Relationships Topic

[MagmarFire]

For now, I'd say so. Like, why steal the house when you already have the deed, right? (Not that I'm calling her a house; just a metaphor.) In the meantime, however, you may want to look out for her--watch her back until all of it gets settled.

And out of curiosity, about how many stalkers are at your school, anyway? It seems that every other girl you date ends up getting stalked at one point. :P

Not that I'm suggesting anything... :-\

[DW]

Mags, I like to keep in touch with my exes, but I'm not that desperate 8)

And this is only the second girl I know of that's getting stalked, and it started before I knew her. Well, I guess not before I knew her since she was in Anne Frank a year ago, but I was quiet then and never talked to anyone, so I didn't really know her. But lately we've gotten to know each other, so yeah. Anyways, I'm having a bit of trouble deciphering your metaphor, with my being all tired and stuff. You think I should date her without letting this guy find out?

[MagmarFire]

Mags, I like to keep in touch with my exes, but I'm not that desperate 8)

Like I tried to say, I wasn't talking about you!!!

And my metaphor basically means, why try to solve a problem when you already have a solution to it? In other words, why try to do something about it if something's already being done about it?

As for your other question...Tacheon, help me out here...

[DW]

I just talked to her, here's what the message said:

1) Talked to *stalker* in the morning, he was all mopy so I asked him to leave me alone and informed him ONCE MORE, that we'd never be together
2) He got upset
3) I stayed at school all third and fourth
4) Lunch *our friend* had to comfort *stalker*, he was still all upset, but didn't approach me
5) People were teasing me about being Mrs. *insert my last name*
6) *stalker* heard, freaked out more
7) He leaves in the middle of class still freaking calls 911 and goes to hospital
8) I puke
9) He follows me around when he gets back, I ditch him
10) *our other friend* walks me home after *our director* talks to me about it.

See, I'm afraid of this stuff happening...Not only what could happen to her, but to him. Apparently he knows now anyway, but...I don't want to feel this kind of guilt again. Happened with my last girlfriend, and this time it's an outside source that's causing the grief. I don't want to give up on a relationship with her, I just don't know how to work around this.

[MagmarFire]

Perhaps you could...deprogram him somehow? Maybe get his eyes on another girl?

...Yeah, like that would work... *slaps forehead* >.>

[DW]

He's been after her for quite some time, Mags. I was hoping he'd be the kind of guy to change girls quickly, but...

[MagmarFire]

When a person focuses on one thing, he or she likely won't notice other things around him or her. Perhaps if he's that obsessed, he doesn't notice that there might be another girl like the one who likes you and follows her blindly? A theory, of course.

But then again, nothing says "deprogramming" better than a baseball bat. >:D

In all seriousness, if negative repercussions from this guy are to be avoided, either he's just going to get over his obsession over her or he's just going to have to find someone else. Seems to me like the latter would be most beneficial.

[Hi no Seijin]

Actually, let's go with the baseball bat.  "Look, either you get over her and look for someone else, or we smack you down so you end up dating ants."

[darkphantomime]

I recommend that the Stalker seeks counseling. If he's enough of a tard to call 911 over being upset, he's in serious need of psychiatric evaluation.

Talk to his parents, try to coerce them to follow through on that.

[DW]

We've been going out since Saturday now, apparently the guy freaked out and asked her not to kiss me and not to talk about me when he was around and such. He's still following her around apparently.

[Rev Rabies]

I know a guy that can take care of him for you.

I agree with mags, get him attracted to another girl, pay a girl to go out with him, something along those lines

[Commodore Axilon]

Why does anyone think that pawning him off on some other girl so now he's her problem is a good thing to do? That's pretty awful if you think about it.

[DW]

Apparently he's left the state for a few days because he needs a vacation from it all. He...really needs to get over her...

[MagmarFire]

Glad to see that I didn't miss too much from my absence.

Why does anyone think that pawning him off on some other girl so now he's her problem is a good thing to do? That's pretty awful if you think about it.

As far as I see, he needs to find someone else and/or get over her. I can't think of any other alternative. And I said nothing, or thought of nothing, along the lines of, "He's your problem now."

Say, you could mention some of your ideas, you know. >_>

[Keaton]

I know a guy that can take care of him for you.

Shut up, I told you not to advertise me like that.

Well, I'm glad that at least he's not trying to stab you in the face or anything.  I mean, you could always just shove her face into yours whenever he comes near-- just to piss him off, but I'm not exactly sure that'd be the wise idea.