Relationships Topic

[DW]

...you're really emotionally violent... :o

I mean, you fell in love extremely quickly, and then when things got bad it rocketed to the other end of the scale just as fast. I guess it seems odd to me, I take a long time to like someone, and it's hard for me to hate anyone no matter what they do.

I don't suppose your ex has approached you lately?

[Brizzy]

Eh hem.. I resent the fact that y'all (that's right y'all) thought I wouldn't return over relationship drama. In any case, congrats Shika! You finally found the settling calm I wanted you to find.. at least for now. I must apologize for not posting Shika, but I know this is an outlet for you and I have been busy.

Back on topic:

How can you know it's safe to trust someone in a relationship?

[Zelda Veteran]

The only real way is to have been friends with that person prior to dating. I trust Barbara (my current gf) entirely. We were best friends for a year, and I know how she operates. Thats really the only way, other than talking to that person's ex boyfriends/girlfriends. Other than that, you're leaving it all up to blind chance. Don't do that. Trust ol' ZeeVee on that one.
>.>

[Brizzy]

None of his exes live around here and.. we were friends for a bit, but it kind of exploded. I am still grasping for straws.

[DW]

Why don't you trust him?

[Zelda Veteran]

Well, then you've got two options:

1. Leave it alone for now, and keep your heart out of harm's way.
2. Give him a shot, but don't let the ground beneath your feet give way to complete unrestrained love. Be careful, and keep a bug on all of his clothes.

[Brizzy]

To Shika:
I do.. I just don't think I should. THAT is the issue.

To ZV:
I am screwed if those are my only two options. He has already said he loves me and I'm his soulmate etc.

[DW]

...he has...?

...

This brings back some memories. I think I see what's got you worried. I think...he's one of those guys who doesn't really cherish love. He'll either say it to make you happy and get what he wants, or he's constantly clinging to one girl, then another.

Then again, I don't really know him. It's...really, it's your call.

[Zelda Veteran]

I agree with Shika.

Normally words like that only pour out of a guy who hasn't had a girl-friend yet.

Seems fishy- but again, thats all your call.

If he asks you to put out within the first month or two, thats a red flag to get outta there.

Just letting you know.

[DW]

I wouldn't trust my love-saying advice completely though. I mean, I've never told anyone I loved them.

And I'm sure she knows about the putting-out thing. She's not a stupid girl.

[Zelda Veteran]

Well, I know a few girls who thought it was "romantic" and ended up getting cheated on, dumped, and hurt.

[DW]

I know far too many like that as well. It kills me when they get used like that. What really hurts is when one of my friends doesn't learn from it though. Had one all throughout Middle school and freshman year, six guys. Every time, she came to me in tears, and said she'd never repeat the mistake. And within a few weeks, the same thing would happen again. She lives a few towns away now. Still wonder whether she ever got stuff worked out :/

Another reason I'm glad not to be a girl; guys can be real jerks.

[Zelda Veteran]

So can girls Shika....
So can girls...

And what kills ME is that girls tend to date these guys more often than the ones that will love them forever. I've been over this, so I'll spare you the rant.

[DW]

Hmm, honestly, I think we exaggerate that part a bit. The world's not that horrifically unfair.

[Zelda Veteran]

No.
We don't exaggerate that ENOUGH.
Thats why it keeps happening >.<

My girl saw in me what nobody else did though.
Not only does she NOT think I'm ugly, but she says I'm the hottest guy who's ever had any kind of interest in her. There are some other things that could be said, but I'd rather not.

THANK YOU GOD.