What do they want from me?

[DW]

Is it normal for stepparents to be resentful towards children that aren't theirs?

[MasterKeyX]

No. If they're being resentful, you should try and talk to them to see what's up. That isn't normal outside Hollywood.

[Keaton]

Is it normal for stepparents to be resentful towards children that aren't theirs?

Yes, they represent a threat to their relationship with the significant other.  It's like knowing that your girlfriend has a gigantic tick that's going to latch onto you once you kiss her, but doing it anyway.  Just because she's worth it doesn't mean you have to like it.

[Fishalicious]

-points to Tac's comment-

Though my dad's never been too horribly mean to me, he's been... not nice a lot of the time.

Case in point, been grounded for two years.

[MasterKeyX]

I don't think people are actually like that....

[darkphantomime]

Is it normal for stepparents to be resentful towards children that aren't theirs?

Yes, yes it is... I've known this because I've lived with my stepdad almost my whole life. And the beatings... and the scarring...

[Keaton]

I don't think people are actually like that....

You're kidding, right?

[MasterKeyX]

Well, I mean, they're adults. Shouldn't they grow up and stop being so petty?

[DW]

It's just been eating at me for a while. My Stepdad has never been very supportive, but I can't really blame him because he has depression and such. But...it seems like everything he says to me lately is mocking me. Constantly ragging me about Bri, the theater...yesterday, two of my friends from the theater (who are dating) wanted to know if me and Bri wanted to eat out with them. We couldn't, but when he asked what they wanted and I told him, he made comments about how 'Oh, so I guess everyone in the theater is rich then' and started ranting about how it was elitist. Just now, he made some comments that I really couldn't reply to, stuff about how my clothing was kind of bright and he asked if I was going hunting. Then he said that the clothes weren't really orange, so it didn't work. I had nothing to say, so I didn't reply. Then he turned to his friend and said "Yeah, he doesn't talk to me because I'm just peon compared to him being a--what was it? Thespian?" He's just acting like I do nothing but get in the way lately. It wasn't this bad before.

So, yeah, sorry to drop a bomb on the whole happy/insane chatboard posting, but this has really been getting to me lately. I haven't been myself. I just don't know what to do.

[darkphantomime]

Umm... Fisticuffs?

[MasterKeyX]

Apparently I'm quite ignorant...

What to do... well I guess avoiding him wouldn't work... would talking to your mom work?

[Keaton]

It's just been eating at me for a while. My Stepdad has never been very supportive, but I can't really blame him because he has depression and such. But...it seems like everything he says to me lately is mocking me. Constantly ragging me about Bri, the theater...yesterday, two of my friends from the theater (who are dating) wanted to know if me and Bri wanted to eat out with them. We couldn't, but when he asked what they wanted and I told him, he made comments about how 'Oh, so I guess everyone in the theater is rich then' and started ranting about how it was elitist. Just now, he made some comments that I really couldn't reply to, stuff about how my clothing was kind of bright and he asked if I was going hunting. Then he said that the clothes weren't really orange, so it didn't work. I had nothing to say, so I didn't reply. Then he turned to his friend and said "Yeah, he doesn't talk to me because I'm just peon compared to him being a--what was it? Thespian?" He's just acting like I do nothing but get in the way lately. It wasn't this bad before.

So, yeah, sorry to drop a bomb on the whole happy/insane chatboard posting, but this has really been getting to me lately. I haven't been myself. I just don't know what to do.

Seriously, I'd recommend a fight with him.  Verbal OR physical.  Just to show that you don't take nothin' from on one.  Although, he MIGHT call the cops, so watch yourself and knock him out before he can get to a phone.  I'm sorry things are so rough for you, man.

Also,

two of my friends from the theater (who are dating) wanted to know if me and Bri wanted to eat out with them

TOTALLY took that the wrong way.

[DW]

She just plays the depression card, and he's way larger than me, fighting would end up very painfully for me. Besides, I don't do violence. Just not my thing. Which actually might be part of the problem...see, he had his kids taken away from him in a divorce, and he hasn't had any contact with them at all in about ten years. He had a son, and he was the athletic, masculine type of kid. I'm the only son he has now, and I'm...not like that. At all. I wonder if that has anything to do with it, if he wants me to be more masculine or something. It would explain his resentment towards the theater some.

EDIT: Tacheon, I love you.

[MasterKeyX]

If that is the case, he's gonna have to accept it. I wouldn't change for him at all, screw that. He'll either accept it or not. And no, fighting is certainly not the answer. You'd get hurt, and it could end badly with the law.

[DW]

If that is the case, he's gonna have to accept it. I wouldn't change for him at all, screw that. He'll either accept it or not. And no, fighting is certainly not the answer. You'd get hurt, and it could end badly with the law.

But what could I say? It's hard for me to connect with him, because whenever I try to have a discussion about anything it ends with depressing statements. He's not physically violent at all anymore, and the thing with the divorce really does suck. He's a great guy, and he didn't deserve any of the stuff that happened to him, he just doesn't seem to appreciate me in the slightest.