Relationships Topic

[darkphantomime]

Gah, you guys don't really understand, do you? You can't really, really like a girl unless you actually know her quite well. All other things known as love give proof to a famous quote

"Men say love is blind, but men love solely with their eyes."

That's not the exact quote, but it's close enough.

[MagmarFire]

And again, that goes back to my fear of having my intentions being read like a book, JQ, getting to know them... But regarding to that quote, isn't a part of love getting to know someone well instead of just looking at them all googly-eyed? ;)

And yes, I do fear that a girl's opinion about me will change negatively if she knows I like her, and possibly for a very good reason! The first girl I had a crush on pretty much said she hated me when I revealed to her that I liked her.

In other words, I've had bad experience. :-*

[darkphantomime]

'I hate you' usually means "I may not like you now, but I may be interested" the first time a girl says it to you... But if she keeps saying it and for the sixth or seventh time she says it, you know wby that point that her dislike for you is geniune. But the first time, not so much...

The point with my quote was that men often think they love a girl when she's very pretty, but they really have no other interest in mind besides procreation.

[MagmarFire]

'I hate you' usually means "I may not like you now, but I may be interested" the first time a girl says it to you... But if she keeps saying it and for the sixth or seventh time she says it, you know wby that point that her dislike for you is geniune. But the first time, not so much...

I'm one of those guys to take a statement like that to face value. Besides, I was younger back then, so if there were nonverbal cues that she was giving off that match your description of the phrase, "I hate you," I wouldn't be able to read them very well anyway.

[TP Zelda]

Keep tryin' dude, you'll eventually find a girl. XPPP Unlike me with boyz. XPPP Hehe.

[DW]

Pein, you're how old again? 8)Dating's not gonna happen for another few years...

Mags, trust me, you deserve to be a lot more confident than you are.

[TP Zelda]

I know. XPPP I'm just bein' random and hyper here. XPPP

But I agree with Shika. XPP

[Baka Nezumi]

*sighs*
Maggy, the nonverbal cues (or lack thereof) are important, but you are putting WAY too much importance on them. If a girl is really interested, it should be obvious, even to you.
Unless you like shy/quiet/antisocial girls. Then you have a problem.
Plus, you are way too sweet and kind for a girl to hate you. Have some confidence, man.

[darkphantomime]

Shyness generally kills confidence.

Just learn to numb yourself the first time and you'll be able to take it easy from that point on.

[TP Zelda]

Plus, you are way too sweet and kind for a girl to hate you. Have some confidence, man.

I have to agree.  XPP

[phantompig]

I have to say if a girl can completely emasculate a guy with insults, I'm hooked. Bitter, dry, sarcastic, and mean are all well appreciated. But that's just the outside. I'm pretty average with what I'd like in a girl's personality.

[JDog]

yeah, same here.

[MagmarFire]

Mmm, thanks, guys.

I also suppose the concept of asking someone you've known for only a few months, give or take, feels kind of...strange to me. Well, it's a strange feeling... Maybe that contributes to fear? I dunno... :-\

[DW]

Trust me, Mags, it was the same way for me. You feel a lot better once it's over though.

[MagmarFire]

Really? Thanks, Shika. ;)

I can't really say how I would feel if I got rejected, though... Would that strange feeling subside then? :P