll probably edit this in case she wants something taken out/put in.
But that's what happened, I snuggled with her for a quite a while (almost to the point of us not paying any attention to Durarara. Which is pretty awesome that I trumped one of her favorite anime) and held her hand, since she always has cold hands and I wanted to warm them up.
You know what they say, Cold hands, Warm heart.
-CHUCK
PS, A little fanservice video taken at the date yesterday, a present for you all.
Here you are. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0ny6pC-Hh0)
You're welcome. ;D
I THOUGHT THE FANSERVISE WAS OF HER, NOT YOU. XDDDDDDDDD
Gomenasai fish-chama x33
Im to embaressed to upload videos of myself..
Ohayo..
Im girl-A ~!
And, I has pictures from the date, mall, and my house...If anyone wants me to post.
I for one want to hear what you though about our mall date.
ANYONE WITH ME!?
*rallies troops*
I would love to see teh pics. :D
And hear about the date. :O[/rallied]
FREAKING AWESOME. *sniff* You do us nerds proud... *chest salute* Mall date, please! :D
Oh, and welcome to the desert, Kowan-tan.
Alright guys. I have yet another story to tell, I'm only gonna tell part of it, and she can tell the rest if she feels like it (don't worry guys, she says she's going to come back to the desert eventually)
So last night, around 6PM I get a message from her.
"Can I come over?"
I instantly asked my parents and they said yes. I let her know and she started getting ready.
That'd make this the third day in a ROW.
Was this really happening? Was I really THAT interesting that she'd want to see me three times in a row?
I ran up to the gate shack to put her name on the exclusive list of people allowed in and went back to my house.
Around 8:30 PM she told me she had arrived. Cue running to gate shack. I got a ride back to my place and we got out of the car. I won't bore you with what she was wearing, I'll just say she looked GREAT.
We went inside, introduced her to my dogs, and got on my bed/chairs. We watched Densha Otoko (cue references to me being like densha and you guys being 2channel) Then watched an episode of ToraDora! And we were all *DATA CORRUPTED*
Afterwards, around 10:50 we took a late night walk. We spent a while walking and *DATA CORRUPTED*
After we came in it was around 11:10 and she had to go home. I went with her and walked her to her door and *DATA CORRUPTED*
So guys? Whatcha think?
Yes you are that interesting xD anyways data curupted parts.. Well first after work, I'll be honest I missed him, and I saw nothing wrong with hanging out three days in a row, so I got ready realll quick, And I will bore you with what I was wearing, high white socks my skirt and a sweater with a lamb on it, what we both consider moooooee ! my hair was in bows we bought on the mall date but one broke so I toke them out.I got there and he was all rubs up meet us and I found that gentlemanly and adorable, and we got in his place. And I love his dogs x3 kawaii. I instantly jumped on the bed cause I'm rude and don't ask, but I loved it ._. like a nest, and he had lots of pillows, than he sat aswell, and toke my hand, fingers are allways cold, I suffer from bad circulation, but anyway we watched, the show about the Otaku who meets a girl and tells his Internet family all about it-forgets name- but is just like shoe- Chama. No? anyways while,I decided to lean against him, and pulled his arm aroundcmy waist which my very comfy( favorite part) ***** we also watched toradora ,I think his favorite series ever, and I think were kindove similar to. The relationship between taiga and Ryuuji , we have our contact pictures set as them, than suggested than we walk around for a while, before I had to leave, and I agreed , and we left. It was soooo cold, I think on getting sick girl moe from it, and working outside, but he gave me his coat, and we walked for a bit.. Than well, >\\< we kissed, first * gasp* onichama that was our first! We went back because I was dieing , and.. Once again. Kissed, he's a perfect gentleman by the way, is something I love about him, but I had to go than ._. *weep*. We held hands secrectly in the car, and before I went in my house, I was brave, and I kissed him! END. By the way as far as fansurvuce of me goes , you can hear my laugh in the moe moe kyun video ~,! tell me what you think boys
Hey guys, I'm sure she's sorry for the wall of text status on that post, I'll quote her and clean it up, but she typed it through her phone, so that's why it's like that.
Quote from: Kowan-tan on December 23, 2010, 08:09:06 AM
Yes you are that interesting xD anyways data curupted parts..
Well first after work, I'll be honest I missed him, and I saw nothing wrong with hanging out three days in a row, so I got ready really quick, And I will bore you with what I was wearing, high white socks, my skirt, and a sweater with a lamb on it, what we both consider moooooee ! and my hair was in bows we bought on the mall date but one broke so I took them out.
I got there and he was all runs up meet us and I found that gentlemanly and adorable, and we got in his place. And I love his dogs x3 kawaii. I instantly jumped on the bed cause I'm rude and don't ask, but I loved it ._. like a nest, and he had lots of pillows, than he sat as well, and took my hand, fingers are always cold, I suffer from bad circulation, but anyway we watched the show about the Otaku who meets a girl and tells his Internet family all about it-forgets name- (Densha Otoko -Ed) but is just like Shoe-Chama. No? Anyways during it, I decided to lean against him, and pulled his arm around my waist which my very comfy( favorite part)
***** We also watched ToraDora ,I think his favorite series ever, and I think were kind of similar to. The relationship between Taiga and Ryuuji , we have our contact pictures set as them, than suggested than we walk around for a while, before I had to leave, and I agreed, and we left. It was soooo cold, I think on getting sick girl moe from it, and working outside, but he gave me his coat, and we walked for a bit.. Than well, >\\< we kissed, first * gasp* onichama that was our first! We went back because I was dieing , and.. Once again. Kissed, he's a perfect gentleman by the way, is something I love about him, but then I had to go ._. *weep*.
We held hands secrectly in the car, and before I went in my house, I was brave, and I kissed him! END. By the way as far as fanservice of me goes , you can hear my laugh in the moe moe kyun video ~, tell me what you think boys.
There you guys go, I made it less wall of text-y and got rid of some typoes. :-X
Now to delete that other video from youtube...
Edit: She wanted me to go through and fix the typos for her, so I did.
Edit 2: I just want to add that I was wondering if kissing me was any fun at all, I was nervous, our lips were chapped... It just didn't seem like I'd be fun to kiss...
But if we did it three time I figured I couldn't have been that bad. XDDDD
Looks like official relationship upgrade is official! :DDDDD
Captain Falcon approves! >:D
Quote from: MagmarFire on December 23, 2010, 07:24:20 PM
Looks like official relationship upgrade is official! :DDDDD
Captain Falcon approves! >:D
FALCON 'PPROVE!!
But yeah, it's totally official.
... Oh my god. It took me SO much longer to read that then it should have. When I finally finished and accumulated a sizable headache, I realized Chuck fixed it. X___________X
It's good to see the two of you not as shy anymore. :3
That's not necessarily the case...
We're still really shy around each other and everything, she's always hiding her face when I say anything too romantic, whenever our eyes meet we look away really quick....
I'd say I'd want it to change, but for right now, I think it's adorable and sorta want it to stay.
Gomenasai fishy- tan. I didint mean to make you hurt, it's just typing on my iPhone I can't edit it properly + I make alot of typos. I suppose it was fine, >=\ though my lips were definatly not chapped, they were soft hai? X3 , we are shy but I think it's just fine, it's cute, and he doesent mind when I hide. I get the urge to hide often, especially with people I like, and when they say embaressing things >=\
Quote from: Kowan-tan on December 24, 2010, 10:02:45 AM
though my lips were definatly not chapped, they were soft hai? X3
>////< K, let's not get too mushy here.
but yes... they were... soft...
Quote from: Shoe-sama on December 24, 2010, 11:37:56 AM
but yes... they were... soft...
So that's what it's like. ;D
Sh-shut up Mags!
We do plan on hanging out sometime soon, probably when the weather calms down.
But guys, this will probably be my last post in this thread for a long while.
^ Last post? Why?
Quote from: MagmarFire on December 26, 2010, 01:14:01 PM
^ Last post? Why?
*exception* Because I'm now in a relationship and it'd just be random (we did this) stuff.
I'll save my posts here for REAL advancement.
Ah, I see your point.
Well, there are also the Armos boards. ;)
I need help, guys. T_T
You see, after extensive analysis, I realize how I deal with people. The people I like, I'm mean and sarcastic to. Those I don't, I'm overly nice and friendly. Because of this, I ignore the girl I really like and talk to people I hate and don't want to be around. And treat them better than her, as well as with the rest of my real friends. ^-^;; I can deal with the annoying people, but I keep pushing her and my friends away. So, I can't just start hanging around the nice ones all the time, and ignore the ones I don't like, because of how weird it would be. Any ideas? @_@
Quote from: Graceful Assasin on January 07, 2011, 10:58:21 PM
I need help, guys. T_T
You see, after extensive analysis, I realize how I deal with people. The people I like, I'm mean and sarcastic to. Those I don't, I'm overly nice and friendly. Because of this, I ignore the girl I really like and talk to people I hate and don't want to be around. And treat them better than her, as well as with the rest of my real friends. ^-^;; I can deal with the annoying people, but I keep pushing her and my friends away. So, I can't just start hanging around the nice ones all the time, and ignore the ones I don't like, because of how weird it would be. Any ideas? @_@
Seems like a typical case of Male Tsundere.
The secret is to every so often be nice to her, then deny it while blushing profusely.
I AM NOT JOKING. At least give it a try.
Now that's some actual advice. XD
That's what I usually do, when I get a chance to talk to her. Which barely ever happens. >.>
If you want my advice, I suggest trying to brute-force the behavior out of your system by making yourself hang out with the nice ones and avoiding the ones you don't like. It may feel weird, like you said, and it may be easier said than done, but if you expose yourself to those odd feelings, you'll adapt to them.
Quote from: Graceful Assasin on January 08, 2011, 09:37:05 AM
Now that's some actual advice. XD
That's what I usually do, when I get a chance to talk to her. Which barely ever happens. >.>
You didn't like my suggestions last night? Or any other time I give you them?
I'm telling you, go after her, if you did that thing I told you to do at the party you would have had her by now.
Also, hang out with her, like Mags said. Seriously, "nothing will happen unless you swing the bat."
-Haruhara Haruko
Quote from: MagmarFire on January 08, 2011, 10:52:06 AM
If you want my advice, I suggest trying to brute-force the behavior out of your system by making yourself hang out with the nice ones and avoiding the ones you don't like. It may feel weird, like you said, and it may be easier said than done, but if you expose yourself to those odd feelings, you'll adapt to them.
I tried exactly this, and it worked well. Except, the people I hate
followed me to her. She hates them too, and got SO MAD that they were around. It was adorable. XD
And Chuck, as for the blushing, I do that a lot already. >_> It usually happens when she teases me, but that makes her tease me MORE. She kept calling me a tomato when I was standing in front of the class, which made me blush more. @_@ It's going much better now, though, so thanks for the advice~ :D
Let us know how it goes! :D
If I've learned anything from dating Ko-tan it's that teasing each other is fun and keeps things unique.
We're always teasing each other.
Also, I'm not sure how you are, but I'm always entirely honest, when she does something dumb, or looks like a derp, I tell her.*
It just makes it much more special when I tell her she's beautiful.
I learned this from CLANNAD's Tomoya...
It's going well, thanks to you guys' advice. :D
However, That's only sometimes. When we're together in a group of friends, things are great. But in other classes, we completely ignore each other. >_> I keep wanting to say something, but there's nothing to SAY. @_@ Any advice on talking to girls? XD
I can hardly give advice on talking to people in general, I'm afraid. XD
Try and be calm (something I'm horrible at) at least, that's what I did when I talked to Alex for the first time.
Also, say something nice about her under your breath then just say you were thinking out loud (also what I did.)
I'm still not good talking to girls, but I do these things and conversation usually follows.
Also, say something nice about her under your breath then just say you were thinking out loud (also what I did.)
I'm still not good talking to girls, but I do these things and conversation usually follows.
[/quote]
Wow, that's a good idea. I've never seen that.
Okay, so there's this chiiiick.
She's a nerd. She plays video games. She plays Magic. She's hot.
And apparently, she's into me. Such a rare breed. A girl like that that diggs a guy like me. I must be dreaming. I'll let you guys know what's up, but dude, I'm so excited XD
Brutal dude just hopes things turn out all good... Unlike some people from the past >_>
Quote from: ZeldaVeteran on February 07, 2011, 12:06:41 PM
Okay, so there's this chiiiick.
She's a nerd. She plays video games. She plays Magic. She's hot.
And apparently, she's into me. Such a rare breed. A girl like that that diggs a guy like me. I must be dreaming. I'll let you guys know what's up, but dude, I'm so excited XD
It's been two weeks. WHAT'S UP?
Indeed what is up???
In other news I have an amazing new girlfriend! She's just as stupidly random as I, AND she enjoys like all the things I do... It's like a found one of my bro's in a female body 0.o
Oh my. I feel like you are all growing up! *pinches cheeks*
I have a feeling some of us have yet to get laid, though. -_-
But anyway, I just (not just just, but just) got out of a relationship, so I'll be laying low for a while.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin.
Anywho, I must admit I feel a bit guilty and I could use a bit of insight from you fellow gentlemen. There's a guy who I was hanging out with this past summer and he commissioned a Byrne plushie as a birthday present for me along with getting Ocarina of Time Master Quest and he asked me if I was interested in a relationship after the second time we hung out. Naturally, being the late-bloomer I am, I said I wasn't really into the whole deal. He just simply said "ok" which can be interpreted any kind of way, really. I try to talk to him like nothing really happened and we're still just as good friends, but I can't help but feel a little bit of tension...like he has a resentment against me. I mean, I can't say I blame him. After all, the guy totally knew my one weakness: hot videogame characters and I just turned him down. But in my defense, I wasn't ready for a relationship, and I'm still trying to maintain a friendship. What should I do to reduce the tension?
Well, this is kind of a tough one...
It depends if he's open with the tension or not. If he is, your best bet is to shoot him down whenever he brings it up. >_> If not, then that's even harder. The only possibilities I can think of will distance you as friends. You can talk/flirt/hang out with other guys to make him lose interest. Or, you can distance yourself for a little while, and hope it just blows over... Other than that, it's very difficult for you to do willingly. Unless he changes something by himself, it's not going away anytime soon. Hope this helps. :/
Yeah, I figured it would be best to just give him some space and let it blow over. I don't see him very much, but he does hang out with some of my other guy friends.
Quote from: Jean Havoc on March 03, 2011, 04:57:35 PM
I have a feeling some of us have yet to get laid, though. -_-
But anyway, I just (not just just, but just) got out of a relationship, so I'll be laying low for a while.
ME ME ME ME!
XD
Yeah, Alex and I are allowed to hang out again. She's still as awesome and amazing as ever. And she just keeps getting better.
Well, it was about a year since I broke up with my second ex, but I think it is time again to say that I am now in a relationship again. Tonight, we'll be going to a movie, having ice cream....
....my Dad is going to be driving us home and watching us from the rear-view mirror....
Quote from: Jean Havoc on March 19, 2011, 09:23:34 AM
Well, it was about a year since I broke up with my second ex, but I think it is time again to say that I am now in a relationship again. Tonight, we'll be going to a movie, having ice cream....
....my Dad is going to be driving us home and watching us from the rear-view mirror....
Who's parents don't?
Mine don't, if only for the fact that there are no relationships for them to worry about and since I'm, well, 20. It's a nice luxury, to be sure. :3
Anyway, congrats, Havoc! How did this start, if I may ask?
Okay, life story:
Desirae
We met about two years ago, and I kinda didn't find her likable at all, as she was actually pretty annoying. So, I kind of avoided her for a long time until sometime last May, when there was an incident I will not speak of, and she seemed to show a bit of concern. For some reason, I don't know, maybe she matured or something, she isn't that annoying anymore, and then I found her approachable. But at the same time, she was going out with a scumbag that her friends seemed to have a problem with, he had already cheated on her twice that time, and she had broken up with him, but was then going out with him again (she was apparently desperate. :-\ ).
So, my second ex breaks up with me, I'm depressed for about only a day, and then the Bike Tour comes up, and when I'm not thinking about how atrocious the hills (mountains) we were climbing were, I couldn't help but think of her, no matter how much I shook her out of my head. At the same time, I was also thinking about some other girl, but she wouldn't go out with anybody, but mainly because she was probably a closet lesbian. She was easily shaken away.
Anyway, I get back, and then I realize that I have been having strong feelings for her. I wait until last Wednesday to be able to actually confess to her, only the event that she was supposed to attend was lacking said person. I meet her on Facebook, and it turns out that she rarely ever does anything on Facebook. Her best friend, Carissa, does however, and she is very upset. It turns out that Des had already broken up with the guy she was going with while I was on the bike tour, but she's been back with him, AGAIN, since Christmas, and he already cheated on her again! Jeeze! He didn't care about her!
So I'm talking with Carissa, and I'm and equally upset. She asks me why, and I tell her. Apparently this is very interesting to her. She tells Des, whom she has been yelling at because of her BF, and the next thing I know, I get a message from Des, asking if she would go out with me. "YES!" We met up the next day, to help watch the little kids while our mothers were examining various new foods (I have no idea what was going on with them, I was helping to watch the kids). Every chance I got, I would sit with her, and we would cuddle...it was magical. ♥♥♥
So, I have a movie date tonight in 30 minutes, so I gotta get ready to get going. Thats how we met...and I still cannot believe it.
*cue Napoleon Dynamite "Lucky!"*
But really, that's awesome! I hope the date goes well!
Okay, I'm gonna let you guys first and foremost know how the date went.
IT WAS AMAZING.
...
...More? Okay! If you can't tell, I'm in a great mood! ;D
We walked in, I paid for the tickets, she was gonna pay for the popcorn and soda, but after looking at the prices, we decided we'd be good without that stuff. Okay, awesome! So we walk into the theater (we're watching Rango, btw) and it turns out that there are still people in the theater from the last show, and the last show was still on (I think, near the ending). So the theater manager catches up to us and says that they were having technical difficulties during one of their showings, so they were delayed by 7 minutes. So, he said we could take a seat while we wait for the show to end. We sit together, and we cuddle. We do nothing...but cuddle. Her thumb was moving up and down my hand, and the next thing we know....we're having a thumb war....
...XD
So then everyone is walking out of the theater, and when they have finished flooding out, we snuck on in, and we picked a seat in the back so no one can see us. The movie starts, immediately she lays her head on my shoulder, hand in my hand, my other arm wrapped around her, AH it was incredible.
We liked the movie. In my opinion, it was INCREDIBLE. I don't know what you guys would think of it, though.
So, we leave the theater, I take her over to the ice cream store next to it (I couldn't stop shivering because it was cold out...), and we walk in, I pay for the ice cream, we have a good time, listen to the good 80's music, and we leave...
I call Dad to come get us, and he comes over in his gorgeous Dodge Magnum, I open the door for her, she climbs in, and then I get in the other seat, and we ride off...
She gives him directions to her house, and along the way, we come across an empty road, so my Dad goes ahead, and...
TURNS OFF HIS ****IN HEADLIGHTS.
...It was incredible. He was trained to do that, at one point. But I digress. The lighting was just gorgeous. He then turned them back on, and we find ourselves holding hands the ride up. We get to her home, and I walk with her in, we hug, we look at each other, hug some more...and then finally part ways...and I walk back into the car.
I think it went rather well. ♥ ♥ ♥
Okay, dude, thumb wars with your girl are always amazing. Trust me. You'll be having them for a while.
Also, snuggling before (and during) a movie is always fun.
Also, nice touch Mr. Dad with the headlights.
Good Job. *thumbs up*
Dare I say the date was Chuck Norris approved? ;)
lol
Yeah, it was pretty amazing, except we didn't get to see the not-so-close-to-the-earth-as-predicted moon. That would have been incredible-er.
Alright, so I have another sitch.
This guy I know (let's call him Bob) used to like me at the beginning of the year. To tell the truth, I was a little creeped out because I didn't like him in that way. He would follow me closely and mimic my path. In a class I have with him, he would always sit extremely close to me and as I would be going to my gym class the period before he would follow me up until we reached the girls locker room. He even joined German club because he knew I was in it.
He asked me to homecoming this past year and I told him I was already going with some friends just to kind of avoid him. At the homecoming parade, I was with German Club and of course, he was there, too. After the parade he told me how he felt saying "I kinda like you." and I replied, "......Oh..." and then got in my car and went home.
Around Christmastime, he was dating one of my friends and during that time he no longer mimicked my path, sat three inches away from me, or any of that. But we still talked and we were good friend, and we still are. But just a few months ago, they broke up and now Bob is back to liking me again. There's actually someone else who I like but I barely get to see him anymore because we don't have lunch and gym together anymore so I can only talk to him on Skype. I don't want him to think that Bob is my boyfriend, especially when one of my friends was teasing me that he was and one of my other friends asked me if I liked him. I told the one girl who asked me if I liked him, "NO!" because Bob wasn't around, but when my other friend was teasing me saying "Vaati and Bob sittin' in a tree..." I just gave her a look because I didn't want to hurt Bob's feelings when he was right there. I'm not as concerned about what my friends think, but I'm just concerned about what the guy I actually do like is thinking. I want him to know that there's nothing going on between Bob and I and that we're just really good friends, even if Bob wants something more.
Hmm, that is a sticky situation. If you want my opinion, though, I say to be direct with him now than to inadvertently get his hopes up later. I'd say the amount of hurt resulting from finding out you don't like him is directly proportional to the change in time from now to the time he finds out. In other words, the longer you wait to tell him, the more it'll hurt (for him) when you get it over with.
Just keep in mind that romantically rejecting him is not the same thing as globally rejecting him.
Quote from: Vaati on March 22, 2011, 10:16:52 AM
There's actually someone else who I like...
O.O Mission accomplished, guys!
Vaati, why don't you tell us about this special someone, hmm? ;3
That sounds like a plan as far as telling him up front. Although, I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "romantic" and "global" rejection.
And yeah, the guy I kinda like I've known since freshman year but I hadn't really become good friends with him until junior year when we had lunch together. We had lunch and Adventure PE together last semester but nothing this semester which is a bummer. I'm thinking of maybe going to prom with him. I dunno. ^^
EDIT: Yes, we're going to prom together. :3
Epic.
Win.
Is this the same Vaati that seemed to not be interested in any guy except her titular purple mage?
Titular purple mage and Lokomo with a metal arm. ;)
My sister actually told me that she could tell he liked me, because he took me to a movie and offered to pay, then paid for dinner at a Chinese restaurant nearby. And when I asked him, he said "Sure" and that he was actually going to ask me, but wasn't sure how to. So, I'm glad one of us worked up the courage. ;D
Quote from: Vaati on March 28, 2011, 09:05:52 PM
That sounds like a plan as far as telling him up front. Although, I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "romantic" and "global" rejection.
By "global," I was referring to a generalization.
Quote from: Kyle Katarn on April 03, 2011, 09:40:25 AM
Is this the same Vaati that seemed to not be interested in any guy except her titular purple mage?
Hence the "Mission accomplished, guys!" XD
Quote from: MagmarFire on April 05, 2011, 09:37:55 PM
Quote from: Vaati on March 28, 2011, 09:05:52 PM
That sounds like a plan as far as telling him up front. Although, I'm not entirely sure what you mean by "romantic" and "global" rejection.
By "global," I was referring to a generalization.
I'm still not sure what you mean exactly. Could you give an example?
"General" as in not necessarily in the romantic sense.
That's not an example. (sigh) Nevermind, forget I asked anything. XD
It's good enough, considering an antonym of romantic is platonic--meaning rejection by, say, friends. If it's not romantic, it fits my description. You can do the categorization from there. ;)
Ah, I see. :)
Okay, I'm giving you all warning, the following post may or may not contain mature themes and strong language. I'm gonna beige it, but if you feel it's necessary to give me a warning and censor the words, fine, but I need to say it like this.
I'm sorry for getting you all down... But I have no one else to talk to...
So for anyone who wants to read on, do it at your own risk. Nothing about it will be very happy.
Over the past couple weeks Alex and I have been arguing quite often, about really dumb stuff, she suggests something and I over-react. She suggested going to the mall yesterday for example and I freaked out at her, yelling and everything, stuff like "I hate the mall" and "We planned to stay in today! Why do you wanna change it now?!"
Things were going so well for us for the first 4 months... She said I was perfect and that she loved me and the nothing was ever wrong. We never fought, we never disagreed, there were no problems at all, I was, to quote her, "A prince" but now... I just keep messing up.
It may be no secret to some of you that Alex and I sometimes do... Intimate things, but it's not that often! But I can't help but think all this started when we did them for the first time.
I'm stressed out all the time, she sees it and she hates it, I feel like I'm growing up too fast, I have a job, I have responsibility, I have graduation coming up... And all of it was forced on me 3 months ago with very little preparation...
Because I feel like I'm growing up too fast, I think I try to cling to all the immaturity I still have left... But that just leads to me clinging to how emotionally unprepared I am for a relationship like I have with Alex...
She tells me she never wants to be with anyone else, that I'm the only person she ever wants to be with, and I feel the same way, but when I do some of the horrible horrible things I do to her, I can't help but think things would be better off... If we weren't together.
Last night was probably the worst night of my entire life. I was stressed, I go over to her house and we talk things out, and for once I feel relieved. We get back to her house after a walk, and start watching some anime. She and her friend start saying she's like a character, but I just can't see it, so semi-jokingly I say "I guess I don't know the real you, do I deserve to date you?" Then she gives me a scared look, and insists she is like that character.
I don't say anything, and instead pull out my phone and send a fake message to my parents saying "I'm ready to go" which makes her react... Exactly how I thought it would, although... I hated myself for doing it.
She stands up and runs to her sisters room, I hear her start crying and instantly think "I fudged up big time." I go to her kitchen and almost throw up because of how bad I feel.
She tells me after she calmed down that at that moment, for more than an entire minute all she could think about was saying "I want to break up with you" and it took all her willpower not to say it.
Eventually she calms down enough to want to talk, I go back there and she's crying more than she ever has before, yelling at me to shut up yelling how it's all my fault, and that she can't tiptoe around what she says because she's worried about me freaking out, because that's all anyone has ever done. I finally get her to calm down and we start talking...
I don't think I deserve someone as amazing as her, and I... I think it'd be better if I left... So she could find someone better...
Why does life change like this? Why did we start fighting? Why did I do what I did? Why am I stressed? What can I do? Should I let her go find someone better? If not, how should I apologize? How do I know this won't happen again?
I don't get anything anymore. There are too many questions...
Cerebus syndrome fudging sucks.
Quote from: Shoe-sama on April 26, 2011, 05:11:24 AM
Okay, I'm giving you all warning, the following post may or may not contain mature themes and strong language. I'm gonna beige it, but if you feel it's necessary to give me a warning and censor the words, fine, but I need to say it like this.
I'm sorry for getting you all down... But I have no one else to talk to...
So for anyone who wants to read on, do it at your own risk. Nothing about it will be very happy.
Over the past couple weeks Alex and I have been arguing quite often, about really dumb stuff, she suggests something and I over-react. She suggested going to the mall yesterday for example and I freaked out at her, yelling and everything, stuff like "I hate the mall" and "We planned to stay in today! Why do you wanna change it now?!"
Things were going so well for us for the first 4 months... She said I was perfect and that she loved me and the nothing was ever wrong. We never fought, we never disagreed, there were no problems at all, I was, to quote her, "A prince" but now... I just keep messing up.
It may be no secret to some of you that Alex and I sometimes do... Intimate things, but it's not that often! But I can't help but think all this started when we did them for the first time.
I'm stressed out all the time, she sees it and she hates it, I feel like I'm growing up too fast, I have a job, I have responsibility, I have graduation coming up... And all of it was forced on me 3 months ago with very little preparation...
Because I feel like I'm growing up too fast, I think I try to cling to all the immaturity I still have left... But that just leads to me clinging to how emotionally unprepared I am for a relationship like I have with Alex...
She tells me she never wants to be with anyone else, that I'm the only person she ever wants to be with, and I feel the same way, but when I do some of the horrible horrible things I do to her, I can't help but think things would be better off... If we weren't together.
Last night was probably the worst night of my entire life. I was stressed, I go over to her house and we talk things out, and for once I feel relieved. We get back to her house after a walk, and start watching some anime. She and her friend start saying she's like a character, but I just can't see it, so semi-jokingly I say "I guess I don't know the real you, do I deserve to date you?" Then she gives me a scared look, and insists she is like that character.
I don't say anything, and instead pull out my phone and send a fake message to my parents saying "I'm ready to go" which makes her react... Exactly how I thought it would, although... I hated myself for doing it.
She stands up and runs to her sisters room, I hear her start crying and instantly think "I fudged up big time." I go to her kitchen and almost throw up because of how bad I feel.
She tells me after she calmed down that at that moment, for more than an entire minute all she could think about was saying "I want to break up with you" and it took all her willpower not to say it.
Eventually she calms down enough to want to talk, I go back there and she's crying more than she ever has before, yelling at me to shut up yelling how it's all my fault, and that she can't tiptoe around what she says because she's worried about me freaking out, because that's all anyone has ever done. I finally get her to calm down and we start talking...
I don't think I deserve someone as amazing as her, and I... I think it'd be better if I left... So she could find someone better...
Why does life change like this? Why did we start fighting? Why did I do what I did? Why am I stressed? What can I do? Should I let her go find someone better? If not, how should I apologize? How do I know this won't happen again?
I don't get anything anymore. There are too many questions...
Cerebus syndrome fudging sucks.
That really sucks, man. Women have a way of making us males say the worst possible things at the worst possible times, I feel your pain. That reminds me a bit of how I treated my first girlfriend (but, like, the
third time we dated, it was on-and-off for close to a decade). She just needs time. If things are meant to work out between the two of you, they will. Just tell her you were wrong, you didn't know what you were saying, you were just being stupid. Be vulnerable. Be honest. Be insecure. If she loves you, she'll understand.
Anyhow, even if you're going to color that text, there's still no tolerance for that kind of language-- no warning since this is an emotional topic, but I've edited your post correspondingly.
Awww, dude... I came here to post a happy story, but now I'm just sad :P
I'm really sorry. I've seen this situation before. What you two need is a break from each other. Sever all contact with her for as short as a week or as long as a month. That could be exactly what it takes to make you guys appreciate each other again.
I'm not a licensed counselor, so don't take my advice too seriously- but my ex and I used to do these types of things, and it really did make things better. Another thing we did was spend a day with each other, but neither of us was allowed to speak.
"Words are very unnecessary, they can only do harm..." -Depeche Mode
That sentence has more truth to it than it leads on. Without words, only emotions make contact. Every little movement is closely scrutinized, and by making a mental contact with your eyes, she should be able to make out the words, "I love you". That's the best advice I can give (if you wanted any at all).
Now I'm gonna tell the story of a relationship that may be just beginning. If everything goes well, I'll be typing up a post like Shoe-sama's next year XD
*ahem*
So at the beginning of my last semester in college, I didn't have any friends at the college. I was a freshman who didn't go there at the same time as his pals. So one day I was walking past the lunch room, and I noticed something new. It wasn't the room that was separated from the hallway by a large glass window- but rather that everyone in it was playing Magic. Magic is a card game that I picked up last summer, and I love it. I decided to check it out, and upon entering the room I was immediately noticed... Okay, so nobody even turned to look at me, but I was determined to make myself known.
I found a table with an empty chair and took a seat. "Only watching." I confirmed as I observed their skills. One of the dudes asks, "You play?" to which I responded, "I do!" Now what was really intriguing about this table was the girl that was playing with them. She was absolutely gorgeous. Never for a second did I contemplate that she might be single- hot nerd chicks are rarer than any other kind. I'm not the worst looking guy, and I'm pretty good at making people laugh- so I'm not the type to think I don't have a chance. We got to talking, and it was better than I could imagine. She was also a hardcore gamer! She was getting two thumbs way up from me, and the dudes at the table were pretty cool themselves. They asked me to bring my cards next time.
I'd found my niche.
For the rest of the semester, we became friends. We did all sorts of "friend" stuff, like take pictures, go out to eat- lots of nice stuff. The girl and I (I won't say her name, sorry, lets call her Girl) weren't close yet, but I didn't really expect that anyways. The rest of the semester was pretty cool too. I got her phone number, but I dare not text her yet. I didn't want to seem like a creeper (the school is full of them). There was little contact over summer- none of us were close enough to hang outside of school. We just throughly enjoyed each others' company. However there was SOME contact. I was down at the local nerd shop, and I ran into her there! Yep! She was with her boyfriend! OH-NO. THIS IS TERRIBLE. HE'S NOT A FLORENCE. HE WAS ACTUALLY REALLY NICE GUY. OH-NO OH-NO. RED ALERT. SHIP HAS HOLES IN IT. THEIR RELATIONSHIP SEEMS AIR-TIGHT! What do I do?!
Second Semester
With some kind of miracle magic at work, we all wind up having a big break together. No idea why- we didn't coordinate schedules or anything, but there we were hanging out again. In any case, Girl and I wind up being much much closer friends. During this time, we text a little more than normal, exchange gifts for holidays, and sometimes meet up at the local nerd shop. We have some time alone during lunch before the others show up, which is amazing. We get lunch together, and discuss each others' stalkers. Yes, no matter what school I go to, I have ugly stalkers XD
As the semester continues, all of us grow closer, including her and I. All I can do is hope that her boyfriend messes up really bad- because at this point, I'm likely next on her list. Recently, my buddy Dave went to a gaming/anime convention and got a whole lot of stuff for free, some of which he didn't want. He gave me two Pokemon White/Black posters- they were really nice. They were made of a really high quality material (not paper, but like a floppy aluminum material), and the deal was that I only wanted one. My friend Dave is a genius, and he was like, "give it to one of your friends then, I'm sure they'd appreciate it."
THUMP THUMP
Dude.
THUMP THUMP
THUMP THUMP
BRAIN BLAST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lmao, so yeah, I decided to take one to school for her. I left it in my trunk, and at lunch I told her I had a "sprize" for her. She followed me out to my car, and was absolutely thrilled about it. It was so nice to see her so happy. She (http://loves) Pokemon, and often times plays her DS at lunch. She immediately took it back to her car, and we went back inside. I couldn't believe how happy it made her, lol. But I think I was also surprised at how happy I was to see her happy. You see, I don't love her. At least I don't think I do. I really enjoy her as a friend, and she's totally hot, but I don't love her yet. I think the happiness I got out of making her happy might be the beginnings of a small feeling of affection towards her.
This happened just yesterday (the poster thing), and I just wanted to say that I'm really excited about this. I have plenty of girls that are going to wind up being friends with benefits right now, but only one promising possibility of a relationship. That's the story so far- and I'll let you guys know the moment something happens. ;)
MEDIT: That word's not allowed. Fortunately, though, it's not one of the warnable ones--just one of those don't-do-it-again-or-I'll-fire-mah-laz0r kinds. ;)
Shoe, you've been a good friend of mine for a while now, and you have told me a great (GREAT) many things about you and your love life, but now it is time for my feedback.
Me and Des have been having a steady relationship for a little while now, and it's mainly steady because of how infrequently we see each other. We see each other, oh, I don't know, maybe once or twice a week. Sure, we keep good contact on Facebook, but mainly it's just to talk about how our days have been, and then we go and make up stories to keep us entertained. When she is busy, I do something else that I find fun so my skills in that subject do not rust. When I am busy, she does the same. Recently, however, she was finally allowed into my room so she can play Twilight Princess for the first time. My room was a mess. It looked like a tornado went through. I told her how sorry I was that my room was that messy, and do you know what she did? She wrapped herself in my blanket, picked up the Wii remote, handed me the nunchuck, and said "It looks like my room. Let's go".
The point is, I was being vulnerable and insecure about the way that my room looked, and she looked past that and made me feel better by ignoring the small stuff.
When we went to watch a show at the High School a few weeks back, they played a really sad song with a slideshow of the soldiers overseas. I could not hold in it. She looked at me, and she could see the tears running from my eyes. I thought I was gonna lose it. You know what she did? She snuggled in closer to me.
I was feeling vulnerable, and I needed a hug. She gave me that needed comfort.
Just recently, she made joked with me about cheating on her. I do not look lightly on cheating at all. Even if it's a joke, I cannot take it. I told her this, and the next thing we know, there is a sense of awkwardness flowing through the air. And then, a minute later, we continue on like it never happened.
Whenever I get too concerned with anything and almost panic, she jokingly calls me paranoid and says everything is going to be okay.
We got into an argument about glasses. She doesn't think she looks pretty with glasses, and this is an opinion that she is gonna stick to. I told her otherwise. Apparently, this is a big no. The whole time I'm thinking "(w)itch, just accept the damn complement!" But then her (w)itchy as all hell best friend comes online and orders me to stop arguing with her. I saw red, and I wanted to kill something, but I held it in because I love her, and her friend has her moments when she's fun to be around, and I didn't want to mess that up.
She also does not like to be patted on the head. I learned this the hard way. Nor does she like to be lifted when we hug.
You understand what I'm getting at? If she really loves you, she will look past the small details and forgive you for your mistakes. You need to make mistakes with her, and learn from those mistakes. If you need to cry in front of her once in a (great) while, do it. Real men cry once in a while. You don't need to be the absolute strongest person that she knows, because if you do, it'll give her the impression that you are insensitive.
We don't listen to the same music (Hers is okay, it's just not the type I listen to. Mine, well, she hasn't heard the good good songs yet. ;) ) and she doesn't like anime as much as I do, but that's okay! I can watch the cheesy kid stuff that I still like around her (My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, Tacheon?), along with the good Disney movies that we both know and love, and we still enjoy each other.
And now she has slowed down the whole relationship so that we don't rush into things. It's my turn to join in the slowdown.
Long story short, she doesn't have to like EVERY THING that you do, you can't be insensitive, and you don't need to be together ALL THE TIME. You need time to be apart sometimes. There are gonna be fights. There are gonna be times when you disagree. The best thing I think now, for you two, would be to spend some time alone. Away from each other. Time heals all wounds if you're not already dead. And for the love of all that is holy Shoe, if you find the time away from her unbearable, FIND SOMETHING TO DO!!! ;D
This is just my feedback to what you have been telling me over Facebook. I hope that I have been helpful as this will probably be the last time I voice my opinion to you....hopefully.
Just so you guys know, I read what you said, so don't think I'm ignoring you. ^^;
But there is something I need to say: Sadly, in this world, no relationship is perfect. If you manage to forge one without clashing with your other half at least some of the time, then either you're luckier than a guy who's won the lottery or you know something's wrong with the relationship. Fighting is risky business, sure, but without it, a relationship can't grow to its fullest. Clashes raise red flags like, "Hey, stupidhead, you need to communicate more!" or something like that. Not that I'm necessarily saying that you guys have a communication problem, but I am saying that fighting is like failure: It sucks, but use it to your advantage by learning from it.
But of course, remember that I don't speak from experience. It's just another way of thinking I started utilizing. I realized that disagreements and grievances are inevitable, and trying to get out of your way to prevent them from happening is an exercise in futility and is only a source of frustration, which could damage a relationship further. ...Remember, though, that frustration can help you learn to "go with the flow" and try to fix things that need to be fixed, not things that cannot be fixed. Trying to prevent fighting is, in a way, simultaneously trying to patch up what's wrong with being a human being. Humans are flawed by nature, after all.
Finally, don't think that I'm trying to say you shouldn't try to lessen the severity of disagreements. That, of course, is a more manageable task than trying to erase them completely.
So guys, I thought everything was good with Alex, I mean, I was talking to her like normal, we made up, and... Well, something still seemed off.
Well, I looked throught my messages and everything she said... well... I figured out what was wrong.
There wasn't a single "I love you" sent from her side. At all.
I think I really messed up guys.
I may have misinterpreted it, but it doesn't seem to me like it's impossible for the relationship to recover. I mean, it was just an unfortunate chain reaction of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, right?
No, it'll get better. She said that the reason she didn't say it was because she didn't seem like she was just saying it to say it...
I told her, "What's wrong with that? So long as you mean it."
Needless to say, I got an "I love you" which really calmed my nerves down...
Anyway, I'm gonna be staying home the next couple of days, take a break from work, I'm gonna sleep, play on the 'net, veg out, and see Alex.
That's my entire plan for the rest of the week.
Ah, signs of recovery. Just as I thought. Good. :D
So let me let you know what's been going on with my Ex.
2007: I met her. Friends. Date. Love.
2008: Stabbed me in the back. Broke my heart. I died.
2008: Decides she wants me back. I go back (stupid). She stabs me in the back again.
2009: Decides she made a mistake, and wants to be friends again. I agree on the condition that she doesn't tell me about her love life (it still hurt).
2010: Decided to bring her boyfriend around me. I stopped talking to her.
2010: She broke up with him. Got me back. We were cool.
2011: About a month or two ago, she decided to just come out of the blue and say "I've found someone else and I'm happier now."
... Okay. Bye.
So I've been not talking to her again. Told myself that it was over for good. No matter what she does, I'm not going back to her only to get hurt again. My middle school years taught me how to be cold hearted towards those who are cold hearted towards me. Haven't done it in a long time- but it doesn't mean I've forgotten how. This series of texts went down last night:
Her: "I know you don't want to talk to me, but you're the only person in the world I want to talk to. Please don't go, I want you to stay."
Now those last few words there, "please don't go, I want you to stay" are the lyrics of a song I showed her a long time ago- a song that made me think of her. The last time she got me back is because she said that. It didn't work this time.
Me: "Why. Just why. What can I say that nobody else can say to you?"
Her: "About your day."
Me: "It was awful. And yesterday was worse. But tomorrow is gonna be amazing because I choose to make it amazing, and you're not gonna mess that up for me. My life is finally getting back on track- and you know what you are? You're a set of busted tracks. I'll crash at the end of them, and I'm not even gonna let it happen this time."
Be advised that it did hurt to type all of that stuff to her. I still love her- but I'm not willing to let myself get toyed with again. I told my present self that my future self would be proud of my past self for sending all of this. Truth is, I'm very proud of my past self.
Her: "That might just be Bc you're a negative nancy. Doesn't sound like it's that great without me. But if you're dead-set, I'll just add you to the block list."
I found that ironic because she texted me. I think I'm the one who need a block list. Also, my life always gets better without her in it. I'm pulling all kinds of tail right now for reasons I don't know- whenever I let her go, women become attracted to me. I don't know.
Me: I'm dead-set. And I'm sorry it has to be this way.
Her: I'm sorry too. See you in the next life. I tried.
Me: Me too...
I really stuck it to her, guys. I'm so proud of myself. I battled the devil and won her game of temptation!
All Downhill From Here - New Found Glory
Goodbye (so long) - SR-71
Stupid Kid - Alkaline Trio
My Friends Over You - New Found Glory
Not the Same - Bodyjar
Dysentery Gary - Blink 182
I Hope You Die - Bloodhound Gang
Don't Let Her Pull You Down -New Found Glory
Happy Holidays You Ba****d - Blink 182
That's the playlist I've been rocking out to to make myself feel better. I recommend it to anyone going through the same situation. Sometimes you gotta be tough for the greater good- it also helps when your friends are telling you that she's miserable now. :)
ZV Wins.
This is the same girl who's given you these ups and downs for all this time? Dang, man, I'm sorry. She's sure been persistent...
Quote from: Zangief Veteran on April 30, 2011, 02:46:05 PM
Her: "That might just be Bc you're a negative nancy. Doesn't sound like it's that great without me. But if you're dead-set, I'll just add you to the block list."
...
She did
not just go there. I don't know whether to laugh hysterically or go into a classic Internet rage.
Quote
I really stuck it to her, guys. I'm so proud of myself. I battled the devil and won her game of temptation!
. . .
ZV Wins.
With that, I dedicate my next glass of chocolate milk to you, ZV. *toasts*
Say, if you don't mind my asking, how are things going for this other girl? ;)
Quote from: MagmarFire on April 30, 2011, 06:43:56 PM
She did not just go there. I don't know whether to laugh hysterically or go into a classic Internet rage.
I laughed. It's okay to crack up at that, all of my friends (and hers) did.
Quote
Say, if you don't mind my asking, how are things going for this other girl? ;)
Actually, there are four girls that really want me right now- while they're all pretty, I'm only really interested in one: Girl. She's the one I posted about earlier, and right now I don't know where things are. I need more time before I can make progress. I tried to set up an MTG/Smash tournament tonight, but everyone was busy. :-\
Hey, if you want another song to add to that playlist "Lightning Runaway 'No Music, No Life' By Ben Kweller and The Pillows is pretty darn awesome.
Also, all of you stay tuned for a huge reveal that will come at the end of the day. From me.
Well, I promised it, here is the BIG REVEAL.
I have no life outside Alex and work.
I need a hobby or something, because whenever she's not around, I get depressed, I start to wonder what she sees in me, why she stays with me when she's so absolutely beautiful, and could have someone much, much better.
She's beautiful, kind, funny, amazing to hang out with, and I'm just... Me. I'm nothing special.
I have no real skills, barely have a future, or anything.
I wish I had other friends around that I could hang out with, but I don't, it's just her.
I wonder why she chose me, everyone says "You're cute together" "You're good to her." "She loves you."
Why? I'm not unattractive, but I can't stand up to THIS:
(http://i153.photobucket.com/albums/s227/linkheroofhyrule/IMG954463.jpg)
I'm good to her? Ha, good luck convincing me of that, I think I'm never gonna make up for what I did to her that one fight, and it's tearing me up.
And she loves me. She really does... I don't see what she does in myself, but for some reason, she really loves me with every last bit of her being... And I don't deserve it. I love her more than anyone ever will... But I feel like I just hold her back...
She's beautiful, she could be a model, she's a great singer, she has amazing friends that see can actually hang out with (No offense to you guys, I love you guys, but I wish I could actually hang out with you) She is amazing...
What do I have going for me? I have what is probably the most dead end job, I obsess over anime, and I love her, I have almost nothing to offer her.
It tortures me that she stays with me... But I never want her to leave...
And the worst part?
She's my sister guys.
Okay, what? She's your actual blood-related sister?
Quote from: Jean Havoc on May 01, 2011, 07:02:07 PM
Okay, what? She's your actual blood-related sister?
To quote you, "yesth"
She is.
Wait... how is she your sister? I thought you mentioned that you went over to her house before or after a date at some point. *Looks back several pages*
QuoteShe answered the door (Strangely, her mother knows my dad. Small world.) and let me in. I thanked her for letting me come over. I don't think she'll mind me telling you how she dressed, so she was wearing a... skirt? With a shirt (I think that's what I'd call it, I dunno) but I was most enamored with her adorable black thigh highs with purple ribbons. (Lemme just say, MOEEEEE)
What, is she like a half-sister that you somehow didn't know you had? That's like the only thing I can think of that makes sense.
When did you find this out, anyway? ...And how?
wait...
what the ****?
She's my half sister, yes. It was really awkward when I met her at the mall for our first date and we (My father and myself) go out and meet her mom and it's... Well, someone my dad knew. :-X
Quote from: Shoe-sama on May 03, 2011, 04:07:51 AM
She's my half sister, yes. It was really awkward when I met her at the mall for our first date and we (My father and myself) go out and meet her mom and it's... Well, someone my dad knew. :-X
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah
woooooooooow
You wouldn't believe how awkward it was.
Is it really that weird?
It's not weird, per se, but the chances of it happening are once every hundred million or so.
Still though, you can fool around but don't procreate.
Quote from: Rainbow Dash on May 03, 2011, 09:31:27 AM
It's not weird, per se, but the chances of it happening are once every hundred million or so.
Still though, you can fool around but don't procreate.
That's so totally not fair, the girl I end up falling for is my half sister... It's really really not fair at all, I want kids, I want to get married..
There are plenty of other fish in the sea, certainly some fish that won't create mutant offspring.
You fell for her because you felt an instant connection with her. You weren't used to that connection, you didn't understand it, so you thought it was love-- and it was. But it's fraternal love, not romantic love.
Quote from: Rainbow Dash on May 03, 2011, 02:15:07 PM
There are plenty of other fish in the sea, certainly some fish that won't create mutant offspring.
You fell for her because you felt an instant connection with her. You weren't used to that connection, you didn't understand it, so you thought it was love-- and it was. But it's fraternal love, not romantic love.
**** that, you know you only develop a true fraternal bond if you spend a couple of the first 7 or 8 years of your life with them, and I didn't see her at ALL when I was younger.
And incest doesn't mutate children, a smoker (who doesn't smoke during pregnancy) has more of a chance or defected or mutated children than two siblings.
So sorry all you anti-incest peeplez, it's not over at all between the two of us.
MOD EDIT: Explained in the following post.
Quote from: Shoe-sama on May 03, 2011, 03:13:42 PM
Quote from: Rainbow Dash on May 03, 2011, 02:15:07 PM
There are plenty of other fish in the sea, certainly some fish that won't create mutant offspring.
You fell for her because you felt an instant connection with her. You weren't used to that connection, you didn't understand it, so you thought it was love-- and it was. But it's fraternal love, not romantic love.
F*** that, you know you only develop a true fraternal bond if you spend a couple of the first 7 or 8 years of your life with them, and I didn't see her at ALL when I was younger.
And incest doesn't mutate children, a smoker (who doesn't smoke during pregnancy) has more of a chance or defected or mutated children than two siblings.
So sorry all you anti-incest peeplez, it's not over at all between the two of us.
I never said I was against wincest. I was simply attempting to offer an alternative explanation. Fraternal bonds are largely unexplained, you'd be amazed at the number of times two people who have never seen each other meet randomly, become best friends/lovers, then find out that the basis for their attraction is that they're (genetically speaking) almost identical. That bond transcends modern understanding, it's similar to a twins' bond but not nearly as strong.
Also, I'm afraid that if you're going to use one of those four-letter words, all the letters in it need to be censored. At least that way we can
pretend we're not being vulgar.
Ah, actually, that'd be one deserving of a warning, it's my second "warning warning" just so you know.
So... Recently... Things haven't been going right... I cried my heart out to Fishy the other day, and... Alex is almost trying to hurt me... I think it's about time I actually gave up on this...
I've still got a little time left to decide, I'll probably decide before I graduate, the last weekend of this month, whether I want to stay with her or whether she's no good for me and I should give up.
I think she's focusing too much on the bad, she's trying too hard to find us being happy all the time and it's blocking out all the ways that she could learn from these fights. I know for a fact that I have learned so much... But she just shuts it all down, trying to avoid fighting... And I don't want that.
So really guys, I'm going to choose before the end of the month.
Either I'm going to keep my heart open to her, or she's going to force me to close it up forever.
I will never find anyone like her ever again, for the rest of my life. I've told her that if she left me somehow, I wouldn't find anyone to replace her.
Maybe if I do, I could always consider being a monk...
(Just so you all know, I'm being totally serious.)
Also, if you look at this topic... From what it started out as, to what it is now... It really shows the fact about how us and our relationships have grown.
It's not a romantic relationship... But I love all you guys... Wyndisis, Tacheon, Mags, Fish, ZeldaVet, HnS, Twilight Wolf, Vaati, Havoc... I love you all... Over the years I've been here, you guys have become the people I love the most in this world. We should all buy an island and start a country where we don't have anything to worry about.
I know I'm deluding myself, but really, you guys always make everything better... And right now... I really need it. I need the support of my very best friends... Because I'm becoming disillusioned, and I'm starting to think the world is crap. So please... I need your help.
I don't know what I'm going to do...
It's 5:44 in the morning and I'm crying to myself in my room, wondering if love is worth it, wondering if I should keep trying...
Why can't the hardest thing in my life be finding the TV remote and stealing the batteries for my Gameboy Color anymore? Why do I have to deal with love?
It's over.
She ended it.
I'm literally crushed right now.
I'm so sorry, Shoe. But it was probably for the best. You said yourself you were considering ending it, at least this way your suspicions have been confirmed. You're an awesome guy and I heart you too. Might I suggest going to the Bhavada society on the Virginia/West Virginia border for a while? It's a Buddhist monastery and you can go there for a month-long retreat or so. No talking during certain hours, it's a great place to just go and find yourself and understand who you are and your place in the world. I went on a retreat there once and it was probably one of the best experiences of my life.
Quote from: Rainbow Dash on May 04, 2011, 11:06:32 AM
I'm so sorry, Shoe. But it was probably for the best. You said yourself you were considering ending it, at least this way your suspicions have been confirmed. You're an awesome guy and I heart you too. Might I suggest going to the Bhavada society on the Virginia/West Virginia border for a while? It's a Buddhist monastery and you can go there for a month-long retreat or so. No talking during certain hours, it's a great place to just go and find yourself and understand who you are and your place in the world. I went on a retreat there once and it was probably one of the best experiences of my life.
I'm actually tempted to... I just... Can't believe she didn't wait to do it in person... Even I'm not that cold...
Yeah, not doing it in person is a ***** move.
Wow. I'm so sorry man.
I can't believe SHE did it like that, the girl who only wanted to have a relationship that would succeed, I admit I'm not the most mature guy, but she's claiming she's mature, but she's not, she can't work through these problems and deal with a little pain so she can be happy later, she's not mature.
Still, she's someone I'll remember for a long time. And I have no regrets.
Wasn't expecting it to end like this. This is the second unexpected thing I found out about today... But anyway, sorry that it came down to that. Maybe my response below will help you feel better.
Quote from: Shoe-sama on May 04, 2011, 02:39:45 AM
I will never find anyone like her ever again, for the rest of my life. I've told her that if she left me somehow, I wouldn't find anyone to replace her.
As for the first part, you may be right. The keyword here is
like, which I assume you mean to be "noticeably yet arbitrarily similar." When it comes to being very alike, the odds may be small, but the thing is that the next person who comes into your life need
not be the same. This also does not imply that having a significant other being different than a previous one is a bad thing; as a matter of fact, in terms of goodness, it can only be the same or even better. After all, if your next half were to be practically identical to Alex, then that relationship would potentially be doomed before it started; the risk of having the same events repeating themselves would be higher than average.
Part of the thing about dating is that you try to do a sequential check for compatibility. Think of it in terms of a machine: If a part isn't compatible with you, rip it off, learn from it, let it heal, and move on to another part with the failed part in mind. You appear to get this principle, so good for you!
QuoteIt's not a romantic relationship... But I love all you guys... Wyndisis, Tacheon, Mags, Fish, ZeldaVet, HnS, Twilight Wolf, Vaati, Havoc... I love you all... Over the years I've been here, you guys have become the people I love the most in this world. We should all buy an island and start a country where we don't have anything to worry about.
I know I'm deluding myself, but really, you guys always make everything better... And right now... I really need it. I need the support of my very best friends... Because I'm becoming disillusioned, and I'm starting to think the world is crap. So please... I need your help.
We love you, too, man! *hug* And the island thing is a good plan, indeed. ;) We could have an army, and HnS would be the heavy weapons guy!
QuoteIt's 5:44 in the morning and I'm crying to myself in my room, wondering if love is worth it, wondering if I should keep trying...
Why can't the hardest thing in my life be finding the TV remote and stealing the batteries for my Gameboy Color anymore? Why do I have to deal with love?
Let me take you back to the broken machine analogy. If you want the machine to work properly, you need to find the right part. If you give up on it, it'll never work properly (and concussive maintenance certainly won't help, haha; please don't do that to yourself, whatever you do). If you keep looking, you're much more likely to find that other part to get it up and running.
Now, I'm not trying to imply that one
needs a significant other; no way am I knocking the concept of celibacy. It's just an analogy to poorly disguise the cliché I'm referencing. As for whether or not you should keep trying, that's up to you. Whatever makes you happy. I probably wouldn't recommend you trying right now, since you're still healing, but when you're ready and you want to keep looking, do it!
We love you too. Let me just say that I know exactly how you're feeling. If you ever want to know what actually happened to me, we can trade stories over IM's. Let me just say that while you think you won't find another one like her (believe me, I know how that feels), you actually will. It's like when you find an amazing song that you listen to on repeat for more than an hour. After it's lost its luster, you think you won't find another amazing song to throw on repeat- but you always do.
What I did to deal with my heartbreak was and is... a little more destructive than I would recommend- but you'll find your own way to deal with it. If you want some solid advice, feel free to drop me a PM any time. I've dealt with this enough to be straight up angry towards women in general. It's messed up, and I don't reflect that in the way that I live- but in my head I'll never ever fully trust a woman. Ever.
If enough of us become rich, I'd be down to chip in a couple million for the island. ;)
Thanks guys, it really means a lot... Um, I know it's not entirely related to the topic, but...
I'm prolly gonna be feeling bad for a while, and I'm not sure if you guys to pay for it...
But instead of the island, why don't we get together for my graduation? It'll be the 27-29 of this month, and guess what? The lodging is a huge condo that's been paid for. You just gotta pay for the trip, send me a PM if you're interested and I'll tell you where it is.
It'll feel amazing to be surrounded by my most amazing friends when I graduate, since I... don't have her.
Still let me know, and just so you guys know... I'm not taking it hard, I'm sure something that happened with her will influence me to make a decision that will lead me to who I'm supposed to be with.
Edit:
So this morning I woke up with dried tears on my face, so I don't think I'm taking this as well as I thought. My mind tried me like... 3 times making me think she sent me a message apologizing or... Saying she wants me back... I'm trying to move on... But so much stuff is holding me back.
My mind is clinging to all the safety and happiness I had... I'm amazed I met a girl who met all my standards, physically and personally...
I know this hurts you guys to hear, since you shipped us so hard... I thought she was more devoted and willing to work for her happiness than that.
Quote from: Shoe-sama on May 04, 2011, 03:56:28 PM
Thanks guys, it really means a lot... Um, I know it's not entirely related to the topic, but...
I'm prolly gonna be feeling bad for a while, and I'm not sure if you guys to pay for it...
But instead of the island, why don't we get together for my graduation? It'll be the 27-29 of this month, and guess what? The lodging is a huge condo that's been paid for. You just gotta pay for the trip, send me a PM if you're interested and I'll tell you where it is.
It'll feel amazing to be surrounded by my most amazing friends when I graduate, since I... don't have her.
Still let me know, and just so you guys know... I'm not taking it hard, I'm sure something that happened with her will influence me to make a decision that will lead me to who I'm supposed to be with.
Edit:
So this morning I woke up with dried tears on my face, so I don't think I'm taking this as well as I thought. My mind tried me like... 3 times making me think she sent me a message apologizing or... Saying she wants me back... I'm trying to move on... But so much stuff is holding me back.
My mind is clinging to all the safety and happiness I had... I'm amazed I met a girl who met all my standards, physically and personally...
I know this hurts you guys to hear, since you shipped us so hard... I thought she was more devoted and willing to work for her happiness than that.
Where do you live again?
So guys...
I realized why she did what she did, it wasn't the best way to solve this problem, I hurt her. I know that now. I hurt her.
She even admit that it wasn't the best way to do it, but she said "It was best."
She said "I'm happy now, sure I have to go through life without your support, but I've always been strong enough to do it."
She also said "You always made it out to be my fault making it seem like I was the one who was over-sensitive, saying that I didn't look on the bright side of anything, well it's hard to look at the bright side when you're being stabbed to death."
I never once did anything that warranted the feelings she had. My only crimes were not knowing how to put my feelings to words, and getting complacent with her. I never did anything but care, I always showed her love and support, and she just pushed me away.
This is such a far cry from "We'll always talk it out." and "I'll forgive you for anything."
I'm fed up with her. I want to move on, find a new girl, maybe hang out with some friends... The thing is that it's so hard to meet new people, and I know that I have no real chance of meeting anyone outside of a con, and even then the chance of them being near me is very low.
I just wish I could have made things work out better.
But it's finally over. I finally, finally understand that... So guys, gimme a hand, I wanna meet a nice otaku girl. Help?
Also, I'll be right back after I watch Tangled.
Do what I did. Take a break from love for a while.
Okay, I just watched Tangled, but... Let me say that this movie is the first DI$NEY movie I've ever disliked, not because it was bad, it was probably one of the best I've ever seen.
But it reminded WAY too much of what has been going on in my own life...
Not to mention Alex sings like Rapunzel, and the whole haircut thing and the fact I used to call Alex my "Disney Princess."
Wow, No more DI$NEY for me for a long while.
Any sort of help is greatly appreciated.
Quote from: Fluttershy on May 08, 2011, 06:02:02 PM
Do what I did. Take a break from love for a while.
I'm really enjoying that break actually.
My ex is apparently telling everyone that I'm miserable without her.
Truth is, I haven't felt this great in a while.
She said, "I control his sex life." I found that quite laughable.
Quote from: Portal Veteran on May 08, 2011, 07:54:35 PM
Quote from: Fluttershy on May 08, 2011, 06:02:02 PM
Do what I did. Take a break from love for a while.
I'm really enjoying that break actually.
My ex is apparently telling everyone that I'm miserable without her.
Truth is, I haven't felt this great in a while.
She said, "I control his sex life." I found that quite laughable.
My first ex is exactly like that. She makes it sound like I was better off with her, when in reality, I look back, and I think "why did I go out with her?"
Quote from: Fluttershy on May 09, 2011, 03:50:31 PM
Quote from: Portal Veteran on May 08, 2011, 07:54:35 PM
Quote from: Fluttershy on May 08, 2011, 06:02:02 PM
Do what I did. Take a break from love for a while.
I'm really enjoying that break actually.
My ex is apparently telling everyone that I'm miserable without her.
Truth is, I haven't felt this great in a while.
She said, "I control his sex life." I found that quite laughable.
My first ex is exactly like that. She makes it sound like I was better off with her, when in reality, I look back, and I think "why did I go out with her?"
Right? Like maybe two girls like me when I was with her. Now that I don't talk to her anymore, I'm pulling so much tail it's surprising even me 8)
Not even gonna to pretend I'm not bragging. You all have to understand that while I have a pretty cool personality, I'm
still a nerd. This is an incredible feat for me! Revenge is so sweet I can't even appreciate it while it's there because I already want more!!
But yeah. Last night she decided to disappear off the face of the earth, and have one of her friends tell us that he killed her, stuffed her in a body bag, and she's probably halfway down the guadalupe river.
SO. There's that...
Yeah, luckily for
him, he decided to tell us that she TOLD him to say that, and she left without telling him where she was going. Lucky for HIM, because after getting that text, I voted to beat his body to pieces with a crowbar, and my friend volunteered we shoot him in the crotch, and then call the police on him. Good times, good times.
Wait, what? ???
Why is she doing this?
We got a hold of her finally, and it turned out she was just over a friend's house... So why make everyone think you're dead? The worst part, is I really didn't feel like I'd lost anything at all. She's not the person I loved, and as far as I'm concerned, I don't know her.
Well, even though I thought Alex and I could stay friends... I noticed something she said.
She told me she knew the breakup was coming for a while... But the last time I saw her we did... Perverted things... So if she knew that it was coming, why did she keep doing that? She suggested it to ME that time. I only did those things with her because I was going to stay with her forever...
It seems to me she was using me...
Well, I doubt there is any chance of Alex and me being friends ever again. I want her to hurt right now... But I wish her happiness in her life.
I'm sorry it ended like this... For the past week my world has seemed grey and lifeless, the girl I loved more than anything left me when I needed her the most... And she betrayed me. I can't feel anything but sadness, lonliness... I feel like every choice I made in the past 5 months and 20 days was a mistake... But not this.
With time... I'll be able to move on.
But... As much as I love her... I hate her right now.
I'll let you guys know when I find a new girl.
*sigh*
I have a predicament. Just a tiny one. The bloke I'm going to prom with is my friend but I'm afraid that it's going to turn out like all my other friendships with dudes and just end up with him wanting to be my boyfriend and I don't feel ready. Much like the boy who liked me my sophomore year, he's a nice kid but I'm afraid that I'll be missing out on a great person if I say no, but I just don't feel mature enough for anything serious. Plus, doing so much as holding anyone's hand grosses me out to no end. Germy and awkward. I wouldn't want anyone to see me. And I'm afraid saying no to a relationship will ruin our friendship. I'm just thinking ahead here. He hasn't expressed much feelings about it but I'm just so afraid that he will and I won't feel ready to say yes. I'm still attached to my wind sorcerer and pissed-off looking Lokomo. ^^;
Well, i've been on the opposite end of said snaffu several times, best way to deal with is tell him you just want to be friends before he gets too attached. Good friends love and romantic love can be very easily confused.
I don't want to be too blunt, I would more rather ease into it. He's never made a move on me but I heard from his sister that he does like me. I suppose it's better than the other guy that likes me who I'll address as "Bob" to respect his privacy.
So, I went to a restaurant with Bob, my teacher, my teacher's husband, my teachers cousin, and my teacher's cousin's friend just tonight. Bob and his father were nice enough to pick me up because my mum is having car troubles. We had friendly conversation, joked about things at school, all that good stuff in the car. Got to the restaurant and met up with my teacher and the people she was with. We ate, stayed and talked for a while then I went up to go to the lavatory and one of the guys my teacher was with suggested to Bob that he should have helped me out of my chair like a gentleman and I said, "No, no. That's okay." as I walked to the restroom. When I came back out and sat down at the table, I noticed Bob get up to scoot my chair out for me and I quickly scrambled to my seat before he got a chance. My teacher sort of laughed at how quickly I got to my seat. There were musicians playing at the restaurant, and there were two little kids (a boy and a girl) dancing. My teacher suggested Bob and I get up and dance, too. Waltz. I made as many excuses as I could not to Waltz with Bob from "I'm a clumsy dancer." (which I'm not) to "I'm too lazy." Then I tried to change the subject. After dinner, Bob and his dad drove me home and it was drizzling a bit. Bob got out of his side of the car and came to open my door and he walked me to my door. He took off his sweater which he always said was his trademark sweater and gave it to me saying it would help me remember high school. Knowing him, I knew he would want a hug, too. And rest assure, he did so I just gave the bloke what he wanted. I turned around, about to go back into my house and then he stopped me, put his hand on my shoulder and said, "One more thing to remember high school." and he tried to kiss me. I pulled away quickly and told him I just wasn't that type of person. I asked him if he wanted his sweater back because after all, it was his favourite sweater and it was cold out. I wanted to be more insistent on giving him his sweater back but I didn't. I went back inside and laid the sweater on my bed, my hands shaking. I couldn't look at that sweater any longer and now I'm stuck with it. He knows I only want to be friends, in fact, I've made that very clear with him many times so in a way, I don't feel bad. But I still wish I could have been more insistent on giving him his sweater back. Hopefully, I can meet up again with him this summer and return his sweater to him. I'm sure he misses it, and besides, I just can't bear to look at it after that. I don't really know whether I'm asking you guys for a solution, I guess I'm more just looking to vent my frustration.
Okay I just gotta get some stuff off my mind....
Okay so I've been dating this girl for quite some time, I love her (yea I'll just be blunt about it) and up until recently she's been able to say the same. But now her mind is starting to stray from that, and I just don't make her as happy as I once did. I don't want things to end and want to try all I can to make it work. But i just don't know what to even do. I mean I want to just blow her mind away and make her feel even happier than when we first got together, but I know if I can't that things won't work.
All I want is her to be happy and I just don't seem to be the right person for the job at the moment... I already talked to her about it and we agreed that I'll have one night to "take her breath away" again, and if I can't then I know what will happen, and I will just have to accept that is how she'll be happy.
I would do anything and more to make her happy, and I just don't know what to do... So yea I guess I feel a little better saying this to someone :/
Then the answer is obvious... You have that one night...
You obviously love her, because you want her to be hapy (something I learned about love is that's all it takes) The question is if she wants it for you.
It's what caused so much strife for me, she didn't want me happy anymore and left, making me feel horrible, but... It's how it goes.
So, you have one night, use that one night to take every happy moment you ever had and condense it. Don't do anything perverted, since that'll just ruin the whole moment.
Anyway, just my 2 pennies.
Thanks for that, and I know I have that one night. I more have the fear that I'm gonna try to hard. Or that I'm just going to mess it up either way... But nonetheless I thank you for your insight on the matter.
If you want my opinion, I think she's going about the relationship the wrong way. She's giving you one night to make her happy, or else she cuts the whole thing off? A relationship built solely on that aspect of happiness sounds...flimsy--easy to wither. If you successfully make her night (which I think you can do, by the way, which is part of the inspiration for my following the outcome to its logical conclusion), that only sounds like a temporary solution. It would only be a matter of time before she pulls the same requirement, the same deadline, and the same stress on you again.
I can't say for sure what the right course of action is, as that's both subjective and that I obviously don't have all the information about your guys' relationship, but it sounds to me that in order to avoid the most heartache in the long run, you'd be better off finding someone else. Yes, that sounds very unpleasant, and to be honest, I wish I could suggest a better way. It's just that it wouldn't be a long shot to assume that after you succeed and win her over again, she'll treat the relationship as a toss-up and put you back into the exact same situation--only that time, your feelings for her would potentially be even stronger, making your desire for appeasing her much more dire.
Forgive me if it sounds like I'm taking this lightly. I did not intend to make it sound that way. I just think that you may be setting yourself up for delayed yet more powerful heartache if you try to prolong it.
No no, don't worry I see how you mean to say it. And It was actually my choice to be based on a night, and I know it seems foolish but she's been telling me that her feelings have been slipping for about 2 weeks now, and I have been trying my all. But I don't want to make her feel bad for wanted to break up because of my well being and I don't want to hold her back from being happy.
I decided to try at least one last time before I try and move on. Though I don't want to admit it, I know I may not be best for her...
Oh. My apologies for the slight misunderstanding, then.
No apologies needed my good sir
I mean, really if her feelings are slipping now, they'll likely do it again, I sorta agree with Mags, but I'm also a fan of never giving up til it explodes in my face. Also, when I said happiness, I meant mutual, as in she wants the same for you, if she doesn't, I know I wouldn't stay...
So a few tips for that night, make it FUN, Not romantic, romance is a surprisingly shallow emotion, she'll be more likely to stay with you if you're fun to be around. Of course, it can be romantic AND fun, but if you have to choose between the two, go for fun.
Don't go out, stay in and have fun.
And tell her how you feel, and remind her that things wax and wane, things won't always seem perfect, but you do try your very best. If she believes you, good, if not... Well... I'm sure you'll know what to do.
So I met a girl online--college-exclusive, meaning you need a (most likely valid) college e-mail address in order to get in. She goes to MSU, and she seems cool. I asked that when she's not too busy (namely, after she moves back into her dorm on the 29th), we should meet up sometime. Her response?
"I would love to meet up sometime."
(http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lka8k04gW71qjxtmio1_250.gif)
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 11, 2011, 05:27:56 PM
So I met a girl online--college-exclusive, meaning you need a (most likely valid) college e-mail address in order to get in. She goes to MSU, and she seems cool. I asked that when she's not too busy (namely, after she moves back into her dorm on the 29th), we should meet up sometime. Her response?
"I would love to meet up sometime."
(http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lka8k04gW71qjxtmio1_250.gif)
(http://gypsyvegan.com/images/lolcats/lolcat_bless_this_post.jpg)
Good luck.
update for me: In a relationship, long distance, girl in Texas. I really like her. We talk nightly on the phone.
Have you been visiting her?
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 14, 2011, 08:35:16 AM
Have you been visiting her?
My first visit is planned for the end of the year.
It would be the opportune time, I suppose. People are off on break, after all.
On your moped, or by air?
hey, if you'll be anywhere near college station, TX, hit me up :]
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 16, 2011, 06:18:47 PM
On your moped?
HELL YES. How many thousands of miles is that?
Can anyone say ROAD TRIP?! (forever alone, though. v.v)
And Mags, make us proud, son. ^w^
Quote from: alex on August 16, 2011, 09:39:25 PM
hey, if you'll be anywhere near college station, TX, hit me up :]
Is that anywhere near Houston?
Quote from: BK201XIII on August 17, 2011, 07:04:44 PM
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 16, 2011, 06:18:47 PM
On your moped?
HELL YES. How many thousands of miles is that?
Can anyone say ROAD TRIP?! (forever alone, though. v.v)
23 hours by car.
likely to be like... 60+ on my moped. XD
Quote from: MagmarFire on August 11, 2011, 05:27:56 PM
So I met a girl online--college-exclusive, meaning you need a (most likely valid) college e-mail address in order to get in. She goes to MSU, and she seems cool. I asked that when she's not too busy (namely, after she moves back into her dorm on the 29th), we should meet up sometime. Her response?
"I would love to meet up sometime."
(http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lka8k04gW71qjxtmio1_250.gif)
GO MAGS! GO GO GO!
Well, we've been flirting, so that's certainly a good sign, I hope! The odds of this not being a premature dud like most of the other connections I make are continuing to rise!
Quote from: Inigo Montoya on August 23, 2011, 07:21:19 AM
Quote from: alex on August 16, 2011, 09:39:25 PM
hey, if you'll be anywhere near college station, TX, hit me up :]
Is that anywhere near Houston?
its about two hours away
so no? haha
Looks like it's happening. Sunday at 3:00 P.M.
A DATE HOLY CRAP ON A STICK
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 02, 2011, 03:46:20 PM
Looks like it's happening. Sunday at 3:00 P.M.
A DATE HOLY CRAP ON A STICK
WHOA GOOD LUCK MAN
In other news, the first girl I ever gave my heart to just burst back into my life. Wat do?
Quote from: Tacheon Black on September 02, 2011, 07:05:57 PM
Quote from: MagmarFire on September 02, 2011, 03:46:20 PM
Looks like it's happening. Sunday at 3:00 P.M.
A DATE HOLY CRAP ON A STICK
WHOA GOOD LUCK MAN
In other news, the first girl I ever gave my heart to just burst back into my life. Wat do?
I'd ignore her entirely. Or at least not care about her romantically.
You say she burst back in, which means she disappeared for a while. She's not worth it.
Oh, she's worth it. The only woman I ever loved, and still love. I'd drop everything and move a thousand miles away from everyone I ever knew and loved just to hear her whisper from the other end of a tin can telephone.
How did she burst out of your life in the first place? You might've explained it to us before way back when, but I think a connection to the present would help me understand a little more.
Eh, there was a lot of drama back in the day, and both of us were at fault. As time passed, we just gradually grew apart-- but a year ago or so we started talking again and now things are getting back into the old grind, it's nice. However, there's also a lot of bull that I shouldn't have to put up with. For instance, we were cuddling and suddenly she just burst into tears and started whining about how much she misses her ex.
I mean really, come on.
List of things you don't talk about with your current boyfriend:
1. Your ex.
2. How much you miss your ex.
3. All the good qualities about your ex.
4. Look, just don't mention the guy. If he's as good as you say he is, he should have no problem finding someone else.
In any case, I met this new girl, and we really hit it off. We've been hanging out a bit. She's hot, she's a nerd, and I'm almost certain she is somewhat attracted to me. It isn't that hard to tell with some people =P
More news on this eventually.
Quote from: Tacheon Black on September 04, 2011, 12:15:02 AM
I mean really, come on.
This summarizes it pretty nicely. I gotta say that that really
is hard to give advice on. Yeah, you pretty much shouldn't have to deal with that.
Is she into games, ZV? If someone really is a nerd, that's a good litmus test. XD
As for me...the date was
awesome. :D :D :D :D :D
Ooh, care to tell us a story? :)
The details are a bit long, and I've already typed this out before, so I'll just dig up the archive. Ah, here we go.
QuoteHoly crap, it was awesome. It started out a little bit awkward, but we were quite easily able to keep conversations going when silence quietly broke out. Heck, we didn't even finish our ice cream in time, as it kind of got warm and melted as we talked for Lord-knows-how-long. XD After that, we went for a walk, talked about our mutual dislike of bugs, talked about classes, and all that good stuff. As we were walking, she suggested that, "Hey, you wanna go down to the river?" I accepted, and we stood there and looked at the water, talked more about this-and-that, and yeah. After it got a little quiet there, though, I made my first move: I wrapped my arm around her shoulder, and (HOLY CRAP!) she actually accepted my advance! :O
Well, then, after that, we talked some more, all the while being comfy. X3 After that, we started walking some more, before which we started holding hands, and talked even more. While we were going east, we happened upon an area that I myself never walked before, and I think she didn't walk around there, either. So we sat down, cuddled, and talked even more. Dang, we were doing a lot of talking tonight, weren't we? XD The entire situation became at least 20% more romantic after the weather just seemed to be so...perfect for the situation! She actually started to get chilled, and I took my chance to cuddle even harder to get her warmer... :D
After that, we started talking about favorite foods, some more classes, and we even talked about calculus classes for a while. After that...! :DDDD
WOOO! GO MAGS!
And I take it no one noticed the MLP reference? XD
Oh that...it was hidden. One actually had to look for it to find it.
Simply seeing "20%" in it should tip off anybody. ^^;
Gettin back on topic...
So the two of you had a good time. :)
Yes, we did. :D
And we are following it up on Sunday at 3:30, this time being a double date with one of my best friends and her boyfriend. KAMINA, DON'T FAIL ME NOW!
Okay, if someone could upload a pic of Simon and Nia on a Double date with Kamina and Yoko, that would be AWESOME.
I'm worried for Des. Apparently her best friend is being VERY controlling of her, like she always has been. But I'm worried it might have some long term effects on her, like, oh I don't know, she might end up being very dependent on others. Her friend basically makes up all the decisions whenever she is involved and whatnot. I just don't want this to happen to her. Her mother has already drilled her about it. It's very apparent whenever one sees the two of them together, you can see the dominance between them. You know what I see? I don't see a friendship, I see nothing but empty loyalty. And she keeps throwing around the excuse that she has cerebral Palsy just so everyone feels sorry for her, and follows her every whim. I see a spoiled brat. Someone who clearly wants someone to understand her, but she is too $@& damned stubborn to listen to anyone else's opinion!
You know what? I don't really care for feedback for that last part. It would be nice to notice that I said that, but I'm just glad I got that out in the open. I feel a little better, but not much.
What do you think? Should I tell Des how I feel about her friend? Or should I just suck it up and move on? She seems liberal enough to listen to what I have to say, but I'm just worried.
It seems a big part of a relationship is communication. If you have something on your shoulders, you should let it out outright. Otherwise, it could build up and explode, depending on the severity.
Quote from: Jean Havoc on September 11, 2011, 11:12:20 AM
Okay, if someone could upload a pic of Simon and Nia on a Double date with Kamina and Yoko, that would be AWESOME.
(http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n71/MagmarFire/zerochanTengenToppaGurren-Lagann289386.jpg)
You're welcome.
EDIT: I found out she just wants to be friends.
...Well, dang.
Wait wait wait....what? She just wants to be friends? What the hell!
Awesome pic, by the way.
Well, she was dumped before by a guy with supposedly-similar pastimes as mine--relatively recently, might I add. She said she's just not ready to go through with it again.
I can't blame her, really. :/
I have a feeling i'm one of those destined to be single people. Ah well. My last relationship was 5 months ago.
Hey everyone! Just calling to let you all know my relationship is going great.
I love my princess, she makes me happy, we talk all the time...
Oh, and I'm single!
Oh, crap. What happened?
What did you do? It was your sister again, wasn't it?
Quote from: Jean Havoc on September 24, 2011, 01:55:28 PM
What did you do? It was your sister again, wasn't it?
My sister? What?
And I did nothing, I just need to figure stuff out, what I want to do, and she, earlier, suggested a break, then the other day I brought it up, and we're now taking a break from each other.
It's only temporary. Fishy suggest I do something irresponsible with my new-found singleness.
This just in: the one and only woman I love will probably not live past the new year.
This has become...
A most depressing thread.
Quote from: Tacheon Black on September 28, 2011, 05:59:08 PM
This just in: the one and only woman I love will probably not live past the new year.
Oh, Christ... Explain please, if you would.
She has had lyme disease for several years now and it heavily compromised her immune system. She didn't get it treated quickly enough, and now her body's being attacked by everything (including itself), and is shutting down.
Oh my God... I can't imagine what you must be going through.
I'm so sorry...
I appreciate the pity but there's no use brooding on the inevitable. What will come, will come. I'm just going to make sure that what life she has left is as wonderful as possible.
Do it, man. Make her the happiest woman alive.
My mom had Lyme disease before. It's a nasty, nasty illness. Fortunately, she got better, but darn it to heck, it took a long time and a lot of energy to do. That really, really sucks, Tach. If only we could reverse autoimmunity...
Righto then, so there's a guy at my school (who we'll call "Joe") who openly expressed his longing to be in a relationship with me. We're both huge Zelda geeks which I think know is one of the major contributors to why he likes me and I'm perfectly fine with that. Thankfully, as up-front as he was, it allowed me to be up-front with him to tell him that I only want friendships with people and that relationships make things more complicated for me than I want them. Like the cool bloke he is, he told me that he understood and would respect that of me.
He's still a little clingy to me. He gives hugs and stuff which at first made me uneasy but then he explained to me that that's just how he is with people and I believe him when I see him give hugs to his other friends. After all, I do consider myself to be a little more hands-off and territorial whilst he's just the type who's more affectionate and who am I to have any beef with that? I've gotten used to the hugs, but I still can't get over the fact that he's now (apparently) dating my friend (who we'll call "Mary") and yet still tries to hold my hand, give me backrubs, and braid my hair.
I'm still good Zelda-buddies with him and so I still talk to him and hang out like any other friend would. Today he asked me if I wanted to join him at a Halloween party the Friday before Halloween. Since I never have anything better to do on Friday nights other than linger on DeviantART and do homework, I said 'sure'. But he told me something that at first I didn't think too much about until I was driving home from class today and it kind of got to me: he said that he was worried that his ex-girlfriend would be showing up to the party and he wanted me to come along so he would have someone to hang out with so he wouldn't have to deal to her. That's not what bothered me so much as this: he asked me if I could just pretend to be his girlfriend for the time being just so if his ex was there, he could get her jealous. I really don't want to have to pretend I'm someone I'm not just so he can get his sweet revenge on his ex and I'm certainly not about to get some girl I've never met in my life (or if his ex is my friend Mary) mad at me. And I really don't want him to take this as a chance for him to try and "fake kiss" me or anything in front of people just to "put on an act" to make his ex really believe we're dating. I really want to go to the party, but there's a lot of push factors that are keeping me from going as you can probably tell.
So I have two questions for you guys:
1.) Can I go to the party and have fun without allowing Joe to cause drama between him, his ex, and me?
2.) What's the best way to ask Joe if he's still dating Mary and if he is still dating her, then ask if Mary knows about him trying to flirt with me without sounding too nosy or judgemental?
1.) To quote the great Professor Layton: "Every puzzle has an answer." Yes, you can, but you'll have a much easier time trying to focus on the fun instead of avoiding the drama. It makes sense to surmise the possibility that actively trying to mitigate drama will only create the potential for more drama. Try to avoid the drama, yeah, but don't let it form the basis of your good time--because, unless you're a psychologist, it's not fun.
2.) Instead of asking him, why not ask Mary? Who is to say Joe really knows if Mary knows?
Thanks for the advice, Mags. :D
No problem. Do let us know how it went!
I'm... in need of some advice, guys. About a girl.
Time for some backstory: I met her at SNAFUcon. She loved my Blu Spy cosplay -- she had been a Red Scout the previous day I had been there, actually -- and when she saw me sitting by myself with my netbook since I didn't really know anyone, she invited me over to the table she and her friends were sitting at. So I went over with her, and we ended up talking for hours... we exchanged contact information and I've been talking to her ever since. We have a lot in common, actually, and she's super nice... we're both furries, too. She's also a talented artist, and she's even drawn us together in some of her work.
She's invited me to hang out with her in the past, as friends, mind you, but due to school and other life things getting in the way, I was unable to do so until a few weeks ago, when she invited me to go see Real Steel with her on opening day. I did so, and I paid for the tickets, and after the movie she drove us to her grandparents' house and we hung out there for a few hours. We had dinner there, she showed me some of her artwork, and I showed her my butterfly knife, and she thought it was the coolest thing ever. It was a lot of fun. :3
A few days later she showed me this piece of artwork (http://i.imgur.com/nY8Cg.jpg) she made of us. (I'm the wolf, she's the shark biting my shoulder.) I thought it was completely bitewolf, but when I looked at the page where she originally posted it again... I saw that she admitted to having a massive crush on me. I didn't say anything about it... I mean, I had no idea WHAT to say. I wanted to pursue this, though, so I invited her, along with another friend of mine, to a cosplay event at a local park that took place on Saturday that I thought she might have been interested in. Told her it'd be great to spend some time with her again. She went.
When I saw her again on Saturday she was most definitely giving me signs she's very interested in me. The first thing she did when she saw me was hug me. I brought my butterfly knife with me again, and every time I took it out to flip it she would, in her own word, fangirl over it. She took my hat and wore it for a while, and when I asked if I had hat hair she fixed my hair for me. She told me my eyes are pretty, and every time the three of us -- her, me, and my friend -- would sit down somewhere, she'd sit next to me. At one point she totally reenacted the artwork she made -- she actually said "I'm a zombie!" and started chewing on my shoulder. And dammit, it felt good. And when I hugged her again before we parted ways, twice, it felt so... right.
Again, we ended up talking for hours, and the weather was beautiful so it was super pleasant. I also discovered she not only likes the Sega Saturn, and she seemed to know what I was talking about when I said anything about it, but she likes Nights Into Dreams, specifically. Also, I'm totally giving her my extra Genesis and my copy of Sonic 3 for Christmas since she wanted to buy them when she saw them at a thrift store but was unable to.
I haven't gotten the chance to talk to her since that night, but... dammit, she's almost too good to be real! I'd like to tell her I feel the same way she does, but... I don't know how. I'm worried I'll say something stupid or cliche. I feel like saying it outright would be kinda... blunt, I guess, especially considering the way I found out was indirect. Some of my friends say I should just ask her out, but the fact she lives about 40 minutes away and my car constantly has something breaking, plus I'm flat broke, kinda complicates that.
Help me, guys. D:
MEDIT: Sorry, brah, but that word's not allowed.
You two seem to have a lot in common, which, in my book, constitutes as being totally worth it. I'd say you don't have to worry about being too up-front with her about liking her back since she's obviously shown you many hints that she likes you just as much. From what you describe, you two seem very comfortable around each other, am I right? If you do say something that's "stupid" or "cliche", then I don't think it would be bad enough to break such an already strong bond. So, don't worry about that. Just build up your courage and tell her how you feel. Worst case scenario, she'll tell you she was leading you on the whole time (and if that would be the case, screw her, right?)
As for the car thing. That's a bit a predicament. Then again, seeing her only on occasion might have its perks: whenever you do go to see her, you'll be more excited to see each other. I dunno. ;)
Ask your parents to take you every so often? I did it with Alex and I saw her 3 or 4 days a week, she lived 45 minutes away.
And just tell her. srsly.
IT IS DONE. I TOLD HER.
oh man i can't believe i did it
So she finally signed in tonight, and I initiated a conversation. We made small talk for a while, then when I saw a chance I showed her that picture I took. She absolutely loved it. So I decided I'd take that positive reaction as my opporunity to tell her how I felt. She of course told me she felt the same way. I told her about how much I enjoyed spending time with her on Saturday and that after that I couldn't NOT say something, which she seemed to think was sweet, and we both ended up just feeling flustered for forever. We were both just kinda... giddy and stupid for a while. XD
She asked me what it was that made me like her. I told her it was because she has an awesome personality, she's really sweet, we have a lot in common, and also that I thought she was cute. I asked her the same thing -- she told me she likes how chill I am, and that she really likes how we just click. She also likes that I'm a guy she can just be herself around, "And even though cute isn't exactly the most masculine word, I would say that you're cute as well. ;D"
She told me she's glad we spotted each other at the con. I told her I was too. We talked some more, about nothing, really, and I asked her how she felt about trying the whole being a couple thing out. She liked the idea. :3
I couldn't have asked for things to go better. Mother of Zeus, I feel so good right now I can't even describe it. I can't wait until I can see her again. ^_^
Okay, how the
CRAP did I miss this!? *skyward scream*
DARN YOU, CSE 335!!!!!! (https://fbcdn-profile-a.akamaihd.net/hprofile-ak-ash2/27519_327032543077_2720_n.jpg)
But dude, seriously, this is so freaking awesome. ...Like...DUDE. I don't know what to say, either! This has to be the best news I've heard these past few weeks! (Except perhaps for my video game project getting 110%, but that's beside the point.)
...I'm expecting to see Blu Spy x Red (female) Scout fan art now. XDDDDD
Quote from: Twilight Wolf on October 24, 2011, 06:41:36 PM
. . .and I showed her my butterfly knife, and she thought it was the coolest thing ever. It was a lot of fun. :3
Bow chicka bow wow.
...Oh, come on! You didn't think I was gonna let THAT one slide, did you? XD
I'm not sure if any of you know that I was in a relationship for the past year, I'm pretty sure I told you all about Mia.
Well, it started back in June last year. The first of June. We met through the internet (she sent me a sweet anonymous message on Tumblr) and started talking on AIM. This continued for about two months and we eventually swapped phone numbers.
We started texting each other during our free time, sometimes staying up until 4 or 5 AM talking about nothing in particular and feeling absolutely wonderful.
We eventually started calling each other. Towards the end of the summer, to help her with her reading assignment, we even read Lord of the Flies together and loved it. We once read all throughout the night until 9 in the morning.
Time went by and she started going back to school, we talked all the time (though not as late) and even started skyping regularly around September. When November rolled around and I went to Nekocon and ran into my evil Ex Alex she was there to cheer me up and everything.
Christmas rolled around and we got each other presents. She wrote me a letter, knit me a scarf... I got her a stuffed cat and made her two bracelets. We stayed up until midnight on Christmas eve so we could open our presents together. The night was full of "I love you"s and actual crying.
New Years came up quick and while she was at her friend's house for a New Years party we had our first "kiss" is wasn't typing "*kiss*" on a text. No, we leaned into the webcam and sorta actually kissed. It felt more real than any kiss I'd ever had before.
Things kept going, and for a short while during January I thought I could visit her during the summer, but that was shot down by her parents. Her dad to be exact.
This is where the trouble starts.
We started fighting just a little, over the next five months things were amazing, but also tinged with little bits of "I can't see you for a long time." Still, things never seemed horrible at all.
We would skype as she did her homework, we'd cuddle and call at night and in the mornings before she went to school.
Well, her dad didn't like that I wasn't in college or employed at the time... And one day, while we were talking, she stopped replying.
I got a message from her dad saying that if I ever talked to her again he would call the police on me.
Her father is a judge. I wasn't going to argue with him.
We never really got any closure after that.
That's how my 11 month, 2 week relationship came to an end.
It's been two months and three days since I had to stop talking to her.
I'm clinically depressed, I've had thoughts of dying, and I have panic attacks when I think too much about her.
I may not be around here much anymore guys, but you're all still my second family. I just thought you all should know.
I miss her so much.
That's quite a predicament. It's tough when parents are so overprotective that they will go to such measures as to call the cops on their child's boyfriend as if they don't care about their happiness.
You're 18, right? I don't know how old Mia is but if she's at least 18 as well, then I don't think her father will have any authority to get the police involved if she's a consenting adult--even if he is a judge. If she's not 18 yet, I guess my best advice would be to still go out in secret until she does turn 18.
I can't say that I know her father's personality. He might be the type to kick her out once she turns 18 if she chooses to stay with you. But it definitely sucks when family can interfere so.
Quote from: Vaati on July 21, 2012, 03:58:55 PM
That's quite a predicament. It's tough when parents are so overprotective that they will go to such measures as to call the cops on their child's boyfriend as if they don't care about their happiness.
You're 18, right? I don't know how old Mia is but if she's at least 18 as well, then I don't think her father will have any authority to get the police involved if she's a consenting adult--even if he is a judge. If she's not 18 yet, I guess my best advice would be to still go out in secret until she does turn 18.
I can't say that I know her father's personality. He might be the type to kick her out once she turns 18 if she chooses to stay with you. But it definitely sucks when family can interfere so.
I've decided not to bother even trying to talk to her until she's 18, and even then, only if she tries to contact me first.
I really don't want to be arrested.
I'm really sorry to hear that, man. =( Stay strong! Things will work out.
I must have clinical tardiness on TDC now or something. >_>
But that stinks, man. It really, really stinks. I'm going to try to demonize this man as little as possible, considering I doubt he's abusing his power as a parent (as a judge, on the other hand, I could see him abusing down the road...which honestly, should be grounds for excommunication, so to speak), but it can't be easy for you, either.
If it continues helping you, don't hesitate to continue talking about it!
Welp, Imma jump on the relationship issues bandwagon too.
I broke things off with my girlfriend about a month ago.
I won't get too detailed, but her mental stability had been deteriorating for months and she became emotionally abusive. I decided to separate from her temporarily and she used that opportunity to stab me in the back and ruin any trust I had left in her, so I broke things off immediately.
Even though she told me over and over how much she loved me and how she wanted to spend her life with me, and she still begged me to reconsider after I left, she began dating a mutual acquaintance less than two weeks later. Go figure.
Somehow, I doubt that she's a person with the memory of a goldfish, but this doesn't do any favors against that... Emotional abuse is never a good thing, and you shouldn't have to have dealt with it. I realize that's probably one of the most-said things on this board, so I apologize for the lack of originality, but...man, what gives? Heck, I wonder if that says anything about the world and this trial-and-error system we have set up for this sort of thing.
I mean, really. First, my sister's relationship ended on a bad note (while she was very sick!), and now TW had this happen to him.
(http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lwgqfsgJMb1r2x7pqo1_r1_1280.png)
Are these even worth it?
Just...
(http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lwgqfsgJMb1r2x7pqo4_r1_500.png)
I thought I might tell you guys this but there's a girl I met on DA back in September or so and we've been talking a lot on Skype and Tumblr. This past April we both admitted to each other than we have feelings for one another. We're not technically dating. I've already made it clear that I would like to date her, but because she recently broke up with her girlfriend of 5 years back in about March (I think), she's not yet ready to enter a relationship. When we first admitted our feelings to each other, she said something along the lines of "being in a relationship isn't any better or worse than being single." It seems to me that "relationship" is only a word to her, and that with the feelings we currently have for each other, it doesn't seem to matter whether we call it a relationship or just a really special friendship. But that's my interpretation, anyway.
I partially don't mind this. However, it makes it hard to explain to other people that we both love each other but we're not dating. There's nothing I'd love more than to call her my girlfriend, but I feel that would be disrespectful to her to call her something she isn't right now.
I'm constantly reminded of the popular Romeo & Juliet quote,
"What's in a name? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet;"
Reminding me that despite calling what we have a "relationship" or a "special friendship", it won't change the fact that what we feel for each other is indeed special. Still though, I would like to be able to give our relationship or whatever you wanna call it a name.
Relationship is a rather loosely-defined term. I'd define it as any type of social connection, be it platonic, romantic, or even adversarial (assuming being acquainted is not strictly the upper limit of familiarity, but I digress). Any combinations thereof would also fit.
Courtesy of TV Tropes, you could take a third fourth option (http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/RomanticTwoGirlFriendship). :D ...Although, that definition doesn't quite fit this situation, but it's a start at helping you piece things together, I hope.
Yes, it helps a little bit. Thanks, Mags. :) (lol, TV Tropes, is there anything you can't explain? :,D)
But there's also been something that's been plaguing me.
While we still have feelings for each other, deep down she still misses her ex and the time they've spent together. I guess to tell you our story, I'd have to tell you theirs (or what my crush has told me). They were together for 5 years and they only met up once because my crush lives in Canada and her girlfriend at the time lives in Texas. At one point, my crush (who we'll call 'R') was considering proposing to her girlfriend but over time, they gradually drifted apart and broke up this past winter.
While R cares about me, she's incredibly saddened when she reminisces about her ex. I know that big part of the reason why she's not ready to say she's dating me is because she feels that if she did, the fact that she's not completely over her ex might ruin our own relationship.
We both know that a relationship between R and I won't work until her wounds from her last breakup have healed. She apparently was crying tonight before signing off of Skype because she misses her girlfriend. While it pains me to see her this way, I'm glad she feels she can open up to me about these sensitive matters.
I feel there's nothing I can do about her lingering feelings of her ex and despite her coming to me with her feelings, it's something only she and her ex can work out. This may sound incredibly selfish of me and I feel horrible for thinking it, but I'm afraid that one day she may leave me for her ex. I want her to be happy, of course, but I would be a liar if I said I wasn't concerned about my own happiness as well. I feel like there's no one else in the world I love the way I do her and if it doesn't work out between us I don't know what I'd do. ;_;
Hmm. A predicament.
As much as I'd hate to say it, it does sound like you'll have to play the waiting game for a while. Having her heal from the pain naturally is probably the best way to go, but on the upside, I'd say you're doing enough good already by letting her talk about it. However, it still comes down to giving it time for the results to come in.
So...it's been a while since I said anything here. Just thought I'd give an update.
I've been dating the same girl for...umm, 3 years, 6 months, and 4 days, I guess. She's pretty okay, I guess.
But seriously, I love her a lot. The last two years have been long distance, with me being in New York and her being back home, but the time I've been home over the summer and at Christmas I've been almost exclusively with her. Yeah, she's a bit clingy, but honestly when you don't see each other for over half the year it's kind of expected.
I guess the only issue is...what to do, I guess? I mean, I plan on staying here at least for a few more years while I try to make a career. (On a side note, this just made me realize how little I've told you all about my experiences and the things that we've done; maybe over the next few days I'll go into those details)
She doesn't want to live in New York. She won't even visit, actually. She's afraid I'll try to convince her to live here. Honestly, I wouldn't. I know this isn't the life she wants, I just really want to show her things...I don't want to raise my kids here, honestly. Not because it's bad, I love NY, I just...picture raising them in a place with land, and dogs, and everything the movies tells us is normal.
The best thing would be for me to make a living soon. Like, very soon. The chances of that are low, but if I work hard enough I can make my own breaks. I'm just not sure if it's mutual. These last two years, she did a few months of community college and dropped out. She hasn't been working, and has done very little but watch tv. We talk at least an hour a day, usually more, and I know that it's not entirely her fault; her parents have done nothing to help her pursue her desires, and actually insisted she stay home until her younger sister graduates.
I sort of feel like she relies on me to make up for the life she isn't getting to have, and in consequence I'm enabling her evasion of college, jobs, responsibility in general. I'm not sure if it's better to comfort her like I want to (which, in turn, gives me less time to do the work I need to do because I'm spending it all on the phone) or be hard and pressure her into working on her own life. I'm the only person in her life not making her feel bad right now, and I love being that person. I don't know what the consequences would be if I got confrontational.
At the root, I guess it feels like she's preoccupied with us now, in the present, wanting to spend as much time as we can together while I'm worried about making money and the future. The problem isn't with feelings for each other, it's the situation.
It's not all that dramatic, we love each other and are definitely stable in our relationship, and I know we'll figure out the situation. I just wanted to let you all know what was going on. I've been a bad forumite.
^ No worries, man. We've all had times when we've been really busy, but it's good to hear that your relationship's still in the black despite that. However, don't overdo it. Your being a crutch for her may be a mutually-beneficial thing in the short term, but in the long term, it would probably be best if someone helped her in getting her life sorted out. If left unchecked, I fear it may lead you to a "If you chase two rabbits, you'll catch neither" scenario where you're under a perpetual crunch trying to support both her and yourself. This is just a hypothesis on my part, but still. Confronting someone and being adversarial are totally different things, so if you're gentle about it, you can avert some stress. In other words, try going for a middle road in being soft on her and confronting her about it by being indirect.
Anywho, speaking of not saying anything for a while, I had a date yesterday. And it lasted for twelve hours. Yeah. It was pretty good, indeed.
...Get your mind out of the gutter!
Happy Facebook-official girlfriend, Mags!
Haha, thanks, DW!
Mags has a girlfriend? I hope he gets all of the snuggles! <3
She says she's not much on PDA, but that doesn't mean I haven't gotten away with snuggling her before... ;D
My girlfriend is leaving today. For Colorado. Forever.
That...really blows. :/ Why's she leaving?
She got a job at a dude ranch, and also wants to escape from her overprotective, mama-bear mother.
Guess I don't blame her for the latter. But still, sucks, man. :(
Update: She just informed me that she doesn't love me and never did.
...Oh. I'm really sorry. What a terrible thing to say.
...The frick? Why would she say something like that? I have a feeling there's more to this than I think, but all the same, that sucks, man. Sorry. :(
Dang, two pieces of relationship bad news in a row... Could we have someone break the combo?
I don't know the details of the situation but she may have just said that so saying goodbye wouldn't be as hard. Some people feel better saying, "I'm glad you'll be out of my life." than "I'm gonna miss you." Regardless, that was an awful thing for her to say and even if by her saying that, it was helping her cope with being away from you, that was mighty selfish of her to say such a terrible thing to you.
Let's see if this lightens the mood a little.
I actually had a date with someone on Thursday, and it was really great. She, somehow, wasn't scared off when I talked about my passions and stuff like that, and she's nice! And she likes Minecraft, so major brownie points right there. :D
Keep her, Maggs.