Relationships Topic

[DW]

But is he generally a good guy?

[Vaati]

I dunno. I guess. But I still don't want to hang out with him. I mean, to me, that would be like getting to first base! Which is too far for me.  :-*

[MagmarFire]

Well, you mustn't lie to him...which I doubt you would do anyway, but I'm just being sure. As hard as it is, you're eventually going to have to let him know that you're not interested in him. When it is, is up to you, but it's inevitable.

As a tip, tell him the "good news" first, and then the "bad news," and try speaking in the passive voice, not the active voice. It will help make the truth less of a blow to him.

For instance, instead of saying, "Sorry, but you don't really interest me," try saying something along the lines of, "I'm not that interested in people [for lack of a better term]."

I'm not really helping, am I? ;)

[Vaati]

Actually, that is quite alot of help. I mean, it is true that it's not just him I'm not interested in, it's pretty much just everybody ('cept Vaati ;) ). So there I'm telling the truth, right?  :)

[MagmarFire]

So there I'm telling the truth, right?  :)

You most certainly are. :)

But remember, passive voice, not active. ;)

[OniWolf]

Me, I like guys who are fit, mucsles! :)  But usally the qualities(sp?) you want, you won't get.  But when you find that special person, you accept the way they are.  So prophetic lol. ;D

[DW]

Yeah, one thing I've noticed is that every girl says they want the same things in a guy, but still ends up going after the hunks and such. It's kind of confusing...

[MagmarFire]

Could be possible that they see it in them...or that the guys are possibly just playing the part to butter the girls up. ::)

[Vaati]

As for me, I'm a girl, and I like boys as much as any other girl. But I don't find boys that are "hunks" attractive. They're muscles kinda freak me out.  :-* As for my friend, she LOVES hunky boys. In swimming, our senior leader was in his swim trunks and was jumping off the diving board and my friend was squealing so much, and I was laughing at her, for she does that with pretty much every boy.  ;D

[OniWolf]

I agree.  When I said muscles I didn't mean body builder type but more like....  well Link actually ;)  but a tad bit more muscular.

[Vaati]

I meant like...muscles really, at all. I actually like less-fit boys better. Like scrawny, or a bit chunky, or just normal. No muscles for me.

[OniWolf]

I see.  So kinda the pretty boy type, like ummmm.... Yuki in Fruits Basket?  Or Satoshi in D.N. Angel.  Those arn't very good examples but I see what your saying. ;)

[MagmarFire]

I meant like...muscles really, at all. I actually like less-fit boys better. Like scrawny, or a bit chunky, or just normal. No muscles for me.

I myself am skinny as a rail. I could've sworn that it was unattractive to the majority...but I'm glad to hear that there are exceptions.

[alical]

Yeah, one thing I've noticed is that every girl says they want the same things in a guy, but still ends up going after the hunks and such. It's kind of confusing...

Really? I think that's a generalization, a lot of my friends and myself included don't go by looks alone. But to be perfectly honest, of course looks matter, call me shallow but if a guy is attractive I am more likely to be interested in them. That's not saying I would reject someone on the grounds of looks, it just helps.
I like a bit of muscle, strong enough to pick me up would be cute! And could defend me if I was attacked by bears.

[MagmarFire]

Of course. Nothing completely wrong with that, really. I mean, opposites (generally) attract, and if you think of it like magnets, is a rock going to attract a magnet? Depends on the rock. Sure, many rocks may not look magnetic at first, and probably aren't magnetic, but it's not completely what's on the outside. Inside the rock could be a ferromagnetic material, a.k.a. attractive personality qualities. ;)

Of course, let's say some rocks coat themselves with iron to mask their unattractive personalities. When the magnet comes to them, the iron just comes off. So basing it on looks can be deceiving! But of course, who doesn't want a bar magnet? :P

Not that I think you guys will be deceived; this is just a stupid metaphor I came up with that I felt like typing. :P

But now that I think about it, maybe I should've just kept my keyboard shut... :-\

But again, there's nothing wrong with liking someone on his/her looks. That's what gives me the initial attraction towards girls. You ain't alone. ;)