Relationships Topic

[DW]

What causes such irrational hatred after an ended relationship?

[MagmarFire]

The desire for it to have never ended, perhaps?

Need some more help, Shika?

[DW]

I don't really need help with anything, just have a hard time understanding.

[Keaton]

I HATE WIMMENZ

I hate them very much.  They never make any sense and you care too much and give everything to them, and then they turn around and give everything THEY have to someone out of the blue, no warning or nothing.  They tell you they want to, but they don't know how-- and then they prove you and themselves wrong but with the wrong person.  And then the super-cute, wonderful, nice girl comes along with an aching heart who just needs a hug, and you want to be the shoulder to cry on but you just don't know how and are too scared to try and there's that part of you that never wants anybody else but the first girl.

*Charlie Brown yodel*

[Pyrgusfinn]

I HATE WIMMENZ

I hate them very much.  They never make any sense and you care too much and give everything to them, and then they turn around and give everything THEY have to someone out of the blue, no warning or nothing.  They tell you they want to, but they don't know how-- and then they prove you and themselves wrong but with the wrong person.  And then the super-cute, wonderful, nice girl comes along with an aching heart who just needs a hug, and you want to be the shoulder to cry on but you just don't know how and are too scared to try and there's that part of you that never wants anybody else but the first girl.

*Charlie Brown yodel*

awww. Tach! I'm sorry. =/
Just let her know that you are there for her.  Straight tell her that if she needs a shoulder to cry on, yours is available.

EDIT:
whoops. wait... are you talking about two different girls?

[MagmarFire]

Yeah, sorry, Tach. I wish I could help more than just sympathize. :/

[Rev Rabies]

Do what pyrgus said, but beware the friend zone

[DW]

You know, a lot of girls put everything into the relationship and not you, I've realized. They'll say all these nice things about you because they see you as the one who's going to fulfill their dream of the perfect relationship and all that, but it's so empty it doesn't take them long to turn around and say terrible things about you.

[FunTykoon]

Tach... I know how you feel bud.

I had all this stuff planned out, I was going to woo her like she had never be wooed before, and one of my friends told her, because he thought it was funny. She only thought of me as a friend, and she didn't even want a boyfriend. It's changed me though, it has. I'm going to be a better person. I still have feelings for her. I think she is the one.

[Takun]

I think its because you both put a lot of emotion and feelings into something that ended. No doubt anger is sparked.

[DW]

But I don't feel anger...and I don't see any need for it.

[Takun]

Its not always a two way thing. Maybe she doesnt want to be anything BUT your girlfriend. Like, being just friends isnt good enough. So she's angry that she cant have that.

[DW]

Except it didn't turn out that way, with me rejecting her and all. I dunno. It just doesn't make sense.

[cacturnerules]

I too have a problem.

There's this girl who's been hitting on me since the beginning of the grade, and I don't like her. I have a girlfriend, but the girl doesn't get it. She sees us talking all the time and hugging, but she's still hitting on me. Also, she talks to my girlfriend every day about me and how the moves she's been making are working. I can't get her to go away, and she hasn't been getting the hint. I hardly even knew she liked me until my GF started telling me about her fawning over me each day.

I've been ignoring and avoiding her, but I have a class or two with her and see her often during the day.

Assistance would be greatly appreciated.

[The Glamour Nazi]

What I'd do is just straight out tell her you're not interested.