That really can't be answered, but how about we try anyway?
In other words, it's a topic for the times in your life where you have a really hard question about life and need someone else to see them, so they can wonder about it themselves.
You could consider it... A Self Help topic.
My first question is "What is Self Independence?"
Is it being able to be alone? Is it being able to take care of yourself?
Is it making your own choices?
These kinds of questions just raise more and more questions, but when you figure them out... I'm sure it's worth it.
I think self-independence implies that one can take care of oneself and make one's own choices. As for being able to be alone, well, if one can take care of oneself, then one can be alone, but it's not really human nature in general to completely shut oneself off. Even I, who don't really like dealing with people, need some human interaction that doesn't involve a computer.
I can do both of those things, but people still tell me I need to be independent.
Is it one of those things that pleases no one no matter how hard you try?
The answer to all the hard questions in life can only be answered by one person: you. You are the only being in the entire Cosmos that can define your existence. Independence can mean many things to many people, and many (read, most) are foolish enough to try and force their views of independence upon you. If they succeed, you lose all that makes you you, you lose yourself. Next time someone tells you that you need to be more independent, turn it around on them. If they were actually independent, they wouldn't need to tell you what you need to do with your life. They are trying to influence your decisions because they are dissatisfied with their own state of affairs, and want to control you, effectively living through you.
There is no such thing as perfect independence, we as human beings are dependent upon the sun for heat and light and nutrition, dependent upon the animals around us for food and hides, dependent upon the environment for shelter. Everything we view as independence is really just the first world America (or equivalent) clouding our minds and attempting to sow the seeds of complacency. You may long to live on your own, without people telling you when to eat, when to sleep, what to learn, where to go, but there are billions of people that just want to eat, to sleep, to live without fear of death by starvation, mauling, gang retaliation, etc.
Live the life you want to live and don't let anyone tell you it's not good enough, ever. You are who you are, and that's all that's important.
How about this, how come that after you realize what you did wrong, and truly apologize for it, they won't forgive you?
And... Who thinks love is too easily faked, or forced?
And what about love, does it ever go away, do you ever stop feeling it?